Who should quit, and why?

[Blitzboy]

Yes if both husband and wife become addicted to gambling then it is better for your wife to stop gambling. Female people are rarely addicted to gambling and taking care of their family members is more important than gambling. It will be difficult to protect the family if the girl becomes addicted. If a guy spends time gambling a girl can bring him back to normal if he wants. The better the experience about gambling the easier the game.

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

The gender-based strategy to risk-taking and gambling you propose makes no sense. First, the claim that women are less risk-taking than men is untrue and creates negative stereotypes. Future societies acknowledge that risk behavior is individual, not gender-specific.

Second, believing a wife's gambling abstinence will affect her husband or son-in-law is wrong. Healthy gambling requires personal responsibility and understanding one's actions, not just following others. Problem gambling should be treated by professionals and supportive communities regardless of gender.

Pressuring someone to change their gambling habits is unproductive. It overlooks addiction's complexity and the necessity for supportive, knowledgeable treatment. Instead of pressure or gender-based decisions, awareness, support, and professional intervention lead to healthy change.

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[madnessteat]

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget

Why do you think they should live their lives in a "delayed life" mode? Life is given only once and each of us has the right to choose how we spend our leisure time. It is necessary to live here and now, and not to think about tomorrow, because for someone tomorrow may not come.

If the spouses do not have problems financially and gambling does not create problems for them, they can both continue to gamble.

[Dickiy]

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget

I think the answer is clear that the better and the right thing is that if possible then both of them should stop, that's the better thing that should be chosen by both of them if someone asks a question like this. However and no matter how good the financial management they have, if they are still involved in gambling, it is clear that there will be an allocation of money that should not be done, or simply they will find it easier to manage and meet the needs of the family including their children if they have never been involved in gambling, because obviously in terms of money it will definitely be more efficient.

Yes, instead of putting the money into gambling which certainly has a big risk and is always unpredictable, it is clearly better for them to save the money for other purposes in the future such as for the needs of their children or retirement and also including for urgent situations and conditions that require them to have money in sudden conditions. Yes if they already have money saved for future needs then there is nothing wrong if they don't stop but I think however if they can it is better to just stop, gambling uses money and it could be that one day they take the money saved for gambling.

[AmoreJaz]

I think the answer is clear that the better and the right thing is that if possible then both of them should stop, that's the better thing that should be chosen by both of them if someone asks a question like this. However and no matter how good the financial management they have, if they are still involved in gambling, it is clear that there will be an allocation of money that should not be done, or simply they will find it easier to manage and meet the needs of the family including their children if they have never been involved in gambling, because obviously in terms of money it will definitely be more efficient.

Yes, instead of putting the money into gambling which certainly has a big risk and is always unpredictable, it is clearly better for them to save the money for other purposes in the future such as for the needs of their children or retirement and also including for urgent situations and conditions that require them to have money in sudden conditions. Yes if they already have money saved for future needs then there is nothing wrong if they don't stop but I think however if they can it is better to just stop, gambling uses money and it could be that one day they take the money saved for gambling.

i can agree with you here. because before they know it, their kids are already into gambling and it will be too late to alter their lifestyle. they can still gamble from time to time, like for recreational purposes. if they do want to bet on their favourite teams or athletes, or play some casinos classics in some relaxing days just to have some family fun.

but if they will venture into the gambling world on a serious path. both parties, the mother and the father should understand the possible repercussions not only for themselves but as a family. they need to consider all angles in this lifestyle. and they should be ready for whatever consequences they may encounter.

otherwise, if they can't bear those consequences, better think fast and change their path. before each of them blame about the fate of their family or before they see it in their own eyes how their family is slowly falling apart.

[danherbias07]

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget

Why do you think they should live their lives in a "delayed life" mode? Life is given only once and each of us has the right to choose how we spend our leisure time. It is necessary to live here and now, and not to think about tomorrow, because for someone tomorrow may not come.

If the spouses do not have problems financially and gambling does not create problems for them, they can both continue to gamble.

Without a doubt, yes they can live their lives how they want especially if they are rich.
IMO, I still want the other one to be clean. It's not because I am stopping her or myself but it's because if something goes wrong at least there will be one to pull his/her better half into that doom that he/she is about to be buried. Gambling addiction.
I understand that if a husband and wife can afford it then who are we to stop them? I just believe that there must be a good thing that the kids will look up to. In terms of behavior, a lot of bad emotions do come out when we are gambling and if I am the one who will stop while my wife continues, I will be the one who will tell her to keep the anger to herself and don't let the kids hear all the bad words that will come out of her mouth.
That's what happens in my case, there are moments when I cannot control my emotions and my wife will come in to tell me that I should keep my voice down so the kids won't hear me.
I guess the question of OP is on a case-to-case basis but being responsible parents, I think one gambler should suffice or they can switch places and create a schedule.

[slapper]

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

Why do you say that? Are you sure that nothing bad will happen if a couple still likes to gamble?
I myself prefer to quit gambling especially if I already have a child, because no matter how well we maintain our gambling habits, there will certainly be an impact later on young children. because gambling can also change a person's behavior to be bad and maybe other people can also be affected and this is certainly not desired by myself. therefore gambling also destroys harmonious relationships, where a family can be destroyed just because of someone who is addicted to gambling, if all members are addicted to gambling, maybe there will be no peaceful life.

If a family is destroyed because of gambling it is not good, family relationships can be destroyed because of one person who is addicted to gambling, where this person may experience a change in attitude and it could also be that he will become a stubborn person, like to argue and not think about the big risks that will occur. try to think again why you suggest not to stop gambling. because in my opinion there is no connection between someone who has been gambling for a long time must stop gambling. someone who stops gambling because he wants a change for the better, no matter how long he has been gambling, that is not a good reason.

Sure, you've got your beliefs, and I respect that. But people engage in all sorts of activities that carry risks - heck, driving a car comes with its share of dangers. Does that mean we stop driving? No! We learn to drive safely. The same applies to gambling. It's a form of entertainment, an adrenaline rush, a way to unwind. If someone’s responsible, knows their limits, why the heck should they stop?

Now, about the impact on family - let's not paint everyone with the same brush. I’ve seen folks who gamble and still maintain a happy, healthy family life. It's all about moderation. You're worried about a gambler turning stubborn, argumentative? Well, guess what? That can happen with any hobby taken to the extreme, not just gambling. The key is knowing when to stop. And who are we to dictate how others find their joy? If gambling is their escape, their slice of excitement in a mundane routine, who's to say that's wrong? Life's short; let people have their fun!

[Outhue]

I have meet few gamblers that are very good at controlling themselves around gambling and they are doing so well in life, if the both partners are good at controlling their gambling desires then there is no problem, you should only start to worry if your partner is risking too much on gambling, I would love my partner to keep a watch on me, I can even have them beside me when I want to gamble, its for the best.

I actually don't have any gambling problem but if you are already married and you feel the need to be under watch, ask your partner to do it for you, thinking that you can become a millionaire in gambling is very normal in the lives of gamblers, and thats why many of them are riped off.

You can't beat the house, atleast not always, so you should not rely on something that isnt requiring your skills to beat the game, its you and how lucky you will be, invest your money more and gamble very less, I have my reason for saying this, its sadly the way that gambling is programmed.

[Rufsilf]

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

A gambling addict husband can be stopped by his wife from gambling. Because every husband listens to his wife, so I think if a wife can explain the bad aspects of gambling to her husband well then it seems that a gambling addict can quit gambling very soon.  I have seen some family's husband and wife could not be happy in their family life due to gambling, they are always fighting and quarreling. We all know that gambling is not a good thing but still we become addicted to gambling without accepting it.

I don't think so that the husband can easily obey what his wife would tell him to stop into gambling. I've seen a lot like the situation you mentioned where husbands and wives keep fighting because of gambling and of course, the money that the husband spent to feed his gambling addiction. I’ve also witnessed a lot of scenarios where they sell all their assets just to bet and to feed their habit of gambling. The time will happen that they were amid deprivation and they were close of being broke. So, while it's still early you should be aware of the limitations and what may happen when you enter this gambling activity.

But if the husband is responsible for balancing his gambling time and his family time then there is no problem. Just like I said in my previous post in this forum, maybe they can make better teamwork and they still have time to make playing as their bonding as a couple.

My advice to all gamblers whether male or female you should avoid chasing losses and never gamble with money that you should spend for your living expenses.

[Quidat]

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

A gambling addict husband can be stopped by his wife from gambling. Because every husband listens to his wife, so I think if a wife can explain the bad aspects of gambling to her husband well then it seems that a gambling addict can quit gambling very soon.  I have seen some family's husband and wife could not be happy in their family life due to gambling, they are always fighting and quarreling. We all know that gambling is not a good thing but still we become addicted to gambling without accepting it.

I don't think so that the husband can easily obey what his wife would tell him to stop into gambling. I've seen a lot like the situation you mentioned where husbands and wives keep fighting because of gambling and of course, the money that the husband spent to feed his gambling addiction. I’ve also witnessed a lot of scenarios where they sell all their assets just to bet and to feed their habit of gambling. The time will happen that they were amid deprivation and they were close of being broke. So, while it's still early you should be aware of the limitations and what may happen when you enter this gambling activity.

But if the husband is responsible for balancing his gambling time and his family time then there is no problem. Just like I said in my previous post in this forum, maybe they can make better teamwork and they still have time to make playing as their bonding as a couple.

My advice to all gamblers whether male or female you should avoid chasing losses and never gamble with money that you should spend for your living expenses.

Doesnt matter on which one would really be quitting up because on the time that both husband and wife are already that addicted with gambling then expect that it would really be a long time type of discussion or even quarrel or whatever kind of talking on whose the one to quit or wont really be talking at all about quitting since both are really that interested nor really that like on doing gambling.
This is why on this kind of particular situation or condition then letting them be on what are the things that they've been doing, they are the ones who do create their own fate towards finances
because time comes that everything would be messing up not just like on financial state but also with family relationship too as we do know that it would really be that compromises out such
thing on such condition.

[vs2014]

Since gambling is an uncertain way of earning money, it must be dangerous if both husband and wife are addicted to gambling. Because if two people always lose then there will be problem in managing their family life. On the other hand after losing from gambling then behavior changes so there may be internal fights. Even the married life of two people can be different so it is natural for either one to gamble. But if they own a lot of money they can gamble freely but in my opinion you should not let the influence of gambling fall on your family.

[dansus021]

Why do you think they should live their lives in a "delayed life" mode? Life is given only once and each of us has the right to choose how we spend our leisure time. It is necessary to live here and now, and not to think about tomorrow, because for someone tomorrow may not come.

If the spouses do not have problems financially and gambling does not create problems for them, they can both continue to gamble.

Here bro our friend also had the same thought as me hahaha. I mean its totally fine do gamble even with tight budget but I think it much wiser to choose something else like slot on play store that not involves money. and what gonna happen if their kids now what their parent doing?

I think the answer is clear that the better and the right thing is that if possible then both of them should stop, that's the better thing that should be chosen by both of them if someone asks a question like this. However and no matter how good the financial management they have, if they are still involved in gambling, it is clear that there will be an allocation of money that should not be done, or simply they will find it easier to manage and meet the needs of the family including their children if they have never been involved in gambling, because obviously in terms of money it will definitely be more efficient.

Yes, instead of putting the money into gambling which certainly has a big risk and is always unpredictable, it is clearly better for them to save the money for other purposes in the future such as for the needs of their children or retirement and also including for urgent situations and conditions that require them to have money in sudden conditions. Yes if they already have money saved for future needs then there is nothing wrong if they don't stop but I think however if they can it is better to just stop, gambling uses money and it could be that one day they take the money saved for gambling.

[klidex]

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget

Yes, you are right, should both stop gambling in order to be good parents for your children, but if a husband and wife don't have children yet and they still have enough money for their daily needs, I think it doesn't matter if husband and wife do it as long as they have more and the same budget both can remind each other and can control themselves and the most important thing is that they don't become addicted to gambling because if both husband and wife are addicted then this will not be good, especially for the future of their household.

However, if you already have children, it is better for both husband and wife to stop together and the money that is usually used for gambling can be used to make life insurance for the future of their children and themselves or use it for the needs of their family or children so that by having children their parents' instincts will definitely run smoothly. as a parent, you definitely want to do the best for your child and not selfish and only think about your own pleasure.

[Yamifoud]

Since gambling is an uncertain way of earning money, it must be dangerous if both husband and wife are addicted to gambling. Because if two people always lose then there will be problem in managing their family life. On the other hand after losing from gambling then behavior changes so there may be internal fights. Even the married life of two people can be different so it is natural for either one to gamble. But if they own a lot of money they can gamble freely but in my opinion you should not let the influence of gambling fall on your family.

It was not just uncertain way but it was not considered as a source of income unless you are the owner of the casino. But since we are just a gambler, we can't expect that we can win over the house that is why gambling is for entertainment, nothing else. So why is good for one of them to quit it is because as they continue gambling there is a big chance of falling into addiction and we know the impact on our finances and family relationships and much more if we have kids already. While it never happens yet, someone must do it or both of them will stop.

[len01]

However, if you already have children, it is better for both husband and wife to stop together and the money that is usually used for gambling can be used to make life insurance for the future of their children and themselves or use it for the needs of their family or children so that by having children their parents' instincts will definitely run smoothly. as a parent, you definitely want to do the best for your child and not selfish and only think about your own pleasure.

pay attention to the word I marked that this is about being selfish or not.
I mean, even though a husband and wife already have children, they will not stop gambling if they have been gambling for too long and it is not easy to avoid gambling directly, of course it requires strong encouragement from one of the husband or wife. so for me, stopping both is very difficult unless one of them has the idea to stop gambling and in my opinion it is more effective if the husband starts to stop gambling then after the husband has successfully stopped gambling he can provide education to the wife to stop gambling and focus on taking care of her child.

sometimes this selfishness is what prevents both parties from having difficulty leaving gambling because usually there are thoughts like I will stop if my wife stops and conversely the wife thinks that she will stop if her husband stops gambling. this kind of selfishness can destroy the future of the family and their children and this requires help from other parties such as siblings or parents who can help solve this problem.
It's not very good if you are married but your husband and wife are still gambling which can destroy their family or maybe the worst thing is divorce because they lose a lot of money and blame each other.

[passwordnow]

Since gambling is an uncertain way of earning money, it must be dangerous if both husband and wife are addicted to gambling. Because if two people always lose then there will be problem in managing their family life.

That's a big problem if both of them become addicted and they have kids to attend to their needs. So, what if both of them become out of control and instead of providing what's needed by the family, they're attending first to their gambling needs? Well, that's a situation that can be dealt with in reality but most of these can be managed depending on how they attest to this situation.

On the other hand after losing from gambling then behavior changes so there may be internal fights. Even the married life of two people can be different so it is natural for either one to gamble. But if they own a lot of money they can gamble freely but in my opinion you should not let the influence of gambling fall on your family.

Not just getting into fights but with miscommunication because it all comes to having an issue with the same hobby but, the result might be different because there's money involved. When you're in a married life, of course money is important and if you're not helping each other with the expenses or it is mostly affected because both of you gambles a lot. That's where the problem will be bigger.

Anyway, most gamblers are family oriented and for sure will get into a solution on how to handle such problem. You don't want your kids to have problems with provisions and the same goes for husband and wife. It all comes with thinking of the setup and solution to be applied.

[bakasabo]

I think some people gonna have a heartburn after reading, but what about popular quotation "happy wife, happy life" ? And enshrined in society "man manages financing, while women manage the house" ?
On one hand husband must quit to get peace in family. On the other he must be the only one that could be allowed to gamble with real money. But in general, there is no need to create some kind of cult out of gambling. It shouldn't affect the family in any way.

[junder]

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

Why do you say that? Are you sure that nothing bad will happen if a couple still likes to gamble?
I myself prefer to quit gambling especially if I already have a child, because no matter how well we maintain our gambling habits, there will certainly be an impact later on young children. because gambling can also change a person's behavior to be bad and maybe other people can also be affected and this is certainly not desired by myself. therefore gambling also destroys harmonious relationships, where a family can be destroyed just because of someone who is addicted to gambling, if all members are addicted to gambling, maybe there will be no peaceful life.

If a family is destroyed because of gambling it is not good, family relationships can be destroyed because of one person who is addicted to gambling, where this person may experience a change in attitude and it could also be that he will become a stubborn person, like to argue and not think about the big risks that will occur. try to think again why you suggest not to stop gambling. because in my opinion there is no connection between someone who has been gambling for a long time must stop gambling. someone who stops gambling because he wants a change for the better, no matter how long he has been gambling, that is not a good reason.

Sure, you've got your beliefs, and I respect that. But people engage in all sorts of activities that carry risks - heck, driving a car comes with its share of dangers. Does that mean we stop driving? No! We learn to drive safely. The same applies to gambling. It's a form of entertainment, an adrenaline rush, a way to unwind. If someone’s responsible, knows their limits, why the heck should they stop?

Now, about the impact on family - let's not paint everyone with the same brush. I’ve seen folks who gamble and still maintain a happy, healthy family life. It's all about moderation. You're worried about a gambler turning stubborn, argumentative? Well, guess what? That can happen with any hobby taken to the extreme, not just gambling. The key is knowing when to stop. And who are we to dictate how others find their joy? If gambling is their escape, their slice of excitement in a mundane routine, who's to say that's wrong? Life's short; let people have their fun!

now look at the large number of gamblers, the percentage of gambling responsibly is very small and very few people can do this, gambling has dangerous impacts that are not trivial, also because of that the possibility of a percentage of addiction that is difficult to hide  many of them become addicted by gambling Even if they just want to try it out,  they can become addicted to gambling, why is that? because gambling itself can make people forget themselves, where someone who plays it can become emotional and tend to be greedy. define gambling as entertainment,  okay we agree on this.
but you might also see from the number of  people here that gambling can bring bad things, right? Many of them said they had to stop because there would be repercussions that would occur if they still liked to gamble wouldn't it  be possible if they had to gamble until they were old?  Even though there are parents who still like to gamble, is  this worth using as motivation?  Are you sure that gambling where someone is only based as a player can get a  steady and profitable income? I don't think so and indirectly this all represents  someone who likes to gamble and hopes they can stop  gambling especially when they are married  or even have children why is that, because someone who likes gambling might experience changes in their attitude and behavior why?  because gambling will not continue smoothly, bro. Do you yourself think it will always be smooth? I not sure about that.

with those who like to gamble is it likely that they will continue to benefit? i don't think so. i'm not sure those who like to gamble have a greater percentage of wins and profits. i think everyone knows the percentage of losses is greater than the wins, and if they always lose will they be okay? maybe yes, but for a short time, in the long run they will probably experience upset because of the losses they always get, also maybe they will be stressed if they always gamble but there is no result. with limits and responsibility? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of their families who must maintain their relationships, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience more or less conflict or quarrels. with limits and being responsible? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of his family that must be maintained relationship, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience a lot of disagreements or small quarrels. not to mention the character that a person has, of course men tend to have a stubborn character, arrogant with their choices, tend not to want to give in, this also encourages those who could be worse in the future.


people's pleasure is different, it is also because everyone's thinking is different, they have their own choices. their gambling habits seem to be able to make them destroyed in the future. people who gamble at the beginning with a target or good self-control, may change when in the game, because as you said this gambling triggers adrenaline, this means that it can also make someone become emotional when gambling, right? now here's the thing, gambling has a dangerous impact, and if they have been gambling for a long time as an escape, is there nothing else that can be used as an escape? that means gambling itself has an effect that can make them change quickly. The thing that should be noted, even those who gamble responsibly can change, it is unlikely that they will continue to stay like that. because changes can occur especially with gambling that is fully tied to finances, and finances are important things in life. even those who get big wins can change especially those who get continuous losses too. it's good to stop early, because prevention is better than cure, right? the good and bad impacts that will occur with themselves, okay let people have fun, but if they don't have enough money or income, in my opinion with his habit of making gambling as an escape it's not for fun, but will torture themselves.

[Cookdata]

I don't think so that the husband can easily obey what his wife would tell him to stop into gambling. I've seen a lot like the situation you mentioned where husbands and wives keep fighting because of gambling and of course, the money that the husband spent to feed his gambling addiction. I’ve also witnessed a lot of scenarios where they sell all their assets just to bet and to feed their habit of gambling. The time will happen that they were amid deprivation and they were close of being broke. So, while it's still early you should be aware of the limitations and what may happen when you enter this gambling activity.

Situations like this often arise from the man's mistakes. As a man, gambling should never be anything that can steal away your attention and responsibility of your home but some men have problems with this part. When you know that you are a gambler and know that you are married to your wife, don't forget to take care of your home, treat them like you don't gamble at all but they always do the opposite which makes their wife disrespect them.

If a married gambler provides for the wife, does the basic needs for the wife, they will never complain or fight their husband for doing what they like especially when money and attention is involved. The wife will even feel concerned if the husband is the passionate one and feels sober anytime he is lost, they will pet him just to clear the mood because they know he is a responsible gambler but I know they will not do that to a irresponsible man.

But if the husband is responsible for balancing his gambling time and his family time then there is no problem. Just like I said in my previous post in this forum, maybe they can make better teamwork and they still have time to make playing as their bonding as a couple.

My advice to all gamblers whether male or female you should avoid chasing losses and never gamble with money that you should spend for your living expenses.

More importantly, know when to quit and know when to say goodbye for that time. You must not win all the time because if there is anything like that, the casino will not function again and they will be out of business for life. Also, don't gamble more than you can afford to lose, it hurts in the end if you lose a dear amount to gambling because you will hardly get it right the next time you try to recover it again.

[goldkingcoiner]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Well, if they both gamble AND are able to retain a good standard of living and a good mental state then I would be very surprised. Usually that does not work out, and I have yet to meet the person who can gamble without endangering his/her financial status. Although there may exist such people, who knows? In such a (rare) case I think there would be no issue. Why look for problems where there are none? If their gambling starts showing symptoms of problems (financial troubles, child neglect, health issues etc...) then that is a different situation...

[Oilacris]

I have meet few gamblers that are very good at controlling themselves around gambling and they are doing so well in life, if the both partners are good at controlling their gambling desires then there is no problem, you should only start to worry if your partner is risking too much on gambling, I would love my partner to keep a watch on me, I can even have them beside me when I want to gamble, its for the best.

I actually don't have any gambling problem but if you are already married and you feel the need to be under watch, ask your partner to do it for you, thinking that you can become a millionaire in gambling is very normal in the lives of gamblers, and thats why many of them are riped off.

You can't beat the house, atleast not always, so you should not rely on something that isnt requiring your skills to beat the game, its you and how lucky you will be, invest your money more and gamble very less, I have my reason for saying this, its sadly the way that gambling is programmed.

Those are rare or something not really that usual because majority of gamblers are those people who are really that impulsive. Im not saying that all of them but majority would really be included into that bracket. Somewhat there are really people who do play gambling for fun and entertainment without making themselves getting addicted. This is something that we should really be that
mindful. Quitting would really be just that relevant if you do see that gambling is already that affecting you financially and emotionally on which it would really be just that right that you
shouldnt really be that tolerating that kind of addiction which mold up into your personal self. Quit if its needed but if you do see that you can handle then it would really be just that fine.