Do you care about what people say about you gambling?

[MainIbem]

Let's discuss amicably

I believe only my parents' opinion about my gambling could really affect me. I only gamble when I have some free time and want to challenge my brain a bit, it's not a constant thing. I usually do it on my phone, and only my friends are aware of it. If someone outside my circle, except for maybe a religious figure like a pastor, sees me gambling and has an opinion, it wouldn't bother me much. I don't think I'd care unless it's my parents, and even then, I'd explain why I started gambling if they ever found out, which is unlikely to happen.

It was just by a mistake that he sighted towards my phone otherwise I don't think he would have that mind to speak to me with such tune though I actually feels so sad because, when uses that comment it is generalized as someone whom doesn't have any future. Most times the misrepresentation of other people can cause a serious damage to people around where by they will channel the same mindset to you since others couldn't make an ends meets through gambling and you that is gambling are easily classified as one of them.
Now talks about your parents, well if your father was once gambler or someone who has anticipated in gambling activity he won't do any harm to you rather could likely cautioned you to be more responsible since he knew the rules and the bad effects of gambling.

[Huppercase]

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

Don't blame them, it's because of the type of Orientation they had that is making them see gambling that way. Some parents are very strict and instead of them to give their kids proper education and why they should avoid something, they will lie to them and give them phobia towards the it, hence anytime they see another person doing it, they see such person as the enemy, these group of people don't know anything about gambling and that is why you seen them acting like a typical people who just came out from a village that forbid something.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

You are an adult right? Adult means to be mature and to be able to stand on your own without anyone and you are ready capable for the consequences of your actions. Whatever you do or want to do is not anyone business, it's your life. Gambling is a normal thing but the way people view it is different maybe due to religion which they see as a sin but anything apart from this is lack of education or awareness.

[rachael9385]

Hmm, interesting.
However a lot of people don't like the gambling just because of the bad habits of some crackles gamblers that have done a lot of terrible things like selling their house, cars and some important things to them and their families, others have used their house rents, children school and and lots more just because they really wants to satisfy their urge of gambling.
But looking at the whole stuffs about some gamblers behavior, have makes some people to think that gambling is risky, though it's risky but but if a gambler is very careful, he or she will not get into trouble when they gamble.
If a gambler can gamble safely, he or she will not have any problems, when I mean problems, like depts and some others.

[Westinhome]

It was just by a mistake that he sighted towards my phone otherwise I don't think he would have that mind to speak to me with such tune though I actually feels so sad because, when uses that comment it is generalized as someone whom doesn't have any future. Most times the misrepresentation of other people can cause a serious damage to people around where by they will channel the same mindset to you since others couldn't make an ends meets through gambling and you that is gambling are easily classified as one of them.
Now talks about your parents, well if your father was once gambler or someone who has anticipated in gambling activity he won't do any harm to you rather could likely cautioned you to be more responsible since he knew the rules and the bad effects of gambling.

If any people advice to quit the gambling,it’s your own wish towards the game.Because the gambling money which you are using for the gambling was hard earned money of yourself.So how they take the control of your action.Even though your wife or mother doesn’t matter,keep your own way of approach to anything.If you are become the gambler with the influence of the big winning from some gambler,you should overtake the position of that gambler winning.Because many gambler will get into the gambling business with the motive of getting more winning then the influencer of the gambling,he may be your friend or family member.But you should not get away without achieving target.

[madnessteat]

Let's discuss amicably

I believe only my parents' opinion about my gambling could really affect me. I only gamble when I have some free time and want to challenge my brain a bit, it's not a constant thing. I usually do it on my phone, and only my friends are aware of it. If someone outside my circle, except for maybe a religious figure like a pastor, sees me gambling and has an opinion, it wouldn't bother me much. I don't think I'd care unless it's my parents, and even then, I'd explain why I started gambling if they ever found out, which is unlikely to happen.

I too am of the opinion that you should only listen to the advice and opinions of your family and trusted friends because they are the only people who wish you well. All others have nothing to do with you listening to them, and even worse, adjusting to their ideas about life is not the best thing to do. Life is given to a person once and no one has the right to judge your choice if it doesn't do bad things to other people.

[Weawant]

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Gambling isn't a crime anywhere although it's prohibited in some places but it's still accepted in other places aswell, even government do regulate gambling activities and some times tax casinos and gambling house located around their region so I don't see reason why I should be concerned or care much about what people say when I know what I'm doing is legal.

If you win a good some of money and this same persons get to know that you are now some millions or thousands Richer, they will want to enjoy a fair share from the same thing they had criticized you for earlier, most times it's almost always normal for people to give off such reactions when the fish discover you are a gambler because there's a negative narrative associated with gambler's especially in developing nations where some gamblers turn out irresponsible and involve in unhealthy habits to gamble but then when you know you are not one of those addicted folks it's shouldn't really border you what people think as for me I don't give a dime.

[hedgeh0g]

It was just by a mistake that he sighted towards my phone otherwise I don't think he would have that mind to speak to me with such tune though I actually feels so sad because, when uses that comment it is generalized as someone whom doesn't have any future. Most times the misrepresentation of other people can cause a serious damage to people around where by they will channel the same mindset to you since others couldn't make an ends meets through gambling and you that is gambling are easily classified as one of them.
Now talks about your parents, well if your father was once gambler or someone who has anticipated in gambling activity he won't do any harm to you rather could likely cautioned you to be more responsible since he knew the rules and the bad effects of gambling.

If any people advice to quit the gambling,it’s your own wish towards the game.Because the gambling money which you are using for the gambling was hard earned money of yourself.So how they take the control of your action.Even though your wife or mother doesn’t matter,keep your own way of approach to anything.If you are become the gambler with the influence of the big winning from some gambler,you should overtake the position of that gambler winning.Because many gambler will get into the gambling business with the motive of getting more winning then the influencer of the gambling,he may be your friend or family member.But you should not get away without achieving target.

Most likely, the goal will not be achieved in terms of winning, because all players come only to win, but it is impossible for everyone to win. The player will not rest until he experiences everything he wants. Even if the mother or wife will do anything to stop the player, he can play with redoubled zeal, because if he is forbidden, this can attract him even more. He will try to prove to them that winning is possible, and will probably dig himself into an even bigger hole. But there will be a very small number of those on whom relatives will influence and the player will never sit down to play again, but there will be so few of them that I would not even take this into account seriously.

[Rockstarguy]

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

It sounds very funny though,  for me as far as you are not addicted I don't think their is any need you need to be shy about gambling.  It is only shamefull when one always do stupid things to play gamble or play gamble in an uncontrollable way. If you are playing right I don't think their is any need for you to be worried about people's opinion about you playing gambling. I think since is not everyone that fancy gambling,  when we go out we should try are best we don't disclose it to people that don't welcome it.

[justdimin]

Well, I am neither one thing nor the other. I don't go around touting that I gamble, nor do I care if anyone notices it. In general it is better that your gambling is a private activity that you keep relatively secret unless you are a professional gambler who makes a living from it, which is not usually the case on the forum. But if someone finds out, who cares? I gamble responsibly and anyone who doesn't like it can go fuck themselves.

This is a must thing to do because someone might feel negative about us when we talk about our gambling activities to them. They will hardly noticed it if we try to keep it a secret as much as possible, especially if you only playing online. We can only care if our kids see it because they can copy it but if it's about other adult people, I think we shouldn't need to.

For a pro gambler, they don't need to do it but they need more exposure as much possible, so that they can get noticed by the brands or companies. This is where they get discovered and get a sponsorship to make a living. Besides pro gamblers are great players, so they can rarely get a hate from the people around them. 

[danherbias07]

Well, I am neither one thing nor the other. I don't go around touting that I gamble, nor do I care if anyone notices it. In general it is better that your gambling is a private activity that you keep relatively secret unless you are a professional gambler who makes a living from it, which is not usually the case on the forum. But if someone finds out, who cares? I gamble responsibly and anyone who doesn't like it can go fuck themselves.

This is a must thing to do because someone might feel negative about us when we talk about our gambling activities to them. They will hardly noticed it if we try to keep it a secret as much as possible, especially if you only playing online. We can only care if our kids see it because they can copy it but if it's about other adult people, I think we shouldn't need to.

For a pro gambler, they don't need to do it but they need more exposure as much possible, so that they can get noticed by the brands or companies. This is where they get discovered and get a sponsorship to make a living. Besides pro gamblers are great players, so they can rarely get a hate from the people around them. 

It's different for me. I share it with my friends because I know they are also into gambling. Well, just them. With my family and relatives, I don't talk about it unless one of my uncles or cousins starts the discussion then I might also talk about it with them. But that never happened yet.
My friends though, it's easy to see when they are gambling. One of my friends could not even let go of his smartphone and I asked what he was doing and he shared it without even thinking twice. Others were into poker so it's easy to be in sync with them when talking about gambling.
The neighbors are a different story because I know a lot of ladies especially the old ones like to gossip so I don't share about gambling with any of them. Even if they ask, I will still not tell, I don't like people talking about me although I don't really care what they say.
But, it's always better to just keep it safe because who knows if my kids will sniff that gossip and I will look bad to them. Keep it a secret as much as possible because we are not the only ones who may get affected by those kinds of things but our kids too will start hating us.

[rodskee]

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Are you affected ? because if not then you don't have to post this here right?

on the other hand I care for no one when I gamble(but of course this is only for
sometime because I don't really gamble lol)

its your money right? its your time right? its your life right? then why do need to care for them?

[Reatim]

My parents religion will surely Hates me if they find out I am in gambling because this is truly prohibited from them , but that is what I only care because I don't wanna disappoint my parents.

other than that? nope I am not caring because what I do believe is that as long as I am not making any bad to others and I am spending my own money
there is no way that i have to explain myself from them.

[MainIbem]

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Are you affected ? because if not then you don't have to post this here right?

on the other hand I care for no one when I gamble(but of course this is only for
sometime because I don't really gamble lol)

its your money right? its your time right? its your life right? then why do need to care for them?

Why won't I be affected when someone do classify you as someone not responsible and from then do you know if that same person would disseminate the information about your gambling habits so quickly?
Yeah, this could be common in the western country or in the first world country but not in our third world countries because whatever information they gives out about you sure affects you within your locality or to the general public, so to whatever thing man is doing we have to be very mindful. Even though I am not solely depending on him or him helping me we should mind how we leak information concerning our lives. Yes it's my money, my time / life and to whatever we may have it but that doesn't mean we shouldn't care about our wellbeing.

[Jody.Drummer]

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

It sounds very funny though,  for me as far as you are not addicted I don't think their is any need you need to be shy about gambling.  It is only shamefull when one always do stupid things to play gamble or play gamble in an uncontrollable way. If you are playing right I don't think their is any need for you to be worried about people's opinion about you playing gambling. I think since is not everyone that fancy gambling,  when we go out we should try are best we don't disclose it to people that don't welcome it.

It is quite reasonable, but on the other hand we also need to look at the various sides of gambling where the public's point of view is quite negative on gambling activities but if those who comment they are one of the gamblers too then obviously I think we don't have to worry about whatever their opinion is, but yes I understand that it can make us feel a little uncomfortable because of its presence along with its comments. It's quite embarrassing if you're an addicted gambler in the sense that you have an uncontrolled approach to gambling and of course with that it's very likely that people around you will make comments that make you feel cornered, they're not wrong and I think it's a natural reaction when we see a gambler acting out of control or overdoing it in gambling activities that in reality there is always no certainty whatsoever.

So it's quite natural for them to comment  with opinions that are less palatable if you gamble excessively, but the point is as you also said if we gamble reasonably or correctly then there is no harm and don't worry too much because after all gambling is a choice.

[retreat]

Actually, I don't really care what other people think about my gambling, because it is their right to think whatever they want about a gambler. But because in my country gambling is prohibited and playing in public is not recommended, I try my best not to open my account in public to avoid getting into trouble. Moreover, playing privately is much better, because I can play more freely and don't have to worry about other people seeing my account.

[bluebit25]

I know prejudice from things that people don't understand about it, the outside crowd likes to judge rather than put themselves in someone's position to feel. I have another example through OP's story, if you walk on the street and someone gives you money and you don't accept it, that money still doesn't belong to you, so understand that many outside prejudices if If you don't accept it, it won't affect you at all. I don't care too much about the things I do that others judge, because I know my actions don't harm anyone and they don't violate ethics in my opinion, so I don't need to worry about paying attention to thinking from the outside.

[AicecreaME]

If you know it to yourself that you are a disciplined and responsible gambler, then there's no point in doubting yourself. As long as you are doing your duties as spouse, a parent to your children, and a good child of your parents, then all they are spitting should not matter. If you are providing your family a shelter, food, support and care that they need, you are doing a good job and should be entitled to your little luxuries in life. It's not as if you did something wrong when you gamble. If you want it to be your form of relaxation or outlet of stress, then so be it. Just remember to not compromise what matters the most and those should be your priority.

If ever someone would come at you with prejudice such as being an irresponsible gambler, just try to let them be aware or educate them about it. Because we can't really blame people who have negative thinking about it due to its reputation to the masses even way back then.

[Rabata]

I am not willing to do anything depending on others. Some people may give good advice but I will never find those people in any of my needs. So since they can't help me except for advice, I can't deviate from any of my goals by their words. No one knows better than me how much control I have in gambling. I don't agree to listen if someone sees my mobile or comes to advise me about gambling. I don't like other people's advice on my personal matters. Not all cases will be the same. I have the ability to understand good and evil. If someone tries to influence me with different motives, I will not accept it.

[Saisher]

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

People have bad impressions about gambling, you cannot control that there is no need to argue that you are gambling for fun, because it's unlikely that they are going to believe what you're going to say to them, if people do not personally know you, his opinion about how you gamble should not matter to you.
Whether you're gambling to make money or fun, people have no business interfering with your affair, as long as you are spending your own money and you do not bother anyone or the community, you don't owe anyone any explanation.

[2Pizza410000BTC]

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

I am also a mobile user and I participate in gambling through mobile. No one in my neighborhood including my neighborhood knows about my gambling. But I participate in gambling very secretly and very carefully. I never predict any match for gambling in front of people. Because people should not accuse me in any way that I participate in gambling, especially since I am a humble and decent boy of the area, if anyone finds out about my gambling, people will think badly of me and people will not like my leadership. That's why I always save myself and participate in gambling.