Do you care about what people say about you gambling?

[Altryist]

 Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.

[Gozie51]

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling,

You could start looking at what people say about you when you are not profiting in gambling but if you are, the people who would see you will want to join your groof to see if you can predict to them the right game to bet on. You know success has many followers but failure is scorned at. So those gamblers who are always losing their game are those that will be worried about what people are saying and not the people who are winning bets that they stake.

[Rufsilf]

That kind of person will inevitably exist. If people are aware that you gamble, they will think negatively about you because it is quite harmful. Nowadays, it has been ingrained in people's minds that gambling will only lead to financial waste and that you can lose your family's support. They won't be able to think well of you, though, if you can feed your family properly and take care of yourself at the same time. If they can see that you are a decent person and that you know yourself to be a responsible gambler, then it won't be too much of a problem with other people's comments. However, it's really uncommon to come across a responsible gambler because occasionally they prefer to play secretly or privately. It is common knowledge in the community that gamblers who just spend excessively and lose their money eventually cause hardship for their families. This is the reason why the majority will harm the reputation of other gamblers who are involved. One thing, he has no respect at all, cause why does he peek at other people's business, that's privacy.

[Wexnident]

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I've learned this late in life that bothering about what people think of you or what you do is just a pain in the ass and an absolute waste of time. That is, unless, you were specifically aiming for their recognition/acceptance or something in the first place. Which, btw, should not be a regular thing to expect from anyone on the street, unless you're a politician in which case you do indeed need literally everyone on the street's recognition.


Now in cases where you do need their recognition or something similar, then that's when you start thinking about how to explain, how to reach a consensus, or just a middleground for the both of you. There's usually one in most cases, especially if you're both important to each other. In OPs case I reckon it's just blind knowledge of gamblers (which is what media portrays it to be, so I can't exactly deny that it's true, but not the entirety) but I reckon a simple explanation and a simple look at OP himself can explain how it's a big generalization.

[yazher]

Some people really care what people think of them because they don't want to be deserted and have no friends when they get old or when they live in a community, that has many good people but it will all depends on which country you are living in because the customs will always be at your side if you follow it unless it is an obvious customs that are against the laws. Suppose you cannot let go of your bad habit whatever it is. In that case, it's better for you not to show it to the people and not be proud of it because when one day you want to change your lifestyle, you can always join their companies and not be left alone and no one wants to have you because you were once a gambler.

[ethereumhunter]

I am also a mobile user and I participate in gambling through mobile. No one in my neighborhood including my neighborhood knows about my gambling. But I participate in gambling very secretly and very carefully. I never predict any match for gambling in front of people. Because people should not accuse me in any way that I participate in gambling, especially since I am a humble and decent boy of the area, if anyone finds out about my gambling, people will think badly of me and people will not like my leadership. That's why I always save myself and participate in gambling.

This means that you really keep your secret when playing gambling so that no one knows, but you must really be able to control yourself because by gambling alone without anyone knowing, you have the potential to lose self-control, which can cause you problems. But it's best if we don't have to say anything about the gambling we often play because people's responses will be different and we don't want anyone to say bad things about us. After all, we don't need to listen to what they say about us because we are only responsible for ourselves. But we also have to be prepared if one day someone sees us gambling accidentally and they might spread the gossip to the public. And if it's like that, we don't need to respond to what they say.

[Outhue]

I shouldn't and I can't say the same for others, because the situations in countries are always different, I shouldn't care because no one cares for me than my parent, why should anything that people say affect me? But the problem is that some people are so ready to spoil your name by spreading something that's not even real.

Even if a responsible gambler visit local casino in my country, people won't care, you are simply are useless person, assuming you plan to get married, you will be shocked that someone will tell your in law that you are a gambler, and believe it that some people take this so serious, they won't let you marry their child because you are a gambler.

They have no idea that someone can be a gambler and also do a lot of great things in this life, but I don't blame them, too many gamblers ends up living up to the rumors from people, they ended up wasting their time with gambling with nothing to show for it.

So even if you are responsible, people will still say a lot of things about you if you are caught in a casino, I believe it's lack of knowledge but only very few numbers of people can control themselves when gambling, this is why most gamblers ended with nothing.

[blckhawk]

Some people really care what people think of them because they don't want to be deserted and have no friends when they get old or when they live in a community, that has many good people but it will all depends on which country you are living in because the customs will always be at your side if you follow it unless it is an obvious customs that are against the laws. Suppose you cannot let go of your bad habit whatever it is. In that case, it's better for you not to show it to the people and not be proud of it because when one day you want to change your lifestyle, you can always join their companies and not be left alone and no one wants to have you because you were once a gambler.

That's just how it is, some people grew up to needing the approval and attention of other people and so they end up with having this kind of problem, not being able to let go of attachments and people that are bad for their being is byproduct of how they grew up and what environment they were raised in. But the good news is that it's something that you can easily learn how to not basically give a fuck to what others have to say to what you're doing. Show who you are, don't be too bad about yourself just because you've got a bad habit, just learn not to give a fuck.

[MainIbem]

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling,

You could start looking at what people say about you when you are not profiting in gambling but if you are, the people who would see you will want to join your groof to see if you can predict to them the right game to bet on. You know success has many followers but failure is scorned at. So those gamblers who are always losing their game are those that will be worried about what people are saying and not the people who are winning bets that they stake.

Though you are actually correct because those people who don't make any profits from gambling are all classified as in irresponsible gambler whereas those people who are making profits from it all have people that are disturbing them to share their games with them so that they can also secure winning for themselves. Success they said has many branches and leaf around them, people would always want to come patch on them to take the coolest moment of their lives, what a world!

[KTChampions]

Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it.~

As they say: at the age of 20 I was worried about what they thought of me, at the age of 40 I didn’t care what they thought of me, at the age of 60 I realized that no one ever thought about me  
In general, this works, but I would say that you should listen to the opinions of relatives - if there are healthy relationships in the family, then most likely they wish you well, even if they are wrong in their opinion.

[xLays]

Well for me, if the person who says something about your gambling really matters to you, you will definitely listen and care about they saying to you. It means that they also care about what you're doing. This is kind of different from your situation as it's just a stranger who's talking about your gambling. When someone talks about your gambling situation remember that you're the one in control of your decisions.

[rahmad2nd]

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This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably

Basically we cannot avoid anything that happens in our lives, one example is as you describe in this thread. in short, sometimes we can't avoid hiding the habits we often do, one of which is gambling. there are times when we try to cover up our habits, but in the end the people closest to us find out. well, haven't we experienced this situation regardless of gambling or not?

Now we are talking in a gambling context, there are many people close to me who don't know that I like to gamble. so far, everything is normal and there are no obstacles or problems whatsoever. there are also a few people who know that I like to gamble, and that doesn't matter to me, we even have normal relations without anyone putting each other in a corner. there are also some people who don't need to know that I like to gamble. for example, my children and my parents. why, yeah, so they don't worry about what I'm doing. avoid negative thoughts about gambling. for my children, it's not time for them to know something they shouldn't know. the point is, we have to sort and choose according to our portions.

Referring to the case of this thread, I tried to put myself in a situation like the one you experienced, in fact I wouldn't mind if someone thought negatively about what I did, whatever it is, it's their right to judge it and I also have the right not to care, let alone  have to explain it. for me, gambling is something that is private. except, if we play it with friends of the same frequency. the point is that I don't have to harm anyone, let alone my family, and I spend money from my own pocket, without having to bother other people. as long as it is still possible and remains in the right context. I don't need to worry about anything, and I don't need to explain anything. for me, it's that simple.

[Dewi Aries]

Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.

I think it will only affect our minds and will not affect our lives as a whole, people care too much about something that basically doesn't really matter, but on the other hand it doesn't hurt to deduce what they are really saying and  where their ideas lead, whether their criticism and opinions for us will really be useful for us or not at all, it depends on how you can distinguish the ideas that come in.

For people who don't really  care about what other people say about them then I don't think they will make any changes, but if you are one of those people who are easily annoyed and feel uncomfortable with other people's comments even if they are important then it seems that you will prefer to make changes, in the sense of not repeating the same thing for the potential occurrence of the same situation, so I think it depends on yourself whether you are comfortable or not with other people's comments..

[leonair]

Well for me, if the person who says something about your gambling really matters to you, you will definitely listen and care about they saying to you. It means that they also care about what you're doing. This is kind of different from your situation as it's just a stranger who's talking about your gambling. When someone talks about your gambling situation remember that you're the one in control of your decisions.

Gambling is considered a bad thing in the eyes of society so when someone finds out about your gambling, they will definitely criticize you. So of course you have to take care of these things and you have to be better in their eyes to stop criticizing you. Because respect is very important for a person and gambling destroys people's respect. So you should always try to keep your gambling a secret so that no one can criticize you. So I personally care if anyone is talking about my gambling

[coolcoinz]

Well for me, if the person who says something about your gambling really matters to you, you will definitely listen and care about they saying to you. It means that they also care about what you're doing.

Not exactly. They sometimes want to tease you, they expect a reaction. They don't care about you gambling and sometimes don't even have an opinion, but they see you doing it and see it as vulnerability that can be taken advantage of. If they saw you smoking, drinking, eating unhealthy food, playing a game on your phone they'd probably act the same way. Sometimes it's not about what you do but what people you surround yourself with.

I rarely care about these things, although it's hard to ignore them completely. After all this is a mild attack. They're verbally poking you and if that comes at the wrong time, you can overreact.

[Westinhome]

Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.

The most of the advice to the gamblers was for the benefit of the life,the people spending their time to make us live the peaceful life.Because sometimes gambler use their own real money to the gambling site,using the free money alone make the gamblers to feel comfortable.But due to the greedy the gamblers will do the betting using the important money of the essential purpose like fees of their children or the month rent for their house.If they made the win,it will managed and the additional money he get for the other purpose expenses.But if he loss the funds,he need to get more loan for the compensation for the loss money and to handle the loss.

[Lorence.xD]

Well for me, if the person who says something about your gambling really matters to you, you will definitely listen and care about they saying to you. It means that they also care about what you're doing. This is kind of different from your situation as it's just a stranger who's talking about your gambling. When someone talks about your gambling situation remember that you're the one in control of your decisions.

Gambling is considered a bad thing in the eyes of society so when someone finds out about your gambling, they will definitely criticize you. So of course you have to take care of these things and you have to be better in their eyes to stop criticizing you. Because respect is very important for a person and gambling destroys people's respect. So you should always try to keep your gambling a secret so that no one can criticize you. So I personally care if anyone is talking about my gambling

Well, we know that gambling can ruin someone's life by starting financially which would lead to a domino effect on their mental, emotional, and physical health. So why there's still casinos and gambling still exist? It is because it still helps the economy by just simply paying taxes. The thing is gambling still has a good impact on society, if you are a responsible gambler you don't have to listen to anyone say (negative opinions) since it's your money, your rules. Still, be open to conversations like from your family asking you to stop gambling, but yeah I agree that keeping it on your own would be the best move.

[electronicash]

Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.

The most of the advice to the gamblers was for the benefit of the life,the people spending their time to make us live the peaceful life.Because sometimes gambler use their own real money to the gambling site,using the free money alone make the gamblers to feel comfortable.But due to the greedy the gamblers will do the betting using the important money of the essential purpose like fees of their children or the month rent for their house.If they made the win,it will managed and the additional money he get for the other purpose expenses.But if he loss the funds,he need to get more loan for the compensation for the loss money and to handle the loss.

and if a gambler loses and people who just peep at your phone might just tell colleagues you lost your month's rent money because you gambled it or so. not that i care but because people judge you because of your failures, this could cause anxiety.  

if you live in a close-knit family your elder might just pay a visit and advise you to stop gambling. you wouldn;t wonder then where the elders haave heard of it. the nosey little fella who just peep at your phone now is telling everyone about it.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

      -  When I gamble as much as possible, I don't want anyone who knows my friends or my family to know. But if anyone knows this, it's only my husband, and he also knows that I don't often play gambling either.

It's just mine because it's better for me to keep it to myself that only I know because this is what I think will be better in reality, which will not affect other people or my relationships with my other close friends; this is just our opinion.

[Yatsan]

Well, is it their money I am losing? Definitely not. But those who are hiding their gambling activity has their own reason; religious beliefs, accessibility of gambling sites, negative impression, and more. We just have our own reason just like those who likes to brag about it and those who are showing to public that they are into gambling. On my end, I prefer not to tell anyone to save myself from questions of why, how much am I losing or winning, which platforms, etc. There are just times silence is a better option. People will be curious about it but won't be curious enough to try it for themselves therefore, it'll just be a waste of time explaining myself.

Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.

The most of the advice to the gamblers was for the benefit of the life,the people spending their time to make us live the peaceful life.Because sometimes gambler use their own real money to the gambling site,using the free money alone make the gamblers to feel comfortable.But due to the greedy the gamblers will do the betting using the important money of the essential purpose like fees of their children or the month rent for their house.If they made the win,it will managed and the additional money he get for the other purpose expenses.But if he loss the funds,he need to get more loan for the compensation for the loss money and to handle the loss.

and if a gambler loses and people who just peep at your phone might just tell colleagues you lost your month's rent money because you gambled it or so. not that i care but because people judge you because of your failures, this could cause anxiety. 

if you live in a close-knit family your elder might just pay a visit and advise you to stop gambling. you wouldn;t wonder then where the elders haave heard of it. the nosey little fella who just peep at your phone now is telling everyone about it.

Definitely, losses would be longer to talk about with, than your reason of why you are gambling. We cannot control what other people would tell about us; some would be positive and some would be the other way around. If they're non-gamblers then they won't get whatever point you want them to absorb. They could take your winning negatively if they will borrow and won't be giving it back. Transparency is a doubled edged sword which is where we should be careful of.