Do you care about what people say about you gambling?

[TopTort777]

Its funny how one and the same people post here that they dont care what other say about them gambling, and parallel they post in “keep gambling in secret” topic and “never gamble in front of kids” such a double standarts  

If you dont care much about others, then why you hide that you gamble? If youare so “Mr. I-dont-care” then why you talk about addiction?

[arimamib]

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Many people get sensitive on the words of the other people,but it’s quit not important one.Because we know the importance of the words of the people who are very close to us and the random people in our life.The gambling addicted person itself give importance to the people who are very close to them,because they never bother to the words of the person who they not consider such people as important to their life.

Many gambling addicted people was recovered only by the words of their closed one,mostly their friends or wife or mother of their own family.Some of the gamblers quit because of their family problems occur due the gambling addiction and most of them are divorce cases.

Indeed, the words of those who are close to us, such as friends, spouses, or family members, can carry considerable weight. The emotional connection and concern from loved ones often play a crucial role in motivating people to address their gambling addiction. Family and friends, being intimately involved in people's life, have a unique ability to convey genuine concern and support. In some cases, the realization of the impact of gambling on relationships, leading to family problems or divorce, becomes a pivotal moment for people to reevaluate their priorities.

The journey to recovery from gambling addiction often involves a combination of personal determination and external support. The words and actions of those who are close can serve as a catalyst for positive change. It shows the significance of maintaining open communication and fostering a supportive environment for individuals struggling with addiction. The interconnectedness of personal relationships and the recovery process emphasize the crucial role that understanding and support from loved ones can play in overcoming gambling addiction.

[o48o]

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

I listen if someone has something to say, but at this point in life i already know what i am doing and i have hard time seeing a situation, when someone says something to me about my gambling, that i haven't thought before.

But interestingly enough, gambling is one of those topics where everyone has an opinion. Even if they don't have opinion ready, they feel like they need to form an opinion and some kind of anecdote of it. Even if they don't gamble. So i always take every opinion with a grain of salt, as they are most likely just thinking out loud, trying to form any coherent opinions and tell a horror or success story if they have heard one. Most of the time none of these advices are not worth anything. Good advices i've heard from ex hardcore gamblers. One of them is: keep a budget for it, and never go over it.

[Dewi Aries]

I would appreciate my friends, relatives or relatives warning me about gambling, because I know they care about me and they don't want me to fall into gambling. For me, advice like this makes us realize that we should not be involved in gambling games. Maybe they are advising us because they see many gamblers whose lives have been ruined

Exactly, this is the main point, you can reach a conclusion from some advice that often comes to you, I understand that maybe not everyone will think like you when getting some advice or input from other people or people closest to them, because there are also those who really think that all this is a nuisance for them, but if we try to reconsider it again with common sense and rationally the fact is that their advice is the best thing to do.

Especially if it is the advice of a relative or family member because obviously they must be very concerned about your safety and have concerns that maybe if they don't advise you then you will become one of the addicted gamblers along with experiencing the bad effects of addiction. So the point is that we should really be able to consider first about any advice that comes before finally deciding, and also to minimize regret at the end when we feel that what they said before was right.

you can only get a genuine piece of advice or true concern from your loved ones and real friends. thus, if you receive such concern, better seriously consider it. because they are after for your welfare and not because they want something else from you. treasure those people who really do care for your well-being. as they want only the best for you and not because they are seeing something they can get out from you.

but for other people especially strangers, and commenting about your gambling habits, i guess, that's overboard and they are only seeing the surface. they don't know you as a person, so they only judge for what they are seeing.

If indeed some advice like that comes from other people especially people we don't know at all then yes maybe we can put a little doubt and after all we won't be able to trust too much with people who are not too close to us to follow some of the advice they give, but if indeed some of the advice comes from one of the closest people, whether it's a true friend, relative or one of the family members then obviously there is something that does lead to the good they want, and that means they care about us and obviously we should be able to put a little time to at least consider and think about the advice they give.

Actually all the advice that comes is usually more directed towards a better change, but yes like us as humans must have a percentage of trust in everyone and as you said if indeed those who give advice are strangers who we don't even know at all then it is only natural that we have doubts about the advice they give even though basically there are also some that lead to goodness.

[STT]

Ultimately no as the opinion is heavily swayed by whether you win or not.  What a person does with their own money is really upto them, I tend to think alot of things are a total waste of money and amounts to nil by day end but people do it anyway because it makes them happy so its worth it to them and generally its not for criticism.   Problem with gambling is the money aspect, its famous for people losing more then they can afford hence opening yourself up to criticism which is hard to refute as if you cant afford it then you dont do it and that to is universal and fair enough.

[kojektea]

I would appreciate my friends, relatives or relatives warning me about gambling, because I know they care about me and they don't want me to fall into gambling. For me, advice like this makes us realize that we should not be involved in gambling games. Maybe they are advising us because they see many gamblers whose lives have been ruined

Exactly, this is the main point, you can reach a conclusion from some advice that often comes to you, I understand that maybe not everyone will think like you when getting some advice or input from other people or people closest to them, because there are also those who really think that all this is a nuisance for them, but if we try to reconsider it again with common sense and rationally the fact is that their advice is the best thing to do.

Especially if it is the advice of a relative or family member because obviously they must be very concerned about your safety and have concerns that maybe if they don't advise you then you will become one of the addicted gamblers along with experiencing the bad effects of addiction. So the point is that we should really be able to consider first about any advice that comes before finally deciding, and also to minimize regret at the end when we feel that what they said before was right.

you can only get a genuine piece of advice or true concern from your loved ones and real friends. thus, if you receive such concern, better seriously consider it. because they are after for your welfare and not because they want something else from you. treasure those people who really do care for your well-being. as they want only the best for you and not because they are seeing something they can get out from you.

but for other people especially strangers, and commenting about your gambling habits, i guess, that's overboard and they are only seeing the surface. they don't know you as a person, so they only judge for what they are seeing.

If indeed some advice like that comes from other people especially people we don't know at all then yes maybe we can put a little doubt and after all we won't be able to trust too much with people who are not too close to us to follow some of the advice they give, but if indeed some of the advice comes from one of the closest people, whether it's a true friend, relative or one of the family members then obviously there is something that does lead to the good they want, and that means they care about us and obviously we should be able to put a little time to at least consider and think about the advice they give.

Actually all the advice that comes is usually more directed towards a better change, but yes like us as humans must have a percentage of trust in everyone and as you said if indeed those who give advice are strangers who we don't even know at all then it is only natural that we have doubts about the advice they give even though basically there are also some that lead to goodness.

What causes you to hesitate if a stranger advises you with better intentions? I think there's no harm in us following and respecting them too, after all this is for the good of our lives, things are different if we and a stranger are at the same table, maybe he wants us to stop playing and he has a goal, if he just looks and advises that we really appreciate it, even other people care about us

[Accardo]

Everyone is living his personal life, even though we tend to relate or have friends or even consult people about a thing or two, it doesn't change the fact that we all are living our independent lives. You should care less about what people say when you are gambling as long as you have your thinking cap intact and not having to be living wrecked as a result.

You are absolutely right, no matter who says what. My games do not affect others in any way, so I don’t worry about what they will think or say. Since this is just a pastime, I don’t see anything wrong with it, my friends and I bet on sporting events which makes watching matches much more interesting. Another thing is antisocial players who stand at slot machines and beg for change for games, or those players who are addicted can bring discomfort to others, which in turn causes dissatisfaction and condemnation of gambling in general.

The addicted players are the reason for the society's bad publicity on gambling, which happened to have affected the thoughts of many gamblers around the globe. Whenever, in the midst of nongamblers, what they say about gambling doesn't sound right. Because they've encountered some addicted players who caused their family trouble. These thoughts or complaints from such people is not meant to bother a stable gambler, they are only having fun through gambling. People must generalize in their words against gamblers, due to the fact that they'll hard invest time to research for more truth regarding responsible and compulsive gamblers. Such things on derails their conversation to a point where nothing meaningful come out from their mouth, other than hate speech. Due to critics, some gamblers prefer to hide their habit, and don't discuss it with close friends.

As they may not like the stigma that'll be placed on them by the society. Even the addicted players don't open up due to same stigma. The society need to advance more to a better thinking level where people don't just deduce to a false information. It affects most gamblers, but I wouldn't see myself being carried away by what they'll have to say about me as a gambler. It only unveils an opportunity to go into discussion with them and share more insights with them about where they're getting things wrong. I know some of the nongamblers, would learn from a gambler if the gambler is responsible and is ready tell them about gambling. And maintaining a strict rule on why the nongambler should not join gambling without doing prior research. To avoid being blamed on the long run.

[l3pox]

I would appreciate my friends, relatives or relatives warning me about gambling, because I know they care about me and they don't want me to fall into gambling. For me, advice like this makes us realize that we should not be involved in gambling games. Maybe they are advising us because they see many gamblers whose lives have been ruined

Exactly, this is the main point, you can reach a conclusion from some advice that often comes to you, I understand that maybe not everyone will think like you when getting some advice or input from other people or people closest to them, because there are also those who really think that all this is a nuisance for them, but if we try to reconsider it again with common sense and rationally the fact is that their advice is the best thing to do.

Especially if it is the advice of a relative or family member because obviously they must be very concerned about your safety and have concerns that maybe if they don't advise you then you will become one of the addicted gamblers along with experiencing the bad effects of addiction. So the point is that we should really be able to consider first about any advice that comes before finally deciding, and also to minimize regret at the end when we feel that what they said before was right.

you can only get a genuine piece of advice or true concern from your loved ones and real friends. thus, if you receive such concern, better seriously consider it. because they are after for your welfare and not because they want something else from you. treasure those people who really do care for your well-being. as they want only the best for you and not because they are seeing something they can get out from you.

but for other people especially strangers, and commenting about your gambling habits, i guess, that's overboard and they are only seeing the surface. they don't know you as a person, so they only judge for what they are seeing.

If indeed some advice like that comes from other people especially people we don't know at all then yes maybe we can put a little doubt and after all we won't be able to trust too much with people who are not too close to us to follow some of the advice they give, but if indeed some of the advice comes from one of the closest people, whether it's a true friend, relative or one of the family members then obviously there is something that does lead to the good they want, and that means they care about us and obviously we should be able to put a little time to at least consider and think about the advice they give.

Actually all the advice that comes is usually more directed towards a better change, but yes like us as humans must have a percentage of trust in everyone and as you said if indeed those who give advice are strangers who we don't even know at all then it is only natural that we have doubts about the advice they give even though basically there are also some that lead to goodness.

What causes you to hesitate if a stranger advises you with better intentions? I think there's no harm in us following and respecting them too, after all this is for the good of our lives, things are different if we and a stranger are at the same table, maybe he wants us to stop playing and he has a goal, if he just looks and advises that we really appreciate it, even other people care about us

sometimes other people can give us valuable advice but most of the times we know deep inside what we really want and should just follow our deepest desires, with some kind of sense of course
with rationality too not just heart but you get what I mean

luck may help us but we can't rely just in lucky to make our decisions otherwise we'll be doomed to fail.

[Quidat]

sometimes other people can give us valuable advice but most of the times we know deep inside what we really want and should just follow our deepest desires, with some kind of sense of course
with rationality too not just heart but you get what I mean

luck may help us but we can't rely just in lucky to make our decisions otherwise we'll be doomed to fail.

As long you do have the control then it wont really be something an issue but on the time that you are really that putting yourself on such possible trouble then it would be best
that you should really know at least on what are those probability when it comes to outcomes or correlated things to it. Speaking about other peoples sayings or comments then it would really
be that entirely none of their business on what you would gonna do with your money whether you do buy things or getting involved with some activity.
Dont mind about those things because it would really just that disrupt you out and worst it would really be making you stress on something that shouldnt really be.

[l3pox]

sometimes other people can give us valuable advice but most of the times we know deep inside what we really want and should just follow our deepest desires, with some kind of sense of course
with rationality too not just heart but you get what I mean

luck may help us but we can't rely just in lucky to make our decisions otherwise we'll be doomed to fail.

As long you do have the control then it wont really be something an issue but on the time that you are really that putting yourself on such possible trouble then it would be best
that you should really know at least on what are those probability when it comes to outcomes or correlated things to it. Speaking about other peoples sayings or comments then it would really
be that entirely none of their business on what you would gonna do with your money whether you do buy things or getting involved with some activity.
Dont mind about those things because it would really just that disrupt you out and worst it would really be making you stress on something that shouldnt really be.

the thing is that even control doesn't come in zeros and ones
sometimes we are more vulnerable than other times
if you're tired, sleep deprived or hungry, as an example, your skill on controlling yourself may suffer from your lack of basic needs

but probably there's something we can learn on carrying about other people's opinions or not.

[JMBitcointernational]

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Op sincerely i care a lot about what people will say that is why i prefer online betting to casino houses and some local betting shops. in  estate where i am staying there is this family that i am very close to and i took them as my family friend, the man hates gambling especially football gambling, he always tell his children to emulate from me that i am a good person because i don't gamble not knowing that i am gambling. so to earn that respect from him and his family i often respect myself and place my bets online because i did want the man or anyone close to him to be disappointed because he or she sees me gambling, because i might end up losing the respect from him and his family and by so doing it also helps to regulate my actions from being an addict.

furthermore, you can be handling a big position in your company where other workers see you as a role model, and probably you end up proposing gambling to them, how do you expect them to feel or react about it. Sincerely i consider what people will say before doing anything in the public because i don't know whom my life has changed already or who is looking forward to be like me and they end up disappointed because of unusual side talks , so what people will say matters to me a lot.

[livingfree]

One thing to say with those people that are trying to distract us while we do our own thing, mind their own business.

I don't care a thing they say, am I gambling with their money? am I using their time? No, they don't and that's why I don't care about them and whatever they say upon looking at my activities whether on my laptop or smartphone.

We've got our own lives to deal with and it's too short to be thinking of the welfare of other's activities.

[wxa7115]

One thing to say with those people that are trying to distract us while we do our own thing, mind their own business.

I don't care a thing they say, am I gambling with their money? am I using their time? No, they don't and that's why I don't care about them and whatever they say upon looking at my activities whether on my laptop or smartphone.

We've got our own lives to deal with and it's too short to be thinking of the welfare of other's activities.

People love to talk about stuff that does not concerns them, just take a look at how people follow the news of their favorite celebrity with more fervor than most religious people I have ever known, so it is natural that whatever we do that is outside of what people consider normal will be subject to their scrutiny.

So having understood that, we need to take a decision about what to do, and personally I agree with your posture, since I do not really have the time or the energy to care about what every other person may think about what I do, so I just ignore them.

[pinggoki]

Not really, whatever they say is a distraction to the fun that I'm getting out of gambling not to mention that when I get the win that's significant, I'm 100% sure that they're the ones that will come back to me and try to ask for some part of the wins or something like that, the big wins don't happen that often but I've done my observation that in those times that I did, they're in there with their palms open asking for alms, it's a really funny feeling that they do this though, the one's who hate on you are the ones that will try to benefit the most from your success. Don't be too hard of hearing about people who says something about your gambling habits though, some of them are right because addicts don't see themselves getting addicted unless someone states it to them to make them realize things.

[tsaroz]

Yes I do. I even hide my gambling practices from my family and my partner. I had even promised not to gamble again the last time I lost a large amount of money rage betting. I would have hid it but it was too large to go missing. I too have a social life and is considered as a person who don't like to party or gamble. All the gambling I do are online. There are some friends and colleagues who knows I'm active in gambling as we do talk about where the better odds are provided for sports betting and who might win. There's a few friends who are introduced to online games by myself. Except for them, no other would guess the amount of time and money I lose on gambling.

[Muchiratsky]

Yes I do. I even hide my gambling practices from my family and my partner. I had even promised not to gamble again the last time I lost a large amount of money rage betting. I would have hid it but it was too large to go missing. I too have a social life and is considered as a person who don't like to party or gamble. All the gambling I do are online. There are some friends and colleagues who knows I'm active in gambling as we do talk about where the better odds are provided for sports betting and who might win. There's a few friends who are introduced to online games by myself. Except for them, no other would guess the amount of time and money I lose on gambling.

A lot of people are like this. gambling portrays such a negative image that it's easy for most people to judge those who are gambling as addicted, thrown-everything-away gamblers. It's understandable though since this kind of hobby has ruined not a few lives. Rich and poor people alike. So casual gamblers like you and me would just opt to keep what we do to certain people who would understand or share the same interest. But I'm not, nor going, to a point where I'd compromise my daily livelihood or my loved ones just to gamble. To each his own, as they say. It's just that the stigma that gambling ruins lives will always be here and a lot of people will say something about it.

[ethereumhunter]

Not really, whatever they say is a distraction to the fun that I'm getting out of gambling not to mention that when I get the win that's significant, I'm 100% sure that they're the ones that will come back to me and try to ask for some part of the wins or something like that, the big wins don't happen that often but I've done my observation that in those times that I did, they're in there with their palms open asking for alms, it's a really funny feeling that they do this though, the one's who hate on you are the ones that will try to benefit the most from your success. Don't be too hard of hearing about people who says something about your gambling habits though, some of them are right because addicts don't see themselves getting addicted unless someone states it to them to make them realize things.

They don't like seeing us playing gambling and worry if we gets the problems from gambling so they will say many things to us, including saying that we can becomes addicted to gambling. If you don't listen to them because you thinks you can take care of yourself while playing gambling, you will not thinks too serious with what their saying. When you can wins from gambling and they heard about that, they will comes to you and some of them will asks for the money and hopes that you will gives some small amount to them. While the other people will say anything about your winning and some of them jealous with what you gets from gambling. If you are not addicted people to gambling, you will not hear what they say because you can prevents yourself from the problems and will not gets deeper in gambling.

[SmartGold01]

Don't be too hard of hearing about people who says something about your gambling habits though, some of them are right because addicts don't see themselves getting addicted unless someone states it to them to make them realize things.

You will know that you are gradually becoming addicted in whatever thing you do if addiction begins, now how do you know?
Whenever the urge of certain things comes into your mind and you would want to carry it out at cause, at this point you should know that addiction has started showing face in what you are doing what next, just try to control yourself and limit yourself from such things otherwise it could get worsted than expected.

[Jody.Drummer]

I think it depends on the person themselves whether they will care or not about whatever is said by others regarding themselves being involved in gambling, if for example they are one of those people who are easily provoked or easily disturbed by anything, especially criticism from some people who come maybe yes, obviously they will feel disturbed and this is sometimes we are often advised to hide our gambling activities.

But in my opinion there is actually no need to care too much about what other people say regarding whatever you do, just let them comment on anything because anyway you gamble using your own money which means you don't harm anyone, but on the other hand I think you can only ignore some criticism that is not important or means useless, so in any case it is always recommended to look at or respond to everything rationally because only in this way can you distinguish whether other people's criticism is useful for your good or is something that is not important. 

[livingfree]

One thing to say with those people that are trying to distract us while we do our own thing, mind their own business.

I don't care a thing they say, am I gambling with their money? am I using their time? No, they don't and that's why I don't care about them and whatever they say upon looking at my activities whether on my laptop or smartphone.

We've got our own lives to deal with and it's too short to be thinking of the welfare of other's activities.

People love to talk about stuff that does not concerns them, just take a look at how people follow the news of their favorite celebrity with more fervor than most religious people I have ever known, so it is natural that whatever we do that is outside of what people consider normal will be subject to their scrutiny.

So having understood that, we need to take a decision about what to do, and personally I agree with your posture, since I do not really have the time or the energy to care about what every other person may think about what I do, so I just ignore them.

It's best to ignore them.

It is not going to bother them whether we gamble or not because that's nothing to them and they owe us nothing with whatever we're spending on it.

People nowadays like to meddle and know everything other people's do but they don't focus on their own welfare. But instead, they like to ask things that are quite funny even it's no longer their boundary.