If your node connects to my node, they will be exchanging data.
If your nodes initiates the connection to my node, then this connection will be incoming for me and outgoing for you.
After the connection is established, it doesn't matter who initiated it. Data exchange between our nodes will be established and it will be working as expected.
If you want to be able to accept incoming connections, then you can do 2 things:
1. You can open a port on your router to allow incoming connections.
2. You can set up TOR and this will allow you to accept incoming connections without messing up with port forwarding.
Finally, I repeat that since you already have the connections established, you can just ignore the fact that they are outgoing, since you are already participating to the network properly and without any issues.
Okay, thanks. Now back to looking over the command line.