Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[Apocollapse]

Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!

If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?

Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.

[Zigabel]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

In as much as this is coming from a very harmless place that wants to probably have the perfect idea of two coming together to make a better idea, it aswell has got its own inadequacy aswell as that's in the fact that it could become unhealthy when the family is in dare need and both of you will think of trying gambling as an option to multiply funds only to loose it or probably both persons get addicted to gambling, it becomes really tough as there will be no one to caution the other, it's best she knows but doesn't get involved so she could help him in some cases where he needs to quit but finding it difficult doing it.

Gambling isn't something that should be allowed to be brought to just anyone and women can be extremist at times she could go all in because at the time her emotions may be high and driving her towards that direction only for it to turn out detrimental to the couple in the long run.

[Awaklara]

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Stories of lies from gamblers to their family members will probably always exist and almost happen to all gamblers. what I experienced was lies regarding the amount of money I bet. I used to risk $100 every time I gambled. but at that time there was a colleague who paid his debt to me. I forget the amount, but if I'm not mistaken it was probably more than $500. and I spent it on betting without telling anyone.

that's what happens when gamblers actually have the opportunity to bet more and leave behind the restrictions that usually bind them.

[Z390]

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have  to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017

That was a time ago, so I hope you learned the lesson (although if you got the money back from your friend, perhaps you didn't get the morale).

I think that we must be mature enough to make our own decisions, but also to accept the responsibility of any consequences arising from our decisions.

I don't know your wife, the wife of Fivestar4everMVP's story, nor the one mentioned in the OP, but I feel that in all cases they pay for their husbands' faults, and that's not ethical nor fair.

Imagine if the wives are lying to their men on this forum, I bet they won't like it either, lies in a relationship is different from lies to save someone from trouble or others, I dont want to lose to my woman, I will feel wrong about it unless I am trying to safe her life.
There are good lies and bad lies, there was a time when some hoodlums were chasing after a lady when I was still in college, she ran past me and told me not to tell anyone about her, he hid at the back of a compound closer to my family home and when the hoodlum came to ask me question I told them that the lady ran straight down the road and the continued their chase.

I went inside and told my mother, who called the police the hoodlums are nowhere to be found but the lady was taken back to the police station for questioning, my mother said they might be trying to rape her or rob her, later we got informed that she was escorted back to her home later that day by a policeman.

This was what I meant by a good lie and a bad lie, some lies will save your life, and some will likely ruin you or put you in a bad situation.

[Jawhead999]

What a funny guy, so he already know if he has a symptom of gambling addict, but he choose to lie instead of communicate to his wife? if he can't being completely transparent with his wife, it means his wife is just a stranger. I feel bad for her as this guy didn't completely trust his wife.

From this short story, we can know the reason why gambling addict always exist and can't be recovered, since they didn't even care at all.

[len01]

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Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

before I got married, I often did bad things, namely lying to my family or several relatives and what I did more often was lying to my parents when I was very young asking for money to buy school supplies but I used the money to bet on playing poker with friends and that I often do it several times.
after I graduated from school I started working to earn my own money and I still did the same thing lying to my brother that my salary had disappeared on the way home from work and at that time my brother gave me around $100 to heal my loss while I will use the money for gambling.

since I did a lot of bad things and became addicted to gambling in my youth, after that I recovered from the addiction, left gambling for several years and got married.
but after getting married I returned to gambling again but never lied to my wife and I was always open about my gambling activities and my wife understood it.
the reason I was too brave to tell my wife was because I was gambling, given my wife's permission, but it had to be cold hard cash without having to go beyond my means.

so, as long as I have been married I have never lied to my wife just to cover up my gambling activities and the past is just experience.

[o48o]

We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.

I agree, it's a white lie. In and telling that would only help the relief for the writer's conscience. To be honest this thought process the writer of that screenshot has, seems like he has passive aggressivity underneath. As he would be doing that purely for himself, and knowingly hurting his wife.

But lying in relationship is an interesting subject. I don't consider not telling everything a lie, but that obviously depends on the relationship. Also just not sharing something versus avoiding to tell something are very different cases. Reason for not sharing something can be protecting them, or just a mundane fact like going to shop, that isn't even significant and worth sharing. And then we can protect ourselves because we are ashamed and afraid of judgement.

I have different relationships with different people, and with my girlfriend, we are pretty direct. So communication is easy. There's really no need to lie as we share even things that most people don't because they would make them jealous and uncomfortable. But i would never want to knowingly hurt her, or value her against others like the guy in the screenshot was thinking. I have said that a gamble a little, but i won't share details, as they are insignificant until i win a lot.

[fullhdpixel]

Well, talking about the situation of the person who made that post on Reddit, I would say he did the right thing and shouldn't tell the wife the truth. The reason behind that is that women would always want themselves to be the top priority to their men in anything they do, and if you tell them they aren't the top priority for you in anything in general, that can be troublesome, it can even affect your relationship to an extent if the wife is too sensitive and emotional.

So for the sake of the relationship, one can lie once or twice only to keep her happy and let your marriage be. However, talking about your situation, even if I don't call that addiction, I would say it is unethical to do that because she trusts you the most and you are breaking her trust by doing that.

For me, I would never do that because if I'm hiding it and she finds out, that is even more troublesome.

[moneystery]

indeed, sometimes we need to lie to be able to cover up sensitive things like that, because not all wives understand what their husband is going through, maybe he is bored and needs entertainment and maybe gambling is one way to get pleasure. but even so, gambling must be done responsibly, so that it does not become a problem for our partner and instead it will destroy our relationship with her.

[coin-investor]

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

The problem with telling a lie is that there's a loophole and when it comes to gambling or any vice you should never lie to your wife, wives are good at looking at body language, they are up to the details on how their husband behave, and their hunch is always perfect.

The only lies I told my wife is when I lose a huge amount of money and each time she always catches me, because of my body language, so better be honest because when you're lying they always catch you, and most of the time they catch you when you are off guard.

[DubemIfedigbo001]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

I don't agree to this Honestly, I'm Not a fan of my spouse gambling with me, Truth be told we sometimes go out of our disciplines and budgets when gambling, only to recall ourselves and correct the error immediately. That kind of excesses  wouldn't be very nice if its coming from the two. It could mean bigger loses. Again gambling can be slightly distracting, and for a man, this isn't much of an issue because the wife is very attentive to the children. When both of them are gamblers, who now gives keen attention to the children?, especially if they're still small and can damage things in the house or even put themselves in harm's way.
Secondly, children are closer to their mothers during their early years with the exception of a few. The possibility of them becoming underage gamblers is very high.

Reacting to the topic, back then in school, I've consistently delayed for my roommate to  leave the house for church activities before me so that I'll go to the betting house instead because if we go together, he wouldn't let me enter the gambling house.

[qwertyup23]

Nope- I do not think I have lied with anything related to gambling as I am very open with anyone who asks me about my experiences.

When I used to gamble, I actually tell everything to my friends and family so that they would know my experience. Even if I experience something that is negative, I always tell them the truth since I believe that they deserve to know everything. Not to mention, by telling my experiences, they could also discern and decide whether they want to try gambling or not.

On the story that you provided OP, it was painful for me to read it. I think our partners deserve to know everything even if it is something that could affect the overall relationship. If you lie on the small things, that could escalate and create a snowball effect into something bigger- a lie that can transcend into different small lies that would eventually evolve into a bigger problem in the future.

[danherbias07]

indeed, sometimes we need to lie to be able to cover up sensitive things like that, because not all wives understand what their husband is going through, maybe he is bored and needs entertainment and maybe gambling is one way to get pleasure. but even so, gambling must be done responsibly, so that it does not become a problem for our partner and instead it will destroy our relationship with her.

Actually, this will be the start of the problem.
We tell them lies but they actually know the truth and it's written all over our faces that we are making a story and lying to our teeth. Do it over and over again and I bet you will see bags that are packed the next day.
If two people have been through thick and thin, I surely know that they know each other and they will have no trouble identifying if their partner is lying or not. I am not saying I am clean but I never crossed the line when it comes to lying especially when it's all about gambling. That is why I tell her everything, from how many bets I made in one sports game or how much I won, especially the last time when I got my highest multiplier ever. She was so happy, I can tell and she enjoyed every bit of the money with me and the kids.

[SmartGold01]

You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

Keep that asides, and as gambler you shouldn't hide anything from your wife, just take for example as me, initially I was scared to relate with my husband about my involvement in gambling and that leads me to go create a topic and after some reasonable answer from people over here and the other forum I decided to tell him and guess what?

It wasn't a bad respond rather he understood and bear with me although I don't do what will totally override me or put me in a tension whereby I can't be able to control myself and feeling towards gambling in a way it could results to lies or lying to my partner.

[Sim_card]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

It is not all women that will like to try gambling to see if they will enjoy the fun, and also some women can get very mad at you when you just mention the word gamble. This is because, they feel it is something bad and for irresponsible people because they have seen people that gambled irresponsible and got frustrated with addiction. I refer to keep my gambling activities secret from my wife, so that I can continue to enjoy gambling or else, I might not be able to gamble whenever I feel like gambling. I have said some lies just to cover up for gambling.

[dimonstration]

You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

I think the contrary since if my partners don’t know that I’m gambling then I don’t need to lie just to cover up what I’m doing since she doesn’t have any suspicion on my gambling habit. I believe I will be more often lying if my partner knew about my habit since woman is known for being nosy to everything that we do especially if it’s gambling.

I personally don’t lie about my gambling habits since there’s nothing to be ashamed as long as I’m using my funds properly while I can still sustain properly our daily expenses and other necessities.

Lying about gambling only means that the person is not doing well on his gambling venture.

[Su-asa]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

It is not all women that will like to try gambling to see if they will enjoy the fun, and also some women can get very mad at you when you just mention the word gamble. This is because, they feel it is something bad and for irresponsible people because they have seen people that gambled irresponsible and got frustrated with addiction. I refer to keep my gambling activities secret from my wife, so that I can continue to enjoy gambling or else, I might not be able to gamble whenever I feel like gambling. I have said some lies just to cover up for gambling.

Men can tell their fell men about their gambling life but I have a big doubt that a woman can tell her fellow women that she gamble. Men can understand things so quick but it's hard for a woman to know the truth in gamble. However they must have think that Gambling is bad because they must have seen some addicted gamblers that's irresponsible towards their own family. Every women don't want to here when someone lose their money on bet, all what they want to hear is the winning and I feel thats the reasons why it might be very difficult for women to gamble for entertainment purposes (not all women though).

[Ultegra134]

Nope- I do not think I have lied with anything related to gambling as I am very open with anyone who asks me about my experiences.

When I used to gamble, I actually tell everything to my friends and family so that they would know my experience. Even if I experience something that is negative, I always tell them the truth since I believe that they deserve to know everything. Not to mention, by telling my experiences, they could also discern and decide whether they want to try gambling or not.

On the story that you provided OP, it was painful for me to read it. I think our partners deserve to know everything even if it is something that could affect the overall relationship. If you lie on the small things, that could escalate and create a snowball effect into something bigger- a lie that can transcend into different small lies that would eventually evolve into a bigger problem in the future.

You could possibly say that such a lie could be deemed a white lie—those insignificant ones that we say to avoid hurting others or because the truth is more complicated to explain. Although I also believe that it's best to be open and straightforward, lying can put you in difficult situations if you're caught, because eventually you will be. However, this isn't the worst part; I find it extremely saddening that the favorite part of the person in the Reddit post is to hide in the toilet in order to gamble, or generally speaking, to be forced to hide what you're doing. 

[SmartGold01]

You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

I think the contrary since if my partners don’t know that I’m gambling then I don’t need to lie just to cover up what I’m doing since she doesn’t have any suspicion on my gambling habit. I believe I will be more often lying if my partner knew about my habit since woman is known for being nosy to everything that we do especially if it’s gambling.

I personally don’t lie about my gambling habits since there’s nothing to be ashamed as long as I’m using my funds properly while I can still sustain properly our daily expenses and other necessities.

Lying about gambling only means that the person is not doing well on his gambling venture.

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

[irhact]

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Well that's because you're independent of your husband's money and you have a busy schedule that makes you not to have the time to monitor how he spends his money since you're busy making yours and how he spends doesn't affect the family, in a case where he doesn't provide or complain of being broke often I bet you'll be very worried and willing to know what he puts his money into or how he spends it rather.

 Well I don't think it's only the addicted gamblers that lie about their gambling habit to their spouse, their are some individuals who are comfortable to open up to their spouse cause not everyone would be happy to hear that who they're married to or in a relationship with is a gambler, it could be okay for men cause majority of men are into gambling whether open or secret, some even gamblers with their friends when they play snooker games but for a woman I don't think not all men would tolerate their wives to gamble.