Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[Julien_Olynpic]

There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.

[Gozie51]

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

I'm familiar with this kind of stories and lies that husbands adopt to tell their wives when they have used their salary to gamble for luck to double it but they ended up losing all. So yes men do this alot, I know of a gambler in same vain went to bandage his hand that he was beaten by some street gangs when he was struggling with them from taken away his money. The unfortunate thing is that after such lies most women will end up in pity for the man and after two days the man is up and that incident becomes a forgotten story in the house.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

I have not had to lie on that because I don't gamble irresponsibly. It is when you gamble in such manner that you would need cover up for the misfortune.

[ethereumhunter]

There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.

It's better we tells the truth so there will be no misunderstand to us and them. We can talks to them about our gambling activity and no needs to lie because we wants to makes them understand about our gambling activity and we wants them to knows that we can control our gambling activity so far. We can tells them that we always limits our gambling activity and will not breaks our rules because we knows the consequences of lose our controls in gambling. If we can tells them without lied, they will try to understand what we wants and we can asks them to be besides us when we playing gambling so when something is almost change, they can reminds us and helps us to stops our gambling activity. They will see that we have a strong minds and really take care of ourselves in gambling so there are no worry from them to see we playing gambling.

[noormcs5]

I do not think that there are only one moment of life that is more enjoyable than the others. Sometimes people enjoy multiple things and you cannot compare between the two. I think the gentle in this statement is lying again that he enjoyed gambling more than being in bed with his wife. I think he enjoyed both the situations and should openly confess it.

Also the wife should not be unhappy if he is happy with activities along with being enjoying in bed. Life is much more than being all the time in the bed  
Also if the husband and wife have a good relationship they will know each other habits, likes and dislikes and then husband can watch the Tim Naki's daily blackjack stream not in the toilet but in the living room  

[madnessteat]

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I don't know why you're hiding from your wife that you like to gamble. Personally, I think that this kind of secrets negatively affect the trust of spouses. Just imagine what can happen when your wife finds out about your secrets, and you find out about her secrets. I don't think it would do any good. I told my wife about gambling before I married her, so it makes no sense for me to hide from her when I want to gamble. She understands my hobbies perfectly well and tries to stay out of it.

[arwin100]

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I don't know why you're hiding from your wife that you like to gamble. Personally, I think that this kind of secrets negatively affect the trust of spouses. Just imagine what can happen when your wife finds out about your secrets, and you find out about her secrets. I don't think it would do any good. I told my wife about gambling before I married her, so it makes no sense for me to hide from her when I want to gamble. She understands my hobbies perfectly well and tries to stay out of it.

Exactly since if he's just open to whatever activity he participate then for sure that her wife would understand about what he do. If he's unfortunate that her wife doesn't understand about what he do since what she think is his husband is just wasting their money then maybe its good to make her understand the whole situation and make her see that you are just relieving your stress from heavy days of work. For sure everything will be settle on proper discussion so we should not hide any secrets to our wife so that there's no relationship will get destroyed. Sometimes Its hard to admit that we are participating on gambling activities since there are people always have negative impression about it but for sure they will get used to it once they see that you are fine even if you gamble on some occassions.

[teamsherry]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

[boyptc]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.

[khiholangkang]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.

Try a deeper meaning, if you read the truth about why someone can claim that gambling is a hobby of his to seek pleasure, here I am not trying to find validation, but look at how a person treats a hobby whatever the field is, and if someone is impulsive then he is trapped in the hobby itself which causes addiction, then there is no such thing as a hobby anymore in him, because if you look at me personally I come when I want and gamble to feel happy, especially when I am with friends.

It is true that winning will bring great pleasure into our lives, and losing will get sadness is the doctrine that occurs, but it is not that simple if you understand what is called seeking entertainment in gambling, and the name of the entertainment place definitely requires you to spend money.

[Dailyscript]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.

Well, you are right, but the other guy is right too, so, let's just come to an agreement that the both of you are right.
It's no doubt, absolutely true that the majority of people who gamble today and claim they are doing it for fun, aren't actually gambling for fun but just using that statement to try to convince their minds not to feel depressed over their losses to gambling.
I personally have been a victim to this, I can attest to the fact that there was a time in my life when I usually tell people, and in doing so, I am also trying to convince myself, that I am only gambling for fun, when deep down in me, I know fully well that is a lie, because to be honest, I am deeply hungry for a win.
We can agree within ourselves that no one actually derive joy from losing money, and even when for example, someone actually still try to be joyful after losing money, it honestly depends on the amount of money they lost, if it's a tiny amount of money, like an amount that is very small compared to what the person is earning on weekly or monthly basis, then we can indeed agree that it's possible to lose to gambling and still be happy, but then on the other hand, it's completely a big lie to see someone who is clearly losing an amount that is considered to be big, some amount on the norm, they really can not afford to lose, and still claim to be happy because they are just gambling for fun, it's a lie many of us tell ourselves just to make ourselves feel alright, mostly after having encountered loses we never planned for, this convinces our mind, and helps us not to think too much concerning the loss.

[Yamifoud]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.

The majority are gambling for money, that is the reality. It is possible any of you guys is one of those gamblers who can't afford to lose and blame other people for your losses. I was skeptical of those who were saying just for fun as this is not the main reason, I might consider it if they are rich but if these words are coming from poor and average people, that is impossible.

As a gambler, we know what is in our mind when gambling - that is to win. It means that we are in the chase of money, not for fun or entertainment.

[dezoel]

Those are very funny stories that shows how soms gamblers are dedicated to gambling.
Personally, I never lied about my gambling habits to anyone, maybe because I wasn't in a situation where I had to. From the very first beginning I have told my girlfriend about my gambling activities, she handled that very well surprisingly and we ever gamble often together which makes it ×10 times better than gambling alone in secret.

I think what pushes some gamblers to lie about their gambling habits is the feeling of shame and being shy to tell others about it because of the fear of their reaction about it. It is totally normal to gamble, it is a fun entertaining activity, we should just be careful and know when to stop and when to gamble and how to manage our own actions.

Some can find it funny but I would be guilty if I have such a confession. Gambling is only hard to resist but I can only hope that I will have the courage to confess with my wife one day and hopefully she will still forgive me and allow me to play and the good part is that she will join me now. That's great to hear that you don't lie about your gambling habits but if only we have such control as yours, maybe we also didn't get to a point where we are now.

Gambling is not like any other normal activity because some religions or countries can restrict it. For those who don't, they should follow your advice there, to ensure that no problems are going to get experienced a long the way.

[Blitzboy]

There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.

It's better we tells the truth so there will be no misunderstand to us and them. We can talks to them about our gambling activity and no needs to lie because we wants to makes them understand about our gambling activity and we wants them to knows that we can control our gambling activity so far. We can tells them that we always limits our gambling activity and will not breaks our rules because we knows the consequences of lose our controls in gambling. If we can tells them without lied, they will try to understand what we wants and we can asks them to be besides us when we playing gambling so when something is almost change, they can reminds us and helps us to stops our gambling activity. They will see that we have a strong minds and really take care of ourselves in gambling so there are no worry from them to see we playing gambling.

We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.

[Alphakilo]

I don't think the person telling the story lied to cover up his habit of gambling, his wife may have known about him gambling but what she didn't know was that he considered gambling the favorite part of his day and not the time spent with her. Telling the wife the truth that whenever he gambled was the best time of his day is a statement capable of ending the marriage. He is a chronically addicted gambler who does not want his partner to know how addicted he is to gambling, and an adicted gambler who will not easily change.

This is why is good to be opened with your partner. When you communicate with them do not use words that are ambiguous that even when they do  not understand, they cannot ask you what it means exactly. I think that he may not have told his wife directly that the favourite part of his day was gambling and it is not good because someday when they have a very heated argument, he would go on to blurt it out.

And how do we think it will make her feel. I think that we should all avoid any conversation that can put in in this position where we neither lie and can't tell our partners the truth. Since he is good at hiding his addiction, he should go get some secret therapy such that before his wife knows what's happening, his gambling will be under control.

[betswift]

Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.

Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.

Well, you are right, but the other guy is right too, so, let's just come to an agreement that the both of you are right.
It's no doubt, absolutely true that the majority of people who gamble today and claim they are doing it for fun, aren't actually gambling for fun but just using that statement to try to convince their minds not to feel depressed over their losses to gambling.
I personally have been a victim to this, I can attest to the fact that there was a time in my life when I usually tell people, and in doing so, I am also trying to convince myself, that I am only gambling for fun, when deep down in me, I know fully well that is a lie, because to be honest, I am deeply hungry for a win.
We can agree within ourselves that no one actually derive joy from losing money, and even when for example, someone actually still try to be joyful after losing money, it honestly depends on the amount of money they lost, if it's a tiny amount of money, like an amount that is very small compared to what the person is earning on weekly or monthly basis, then we can indeed agree that it's possible to lose to gambling and still be happy, but then on the other hand, it's completely a big lie to see someone who is clearly losing an amount that is considered to be big, some amount on the norm, they really can not afford to lose, and still claim to be happy because they are just gambling for fun, it's a lie many of us tell ourselves just to make ourselves feel alright, mostly after having encountered loses we never planned for, this convinces our mind, and helps us not to think too much concerning the loss.

let me throw in a bit more to think about. People who play for fun are unlikely to put their monthly salary on the line. That's kinda like believing in free money.
People who gamble responsibly also take responsibility for the amounts they spend. You can spending money on a party, attractions, or a restaurant. And you don’t really regret dropping cash on good times, cause that’s what you went out for, right? Joy, fun, a break from the daily grind. After all, you paid for the pleasure. If the restaurant told you during dinner that you had become our 100th visitor and we are giving you your money back for dinner, this would be a nice bonus. But even without it, you would still enjoy the spending. The whole joy of gambling, its not in the winning or the losing but in the playing, provided you're playing it smart and within limits.
 
It’s all about what you’re telling yourself when you lay down that bet. Are you in it for the thrill or are you lying to yourself, trying to make the pain of a loss feel a little less painful? It’s a fine line and where you stand well it depends a whole lot on your mindset and how deep your pockets are when you decide to play.

[fikrett]

Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction) 

[boyptc]

Try a deeper meaning, if you read the truth about why someone can claim that gambling is a hobby of his to seek pleasure, here I am not trying to find validation, but look at how a person treats a hobby whatever the field is, and if someone is impulsive then he is trapped in the hobby itself which causes addiction, then there is no such thing as a hobby anymore in him, because if you look at me personally I come when I want and gamble to feel happy, especially when I am with friends.

It is true that winning will bring great pleasure into our lives, and losing will get sadness is the doctrine that occurs, but it is not that simple if you understand what is called seeking entertainment in gambling, and the name of the entertainment place definitely requires you to spend money.

There's actually no deeper meaning with that. Someone will say that they're for the hobby but gets emotional when they're losing money and seem to be not prepared for it.

You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.

The majority are gambling for money, that is the reality. It is possible any of you guys is one of those gamblers who can't afford to lose and blame other people for your losses. I was skeptical of those who were saying just for fun as this is not the main reason, I might consider it if they are rich but if these words are coming from poor and average people, that is impossible.

As a gambler, we know what is in our mind when gambling - that is to win. It means that we are in the chase of money, not for fun or entertainment.

That's true, we're all for it. Whether we admit it or not but I guess it also depends on the mood that we're having. Like if we're happy and losing today isn't a problem, we can reason out that we're only gambling for fun and not actually for the money.

We've got mood swings so reasonings are changing.

[Casdinyard]

I don't think the gambler in this post made this statement to cover up a gambling habit, it's just being very upfront about how he thinks the relationship is going or in a sense, a reflection of how the relationship with his wife is going, and in my opinion, it's a little unfair for the guy to just assume that he's already addicted to gambling, even though he's probably doing this every night. Plus let me ask you this, are you really going to be upfront about how you feel with your wife? Not even because you afraid of her or whatnot, are you really going to break your wife's heart, with literally nothing to gain for? It doesn't make sense to not lie in this situation, and no, I'm not doing this just because I like to play the devil's advocate or something.

Sometimes, there are things better kept to yourself, especially if it's not gonna bring any form of benefit to the person you'll be confessing it to. Do you think the wife's gonna do something about this, perhaps make his life even better and more fulfilling just so he'd look her way and quit the late night blackjack? I don't think so, matter of fact, this might even be grounds for divorce, something that I don't think this guy's looking forward to.

[Accardo]

Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction) 

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.