Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[fikrett]

Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction) 

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.

[Accardo]

Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.

Nothing is wrong with sharing our gambling experience with our loved ones. It helps in regulating compulsive gambling. Although the spouse must be tough enough not to get involved into gambling as well. But gambling discussion is the awareness a gambler needs to creates amongst people around him, not everyone. The important ones who could stand when things begin to go wrong in the process. So hiding the habit from such people has its disadvantages and could lead a player to suffer alone his gambling addiction. Gambling with no body to share information about how the gambling went could be boring.

I don't prefer gambling alone, even when I do, they'll be nothing to hide, especially when asked. Not just in situations like in the Op. But, a case where I'm asked if I gamble? Lying about that is wrong. It also depends on the person who asks the question, the answers can be twisted to make things clear for the person. At least, he wouldn't think of joining the game. All conversation with such people should be based on true experiences. Which could make them smile over the mistakes made by gamblers. Not promoting wins as a factor, is also a good method of handling non addicts in a conversation, so, they wouldn't think of becoming a gambler.

[Strongkored]

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

It seems like never before, because I have never told anyone about my gambling activities until now.
Every person lies there must be a reason, and the stories you find on Reddit are just lies that can be said to be funny, I mean what he said to his wife must have been said by other men too but what he was thinking was not about gambling but other things, for example, other women 

However, the lies you are doing are quite dangerous in my opinion, even though you are a responsible gambler, but as an active gambler, of course, we have been in a phase where we can't control ourselves and gamble beyond our capabilities, so this can disrupt our finances and even our relationship with our partner when she finally finds out and you have spent a lot of money, telling the truth to our partner may one day be useful because she becomes the person who can control our gambling when has exceeded the limits.

[davis196]

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Why would the robbers steal your money and beat you at the same time? Seems like a waste of energy for nothing. Just kidding.
I never had to lie to my friends and family about my gambling habits, mostly because I'm a pretty moderate gambler.
All types of addicts start lying to their friends and relatives in order to cover their addiction. The only time I lied to my parents was back in high school, when I wasn't going into class because I wanted to play poker with my friends(but we didn't use money to bet, so this can't be considered gambling). This is my only lie related to a gambling game, but I didn't bet actual money back then.

[arjunmujay]

~snip~
All types of addicts start lying to their friends and relatives in order to cover their addiction.

If this lie can keep you safe for a while, I don't think it's a problem. However, it is better when you lie to cover up your losses in gambling, you also instill in yourself not to gamble anymore.
If you lie but still have thoughts of recovering your losses, over time the lie will be revealed and you will lose everything, including money and the trust of the people around you.

[dezoel]

Those are very funny stories that shows how soms gamblers are dedicated to gambling.
Personally, I never lied about my gambling habits to anyone, maybe because I wasn't in a situation where I had to. From the very first beginning I have told my girlfriend about my gambling activities, she handled that very well surprisingly and we ever gamble often together which makes it ×10 times better than gambling alone in secret.

I think what pushes some gamblers to lie about their gambling habits is the feeling of shame and being shy to tell others about it because of the fear of their reaction about it. It is totally normal to gamble, it is a fun entertaining activity, we should just be careful and know when to stop and when to gamble and how to manage our own actions.

Everyone doesn't need to have the same reason behind lying, everyone has a story behind it. I also agree that no matter what happens, we should never lie. It should be taken because we have a saying that a lie has no legs, a lie can be caught anywhere, and it always leads to shame, not only that, but we lose our importance in the eyes of people. We can never be believed, so resorting to lies cannot be useful in any situation.

I think one of the main reasons why people hide their gambling habits is that when people lose money or are afraid of losing, they hide their success from the world. People like to boast but they want to hide their failure from everyone. The main reason is that losers often hide from others that they used to gamble or play and they are quite good at it and have never lost money. Another major reason for lying is that gambling is not allowed in some religions, so people hide it from others.

[AliMan]

I had done that before in my high school days, my mother doesn't knew about that I'm betting for local lottery outlet at my place. Surprisingly she'd found out those old tickets I had in my journal notebook, then there's a lot of questions about those that she saw.
Thinking that she'd be angry I used to lie just to cover up my gambling activities, but she never believed me in the first place and just reminded me of the bad effects of it.
However, when I graduated and took a job I realized that doing such thing is just for fun and luck was just once in a lifetime opportunity.

[Aniel Jay]

People struggling with gambling addiction may resort to telling lies to conceal their habit. These lies can take various forms, such as:

1. Financial Lies: They may fabricate stories about the source of money or expenses to hide their gambling losses, such as claiming unexpected expenses or financial emergencies.

2. Denial of Gambling: Some individuals may deny or minimize the extent of their gambling behaviour, even when confronted with evidence or concerns from loved ones.

3. False Promises: They might make false promises to stop gambling or to repay debts, intending to buy time or alleviate pressure from others.

4. Deception about Time Spent: They may downplay the amount of time spent gambling or make excuses to cover up frequent absences or unexplained disappearances.

5. Rationalization: They may justify their gambling behaviour with rationalizations or excuses, such as claiming they can control their gambling or that they are pursuing legitimate strategies to win.

These lies often serve to protect the individual's ego, maintain their image, or avoid facing the reality of their addiction. However, they can strain relationships, erode trust, and perpetuate the cycle of addiction. It's crucial for individuals struggling with gambling addiction to seek help and support to address their behaviour and work towards recovery.

[fikrett]

Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.

Nothing is wrong with sharing our gambling experience with our loved ones. It helps in regulating compulsive gambling. Although the spouse must be tough enough not to get involved into gambling as well. But gambling discussion is the awareness a gambler needs to creates amongst people around him, not everyone. The important ones who could stand when things begin to go wrong in the process. So hiding the habit from such people has its disadvantages and could lead a player to suffer alone his gambling addiction. Gambling with no body to share information about how the gambling went could be boring.

I don't prefer gambling alone, even when I do, they'll be nothing to hide, especially when asked. Not just in situations like in the Op. But, a case where I'm asked if I gamble? Lying about that is wrong. It also depends on the person who asks the question, the answers can be twisted to make things clear for the person. At least, he wouldn't think of joining the game. All conversation with such people should be based on true experiences. Which could make them smile over the mistakes made by gamblers. Not promoting wins as a factor, is also a good method of handling non addicts in a conversation, so, they wouldn't think of becoming a gambler.

That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.

[Churchillvv]

I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.

I have seen other niggas lie to parents, siblings, wives etc to cover their gambling habits which is very poor.

[ethereumhunter]

We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.

Yes, we can honest to people around us so they don't thinks much or negatively about what we doing. Being honest will not makes us in trouble because other people can also helps us when we have a problem so we can fix that immediately. We will not have any difficult when we can honest about what we doing so there will be no understanding between us. Sharing with others will builds trust and I agree with that so when there are a problem, we can helps each other to fix the problem immediately. Well, maybe some people doesn't like with what we do but at least, we already trying honest to them so they knows that we playing gambling with our limitations. They can suggest us something that we needs to prevents the lose and they will helps us when we tells about our problems.

[Accardo]

That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.

Yes the balancing is important, good you indicated that. Non gamblers should also know about the good aspects of gambling, how it could be beneficial to health, critical thinking, money and time management. Such conversation can be intriguing to a non gamblers and could result to a slight debate, between the gambler and the non gambler, on the doubts the non gambler will have upon hearing about the advantages of gambling. A lot of them know of the disadvantages of gambling, how it ruins people's finance and life. Developing their horizons of the health aspects of gambling, not to convince them into gambling, will increase the non gambler's interest on gambling discussions.

And as well could change their initial wrong thoughts on gambling to something better. Hence, gambling conversation shouldn't include a lie of any type. Sharing the reality of gambling with a spouse strengthens the bond between both friends and boost their understanding towards the need of helping a gambling addict. Non gamblers, a lot, have the initiative of blaming addicts that's why they hesitate on helping them when they mostly need it. Being aware of such needs and how it's an emotional problem, a non gambler would add extra efforts in changing or assisting a player in trouble to a better emotional condition. They'll also detect addiction easily, a form of addiction proof for any gambler.

[fikrett]

That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.

Yes the balancing is important, good you indicated that. Non gamblers should also know about the good aspects of gambling, how it could be beneficial to health, critical thinking, money and time management. Such conversation can be intriguing to a non gamblers and could result to a slight debate, between the gambler and the non gambler, on the doubts the non gambler will have upon hearing about the advantages of gambling. A lot of them know of the disadvantages of gambling, how it ruins people's finance and life. Developing their horizons of the health aspects of gambling, not to convince them into gambling, will increase the non gambler's interest on gambling discussions.

And as well could change their initial wrong thoughts on gambling to something better. Hence, gambling conversation shouldn't include a lie of any type. Sharing the reality of gambling with a spouse strengthens the bond between both friends and boost their understanding towards the need of helping a gambling addict. Non gamblers, a lot, have the initiative of blaming addicts that's why they hesitate on helping them when they mostly need it. Being aware of such needs and how it's an emotional problem, a non gambler would add extra efforts in changing or assisting a player in trouble to a better emotional condition. They'll also detect addiction easily, a form of addiction proof for any gambler.

Yes, highlighting the positive effects of gambling can indeed open up enlightening discussions. Its crucial for both gamblers and non gamblers to engage in these conversations openly without any misconceptions clouding their understanding.

Moreover when nongamblers understand the potential benefits and the skills that can be developed through gambling, it can reshape their views and foster a more supportive environment.
This doesn’t mean encouraging them to gamble but rather helping them see beyond the common negative stereotypes.

Besides, I think that sharing true comprehensive experiences with gambling not only strengthens relationships but also builds a foundation of trust and understanding. This way if a problem arises a nongambler is more likely to approach the situation with empathy and active support.

[fullhdpixel]

There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.

That's only what some people can do because they might not have any fear or obligation from their families or even from society. After all, gambling might not be considered something bad among their people. Mostly, those who hide their gambling activities do it only because they have some fear in their mind or heart, either their family, society, or religion don't support gambling or they don't want anyone to be asking questions about gambling because they don't like it.

A lot of people keep these things private because they feel like it isn't something they should be discussing with anyone, others do it because they don't want people who are against gambling to know that they gamble because then they might be considered a gambling addict or something.

[madnessteat]

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I'm not quite sure why an adult and self-sufficient person would hide his gambling hobbies. Don't you think it's silly enough to change your life because of other people's views on your hobbies? Personally, I think that you should live your life the way you want it, not adjust to someone. Unless it violates someone's freedoms and rights. I don't think that gambling does any of the above, so I don't think it's necessary to hide my hobby from my relatives. Whatever they think of me.

[South Park]

I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.

Whenever I see someone forgoing their responsibilities in order to do something else and I know this is a common occurrence, at least to me this is a clear signal that there is something wrong with that person, and the situation you bring forward is a perfect example of this, since most of your friends could give up on gambling as soon as they remembered they had something more important to do at the time, but one of them was unable to do this, showing through his actions that at least to him gambling is more important than his work, the pay he receives and everything he can buy with it.

[Fatunad]

I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.

Whenever I see someone forgoing their responsibilities in order to do something else and I know this is a common occurrence, at least to me this is a clear signal that there is something wrong with that person, and the situation you bring forward is a perfect example of this, since most of your friends could give up on gambling as soon as they remembered they had something more important to do at the time, but one of them was unable to do this, showing through his actions that at least to him gambling is more important than his work, the pay he receives and everything he can buy with it.

Anything which is too much
Anything that disrupts you on doing your main priorities
Anything that would be compromising your finances
Anything that do involves lying and hiding something

Then this is an indicative sign that you are already that out of control on whatever the things that you've been dealing with. Just like into the situation on what we do have on here is that
trying out to cover up your gambling habit and making out some lies or any other false reason then you might be seeing it to be that not much of an issue but on the time that you
do find yourself that hiding up and get scared then there's something wrong with you. Totally that stressful and something that risky with your relationship specially into your wife on which
on the time that you do get caught then you do know on whats next. 

[alastantiger]

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Yes I have. I have told a gambling lie before and I consider it to be a harmless white lie. I had to do it to protect the recipient of the lie and myself. I don't want my spouse to gamble. It is not a good thing. I want to gamble while she's aware and acts as my second mind in case I start being delusional with gambling habits. If she gambles and I gamble,  it won't be good for the family. She handles the cash, she hands over to me the money planned for gambling when it is exhausted, no cash is coming from her towards that area.. that's a good agreement to have. It eliminates lie, deception, and distrusts.

[betswift]

We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.

You are so right, man! Honesty truly is a powerful tool, especially in areas as engaging as gaming. By being transparent about our habits, we take control and also empower ourselves to manage potential risks. And this is not weakness, rather it showcases strength and responsibility. Facing the truth head on is undoubtedly the wisest strategy.

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I'm not quite sure why an adult and self-sufficient person would hide his gambling hobbies. Don't you think it's silly enough to change your life because of other people's views on your hobbies? Personally, I think that you should live your life the way you want it, not adjust to someone. Unless it violates someone's freedoms and rights. I don't think that gambling does any of the above, so I don't think it's necessary to hide my hobby from my relatives. Whatever they think of me.

It really does seem unnecessary for a self reliant adult to conceal their gambling hobbies. After all, why should one's personal enjoyment be influenced by the opinions of others? 
I share your view there's no real need to hide such activities from family or anyone else for that matter. Embracing who we are including our hobbies, is about living genuinely. So it's refreshing to hear you advocate for personal freedom and responsibility so openly.

[betswift]

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Yes I have. I have told a gambling lie before and I consider it to be a harmless white lie. I had to do it to protect the recipient of the lie and myself. I don't want my spouse to gamble. It is not a good thing. I want to gamble while she's aware and acts as my second mind in case I start being delusional with gambling habits. If she gambles and I gamble,  it won't be good for the family. She handles the cash, she hands over to me the money planned for gambling when it is exhausted, no cash is coming from her towards that area.. that's a good agreement to have. It eliminates lie, deception, and distrusts.

It sounds like a good deal and an effective way to manage your gambling responsibly while keeping family relations healthy. I think any method that works well for both parties is commendable. But your concept of white lies although seemingly harmless can actually be a bit selfish. Every lie no matter how small, can rob someone of their agency depriving them of the chance to react to the true nature of the situation. I believe we really need to strive for more honesty. In doing so, we allow real trust to develop, ensuring that decisions are made with all the cards on the table.