Na true talk you so and na why we dey for there lives to nurture them and direct them in a way they go grow dey useful for themselves and to the society too because na as we train them, na dey go take grow and make we also try to reach our children them body like say we be their friends, no be only to be their parents na e matter, also being there friends matter too, you communicate with as friends will expose them more to us, also make we learn to listen to them too, make we no they too quick to judge them, like this go make them make some good choice for life, so even if we no dey with them, they go dey remember us for good.
In the community where I live, What you are saying is well practiced. You find many scenarios where parents are not closed to their children because of how the children are treated over time. This have gone to create a serious gap between the parent and their wards thereby leading to the children relating more to their friends or circle outside than those at home.
This is a serious plague in our society today as it has assisted in causing many societal vices we face today. From students bullying themselves in schools, to homosexuality amongst children and adults and more grave issues like Banditary and Kidnapping ravaging our communities today.
I totally agree with you and our parents still not agree that they are also one of the reasons why most children are corrupt today because if they counsel or teach them good morals, they won't have the time or pleasure to be with an outsider.
But our parents thinks that the only responsibility they have is just to provide their basic needs like foods, clothing, shelter etc, they don't also know that creating relationship with their is also essential, as it will enable them to know more about their kids and also to make it easier for them to brought up their children in a godly way.