Can you disguise on your real gambling lifestyle just to help a friend/relative?

[klidex]

Sometimes if someone is experiencing bad luck in their gambling, they don't want to see other people also feel what they feel, therefore you advise your friends to control themselves and not get emotional easily if they lose money in their gambling. This is something that usually happens to among gamblers we also can't win sure and gambling is full of risks, the most important thing is that you can still realize that you sometimes go beyond your limits but it still doesn't affect your life or your daily finances and you can still advise other people even though you yourself also experience what is happening experience your friends.

Gamblers can always advise other people while they have difficulty advising and managing themselves, your mind and heart seem to disagree, maybe your left brain thinks you want to be careful about gambling and limit your gambling, but your right brain seems to think that we can find a little more luck by continuing try it so this is what makes a person uncontrollable and leads to addiction, we must be able to advise ourselves first before advising others so that other people also believe that we are truly safe from gambling and they can follow our example.

[BABY SHOES]

I think in gambling there is always a negative side and sometimes it becomes a habit even though I always don't want to show the negative side habits but let me alone know it others don't need to know except fellow gamblers but it won't be loose in telling it.

I hide gambling because there is a strong reason that close relatives should not know about me, I am afraid that they will become addicted as a result of seeing me play gambling so it is better to hide and they do not need to know about gambling.

Gambling is almost known among many people even if he does not play but knows how to play it can be considered bad behavior so I never show it.

[rodskee]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

I have none because I am always a better example to my family and friends when in terms of
gambling because I know how to manage and control each time I gamble things that they love how
i am doing such when they cannot even stand in table when they are dealing in gambling any
game that they are into.

[michellee]

Everyone has a negative side to their gambling habits but they don't show it to others. It's a normal thing to do because we don't want other people to know the negative side. It's better for us to keep the negative side to ourselves and always try to reduce that negative side.

I don't need to hide my gambling life just to help a friend. Playing gambling requires individual responsibility so we must be able to do it correctly. If our friends cannot be responsible with their gambling, we can give them advice.

They don't need to make us a good example because it depends on them. They can start reducing their gambling activities if they feel they are starting to overdo it. We must be able to limit our gambling and that is what we must tell our friends and relatives.

[Crypt0Gore]

I beg a pardon if a thread like this has existed here.

I have been around my gambling friends and I have always acted to be 100% sticking to my gambling budgets such as how many times, a specific time and how much to spend on my gambling.
Once awhile I actually breaks that budget but though it does not affect my daily life and my bankrolls.
I literally claim this righteousness on my friends who are running out of their emotional control from gambling and psychologically I expects them to have me as an example whom they should emulate from in other to be recalled and take back control of their emotions while gambling.

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

Have I ever found myself in this position before? Maybe only if I am trying to advice someone about gambling, especially the younglings, my advice to them is to avoid gambling, they are still young, and young people tend to be very hooked to something they want to do or plan to do.

Apart from this I have nothing to hide, although I don't have friends who are into gambling, they could be gambling behind my back but none of us have opened up about engaging in gambling activities.

I gamble in my dark room for a reason, I don't want anyone to know about it, this is my little dark secret, I only know how to control myself when it comes to gambling doubt that others can do the same thing, I will always encourage against gambling, unless the person is much older.

[joeperry]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

It's not bad to lie if it's for the good of others and that kind of lying doesn't have a huge effect on you in general. Consider it more like a promoting a good habit or good example for them, I do have some gambling habits and of course I do share them to my friends and I just gave them an insight why it's not a good idea. For example spending my whole week budget in one day of gambling instead of setting a lose threshold per day this is just some simple bad habits that I do before and shared to my friends to avoid it.

[dezoel]

Well, I don't have a negative side of gambling in me, however, I do tell people who gamble to practice responsible gambling because that is the only way to avoid excessive losses. I often see people spending a lot of money on gambling, and what's worse is that they sometimes manage to win some money initially, but because they don't have patience and can't control the urge, they gamble again only to increase their winnings and eventually lose what they have won along with their bankroll.

So, what I tell them all the time is that they should stop when the time is right which means that if they have already won something on top of their deposited amount, they should stop and withdraw the money, and even if they see they are losing constantly, they should stop as well.

[danherbias07]

There's no need to hide it if both of you are on the same level. But I would go to the extent of talking to the person who has the same problem as me and use our experiences to change our bad habits.

I will be using my smoking habit as an example. I used to smoke half a pack of cigarettes per day but now I am clean for 5 years or maybe more. I forgot when I stopped. Now, I still have friends who smoke while some switched to vaping. What I use are the good effects of being clean with it. Better taste, I can taste the food much better now. Better breathing, because the lungs are clean I could breathe well. Better smell of anything unlike when I was smoking where everything smells like nothing.

I think we should be using our experiences in gambling, the bad ones especially to share it and maybe someone will learn from those mistakes and change their habit when it comes to gambling. I like people who are brave enough to do that because it ain't easy to tell but it might help another so they they will still pull the courage to do so.

[EluguHcman]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?

When I was so addicted, I still tell my friends to be very careful and not waste money. But they know that I was losing money to gambling, especially the friends that are very close to me.

Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

I did not hide it but it would be good if you hide it and tell your friend to gamble responsibly. You also need to stop even as it is not affecting you financially. Set a gambling budget and make sure you do not spend more than it.

Just as said that two wrongs can not make a right, that is how it is when you advices a friend or relative to stop gambling excessively because it would affect their financial lives even to their personal lives and loved ones when obviously you too are on the same track with them.
It feels that you do not want them to succeeded because you would be expected to had also quit from it if you knew about it would be backfired.

So to navigate on this so that your friends can put your words in considerations to quit from their addictions, you have to live them with examples by keeping yours negative side hidden.

And you too personally with your endivoirs to understand your are also not on the good track should effortlessly consist on making changes because it is foolish on oneself to disregard yourself and embraces to encourage others from their bad deeds.

[blckhawk]

Dude, every person lies at some point in their life, I'm sure that you did too so I don't get the moral crisis that you're getting at though? If the only sin is lying and being a traitor or hypocrite to the principle that you pretend to stick too and there's really no person out there that would be pained or hurt emotionally or physically of your white lies then why be afraid of that, you're helping them understand that you can be an example for them to follow and it's not like you've got a bad intention from lying to them, think of it this way, if the lie continues to be more benefit to them then go for it but the moment that it starts to hurt someone, you're probably going to need to start doing something about it.

If you're in a plane hijacked by a terrorist group and the only way to get out of that situation is to lie, would you do it? Pretty sure that you would do it, my point is that you can lie to save yourself and there's times and places that are good for it, not tolerating the lying part though, again, I don't tolerate lies with malicious intent, that's different.

[wxa7115]

I beg a pardon if a thread like this has existed here.

I have been around my gambling friends and I have always acted to be 100% sticking to my gambling budgets such as how many times, a specific time and how much to spend on my gambling.
Once awhile I actually breaks that budget but though it does not affect my daily life and my bankrolls.
I literally claim this righteousness on my friends who are running out of their emotional control from gambling and psychologically I expects them to have me as an example whom they should emulate from in other to be recalled and take back control of their emotions while gambling.

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

I find this to be common not only when gambling but almost in any other aspect of our lives, after all I have known nutritionists that keep advising people to eat healthy food and watch their weight, and yet they had some of the most unhealthy habits when it came to their own diet.

So as long as what you are experimenting is not that bad, I do not see a problem with it, as we are bound to make mistakes once in a while, and losing a little bit of extra money while gambling is not really that big of a deal.

[Kakmakr]

The question is this... If you have to hide your gambling habits from the friend you are trying to help, are you actually helping that person?

What does it say about you, when you have to lie to a friend? You should just open up to that person and be honest about your problem and then seek some proffesional help for both of you. This way, you can support eachother and find ways to control the urge to gamble.

The gambling problem start out with small increases in your gambling budget and it gathers momentum like a snow ball running down a hill.. so you should give attention to it, whilst it is still under your control.   

[Findingnemo]

I don't give advice to anyone not just gambling but anything cause no one really gives attention to what we say until they learn the lesson by themselves, so stop wasting time by doing things which is not going to make any change. I do have a bad side so does everyone, once in a while it may go out of control but as long as it doesn't affect me or anyone that I care then it is completely fine.

[Samlucky O]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?

Addiction is enough to be considered as negative side of gambling which is Common to every gambler. Though some people don't see  addiction as problem but surely it is. The only only advice I can give to a friend is not to gamble what he can't afford to lose or stop chasing after loses because all this put together is the actual cause of addiction.

Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

There is no point hiding your disreputable gambling life. It is good to explain your predicament for people to learn from your previous mistakes and make a correction. Even though I know most people may still not change after you may have explained to them. Because such habit is a self determination to conquer. But you should play your part atleast to save yourself from guit.

[Gozie51]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?

Just like sometimes you don't feel proud to say you had a huge loss, you can reduce the loss when you are asked. Or sometimes you also want to increase your profit when actually it was not up to that.

Advise is people should not always follow what they read or see because that may not represent the reality. Do what you feel will be right for your self.

Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

I'm not even surprised at your story and fear with your friends, you are not the only one in that shoe much as many other people are doing that. It is not easy to keep the emotions away from gambling which is why you see the loses. Many would advise the proper thing to do but they can't keep up to it. It is difficult to control your emotion when you are losing

[Mrbluntzy]

I beg a pardon if a thread like this has existed here.

I have been around my gambling friends and I have always acted to be 100% sticking to my gambling budgets such as how many times, a specific time and how much to spend on my gambling.
Once awhile I actually breaks that budget but though it does not affect my daily life and my bankrolls.
I literally claim this righteousness on my friends who are running out of their emotional control from gambling and psychologically I expects them to have me as an example whom they should emulate from in other to be recalled and take back control of their emotions while gambling.

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

If i am actually required to put on such a pretence attitude in such a way that I can help a friend get free of their hurtful behavior in gambling, I can do it. I am good in acting and I will practically act righteous in his presence so he can learn from my example but when he is not around, I will go back to my normal gambling style.

I don't have any negative gambling habit, people that have such habits lacks self control.

[Assface16678]

I beg a pardon if a thread like this has existed here.

I have been around my gambling friends and I have always acted to be 100% sticking to my gambling budgets such as how many times, a specific time and how much to spend on my gambling.
Once awhile I actually breaks that budget but though it does not affect my daily life and my bankrolls.
I literally claim this righteousness on my friends who are running out of their emotional control from gambling and psychologically I expects them to have me as an example whom they should emulate from in other to be recalled and take back control of their emotions while gambling.

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

If i am actually required to put on such a pretence attitude in such a way that I can help a friend get free of their hurtful behavior in gambling, I can do it. I am good in acting and I will practically act righteous in his presence so he can learn from my example but when he is not around, I will go back to my normal gambling style.

I don't have any negative gambling habit, people that have such habits lacks self control.

But the thing is, you are not showing your true self. I mean, yes, OP maybe is not affected by his gambling, even though sometimes he is going overboard with his budget or limit in terms of funds in gambling. But the thing is, you are still negating your limit, which is not a good indication because at some point you will feel the effect of excessive gambling, and sometimes you are overextending your budget, which means it can accumulate and you will feel its effect eventually. I get the intention of OP to make his friend follow his disguised attitude towards gambling, but the question for yourself is, do you think you are worthy of that? advising them and educating them not to do excessive gambling while you are breaking your limit? I get that not all are perfect, but the fact that you know yourself and that you sometimes break your limit means you are also subject to becoming what you are teaching them not to do.

[Awaklara]

Does any of you guys have any negative side of gambling habit in you which literally you advices anyone not to exhibit it?
Or can you afford to hide your real disreputable gambling life just to help an astray gambling friend or relative?

At least what you say to your friend can change the way your friend plays gambling a little. Whether it happens to you or not, sometimes we can give advice but we can't consistently implement it for ourselves.
That's natural, but as much as possible when you say or suggest something to your friend, it should also or better apply to advising yourself as well.
If you have good intentions, the results you get will definitely be good.

[iv4n]

I don't give advice to anyone not just gambling but anything cause no one really gives attention to what we say until they learn the lesson by themselves, so stop wasting time by doing things which is not going to make any change. I do have a bad side so does everyone, once in a while it may go out of control but as long as it doesn't affect me or anyone that I care then it is completely fine.

I agree with you, people generally don't like to listen to other people's advice, everyone has their own way of thinking. It can be said that we are all like that and only when something bad happens to us do we learn from it. For sure we all have "bad sides" and "bad things" that happen to us from time to time, and we alone learn how to deal with them... with more experience, we know how to avoid them or in some cases how to hide them from others. Self-control is something we get along the way.

I am generally not good at disguising, I will say what's on my mind, if not I will turn around and walk away. It's not smart to talk with everyone, no matter how we say it, some people will misunderstand us. So sometimes it's better to keep quiet and mind our own business.

[bitterguy28]

I have this attitude back in the time that i chase my losses , i remember that my one whole week paycheck had to spend all the way because i choose to chase my losses instead of giving up?

for me this is the attitude that don't wanna be to others because now i know that we need to let it go when luck isn't our friend that time because there is always next time to deal with our losses.

recovering our spending can take several time before finally won .