Should there be a limit to investing in your children?

[Hanadawa]

-snip- Apart from that, the time we use now is a very valuable asset for ourselves and also for our children in the future, so we should not spend it in places that are less useful for our lives and our children, both now and in the future.

I don't agree that we should spend our money and our whole life for our children in the hope that they can be our investment in the future. Because I think children will have their own lives and we will not always be with our children. But I agree that time is a valuable asset for us to give to our children. Children will see their life from how they get it from their parents. IMO parents should be able to be role models for their children. Parents should teach morals and life values ​​and as much as possible parents should have time with their children to play and learn.

As I said above, sometimes many parents forget that the most important thing for children is not how much money is spent, but how much time we spend with our children in their childhood. Believe me it is better if children imitate our attitudes than they imitate the attitudes of their friends or bad people out there.

[bestcoins1]

I don't agree that we should spend our money and our whole life for our children in the hope that they can be our investment in the future. Because I think children will have their own lives and we will not always be with our children. But I agree that time is a valuable asset for us to give to our children. Children will see their life from how they get it from their parents. IMO parents should be able to be role models for their children. Parents should teach morals and life values ​​and as much as possible parents should have time with their children to play and learn.

Playing and learning with our own children also has a time limit and we must also be able to set it ourselves so that our children see how we manage time in life and how we apply discipline in learning new things that are more important. In addition, what we show our children is also a lesson in life because they can digest through their own minds that in life we ​​must be independent and not too dependent on others including their own parents in anything. Because children who are educated in a way that is not spoiled will find it easier to mix with their environment and will also find it easier to develop their own thinking as a result of not expecting everything from their parents or those closest to them.

[barisbilgili]

Playing and learning with our own children also has a time limit and we must also be able to set it ourselves so that our children see how we manage time in life and how we apply discipline in learning new things that are more important. In addition, what we show our children is also a lesson in life because they can digest through their own minds that in life we ​​must be independent and not too dependent on others including their own parents in anything. Because children who are educated in a way that is not spoiled will find it easier to mix with their environment and will also find it easier to develop their own thinking as a result of not expecting everything from their parents or those closest to them.

Children tend to learn from the environment, especially the examples or behavior of parents that are seen by the child, therefore we must be able to provide good examples to children at home.
And when they grow up later, there will be a character that is formed when taught by parents from an early age.
Likewise for big decisions taken in their lives, it will be very influential.
However, I think if we educate children properly, there will be a positive impact that we get in the future so there is nothing wrong if we always try our best for our children.

[pusaka]

I don't agree that we should spend our money and our whole life for our children in the hope that they can be our investment in the future. Because I think children will have their own lives and we will not always be with our children. But I agree that time is a valuable asset for us to give to our children. Children will see their life from how they get it from their parents. IMO parents should be able to be role models for their children. Parents should teach morals and life values ​​and as much as possible parents should have time with their children to play and learn.

Playing and learning with our own children also has a time limit and we must also be able to set it ourselves so that our children see how we manage time in life and how we apply discipline in learning new things that are more important. In addition, what we show our children is also a lesson in life because they can digest through their own minds that in life we ​​must be independent and not too dependent on others including their own parents in anything. Because children who are educated in a way that is not spoiled will find it easier to mix with their environment and will also find it easier to develop their own thinking as a result of not expecting everything from their parents or those closest to them.

Yes, there is a time limit when we should give children the opportunity to play and when to start being serious about them. Sometimes when educating children too hard or strict it will also have undesirable effects, likewise if we give them too much freedom it will also have a bad effect on them. We must really know when we give them freedom and when we should be strict with them. Regarding investment in children, I think education is the best investment. Education is also not only focused on one thing, but it is comprehensive such as moral education and so on. Here our role is very much needed, because I see those who ultimately fail in their education because they are required to help the family economy, even though it should be the responsibility of the parents. We don't have to spend money on children's education, but we must try as much as possible not to interfere with their education, namely by making our financial condition stable.

[dansus021]

There is a current trend in my country where parents are doing everything financially possible to give their children the best education. Some parents have gone to the extent of selling properties or taking loans to send their children to some of the best schools in and outside the country. I have spoken with some of them, and the reason they give is that this child will get good jobs and take care of them in the future.

That is not a tren in my opinion I mean I believe that 99% of parent want the best for their kids by give them best education, best food to eat and anything that possibly make them fun healthy and smart. I know that some parent are doing this seriously and they sell piece of land just want their kids get best school in country or taking loan, because my parent do the same to me back in a high school they taking loan from other as long as I am happy.

Should there be a limit to investing in your children? the answer is no, in my opinion you want a kid and you made it and then it is your responsible to the kid future not all but at least you pave the way. Should you taking loan ? the answer is as long for good purposes and you can handle the loan I think is probably fine

[DaNNy001]

Do you think parents should have a limit on the amount they can invest in their children?

There shouldn’t be a limit on the amount you will give for children education/future because it’s parents responsibility after fucking each other and decided to have a baby.

It’s to considered children as investment since they have their own life too and family to build so relying to them when the parent is old will just result to never ending transfer of poverty since parents never let their child work for their own future.

I personally took a loan to fund my college tuition and pay it for myself when I’m already working since my parents have different priorities in life and now they are doing this same relying while I already have family as if they do everything for me during my student days(which is not) but still I help them as a respect for being my parents.

So I personally hate this kind of parents investing to children then children pay it back since children is not the one who decided to give birth to them but the parents.

When it comes to the aspect of education there shouldn't be a limit to investing in that, a well respected man I know that's very rich doesn't play with his childrens education, he pays a about 1 million naira each for their fees and the kids are very intelligent but when it comes to giving out money to everytime like some wealthy parents do it's not an option for him, a lot of wealthy make this mistake... sometimes it's important for kids to learn valuable life lessons even if there were born with a silver spoon, they most be taught financial management and discipline

[mirakal]

Do you think parents should have a limit on the amount they can invest in their children?

There shouldn’t be a limit on the amount you will give for children education/future because it’s parents responsibility after fucking each other and decided to have a baby.

It’s to considered children as investment since they have their own life too and family to build so relying to them when the parent is old will just result to never ending transfer of poverty since parents never let their child work for their own future.

I personally took a loan to fund my college tuition and pay it for myself when I’m already working since my parents have different priorities in life and now they are doing this same relying while I already have family as if they do everything for me during my student days(which is not) but still I help them as a respect for being my parents.

So I personally hate this kind of parents investing to children then children pay it back since children is not the one who decided to give birth to them but the parents.

When it comes to the aspect of education there shouldn't be a limit to investing in that, a well respected man I know that's very rich doesn't play with his childrens education, he pays a about 1 million naira each for their fees and the kids are very intelligent but when it comes to giving out money to everytime like some wealthy parents do it's not an option for him, a lot of wealthy make this mistake... sometimes it's important for kids to learn valuable life lessons even if there were born with a silver spoon, they most be taught financial management and discipline

In the past years, people didn't weigh much on education, but now we could say that this is very important and a key to more success in life. Which is why we all wanted to send our kids to school to have knowledge because we believed that this would give them a fortune. Perhaps this is the best investment of our lives. Yes, we don't bother to take loans for that purpose because we are preparing them for a better future and making them also realize the importance of education in our lives.

This is how we develop the minds of our kids, and we want them to have knowledge that we didn't have in the past. 

[Cookdata]

When it comes to the aspect of education there shouldn't be a limit to investing in that, a well respected man I know that's very rich doesn't play with his childrens education, he pays a about 1 million naira each for their fees and the kids are very intelligent but when it comes to giving out money to everytime like some wealthy parents do it's not an option for him, a lot of wealthy make this mistake... sometimes it's important for kids to learn valuable life lessons even if there were born with a silver spoon, they most be taught financial management and discipline

A very rich man that has ₦1M to pay for his children school fees has the capacity to sure secure job for them. The place we come from don't value education, you don't get job after schooling and getting good grades, you either end up as Point of sale terminal money dispenser or you set a business that wouldn't last a year as the government policies aren't favorable to do business, a bsc graduate will be spending 24/7 time on ticktock begging for gifts because of unemployment, I'm ashame.

If I have the means to sponsor my kids out to the western regions, I will definitely find the means to make sure they stay there after their school because that's where I know there education is going to be worth the time spent and will eventually get paid. Not all the ones here where you get paid monthly check that can't even for your annual rent.

[Fiatless]

In the past years, people didn't weigh much on education, but now we could say that this is very important and a key to more success in life. Which is why we all wanted to send our kids to school to have knowledge because we believed that this would give them a fortune. Perhaps this is the best investment of our lives. Yes, we don't bother to take loans for that purpose because we are preparing them for a better future and making them also realize the importance of education in our lives.

This is how we develop the minds of our kids, and we want them to have knowledge that we didn't have in the past. 

Every parent wants the best for their children so they don't mind investing all they can to make them get quality education. But we have to change the mentality that going to an expensive school will automatically give our children a bright future. Good schools can contribute to the development of children, but it is not certain that they will be successful because they attended a prestigious school.

For me, I will give my children the best I can, but I would have to reconsider taking a loan to fund their education. It will be better to enroll them in schools that I can afford instead of taking loans that will make me struggle financially in the future. It is cardinal to always consider our lives after retirement. Paying a loan after retirement is very difficult since you are not working full-time.

[bakasabo]

I think nobody in this topic offered to ask a kid first. Giving kids everything you have is good, sending them in most expensive school or university is excellent. But in this case we are egoists. We often do all that to make that "inner me" happy. I would suggest to ask the kid first where he wants to learn, what kind of future he sees for him self, and start acting from his answers. Taking a loan to send children in expensive school if they really want to learn there is one thing, and sending to expensive place to learn because that is cool, modern, it is a reputation moment (what will others think about me if my kid is not in most expensive school?), that is other thing.

[MissNonFall9]

There is a current trend in my country where parents are doing everything financially possible to give their children the best education. Some parents have gone to the extent of selling properties or taking loans to send their children to some of the best schools in and outside the country. I have spoken with some of them, and the reason they give is that this child will get good jobs and take care of them in the future.

I had to bring up this issue because most of them are becoming disappointed and depressed. In my location, children are seen as an investment because they have the responsibility to take care of their parents when they are retired, old, or unemployed. So parents will want to invest high in education because they think it will bring high returns. Many of these students who attended prestigious schools end up becoming unemployed and are still depending on their parents to survive. I also assume that many of them regret going the extra mile to give their children the best. They have lost money and are also in debt but their children are still dependants.

Do you think parents should have a limit on the amount they can invest in their children?

You are absolutely right, in as much as we should work hard and make life easy for your children it's also very vital to teach them the importance of hard work, encouraging them to have a skill or even opening up a business for them is a good way to go..so many rich parents neglect this and their children gets spoilt and over pampered forgetting thst one day their parents might not have so much money.. another reason why there should be a limit is  if that money they are always getting from you stops coming some kids might even steal from you, or those outside and this would be very disappointing to you as parents...learn to teach them the value of hardwork

It is very important to teach children the importance of real life. Due to this their way of life will be easy and orderly besides academic education to provide them with as much family education as possible. Every parent wants their child's future life to be beautiful and orderly. So they fulfill all their duties. Many say parental responsibility cannot be called an investment. Giving yourself time to be well is also an investment. Again I say that everything in the universe is reciprocated even love you can understand if you observe. So our responsibility towards the child is also a kind of investment.

Im not saying that i am rich but i do have that kind of living or financial state which is really that way more than of an average person but i do really teach my children to have that a simple living on which it isnt really that something that been raised on an extravagant way or being that too comfortable for them. I do teach them on the way on how this life works and on how hard to earn money. Making up some teachings about
simple living and being contented on what we do have.Yes, we do have that much better life but this isnt something that been acquired easily but rather its been obtained due to hard work and perseverance
us parents. It would really be just that normal that you would really be giving all for your kids on giving them a good life and living but of course only people who do mind about too much spending or providing
considered out to be an investment. lol.

If you arent that expecting something in return then you wont really be having these kind of thinking that you are already spending too much in your kids.This is why it would really be that better that
both husband and wife should really be thinking on saving up for their retirement age or on the moment that they do get old so that they wont really be that relying into their kids
and making them having that kind of responsibility once they do finish up their studies and having their own work.

It is very admirable to teach a child to be contented and to give a clear and practical idea of ​​living life through every step and work of life. The greatest example of loving a child would be to teach him reality no matter how hard it may be. Failing to teach children what they should be taught by falling in love is endangering that child. For example if a child is not given an understanding of difficult situations from childhood then he will grow up to deal with all those small difficult situations that will become unbearable for him.

[Princess Leah]

It is very admirable to teach a child to be contented and to give a clear and practical idea of ​​living life through every step and work of life. The greatest example of loving a child would be to teach him reality no matter how hard it may be. Failing to teach children what they should be taught by falling in love is endangering that child. For example if a child is not given an understanding of difficult situations from childhood then he will grow up to deal with all those small difficult situations that will become unbearable for him.

You've just said my mind, even the bible mentioned that parents should train their kids in the way they should grow and when they grow up, the trainings they've received won't depart from them, they'll also pass those lessons to their own kids and that's how the circle keeps going, but when parents do not give proper home training to their kids the society would do that for them and sometimes such kids always end up becoming a public menace.

 Children who learn discipline from their parents would always make a difference in the society and even when things don't go smoothly, their survival instincts won't lead to crime, investment in kids doesn't end in education or inheritance, children still needs discipline and good manners, even skill acquisition too, be it technical or vocational to excel in the society else your efforts in investing on them would be waste.

 I know someone who spent lots to send his son abroad for studies but the child left his agenda when he got their and started doing drugs, he came back from the states wasted and his parents where so disappointed, I believe if they've disciplined him enough with good morals, he would've end up making his parents proud.