Do You Have A Loved One Who Doesn't Want You To Win In Gambling

[coin-investor]

Why I started this topic: This really happened with my neighbor

I have a neighbor. They are both retired teachers living on their pensions, and all their children are professionals living on their own. They are just enjoying their retirement until the husband goes back to his old ways, which are cockfighting and horse racing.

He's not really allocating his pensions he gambles with money that he can afford to lose.

The problem is that whenever he wins, whatever the amount, he invites friends and neighbors to a drinking party, and his wife finds this annoying. However, he cannot argue with his husband because he just wants to enjoy his retirement by enjoying the things he loves.

His wife confesses it to us, and the wife asks us to help her make his husband lose so as to stop the drinking spree that goes overnight and might harm his health.

Of course, we declined. We told her that we'd just advise him and decline his invitation for drinks; however, the drinking spree continued every time the husband won, even without drinking partners. How about you? Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

I'll lock this thread after 40 replies or three days after.

[Beparanf]

Philippines right? 

This is always the problem of many wife in Philippines since husband usually over spends on cock fighting. Not only on bets but also on cock conditioning since it needs vitamins, right pellet and time to train the cock before the fight.

Drinking party is always a follow up dilemma since they usually spend money on alcohol and cigarettes for the group which most of the winning money go so they literally just wasting money and time. This tradition can’t be stop if you already married to a cock fighting addict. There’s no turning back.

[Frankolala]

From the idea of the wife it is making some senses because it means that he is overdoing it and she is afraid that her husband wins might lead him to health issues because of what he uses his wins for which is drinking but she forget to know that he is having fun and doesn't care about what happens to him.

I would do the same if I have a friend or brother that wants to harm himself with the money that he wins from gambling because they are our loved ones and whatever happens to them will affect us. Some people huge wins have caused them big problem some death.

[Findingnemo]

The problem is that whenever he wins, whatever the amount, he invites friends and neighbors to a drinking party, and his wife finds this annoying. However, he cannot argue with his husband because he just wants to enjoy his retirement by enjoying the things he loves.

His wife confesses it to us, and the wife asks us to help her make his husband lose so as to stop the drinking spree that goes overnight and might harm his health.

Of course, we declined. We told her that we'd just advise him and decline his invitation for drinks; however, the drinking spree continued every time the husband won, even without drinking partners. How about you? Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

I'll lock this thread after 40 replies or three days after.

This is not even related to gambling but the person is at fault and probably this is considered as domestic violence in most countries.

The problem here is her husband don't have control over his drinking habit that is why whenever he got money in his hands he just go for the booze so the root cause is his addiction to alcohol which is pretty much need professional care and lot of time to be dealt but it's so rare that someone who is retired becoming irrespeonsible.

[Roseline492]

That's not actually the best way for the wife to go about it because even if she succeeded in praying for the husband to lose his gambling in other to stop drinking it will not still remedy the situation because in one way or another he will still figure out a way and continue his drinking, however what the woman failed to understand is that if the husband keep losing in gambling he will be lured to gamble more with the believe that he will make out for the loses and from there his financial states will be affected.

Perhaps what the woman should do is to talk to her husband if the character she is seeing is not convenient for her so possibly if they argue it one or twice the husband will start limiting from those act, though the thing is actually normal for most people who has worked so hard all there life in making sure they have a good achievement so after there retirement they tend to enjoy themselves in anyway they feel is okay for them.

[swogerino]

Well the woman has a bit of right in here,he should enjoy his winnings with her as long as they are living together and enjoying their retirement together.The wife should talk directly to him to convince him that this is not a good way of spending the winnings while they can do many other things with that money.

First of all I think that it is something that needs to be solved between the old couple and I know a lot of stories who have ended really really bad and the protagonists are old people,precisely old men,there are a lot of stories of how many of them have hurt their health up to death and this guy with what is doing is not very far away,drinking at such age is surely not beneficial.

[yahoo62278]

Sounds like the dumbest thing in the world. Who would want their loved 1 to lose their ass just to avoid having to deal with a night of buddies drinking. What a selfish bitch IMO. Why not look for other ways to entertain the guy instead of hoping he blows their limited income gambling? Date night, hot bedroom action, bingo, or something that doesn't involve spending or losing a ton of money.

I personally would hope that my loved 1 wins and enjoys their winnings as it's likely that the person would win more than what it costs to host a small party and make our life a little easier that month.

[Majestic-milf]

 You can't stop him from winning, rather, curtail the activities he does after he wins because the way I see it he might start using his other funds to continue his vices if he doesn't see profits from gambling even if he's a responsible one. After all, he's trying enjoy his retirement right?
 The wife has a got a valid reason to be upset whenever he wins because to her, it's not a good form of spending your winnings as it may cause problems down the line for him and it will become pointless if he continues to win but his health won't be in a good condition to let him celebrate it.
Well, of it doesn't look like he's going to stop soon even after she has voiced her complaints and reasons, maybe she just has to live him alone or pick up a hobby that won't let her dwell too much on his behaviors.

[aioc]

Philippines right? 

This is always the problem of many wife in Philippines since husband usually over spends on cock fighting. Not only on bets but also on cock conditioning since it needs vitamins, right pellet and time to train the cock before the fight.

Drinking party is always a follow up dilemma since they usually spend money on alcohol and cigarettes for the group which most of the winning money go so they literally just wasting money and time. This tradition can’t be stop if you already married to a cock fighting addict. There’s no turning back.

I'm sure it is; it is like a tradition, and I have friends who are into this, and you can easily tell if one of them is a winner; they have the opponent's dead cock, and had a drinking spree; I can relate to this when one of the wives even shouted that bad luck one of you wins again.

It is part of the Sunday get-together of friends to relax after a week of hard work. Usually, people who are involved in this are laborers and hard workers. I think it's hard to break this tradition.

[ContentWriter]

I see this as a case of double addiction: drunkeness and gambling. Every sensible person would want their family free from any addiction and that is just what the old lady is trying to do. Unfortunately, losses hardly cause gamblers to have a rethink about the habit. I have a younger brother who gambles. I really do not concern myself with his gambling matters since he's an adult, though I pray and hope he quits. If perpetually losing would mke him quit, that would be fine.

[Mr.right85]

Romance been expressed in a most terrible way!
I lose, how would you expect or wish for your loved one to fail at what his good at. If drinking is really the problem, I guess she should be by his side in all those moments, trying to control how often he drinks and when they retire to their bedroom, she cautions him on how the drinking could have a negative impact on his health and their relationship. How it’s affecting the way she feels about his new found habit.

Even though the man doesn’t stop entirely, he would reduce the way he drinks, especially when the wife is around to keep those eye contacts when ever he holds the bottle.

Should he start loosing, I bet ya, it would t help his health as well. Maybe he wouldn’t be able to afford them drinks but, hypertension would build.
I don’t have such neighbor and wouldn’t want to be such neighbor anyway.

[crwth]

This is not something new that people celebrate when every day gets a big win. It should be in moderation in my opinion. Does the husband win every time and then it would be continuously every day they would celebrate?

I don’t think it is frequent so It shouldn’t be a problem. This is more like a situation where married couples should have communication and maybe some compromise should be made.

I don’t want that someone I love stops me from something that I love to do Unless she makes me realize that it’s really affecting me negatively.

[|MINER|]

Here it appears that the man's wife is not so free with him and maybe that's why his wife doesn't dare to say these words directly to her own husband. But I won't say what his wife wants is illogical or bad because on the one hand she is right because if her husband's habits gradually turn into addiction then later today there is a possibility of losing money which is bad for them.  Circumstances may lead to this.

[Davidvictorson]

I know what the problem is and the possible solution.

The problem is that the man is idle. He has a lot of free time on his hands that he doesn't know ho best to use it. And this is one of the advantages or disadvantages of retirement depending on how you choose to see it. It is like, I have worked my whole life to make money and raise a family. I have successfully done that and don't have any need to work again since money and family is not longer a problem. Retired but not tired and needs to channel that energy into something else.

The solution is for his wife to come up with a business plan that the both of them can venture into. It could be a business or an NGO. That way the man is occupied, his gambling frequencies reduce and so will his friends who comes only to drink. Life or time doesn't exist in a vacuum something must occupy him.

[Marvelockg]

Why I started this topic: This really happened with my neighbor

I have a neighbor. They are both retired teachers living on their pensions, and all their children are professionals living on their own. They are just enjoying their retirement until the husband goes back to his old ways, which are cockfighting and horse racing.

He's not really allocating his pensions he gambles with money that he can afford to lose.

The problem is that whenever he wins, whatever the amount, he invites friends and neighbors to a drinking party, and his wife finds this annoying. However, he cannot argue with his husband because he just wants to enjoy his retirement by enjoying the things he loves.

His wife confesses it to us, and the wife asks us to help her make his husband lose so as to stop the drinking spree that goes overnight and might harm his health.

Of course, we declined. We told her that we'd just advise him and decline his invitation for drinks; however, the drinking spree continued every time the husband won, even without drinking partners. How about you? Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

I'll lock this thread after 40 replies or three days after.

should it be her concern that the husband is now a drunk or that he's winning? 

What's happening to the man is that when he has the funds to fuel is drinking urge he does it to the best of his ability and not necessarily that gambling is the main thing. Honestly, this is just what's popular with most men when they have reached the retirement age. They tend to just catch fun and might drink too much whenever they win or succeed at a thing. In my area, because we are host community to a multinational crude oil, most oldem that aren't actively working again but that are just leaning from thier pension would normally come out most evening expecially during weekend to drink to stupor. What would you do in that instance?

Life is a one time journey, some people just want to have as much fun as they feel it's necessary to do when they are becoming too old and when you're depriving them of those little activity, they tend to grow old too fast and might even die before thier time.

[topbitcoin]

Why I started this topic: This really happened with my neighbor

I have a neighbor. They are both retired teachers living on their pensions, and all their children are professionals living on their own. They are just enjoying their retirement until the husband goes back to his old ways, which are cockfighting and horse racing.

He's not really allocating his pensions he gambles with money that he can afford to lose.

The problem is that whenever he wins, whatever the amount, he invites friends and neighbors to a drinking party, and his wife finds this annoying. However, he cannot argue with his husband because he just wants to enjoy his retirement by enjoying the things he loves.

His wife confesses it to us, and the wife asks us to help her make his husband lose so as to stop the drinking spree that goes overnight and might harm his health.

Of course, we declined. We told her that we'd just advise him and decline his invitation for drinks; however, the drinking spree continued every time the husband won, even without drinking partners. How about you? Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

I'll lock this thread after 40 replies or three days after.

It seems that your story is based on a wife who doesn't like her husband's habit of getting drunk after winning money from gambling, and that is a bad choice, she doesn't dislike her husband gambling but dislikes his drunkenness which will interfere with her husband's health.

In my neighborhood may have a different story, there is a friend who is married and indeed in our environment people who gamble are very bad and it is a disgrace for anyone who gambles because gambling is a behavior that is prohibited in the beliefs in my village, his wife asked me to make her husband realize that he likes to gamble because he is so lazy and the money he earns is always more spent on financing his husband's gambling, His wife said she could have thrown her husband away but she loved him very much but his behavior after knowing gambling became a human being who was not useful for his family.

[uneng]

The problem is that whenever he wins, whatever the amount, he invites friends and neighbors to a drinking party, and his wife finds this annoying. However, he cannot argue with his husband because he just wants to enjoy his retirement by enjoying the things he loves.

Maybe it's time for his wife to also find a personal hobby she enjoys by herself or accompanied by her friends, since she is also retired and there aren't children at home anymore. The couple has a lot of free time to enjoy as they wish. The husband is already doing it, as he found in gambling and on his friends the fun he was looking for.

Now his wife is annoyed by that due to the fact she isn't living her life. I don't think the husband has to slow down, as he is playing with money he can afford to lose and as long as the parties with friends don't trespass any limits. If this lady keeps asking you to get involved on her husband's hobbies, you should suggest her to find her own hobbies.

[Cantsay]

Even with the story I still don’t think it’s right to wish someone failure not for any reason.

I don’t have any love one that’s praying that I lose my bet (they don’t know that I gamble though) but still anyone that wishes you to lose something that you have bet on is not qualified to be called your loved one - there are other means to resolve things not by wanting the other person to fail so that they’ll listen to you.

To me if I discover something like this I’ll definitely distance myself from them.

[YOSHIE]

Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

Fortunately I don't have anyone I love or my close relatives involved in gambling, I myself my family doesn't know I gamble, but for now I don't have anyone like that.

However, if there was someone in my family, for example: my father, maybe I wouldn't forbid him if he wanted to do as the OP said, win gambling, whatever the reason, I would allow him to do it once, maybe not the second time, considering he is old, maybe it's time for him to repent for himself, because alcohol and gambling are no longer good for him.

[acroman08]

How about you? Do you have a loved one who doesn't want you to win in gambling?

reading your post, it seems like the wife's issue isn't really about her husband winning in gambling but about the husband's drinking spree and partying habit that goes overnight which can really have a negative impact on someone's health(which can be problematic if you ask me).

I wonder what she was thinking when she asked you to help her make his husband lose, I mean how would that work.