what software wallet to use for xlm?

[Laura2003]

I don't have any hardware wallets, only alternative where hardware wallet is not required.

[Cryptoababe]

You can use Trust Wallet. It's a multi-chain wallet. I don't know what kind of software wallet you prefer, but you can check out Trust Wallet and see if it suits your needs.

[betswift]

I don't have any hardware wallets, only alternative where hardware wallet is not required.

As I saw, there is Solar Wallet, Exodus, and others for holding XLM. But first, as the previous answer says, you should try something usual, like TrustWallet. Analyze the differences and choose the one that would suit you.