30+? Name one mistake you did to help others

[OgNasty]

When I was younger I would let people's opinions of my ideas influence me whether or not I should pursue them.  In the 90s I had a small business with a friend building custom computers for customers.  I had a falling out with my business partner because I wanted to invest our profits in Apple computers in an effort to grow into something more real and he wanted to spend our profits on things like clothes.  We drifted our separate ways and that eventually destroyed our business.  Later I wanted to invest in an idea bringing goods from distributors that sold their goods by mailing product lists to people, to the internet.  I was told it was a dumb idea and I listened.  A few years later, Amazon.com became a thing...  When I discovered Bitcoin, I instantly emailed everyone I knew about it and asked if anyone wanted to get involved in it with me.  They all told me it was a waste of time, a scam, and they were too busy to get involved with such things.  Luckily, I wasn't going to let people talk me out of this one.  I pursued it and it changed my life.

So my advice to young people is to chase your dreams.  Support your ideas and don't let anyone talk you out of building meaningful things or making good investments.  Fail or succeed on your own ideas.  Otherwise, you will have regrets.  I should have bought Apple shares at $4 and I should have created an Amazon clone before Amazon existed.  I do not regret getting involved with Bitcoin.

The same exact friend who split up our business because he didn't want to invest in Apple at $4, told me selling goods online would never catch on, and that Bitcoin was a scam, recently bought the Bitcoin top then sold at $78K and told me how dumb Bitcoin was.  All he owns now is XRP and some memecoins.  We're going higher...

[ovcijisir]

I should have listened to my gut feeling more in my life when making decisions in life.

Also I should have kept my mouth shut  and not talk about my ambitions or at least I should have cared less about other people's opinions and predictions. In addition to that I believe I should have care less about what other people think of me and my plans.

[odunybiz]

One of the biggest mistakes I made in life that I wouldn't want anyone to repeat is to believe that all the people you helped when they were in need will stand by you when you also need them. Long story short I had an opportunity to help a couple of people when they were struggling, things got better for them and I had a challenge and I was hoping to get the same help from them since I helped them when they were in need but I was disappointed, abandoned and I regretted ever helping them.

I agree. And, further, at times we give others good help, but they are stupid enough to not want it, or us.

I don't know the right words that would suit them but I guess they were never my friends they just wanted to use me to achieve what they wanted and it worked for them. I learnt a good lesson never to help everyone cause some may never repay your kindness when you need help from them.

I think that shouldn't stop you from helping people. I believe there is always a reward for any good thing we do. Although it may not be today but tomorrow. Sometimes life turn around, it's not compulsory you get good returns from exact people you are kind to. You may help black person today and be neglected by him but get your reward from a white person. This world isn't stable so go on with your kindness without even waiting for a reward from them even when you need it and you  will see how God/Allah will surprise you at the end.

[Obulis]

There could be plenty, but list some of less obvious ones:

1: I used to thought that my identity was about what i was supposed to do. That it couldn't contradict with my values. It definitely can.
2: I cared a lot what others thought about me and that's why it was hard to set my own limits, not to disappoint others because fear to be abandoned.
3: I used to think that life was some kind of competition, and that there would be winners and losers.

Now that i have recognized what's valuable in my life, all these seem silly and immature thoughts to me. I feel so free.

I'm not sure what you mean by your point 1 with implying that you are supposed to do things that contradict with your values?

I agree that life is an experience more than a game, even though life certainly involves many games which are won or lost, but also that there is a game aspect to life in that it is intended to be fun at least some of the time, and that furthermore that most of us as humans are expected to at least try to solve a few the puzzles of philosophy.

Sure point 1 is quite complicated
"1: I used to thought that my identity was about what i was supposed to do. That it couldn't contradict with my values. It definitely can"

 If I get it right, it's usually ego that makes people think they are what they do e.g  being an expert of one trade or another and going on with pomposity when it is not what actually makes you you but your values and response to life (character, attitude etc) is what makes up you, the expertise is just something that you do but not you...

On the other part
"That it couldn't contradict with my values. It definitely can"
Meaning that anything you do or  are supposed to do can't contradict you is fallacious because something don can say different thing about who you are and love to be...

[Accardo]

I should have listened to my gut feeling more in my life when making decisions in life.

Also I should have kept my mouth shut  and not talk about my ambitions or at least I should have cared less about other people's opinions and predictions. In addition to that I believe I should have care less about what other people think of me and my plans.

At age 30 caring about what people say or do lessens, and focusing becomes a norm. Do you think that talking about your ambition affects growth? Atimes it's a superstitious belief, because work comes to those who put it in and accomplish results. Nothing stops a determined and persistent mind, what matters is making the right decisions.

[Helena Yu]

At age 30 caring about what people say or do lessens, and focusing becomes a norm. Do you think that talking about your ambition affects growth? Atimes it's a superstitious belief, because work comes to those who put it in and accomplish results. Nothing stops a determined and persistent mind, what matters is making the right decisions.

True, I realize there's no point of discussing something when you know more than people you talk. Whenever you ask about that to your friends, they're only curious with the thing you have/want doing, but when you ask for their opinions, they only give neutral opinions.

When you want do something, do it alone, take a small step, after you doing for many times, you will high likely meet people who doing the same thing like you.

[BADecker]

30+? Name one mistake you did to help others


I can't. I don't help others. Of course, maybe it's a mistake for me to NOT help others. So, my ignoring of them and their needs might actually be helping them by keeping my ungracious direction away from them.

[Yablee0]

My people I greet you all this morning, life you see is a teacher, the more you live the more you learn. There are so many experiences in life so one really need to start learning from someone else mistakes rather than letting it happen to them before they learn.

I take my self as a case study : it happens to me.

Bad woman : when you end up meeting or marrying a bad woman it takes you backwards in life, it disorganized you in every aspect of your life. In what ever you are praying for always pray for a good woman because a good woman can skyrocket you from nothing to something, from zero to hero.


Someone years back in my life I meet a bad woman, my life was chartered, things started falling apart I was working but I seem I wasn't doing anything, all my little efforts to set up the family financially by investing into businesses was all wasted and diminish by my bad wife, she melt me down by her constant demands, wasteful life, constant cheating on me, disrespecting me name it, I was caged for years, I sold and lost it all just to please her but no way, but God be the glory I was free from her bondage after nine years of imprisonment. My advice to all not all that glitters are gold some women are beautiful but are bad inside, pray to God for direction of choice in marriage thus you end up like me thank you.

[BADecker]

My people I greet you all this morning, life you see is a teacher, the more you live the more you learn. There are so many experiences in life so one really need to start learning from someone else mistakes rather than letting it happen to them before they learn.

I take my self as a case study : it happens to me.

~

Getting together with a woman means that you have to adapt to part of her way of thinking. There certainly are bad women out there. But make sure that you are ready for a mental and spiritual change that adapts to the woman, in part.

That being said, most women are practical. That means that they are out for money (security), so they can start a family. The man's ideals are for doing business and working. The ultimate goals are nearly the same, but the methods might be drastically different.

Be sure to know the woman before getting together with her. Spend a year being best friends before you become intimate and get married. And get married before you become intimate.

[Obulis]

Thinking that I would get a job immediately after
graduation from the high institution
Which seems like a fairy-tale based on nationality
and geographical location secondly.
Being afraid of doing mistakes is another mistake
I made

There should have been other bigger mistakes than this because to me I don't see a mistake there because there wasn't anything lost but on the contrary what you think is a mistake can give you a destiny helper, however a lot of the things I could have gotten wasn't because of mistake but it was because of not getting advanced to the minimum years they needed on the job so I just had to watch others having the job. Then the mistake I had wish to be corrected if not that is not possible is the acquisition of property because in my country is lucrative so i missed a lot of them without thinking about the future.

Hoping to get job immediately after graduating and being afraid to fail you say you don't see any mistake with that and that I should have pointed a bigger mistake.

First of all, when you say there should be a bigger mistake means they're actually mistake8 so you contradict yourself saying that you don't see any mistakes...
OK, about not losing anything?
How about the lost precious time, energy, probable unused and uncreated opportunities?

But then imagine such mindset and the disappointment that followed.. Psychologically, hoping to have a job immediately after graduation will make you not to cease opportunities as a student or even create one because of the helpless waiting for a job mindset that might have set in..
Also I guess you believe on not staying in the comfort zone right?
The FEAR OF MISTAKE/FAILURE IS AN ENEMY OF PROGRESS. It has kept so many in there comfort zone penniless, others in a toxic environment and this will be as long as.


A higher institution student hoping to get job immediately after graduating (don't forget location differences) and any one being afraid of making mistakes are big problem that can cause more harm than you think. It has left people in shambles and it Is still doing that.

To also say,
 the circumstances you pointed about missing to buy some property because in your country it is lucrative (comfortable). psychologically, I can say it's the same thing as a student who thinks immediately after graduation they will get a job as per the waiting mindset that might set in and the inability to cease opportunities or create one without thinking about the future, just like you did not think about the future.

[Justbillywitt]

The mistake that I made was writing College entrance examination for four times (4 years) before getting accepted on the 4th trial. Like why didn't I quit after the second trial and go learn a skill or a trade. Don't blame me though because where I come from it was commonly believed that without College education you can't make it big in life.

Another mistake I made in this life was thinking that my opinion won't matter, let others have the final say while I support from within. Paying much attention to what people will say was another mistake I did in this life. I never really cared about what makes me happy and fulfilled. I gave more priority to how others will feel about me, and it held me back for so long.

[Salahmu]

The mistake that I made was writing College entrance examination for four times (4 years) before getting accepted on the 4th trial. Like why didn't I quit after the second trial and go learn a skill or a trade.

Another mistake I made in this life was thinking that my opinion won't matter, let others have the final say while I support from within. Paying much attention to what people will say was another mistake I did in this life.

Behind every mistake of a person there is a good lesson learnt, there is no way you could have known that taking only the opinion of others is not good if you have not been there, so actually those are the things that helps you with the accumulation of different reality of life you don't no and now from those mistakes have made you not to be ignorant of such things again because even if some persons might be trying to force there opinions and expecting you to act on that you have already known what to do about it, there are some persons who had  even wish they had some little basic life experience when growing up so that they could have an insight of your similar mistake.

[Pearl_20]

Being an introvert has it's own advantage and disadvantages. i was rubbed of some opportunities to share, go out, interact and socialise with my peer's and even make friends. Well, coming from a home of 6, one man and 5 women you can guess my dad was an over protective father.

I remember when I had the chance to serve in a big hotel during my I.T days with my coursemate back then, my dad refused and those my friend's got good jobs and some even travelled.  And another is the fear is starting small, and leaving your comfort zone..

Before I made up my mind to travel eh, my friend who suggested we did has started working already. Now I have a skill where I need to socialise, attend seminars and make good quality friend's and trust me when I say is not easy trying to catch up now.  There's no job waiting for you out there after school, so get that skill, go learn that trade just incase the white collar job isn't coming after NYSC, cos I was also a victim of that..

start from whatever you have and with the little you can afford, stay consistent and you'll see yourself grow.

[Dunamisx]

One mistake i made was not to get into the digital world earlier than now, i wish now that i have sound knowledge in the digital technology networks and be a programmer, run code and also build a website, because this was an ever trending profession that has accrued more demands for career people to find a suitable work under, this i won t let it repeated itself on my children, they must learn at least one or two skills and be good at it.