How to avoid Drama

[Hydrogen]

At this point in my life, most of my time and energy is invested in creating value. Being productive. Focusing on improving quality of life.

The biggest obstacle to this process by far are those who make drama.

Those who primarily invest time and energy into making life harder for themselves.

Who try to drag you into their personal cycle of self destruction (aka drama).

Success demands not being caught up in this unnecessary and wasteful negativity.

While avoiding those who practice it.

What are good methods of eliminating drama from life.

What are good methods of identifying those who perpetuate drama to better avoid it.

[rodskee]

What are good methods of identifying those who perpetuate drama to better avoid it.

stop saying yes to everyone do not be a yes man learn how to say no and set your boundaries you need to know which people makes you better and which don't evaluate the way you feel with certain people, are they exhausting to be with or do they make things easier for you

basically just choose the people you surround yourself with carefully

[Vod]

At this point in my life

You left out the most valuable information - your age.  I would guess you are Gen Z?

You will get different advice based on how experienced you are - so let us know what stage of life you are at.

[mich]

Well I do think for us best way we can avoid the drama is to not talk with people who act like this. There is alot of people in this world that does enjoy to be a part of drama.

We must find those people and not talk to them. For me I do not like to go on my social medias alot it is all just alot of drama. And it does make me realize the people I do want to be in my life. And the people that only do like the drama.

[Bluedrem]

The job of a wise person is to think about the future.
So those who think about the future never make drama, they don't have time to gossip, slander, or think about anyone else.
They are always busy with their own work.
They have a specific goal and they keep moving step by step to achieve that specific goal.

[boyptc]

The best is to avoid them with all your might and reason out just to avoid getting close and even talking to them.

Rotten tomatoes if with the good tomatoes will cause them to rot as well. And that's the same with these drama queens and kings.

They create drama to create attention for themselves and if they're spilling and sharing negativity and toxicity, that's why you have to do everything just to avoid them.

Don't be distracted with their dramas and focus on your goals.

[wez]

sadly you are correct

How I did it was:
use the ignore / block function
use a extension to block websites

it will waste some time though, and it is really sad, but you will feel better


I also block youtube accounts now


Probably the best you can do is force yourself to go outside when the sun is out, so you get a healthy endorphine balance and you will attract healthy, friendly people

[Drawesome]

sadly you are correct

How I did it was:
use the ignore / block function
use a extension to block websites

it will waste some time though, and it is really sad, but you will feel better


I also block youtube accounts now


Probably the best you can do is force yourself to go outside when the sun is out, so you get a healthy endorphine balance and you will attract healthy, friendly people

I really like your method. Could you elaborate a bit more? Do you use pre-made extensions or do you program them yourself?

[wez]

sadly you are correct

How I did it was:
use the ignore / block function
use a extension to block websites

it will waste some time though, and it is really sad, but you will feel better


I also block youtube accounts now


Probably the best you can do is force yourself to go outside when the sun is out, so you get a healthy endorphine balance and you will attract healthy, friendly people

I really like your method. Could you elaborate a bit more? Do you use pre-made extensions or do you program them yourself?

I tried making it with chatgpt, but i got too many bugs so i just gave up

I use these extensions:
https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/block-site/lebiggkccaodkkmjeimmbogdedcpnmfb
https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/ytblock-block-any-content/nedcanggplmbbgmlpcjiafgjcpdimpea

However, the sad part is that when (This is a bigger example) a community 'blacklists' people they diverse into other communities and essentially 'rot' them out, they become corrupted because all the misfits and deserted people had to leave the healthy place (your brain?)

I simply block all that hurt my mental, brain, etc. Sadly it also hurts a lot of people because they get neglected, but I can't take care of that many people by myself, so hopefully they connect with healthy people too

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As for personal improvement. I decided to stop 'por*' by slowly adapting myself to reality, accepting my truth and fate. So whenever I got 'turned on' i didn't go to a por* site. (I used to block those) and stay on social media for example. It is not better, but it is more realistic and healthy, also less nudity, etc.

Ok, this might be too extreme for someone to read, but it is a very healthy solution to become more healthy, productive in life. I believe we are all addicted to por* in a bad way and we should become human again.

Eventually I am able to visit twitch (currently) a lot. And even talk to girls as if they are my friends. (not really, but atleast it feels like it, and I don't mast** as much, its really healthy)

So to conclude: I have almost completely swapped my por* addiction into a healthy situation that heals my (and theirs!!!) mental state a lot.


Serious: A lot of people are trafficked, we are at loss of humanity because of it and we should all together realize the truth of our situation. It is not a dramatic problem because it has grown overtime, but by simply observing other human beings we are able to learn how to 'behave' and evolve/revolve or any other word you like


ps: if u need more info just ask

[Drawesome]

However, the sad part is that when (This is a bigger example) a community 'blacklists' people they diverse into other communities and essentially 'rot' them out, they become corrupted because all the misfits and deserted people had to leave the healthy place (your brain?)

I simply block all that hurt my mental, brain, etc. Sadly it also hurts a lot of people because they get neglected, but I can't take care of that many people by myself, so hopefully they connect with healthy people too

At the end of the day you have to prioritize your own health.

Tnaks for sharing. I'll try to apply some of it.

Cheers

[Sjkah]

The most valuable thing in a person's life is time. People who create drama without utilizing time are backward in all aspects. Sometimes we have to stop accepting lies as yes due to fear of people. We have to adapt ourselves to our age. People are respected by looking at the experience of current people.

Well, we have to avoid those who create drama. However, many people like to do drama. We have to select and remove those who do drama. However, most of what we see online is drama. We have to stay away from dramatic people at all times.
 For example, if a good mango is with another spoiled or rotten mango, then the good mango will rot or be ruined. Just like in the case of a person, it cannot be expected that a good person will not become bad if he is with a bad person. So there is no doubt that if a good person is with a dramatic person, he will also become dramatic.

[Obulis]

What are good methods of identifying those who perpetuate drama to better avoid it.

stop saying yes to everyone do not be a yes man learn how to say no and set your boundaries you need to know which people makes you better and which don't evaluate the way you feel with certain people, are they exhausting to be with or do they make things easier for you

basically just choose the people you surround yourself with carefully

Well I do think for us best way we can avoid the drama is to not talk with people who act like this. There is alot of people in this world that does enjoy to be a part of drama.

We must find those people and not talk to them. For me I do not like to go on my social medias alot it is all just alot of drama. And it does make me realize the people I do want to be in my life. And the people that only do like the drama.

The best is to avoid them with all your might and reason out just to avoid getting close and even talking to them.

Rotten tomatoes if with the good tomatoes will cause them to rot as well. And that's the same with these drama queens and kings.

They create drama to create attention for themselves and if they're spilling and sharing negativity and toxicity, that's why you have to do everything just to avoid them.

Don't be distracted with their dramas and focus on your goals.

Avoiding drama is one hard thing to do, it can become easily done by having what it takes to identify dramas in the first place. Identifying drama on this regard becomes the first step! You know when you are dramatizing. This dramas becomes painful when it happens around serious things and it sometimes goes with trickery.

As pointed above by @boyptc, Mich and rodskee
To stop saying yes (stop being oo yes person) and avoiding talking or getting close with any dramatists is another way of saying BECOME REAL...

As the first step says (identifying drama);
An easy way of detecting drama is you becoming real to yourself and others concerning what soever the matter is. I don't think drama is the same as jokes even as some jokes can be dramatic because avoiding drama doesn't really mean avoiding fun/jokes in this context.

BEING REAL?
To be real means clearly seeing people and actions without any form of bias and this can be very uncomfortable as it requires certain level of authenticity. In anyway, one needs tamper life with mercy (that's being empathic) but that doesn't mean being or allowing pretense, not allowing pretense is to help incubate trust over time since you and anyone can detect pretense..

Becoming real might be the light that will shine on darkness (drama) and it will disappear.
Becoming real will dispel unreal people (dramatist) away, by not even saying a word, they'll see how uncomfortable they have become around you and go away probably.

[DediRock]

Totally relate. I just set boundaries early now and step back fast when someone thrives on chaos—it protects my peace and energy