Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?

[Emjay24]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Partners should get to know each other before going into something important like marriage. It also includes being intimate to know if they go along with each other or not. I did that and we have a happy married life.

Those who view marriage as long-term activity and are willing to commit to forever must be sure of who they are committing with. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with an incompatible person, so you should test both character, beliefs and sexual life to be sure it suits your kind of person before going in. Marriage is very sensitive movement and requires every caution, sexual life is one of the most important aspects of marriage and it's compatibility is worth validating before taking the bold step.

[hypernovafsk]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

[BADecker]

Sex before marriage should only be like a professional fisherman... a master-baiter.

I mean, you can roll around naked with somebody else who is naked... if you really need to feel skin against skin. But it's really hard to avoid having sex if you do this. So keep your clothes on at all times until you are married.

[free-bit.co.in]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

Trust in love or marriage has nothing to do with whether you have sex before or after marriage. Trust in love is a result of honesty, understanding and how two people treat each other on a daily basis.

Your partner always asks when you go out or always wants to know where you are and who you are with. It's not that they doubt you, it's that they care too much about you. They always want to make sure that you are in a safe place and are always in a safe condition.

Whether it is suspicion or genuine care, it depends on the quality of the relationship between the two of you. Don't always think bad about your partner and trust them if you decide to marry them.

[Smartworld]

Religiously, sex before marriage is bad reason being that no defilement before marriage. In the Bible era and to the era of some of our forefathers, before a girl is betrothed to a man her purity is checked to avoid defilement and if eventually any is found defiled she will be immediately send to her parents. Mary the mother of Jesus was a case study. When Joseph found out she was pregnant he wanted to send her back to her parents but the Holy Spirit intervened because she was just to Joseph, Mathew 1:19.
In this our modern era no one cares about the old principle, no one complains about not marrying a virgin, so this lead a lot of girls defiling themselves before marriage. The worst thing is that most of this girls due to elicit sex have committed series of abortion, whereas others have taste different kinds of men and when they eventually get into marriage complications such as lack of tolerance, lack of sexual satisfaction, inability to conceive, inability to stay with one man, etc comes in.
In my opinion I will say sex before marriage in this modern world is preferable since we no longer followed the old time religion, through sex before marriage one can easily find a woman of his choice.

[OgNasty]

Sex before marriage should only be like a professional fisherman... a master-baiter.

I mean, you can roll around naked with somebody else who is naked... if you really need to feel skin against skin. But it's really hard to avoid having sex if you do this. So keep your clothes on at all times until you are married.

That may be good advice for others, but it would be a do what I say and not what I do scenario.  In a perfect world maybe everyone would find their mate and have sex with that one person forever.  It just doesn't work that way and increasingly so.  For that reason, I think people should be safe and educated when it comes to sex.  Have conversations with your partner to make sure you aren't being exposed to anything and always wear protection.  Think of it as a don't trust, verify, situation.  As long as you are safe and everyone is healthy, I don't see a problem with sex outside of marriage.  I can see how society would benefit from no sex before marriage, but we're all a bunch of dumb animals so that isn't realistic.

[HelliumZ]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

If we are to explain it in religious terms, sex before marriage is prohibited, but in this case, intercourse after marriage is permitted. Nowadays, the trend of having sex before marriage has increased so much that the youth are not taking it seriously at all. In our country, free association has reached an extreme level, resulting in the moral degradation of the youth society. The government must punish premarital sex, otherwise it will not be possible to reduce moral degradation in society.

[Dareo]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

If we are to explain it in religious terms, sex before marriage is prohibited, but in this case, intercourse after marriage is permitted. Nowadays, the trend of having sex before marriage has increased so much that the youth are not taking it seriously at all. In our country, free association has reached an extreme level, resulting in the moral degradation of the youth society. The government must punish premarital sex, otherwise it will not be possible to reduce moral degradation in society.

I think it is a very personal matter and it is not right to judge everyone with the same formula, some people may not want to get intimate before marriage because of their faith, while others want to get to know each other better before marriage to understand the relationship. Neither situation is wrong, it depends on people's own values. The religious aspect is obvious, but in reality relationships are developing a little differently these days. Young people often rush ahead, move forward without thinking about their responsibilities, and then get into trouble, this is true but I don't think that everything can be solved by government punishment. Awareness of people, proper guidance from the family, and taking responsibility for their own decisions are more important.

My personal opinion is that such issues cannot be solved by force or punishment. People need to be explained why it is necessary to be responsible, be it a relationship or intimacy, both are in the right place only when both people make mature decisions.

[Anayochukwu]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

I think marriage is all about agreement. If you and your partner agree to have sex, it doesn't concern anyone else. It just depends on where you both come from, because there are some places you need to perform all possible rites before having sex with your partner. But to be honest, I wouldn't wait till marriage before having sex with my partner. As you long we agree to stay together, there's nothing to wait for, unless it's not accepted in their culture or community.

[mvdheuvel1983]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

I think marriage is all about agreement. If you and your partner agree to have sex, it doesn't concern anyone else. It just depends on where you both come from, because there are some places you need to perform all possible rites before having sex with your partner. But to be honest, I wouldn't wait till marriage before having sex with my partner. As you long we agree to stay together, there's nothing to wait for, unless it's not accepted in their culture or community.

Marriage is an agreement between the man and his wife but having sex before getting married should not be something people bring to the public space because a man can not stay without knowing how he is getting married to because this is something he plans to do till old age and if the woman is not active sexually after the marriage you will see different issues arising which could lead to divorce. Know everything about your wise before getting married to her so that she doesn't have issues after marriage because she doesn't know things bout her man. People should not bring religion or their culture to this because the culture won't build the home after the marriage.

[Prosofina_G]

The honest truth about op question is that sex before marriage or marriage before sex, really depends on the person involved,  in as much as you know what you want you can choose any, so long you are comfortable with it.
But there is a unique way to go about it.

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

1. It will make you understand your partner sexual body count
     It will enable you build your relationship more stronger
     It helps you know your partner very well.

DISADVANTAGES OF SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

1. UNWANTED PREGNANCY

In most cases there are some guys or woman who are so uncultured and might begin to do anyhow not knowing that they are engaged, therefore causing unwanted pregnancy.

2. EMOTIONAL CONFUSION this can happen when the relationship is not strong can can possibly leads to emotional confusion

3. RELIGIOUS DISCOURAGMENT they sees it as sinful act.

MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX

Actually some people prefer it because it goes with the doctrine of so many churches and the sees it as moral values
It equally builds a relationship based on values trust and commitment, it reduces unwanted pressure and pregnancy.

DISADVANTAGES
you can only find out that your partner is important when you guys are already married
It requires longer time patience to adapt.

[Man of peace]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Well this kind of topics or thread can be answered base on the choices of the individual,so every answer or opinion of everyone here is base on what he or she wants to his or herself,so therefore I am speaking on my own opinion based on what I want to myself which is knowing everything before the proper marriage  will be done,because I don't want to be a victim of circumstance, because some many things has been happening and still happening till date so with that know one what to marry untested women anymore.

In the normal circumstances both in the biblical way it's good to properly get married before knowing your partner but that was then when our women  are still our pride,are being trusted and they are holy and remain virgin until they are married and live in their husbands house but nowadays our women are no longer trusted anymore and by the way how many of our girls today are still virgin? because if we are no longer having a virgin girls in our midst it simply means that we should not wait to get married with them before testing them so as not to get into the wrong one since they are no longer maintain their virginity..

[Queen uloma]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Partners should get to know each other before going into something important like marriage. It also includes being intimate to know if they go along with each other or not. I did that and we have a happy married life.

For me sex before marriage isn't bad from my on point of view, because during courtship you're expected to study each other if you're compatible in all ways, that's when the sex comes in, I know people will say sex is a sin we all know that saying, what if after waiting and you find out that the opposite gender can't satisfy you,  then you will file for a divorce after all the whole spending, for me a broken relationship is  better than a broken marriage, so make your choice don't allow people to mislead you.

[Tungbulu]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Partners should get to know each other before going into something important like marriage. It also includes being intimate to know if they go along with each other or not. I did that and we have a happy married life.

For me sex before marriage isn't bad from my on point of view, because during courtship you're expected to study each other if you're compatible in all ways, that's when the sex comes in, I know people will say sex is a sin we all know that saying, what if after waiting and you find out that the opposite gender can't satisfy you,  then you will file for a divorce after all the whole spending, for me a broken relationship is  better than a broken marriage, so make your choice don't allow people to mislead you.

Sexual incompatibility can only break your marriage if your motive for getting married sexual satisfaction. Not that I don’t understand what you’re trying to say, I do because that’s the reality of some marriages today, but for me, I don’t think it’s enough excuse. Except you’re willing to tell me that you’re ready to break up your relationship with someone you’re very compatible with in every other areas, simply because he or she is unable to satisfy you sexually. That’s just very absurd. Sex before marriage is wrong, however you wanna frame it, it’s fornication. Humans have the ability to adapt in any kind of situation, the only reason you’ll fear being unsatisfied sexually after marriage is if you’ve built a huge sexual appetite that not everyone can match, and then you just use this as an excuse to continue building your sexual appetite all in the name of finding a compatible sexual partner.

Where I come from, the reason (according to them) why men engage in sexual activity with their supposed partners is because they wanna test their fertility, because some women can be infertile due to certain complications and yet do not know it, so if you’re able to get pregnant for them, they go ahead and marry you. While this is could also seem to be reasonable to some, I still believe it’s another excuse to indulge in premarital sexual activities, which is simply wrong, however you wanna frame it.

[Btcdeybodi]

Whether before or after marriage, sex is an intimate feelings of attraction that leads a man and a woman to enjoy sexual pleasures so if it is at the consent of both party then there is no problem at all. Let us keep religion aside, sex is enjoyable when you are doing it with someone you love. If it was meant to be done after marriage that means our genitals should have been given to us on our wedding day

[Berry2d]

Sex before marriage should only be like a professional fisherman... a master-baiter.

I mean, you can roll around naked with somebody else who is naked... if you really need to feel skin against skin. But it's really hard to avoid having sex if you do this. So keep your clothes on at all times until you are married.

That may be good advice for others, but it would be a do what I say and not what I do scenario.  In a perfect world maybe everyone would find their mate and have sex with that one person forever.  It just doesn't work that way and increasingly so.  For that reason, I think people should be safe and educated when it comes to sex.  Have conversations with your partner to make sure you aren't being exposed to anything and always wear protection.  Think of it as a don't trust, verify, situation.  As long as you are safe and everyone is healthy, I don't see a problem with sex outside of marriage.  I can see how society would benefit from no sex before marriage, but we're all a bunch of dumb animals so that isn't realistic.

Yes I agree with you, there is know benefits attached to know sex before marriage policies instead its consequences is even on a high side compared to its advantages. Marriage is supposed to be a union of two compatible partners in all aspect including sexually but because of such idea some get connected to partners that are sexually incompatible which is the main reasons for destroyed marriage and failed relationship. How can a man that don't love sex get connected to the once that takes sex as her hubby, so in other to avoid failed Marriages I think sexual relationship before marriage is supposed to be necessary in other to ascertain both partners sexual sanctification level.

[Ocn19]

Marriage is good, sweet, and honourable, though with its challenges. It is made for mature male and female. Unfortunately, many people abuse and misuse this opportunity. Sex  is one important features of marriage. Meant for married couples, hence, pre- marital or sex before marriage is not too good, though, people may have their reasons. Since sex is made for married couples, any act of it before marriage is not good in my own thinking and according to the scripture. Let's just be patient, we can still see everything after the marriage. This will make marriage honourable.

[Franctoshi]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

From the biblical point of view, and the normal way it should be, you shouldn't engage in sex with a potential life partner before marriage, basically when you haven't paid for the pride price, But based on how this particular generation is becoming, especially our women of today, the "Gen Z" It becomes necessary for you to know if you and your partner are actually compatible due to obvious reasons. And it even necessary to see the woman conceive a baby before finally getting to seal your marriage with her, considering what is trending in my countryside.

[Sexylizzy2813]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Marriage is like a no going back journey and ones you're in the bus you're in for life and any marriage that doesn't understanding always crash or end up like MMM. Before anything we do is best to walk around that idea before getting in to it or starting it especially when it concerns marriage, you need your peace of mind to be intact and only then would you know that you have made the right decision in life, know who you want to marry very well not well before you start swimming in marriage, if you don't the other way first there are some characters I call inbuilt character (the hide that one and wait till they are in), that character will only surface when you two are married.

[DrBeer]

Religiously, sex before marriage is bad reason being that no defilement before marriage. In the Bible era and to the era of some of our forefathers, before a girl is betrothed to a man her purity is checked to avoid defilement and if eventually any is found defiled she will be immediately send to her parents. Mary the mother of Jesus was a case study. When Joseph found out she was pregnant he wanted to send her back to her parents but the Holy Spirit intervened because she was just to Joseph, Mathew 1:19.
In this our modern era no one cares about the old principle, no one complains about not marrying a virgin, so this lead a lot of girls defiling themselves before marriage. The worst thing is that most of this girls due to elicit sex have committed series of abortion, whereas others have taste different kinds of men and when they eventually get into marriage complications such as lack of tolerance, lack of sexual satisfaction, inability to conceive, inability to stay with one man, etc comes in.
In my opinion I will say sex before marriage in this modern world is preferable since we no longer followed the old time religion, through sex before marriage one can easily find a woman of his choice.

 The 21st century is upon us! Perhaps it's time to adapt and abandon dubious dogmas born in the dark ages I always ask active supporters of religious “norms” this question: if they demand that others adhere to them, why don't they go back to the origins and adhere to the most ancient beliefs and traditions? Why do they drive cars, live in houses, buy food with money, use the internet and mobile communications?
 It turns out that if it suits them, they can “ignore” certain laws and historically accepted traditions. But they all love to lecture others about things that don't suit them