Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?

[Sexylizzy2813]

I don't know if there's anywhere they said is a must to have sex before or after marriage. When we have the urge to do it we go for it, I don't think is even important to think that way but there are consequences for having sex with whoever we want, some comes with good luck while some comes with bad luck that's is why we see some persons not doing well in life but after settling with someone either by marriage or relationship things turn around for good...things happens but we hardly pay attention to what goes on in this life, some happens the other way round, that is why we should be extremely careful of how we have sex with whoever we see, never always your dick think for you.

[tvbcof]

The question in my mind was 'child before marriage or after marriage'.  The former just makes sure that all systems are working before making a pretty big commitment.

[DanWalker]

The question in my mind was 'child before marriage or after marriage'.  The former just makes sure that all systems are working before making a pretty big commitment.

Having children before or after marriage is a completely different and far more serious issue than having sex before or after marriage. This needs very careful consideration, but to be honest, I neither encourage nor support it.

What would happen to the woman or the child if it were born, but the couple decided not to get married? That would be a disaster for the woman and an uncertain future for the child.

[Juicyhome]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

[Merit.s]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

You are going in contrary to what the word of God said. Furnication is a sin and you cannot change it because you are not God. The world is already a corrupt place which has made sex to be seen as a pleasure that you get whenever, you want it.

How many girls will you test before you finally get married to one out of twenty. Maybe, you are not a Christian.

[tvbcof]

The question in my mind was 'child before marriage or after marriage'.  The former just makes sure that all systems are working before making a pretty big commitment.

Having children before or after marriage is a completely different and far more serious issue than having sex before or after marriage. This needs very careful consideration, but to be honest, I neither encourage nor support it.

What would happen to the woman or the child if it were born, but the couple decided not to get married? That would be a disaster for the woman and an uncertain future for the child.

Interesting.  Where I am from (gen-x Pacific Northwest U.S.) it was and still is not at all uncommon for parents to not be married, and pretty often they are not together.  Sometimes they never were.  Sometimes they never even knew one another!  It is/was so common that not much was thought of it among my peers in school and in life.  Certainly that would shape my attitude about things.

To your question, in the scenario you state, there would be no kid to worry about.  The guy would generally assume (rightly or wrongly) that the woman was infertile and go back to searching.  It would suck for presumed infertile women, but in a lot of cases it would suck for her if she married a guy who hoped for kids and found her barren.

In my ethics, it is OK to 'kick the tires' on biological function, but it is critical to stay with the woman if she maintains pregnancy past the first trimester even if the kid is 'tarded or whatever.  The reason for this is that pregnancy is a risk to life and limb that is born by the woman.

Note that through various means arranged by the eugenicists who sit at the helm of 'global health' these days, it is getting far more likely that even young healthy appearing women are infertile.  This justifies a societal shift in how the plebs operate.  My opinion.

[Iamgoat]

I don't know if there's anywhere they said is a must to have sex before or after marriage. When we have the urge to do it we go for it, I don't think is even important to think that way but there are consequences for having sex with whoever we want, some comes with good luck while some comes with bad luck that's is why we see some persons not doing well in life but after settling with someone either by marriage or relationship things turn around for good...things happens but we hardly pay attention to what goes on in this life, some happens the other way round, that is why we should be extremely careful of how we have sex with whoever we see, never always your dick think for you.

I like how direct you are with this. If you want to have a sex before marriage, it is something which you have chosen to do any not anyone else's choice. I don't see reason why someone will say they must have a sex with the wife he intended to marry before he or she can marry them. This means the person does not fully understand the value of marriage and what people marry for and the person just assumes marriage is all about sex because if this isn't the case I don't see reason why we will be having such discussion on the sex before marriage discuss. Sex after marriage will always be my choice because it shows respect, trust and support. It shows you are marrying someone you intend to build a life with and not someone you intend to marry for sex.

[hostm]

How many girls will you test before you finally get married to one out of twenty. Maybe, you are not a Christian.

What matters even more is not how many girls are "tested," but rather how many of them decide to have an abortion because they have been abandoned and the pregnancy is unwanted.

[Additional-Rest-4643]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

This comes down to personal values, culture, and religion, there's no right or wrong answer. Some people believe that intimacy before marriage helps establish compatibility and leads to a more informed commitment, while others find that waiting builds deeper emotional trust and aligns with their moral or spiritual beliefs. What truly matters above all else is that both partners are honest, consensual, and fully aligned in their decision, because that mutual respect is what really determines the health of any relationship.

[DYOR+BTC]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

Thank you my brother. Now I know am not the only person being supportive on this sex before marriage believe. I have never for one good day  been doubtful of the original marriage procedure which involves an untouched woman and a man but because of the nature of things know i can never for one day support any man planning to get married before sex because that is the beginning of problem at home now. From the way girls have made things be, getting married without having a well experienced test of the woman is the beginning on our downfall because 50 percent of failed marriages is all because of lack sexual satisfaction whoch we all know must men don't last longer without drugs.

[Jasmyne]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

You are going in contrary to what the word of God said. Furnication is a sin and you cannot change it because you are not God. The world is already a corrupt place which has made sex to be seen as a pleasure that you get whenever, you want it.

How many girls will you test before you finally get married to one out of twenty. Maybe, you are not a Christian.

I agree with you that it was written in the Bible not to fornicate before marriage but the truth is that everyone claims to be Christians but 90% or even 95% of people don’t keep to this because the world is in another dimension now, even pastors don’t keep to this law.

[hostm]

the world is in another dimension now, even pastors don’t keep to this law

I can say from my own experience that if a person is truly a Christian, sexual immorality brings them a great deal of trouble.

In every denomination, there are many pastors, priests, bishops, and even patriarchs who are not true Christians. They may own villas where they keep mistresses, they may have connections to Epstein, and so on.

[ProsperBTC001]

It depends on the individual some prefer marriage before sex due to there cultural beliefs why some choice sex before marriage because they believe it's important to explore physical intimacy or compatibility before marriage.
For instance you can't get married to a woman or man you know nothing about, you will try to know the persons personality to see if he or she will be compatible.
 Like I said it all depends on an individual but either ways aren't bad.

[Casper7]

sex before marriage cause sexual chemistry matters a lot, you need to be conversant with your partner and what he/she may like. sex is intimacy as much as most people would like to take the other route of not having sex before marriage, I think its important one does, intimacy is important and sometimes one can be a completely different person and have a different approach with sex and what they like, knowing who you're getting married to is definitely important, so why not open up to them intimately and see what kind of person they are.

[Israelgogo]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Heb13:4 says marriage is honorable bed undefiled, that's implies that loving your partner has no condition of sex before marriage, one can be faithful trusting yourself first before trusting your partner, you can't trust yourself no need to agree on sex after marriage. Because the two of you yourselves and the word of God to make all things work well after marriage.

[Somto9Light]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

That’s not an excuse enough to encourage premarital relationships before marriage, except of course the only reason you’re entering that union is mostly to satisfy your sexual desires, but if that’s not prior to other things, then I see no reason why that should be the most important thing that you’ll be considering. If a marriage breaks simply because one partner isn’t satisfied with the sexual performance of the other, then there was actually no love between them. I’m not saying sex isn’t important in a marriage, but if that’s the most important thing why you’re getting married then trust me that one way or the other, the marriage would still definitely collapse, sooner than you can think about.

[MagnificentX]

It is very funny how some of you people even go as far as gaslighting others using religion when we know that we ourselves aiias strong in faith to observe the provisions our religions has given us. In the contemporary society, if we are to talk reality then I'd say sex before marriage is okay because most partners later end up saying the person they ended up with isn't really who they wanted in terms of bedroom performance and romance and this cause the end of marriages.

So there's simply no wrong in having sex or knowing your partner carnally before marriage. Who knows, they can even be homosexual and you don't know all in the name of morality and then you end up getting married to a person who does not even desire you truly.

[Stalker22]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

That’s not an excuse enough to encourage premarital relationships before marriage, except of course the only reason you’re entering that union is mostly to satisfy your sexual desires, but if that’s not prior to other things, then I see no reason why that should be the most important thing that you’ll be considering. If a marriage breaks simply because one partner isn’t satisfied with the sexual performance of the other, then there was actually no love between them. I’m not saying sex isn’t important in a marriage, but if that’s the most important thing why you’re getting married then trust me that one way or the other, the marriage would still definitely collapse, sooner than you can think about.

You can love someone with all your heart, have the same values, and be best friends, but if there is no sexual compatibility at all, then your marriage is destined to be one of frustration and anger on both sides.  It is highly irresponsible for any two people to enter into a life-long monogamous commitment when they dont evenknow whether they are sexually compatible with each other or not.

[Mr Reporter]

Sex before marriage is a must and i encourage it, every man should have a sex intercourse, have seen Many marriages that broke up because of sex, when they finally married, and their sex libido doesn't match than the marriage can't las long, you have to marry a partner you have same sex libido with.  Is religion that gave a bad interpretation of sex before marriage, naturally it wasn't so,man must test his woman before marriage that's the tradition and we have to work with tradition in this case of marriage because marriage is traditional.

Thank you my brother. Now I know am not the only person being supportive on this sex before marriage believe. I have never for one good day  been doubtful of the original marriage procedure which involves an untouched woman and a man but because of the nature of things know i can never for one day support any man planning to get married before sex because that is the beginning of problem at home now. From the way girls have made things be, getting married without having a well experienced test of the woman is the beginning on our downfall because 50 percent of failed marriages is all because of lack sexual satisfaction whoch we all know must men don't last longer without drugs.

Well said brother i think I aslo love how you made your point understandable you’re definitely not the only one who looks at it an evil practicing for any young person be it male or female…the truth is that the world is changing little by little and honestly intimacy issues are a dip major reasons a lot of home today are passing through major struggles today…most people don’t care to check if there are even compatible together before they start having sex…nowadays you could even see little children growing with such mentality like this generation is really something else..

[Judith87403]

Having children before or after marriage is a completely different and far more serious issue than having sex before or after marriage. This needs very careful consideration, but to be honest, I neither encourage nor support it.

What would happen to the woman or the child if it were born, but the couple decided not to get married? That would be a disaster for the woman and an uncertain future for the child.

Right, this question its very complicated, as one won't know the right support or opinion to give because both having sex before marriage and after marriage as its benefits and side effects as well, which you make a good statement that you neither support or encourage it. In some marriages, the issue why they are separated its because of not being able to give to birth, while some they believed its right to gain their right and pride before giving out themselves to their spouses, as its good and beneficial to them.