Father becomes a Gambling addict and daughter faces father's consequences.

[Pi-network314159]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

[robelneo]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

This is a family issue, but if your conscience can bear how the daughter suffers from his father's addiction, then you can walk away and ignore.
The daughter deserves to know the truth because it's her money, and she is a caring person who supports her family's needs. I will tell her that she doesn't deserve this kind of hardship, and they can resolve the issue early on before it becomes too late.

[DaNNy001]

Don't intervene, you might end up putting yourself in a situation where you might start regretting your actions...One of my principles Is that I never get involved in other peoples family issues, even though it might seem like you need to speak up and tell his daughter what is actually going on that is not going to be a good move..sooner or later she is going to find out, things like this don't stay hidden for long

[coin-investor]

I think the earlier the daughter knows about the father’s addiction, the better. There is a subtle way to tell her without going straight that the father’s addiction is very harmful and could get worse, so intervention is important.

If I know them personally, I will talk to the father and urge her to go easy on gambling because her daughter is suffering and might harm their relationship if he keeps on gambling.

Addiction is harmful; it can ruin relationships, so it’s better to fix it early, and family members can understand the situation if there is an early intervention.

[Wiwo]

I bet to differ from the two members that made up the first comments.

First if you have a close relationship with the daughter, i think you need to tell her what the problems with the dads financial management, since finances is an integral important aspect of family life and gambling addiction could destroy the family future in terms of progress and development.

So the earlier the innocent know the better for her and the rest of the family, so fo ahead you are not doing anything wrong by doing that, rather you did a good did, at least if the father cant controhis gambling addictions, the daughter can be guided on how she manages her own funds instead fueling her fathers gambling addictions indirectly.

[Yamifoud]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

As neighbors, we're not in a position to get involved in any family problem. Unless that is our close friends. But if not, we'd better remain silent and let their dad realize his wrongdoings upon seeing the family's financial collapse and the suffering of their kids. Avoid situations where most people are reluctant to get involved in others' life problems. You will be blamed in the end.

Perhaps reporting it to their relatives seems a better idea than directly talking to their family.

[Richbased]

now my question is that is it good for me inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

This is very sad and to be honest with you some parents are the reason why their children are not prospering because how can a daughter be working hard to take care of herself and her father is giving her pressure as a due to his so much demands of money only to fund his gambling habit. If the daughter finds out it will really be so heartbreaking considering the fact that she has spent a lot of money already to the extent of almost going broke. What i will say in this situation is that you shouldn't tell the daughter but you can try if you can talk to the man to reduce his gambling habit. I don't even know why old people are becoming gambling addicts because it can cause harm to their health considering their age and health status at that age. If you tell the daughter she will be so angry that she might decide not to be sending money to her father again because i know how women reacts when they find out that their money was being wasted, if it was his son he can understand the situation and handle it in a diplomatic way.

[Iroh]

The daughter should know that her father has a financial problem. She may not know it's due to gambling but she would probably have seen enough to know her father has issues financially.
I think if you told her about his gambling issues, I doubt it would change anything. The daughter would probably still be trying her best to take care of her dad. It also depends on how close you are to the family. If you're just the neighbor and nothing more to the family, then you could subtly give a hint and see how that would be received before you say more.

[rachael9385]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

What a sad story, her father can keep on collect money and not be able to do anything tangible with it if he's not helped out. It's a very complex situation, if you decide to tell her you would feel bad and if you don't it's the same feeling as well but you just have to mind your business because it's not your family. If you want to do something helpful you can advice her father if you are close to him. Sometimes addicts need counselling

[Cantsay]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

This is actually tricky, because if you’re not careful you’ll get labeled as someone who’s trying to sabotage a daughter’s love for her father, they won’t even bother to consider the fact that you’re trying to help the little girl not to keep wasting her money by constantly giving it to her father as an aid.

If it was me, I’ll just try and tell the girl that her father is into gambling and she should probably try to talk to him about it - I won’t go deep to the extent that I’ll have to bring the whole scheme of her giving her father money to aid him financially, I won’t bring that up, I’ll just try to talk about it vaguely and see if she can decipher the whole situation herself.

[AmoreJaz]

The daughter should know that her father has a financial problem. She may not know it's due to gambling but she would probably have seen enough to know her father has issues financially.
I think if you told her about his gambling issues, I doubt it would change anything. The daughter would probably still be trying her best to take care of her dad. It also depends on how close you are to the family. If you're just the neighbor and nothing more to the family, then you could subtly give a hint and see how that would be received before you say more.

That is true, it depends on how she was raised. And no matter what, he is her family. So even if it is like not reasonable to do so, a family will always save the family no matter what. So I can understand the daughter about her actions. And also, it depends on the cultural upbringing. Because in some countries, they don't care much about their family, even if you say, he is your brother or parent. So we can say, she has the upbringing of taking care a family no matter what condition they are in. For some, it is not practical, but for others, it is like you are being a good daughter as you are not neglecting your parent. Though he has shortcomings as a parent. That's the reality of life, you can't have it all.

[Odusko]

The fatheray not forgive you if he gets to know about this later that you are the one that gets his family involved, this is about family, trust and personal struggles, the man may not be happy with what is happening to him, and he may be struggling silently to overcome it without his family getting involved in any ways, first if you want to help him, then approach him and advise him, and if ever you want to tell his family, you should first threaten him that if he doesn't change you will let his family know, definitely that will change his mind alot.

[Ivystar5]

Not a buyer of stories but I'm a quick actioner, I take actions without thinking twice before I would have seel public advise I would have already done what I felt was right immediately I felt it! fact is she has to keep sponsoring the behaviour until she knows about it and now it's in your court to let her know or maybe if you think it's going to affect you let it's slide untill she finds out her self or maybe give her hints so she will be inspired to do such. However, some people are not in control of their actions as the persistent urge controls their behaviour hence such man needs external help to solve his addiction maybe one of this isolation centres can help him escape such addiction.

[Josefjix]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Where is the mother to this girl, the wife of this man, where is she?

If she's not available, then the girl will learn the hard way, sooner or later, this man will regret his actions while loosing his daughter, I don't mean death, I mean the girl to go stay with friends or other relatives for a while, then the father will realize his habit had ruined his family.

[GeorgeJohn]

I don't know the pleasure many gamblers get when gambling with it their salary, for me I will said it is a financial mistake if somebody does not have a gambling budget or specific amount of money that will be used for gambling weekly or monthly, it is unjust for someone to use all his salary or her salary to participate in gambling without having any reserve, so for me is very bad and is condemnable for anyone who does not know his or her limit in gambling

I do Advice people that every Gambler should know his or her limitation so that you cannot or you will not gamble above your budget, when you gamble above your budget you'll be looking for any way to make sure that you have retrieved your losses and that will make you to be addicted in gambling, so being angry whenever you lose in your gambling it's not a remedy for you to recover what you have lost,

The remedy that will make you to feel the last even when you lose in gambling it's when you have a specific amount that you budgeted for gambling

[BitMaxz]

The majority of people here do not seem to be good neighbors.
If you are concerned about her and her father, you should tell the truth, but not in person, as he will blame you.
Try to tell her in a different way that does not involve your name, such as creating a fake Facebook or email account and contacting her and messaging her that her father is addicted, or pretending to be a casino employee and informing her via email that her father is addicted. That way, he cannot blame you.

[Hispo]

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now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

I usually mind my own business and not get into life of others and getting myself in problems because of the addictions and lies of others, but I would seriously consider to tell her about what is actually going on with her money and how his father is gambling all away to fuel his addiction, she will realize about it sooner or later, that is for sure, but the sonner she understand what is happening more money she will keep from being wasted by her father.

Just my opinion.

Also, of someone one knows constantly is in need of money one needs to have some common sense and wonder why.

[danherbias07]

She should know.

That father doesn't even think about her daughter, and that's unfair. He should not be called a father if he can take advantage of her. If I am in a position of being a friend of the father and I know everything that he does, I would not hesitate to tell the daughter because what he is doing is wrong. It's a family matter, that is true, but my conscience cannot endure those kinds of things, and even though the daughter is of the right age, for me, that's still an abuse. It may not be child abuse, but still, she deserves to know what is happening.

Who knows? Maybe she can help him better if she knows the truth.

[mirakal]

Frankly speaking, I don’t think his daughter has not sense something wrong with her father. She might have sensed that already but since her love for her father is greater than her father’s wrong doing, then she tolerated her father until it reached to the point that it affects already her own finances.

What is lacking here, heart to heart communication. The daughter should seriously talk to her father, otherwise both of them will end up penniless and homeless. Addiction has always a cure, it can always be treated as long as the gambler is willing to be treated and help his own.

[Nothingtodo]

As your neighbor, you should definitely inform him of this because an innocent girl will go bankrupt because of her father's gambling and drug addiction.
If you can't tell her directly, you should go ahead and get someone to help you tell her the matter quickly so that she doesn't go bankrupt. As a daughter, it is the responsibility of the daughter to respect and help her father, but if that father gives money away in a bad way, that is never supportable. Of course, the girl should be protected from this terrible outcome. Maybe if the girl is informed now, then maybe the girl will be aware of this misdeed of her father.