Fake it til you make it?

[bangjoe]

What do you do when you meet people who are financially or economically in a better position than you? Let us all be honest here.. we sometimes compare ourselves to our peers and see if they are doing better than us. There are times where, whether it is good or not, we can tell they are doing better in life. Of course we do not know their struggles but we know that financially they are quite more comfortable than you.

In that case, should you try to fake your own situation as to not get pity or should you be honest? When I encounter people who are financially ahead than me I just think that it will be me someday... That I will reach that level too where I would be able to buy whatever they can. So basically I try to make them my inspiration. Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

If I have no experience in finance or economics, then what I must do is empty my cup to gain knowledge from them. We know that most successful people will talk more when they feel that they are superior to others, and if there are people who are equal or superior to them, they will choose not to talk much. Therefore, it is better to prepare meaningful questions to open your mind to the person in front of you who has a different point of view.

Don't do that, it's not good when communicating with those above you. You will be considered nonsense because they will ask you back about what you do to verify your words, and if you are found to be lying, you will not have the opportunity to work with them in the future.

Appear as you are but be full of enthusiasm to move forward. People like that can be much more attractive.

[Olatundespo]

This inequality constantly makes me wonder why I am not like other rich people. In fact God has created some people rich or some people poor. There are many poor people who become rich through their own efforts. Due to geographical conditions and proper assessment of talent, many poor guys become rich. When I see people who are richer than me, their luxurious lifestyle and houses, cars and every other thing is much better it makes me a little confused and regretful for a moment because I also expect to be very rich and I should have worked hard and made money.

When I meet poor people compared to me, I do not regret not being rich because being rich or poor depends on luck in many cases. Many people work less and become rich in a short time while many people work hard for years and remain poor.

[HashGhost]

Many people suffer from imposter syndrome, the feeling that you’re not really as competent as people think you are. Sometimes “fake it till you make it” can be the answer.

[Marvelockg]

Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

It depends on on why you're faking it and what you intend getting from it. There are people that fake their lives just to look rich so they can get into the circle of the rich. people expecially the rich relates well with People that they perceive are in Thier class. If faking being rich can lead to you eventually becoming rich, then doing such isn't bad but if you're faking it and it leads you to leave above your means, that becomes a very bad thing.

If you're bold enough to ensure you break into the circle of the rich, it becomes easier to learn things from them that prepares us to become rich. If you don't have have the mentality of the rich, you easily become contented with anything you see.

[Oluwa-btc]

The good thing here is that this advice comes in different versions and it depends on how you intend to apply it pertaining to your intentions and life's goals.Claiming skills and results you don’t have can damage trust and reputation.This gradually rewires your mindset to actually be more hopeful and resilient.

[WillyAp]

The good thing here is that this advice comes in different versions and it depends on how you intend to apply it pertaining to your intentions and life's goals.Claiming skills and results you don’t have can damage trust and reputation.This gradually rewires your mindset to actually be more hopeful and resilient.

Can have? Will have is way more fitting.
Catch someone fake and you don't work with him/her any more.

[SATWAT]

I don't have to fake my own situation just to get pity. I prefer to be honest with them so they can see the real me. A relationship doesn't look at what we have but who we really are and there is no pretense in us. We don't have to pretend we are a successful person just want to make them impress. I feel better if they can see what I am. It is better that we are honest with them and don't bother to think about what they will think about us.  We have many friends so we can select those who want to besides us. We can use them as our inspiration to develop ourselves and have a better life.

I agree, and if some people don't want to be around you or want you to be around them only because of how you are doing financially in your life, they don't really deserve you, because they don't basically need you in their lives but they were always wanting to be with you only because they thought you were financially settled and are doing well. If you tell everyone and let them know that you are not that good financially at the moment, and they start leaving you, you should be happy because now you won't have any fake people with fake emotions in your life.

Those who stay at times like that with you are the people you should love and adore throughout your life, and if some day you become financially stable, or even rich, those are the people who would deserve everything you have, and then you should do whatever you can for them because they stood by your side when all the fake faces left you after realizing that you were not doing well financially.

[Die_empty]

What do you do when you meet people who are financially or economically in a better position than you? Let us all be honest here.. we sometimes compare ourselves to our peers and see if they are doing better than us. There are times where, whether it is good or not, we can tell they are doing better in life. Of course we do not know their struggles but we know that financially they are quite more comfortable than you.

In that case, should you try to fake your own situation as to not get pity or should you be honest? When I encounter people who are financially ahead than me I just think that it will be me someday... That I will reach that level too where I would be able to buy whatever they can. So basically I try to make them my inspiration. Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

Humans are naturally selfish. We want to always be better financially and otherwise than our peers. But we would have to deal with this nature to avoid envy and jealousy. I am not in a competition with anybody, so I don't pretend just to prove that I am also doing well if I see a successful age mate or classmate or friend. I also don't behave in a manner to attract pity because it is useless. Successful people don't like people who behave beggarly; they will rather hang out with those who know their worth.

Deriving motivation from successful people is not a bad idea but we should learn to be content and be grateful for our level now. We should also note that success is not only about money. Having a good family, sound health, and a prosperous career are worth celebrating   

[puloweh555]

Why been so fake towards your old friends, it actually means, you aren't ready to level up, it doesn't really matter the financial status of your friend comparing to yours, what matters most is the service you can render to him wherever he need him and the service he can render to you also wherever you need him. It should be a yin yan situation, you help him with your service, he helps you with his service, nothing to fake about.

I agree with you. There's no need to fake ourselves to others, including our friends. It's better to tell the truth, because if you fake yourself in the hope of being motivated to surpass your friends, you're lying to yourself. Furthermore, this will affect your own mental state, especially when you can't achieve what you want or don't achieve it. It will only add to your own problems, because you'll feel embarrassed in front of your friends. So, as you say, it's best not to fake yourself; instead, use this situation to complement each other. There are many ways to motivate ourselves to be successful.

[Davidvictorson]

What do you do when you meet people who are financially or economically in a better position than you? Let us all be honest here.. we sometimes compare ourselves to our peers and see if they are doing better than us. There are times where, whether it is good or not, we can tell they are doing better in life. Of course we do not know their struggles but we know that financially they are quite more comfortable than you.

If I meet someone who is financially stable than we, I do not need to fake anything until I make. If I can talk with them, I will ask them for tips on how to be better. I will share my goals with them, what I have done and have them give me some good directions. If I can't talk with them maybe because I wasn't given access, I will research on them and know what they have done that I can do. They are an inspiration to me, I will keep I real and work my ass out because that is the only way to making it.

[Btcdeybodi]

Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

I don't take inspiration from rich people even though i also wish to become rich someday, the reason why i don't get inspired is because i don't know how they make their money especially those i don't know about their source of wealth. Many people today do illegal stuffs to make money but pretend they are doing a legit business. Some of them will open a small business and claim that's their source of income while it's something different they are getting their money from. Some are owing huge debts to manage their lifestyle but until when they are unable to pay back and the news go viral that is when you will discover that they were living a fake life all these while. Some owe huge loans from banks and other cooperative organizations and stake their properties as collateral if they don't pay back. I just feel that becoming rich legitimately has a touch of grace because there are people who are doing little things but they are progressing more than others.

Do your best to get a good life when you are still young and exuberant, invest and expand your business you will be marveled how things will turn around even when you never expected. Don't be stagnant, if you are doing something and it's not working you switch to another thing, if possible change your location things might begin to favor you. I was in my town for a very long time but nothing was working well, i moved to the city and got connected to individuals who are doing well for themselves and today i am not rich but am doing well for myself too.

[Hamza2424]

What do you do when you meet people who are financially or economically in a better position than you? Let us all be honest here.. we sometimes compare ourselves to our peers and see if they are doing better than us. There are times where, whether it is good or not, we can tell they are doing better in life. Of course we do not know their struggles but we know that financially they are quite more comfortable than you.

In that case, should you try to fake your own situation as to not get pity or should you be honest? When I encounter people who are financially ahead than me I just think that it will be me someday... That I will reach that level too where I would be able to buy whatever they can. So basically I try to make them my inspiration. Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

Haha actually nothing at all, but TBH in reality a person (not me though) should be getting both feelings. He should feel worse about his situation so he can realize that he needs to get inspiration from others instead of getting jealous and cursing them, saying they must be doing something illegal, haha.

In my country when a poor person sees a rich person, some of them with a bad view just say "oh he must be making haram money," haha. You might have heard the word haram, it basically means something prohibited in Islam, like gambling, interest, and stuff like that.

[iv4n]

OP is not at peace with himself... Many of us were in that place, but we have grown up. So fake it till you make it is a bit foolish... sooner or later, everyone will realise that you are a fake.

When we are honest, we don't have to worry about "faking"... I am who I am, and that's it. Take it or leave it, I don't really care, I will participate as long as I have a good time... and if I lose, it's on me, I will take care of my debts.

[justdimin]

Disguising live doesn't help but it push back what was supposed to come to you. When you meet someone perhaps your childhood friend or your school mate during that time you shouldn't act or lie so that he will not see you common, the person might not even see you that way because he doesn't just become rich without experiencing some live giving challenges so definitely he would understand that the person situation is not a permanent one but something that would definitely change, another thing is that you wouldn't no if the person would decides to empower or put you were you could be seeing the finances you have not seen before so is better to be sincere even if they mocked you than lying to yourself what you are not.

Honestly, doing better than someone isn't really a good thing to brag about neither. Because then you are telling how you are better and they are worse. If the reality is really that you are doing better, you should be still humble and say it's going alright.

Doesn't matter if he is the janitor and you are the doctor, because while doctors do save lives, and feel more important, if there were no janitors, then the doctors would have to clean the whole thing themselves, or have garbage filled hospitals, so believe me, even if it's not equally important, neither is "unimportant", both are important and have to have people. One does not need to be unimportant, just to make the other important, they can both be very important, while keeping one more important.

[hyudien]

Remember, lies are covered by other lies, so when you meet successful people, it's best to be honest and ask for their insights on how you can be successful, or at least improve. Sometimes, such people offer paths and opportunities for mutual success by offering collaboration if your business interests align with theirs.

[Agbe]

What is the essence of faking a lifestyle that you are not or can't even maintain the best thing to do when you meet people who are financially doing better than you is to see how you can learn from there success story by inculcating the principles that they applied in life which resulted in their success story.this is the best way that one can attain success in life because when you copy the life style of successful people by applying the principles of these people who are ahead of you over time you become like them too.

[coolcoinz]

OP is not at peace with himself... Many of us were in that place, but we have grown up. So fake it till you make it is a bit foolish... sooner or later, everyone will realise that you are a fake.

When we are honest, we don't have to worry about "faking"... I am who I am, and that's it. Take it or leave it, I don't really care, I will participate as long as I have a good time... and if I lose, it's on me, I will take care of my debts.

I don't even compare myself to them. I've learned that there will always be a bigger fish so it makes no sense. You can have a million USD and still be poor compared to your friends or neighbors.

Then there's a question of whether it even makes sense to pursue other people's lifestyles. For instance, you live in a 100m apartment and dream about doubling it? When you finally get it you'll see that some people have 1000 m apartments. Do you really need that? Are you going to spend another 10 years working to get a house that you don't even need?

Be yourself, achieve your own goals. I don't need a bigger house, or a faster car.

[YOSHIE]

In that case, should you try to fake your own situation as to not get pity or should you be honest?

That is the concept of good life that has a more economy or a mediocre economy, I am happy to see the concept of the lives of Omans where they look poor but in reality they are rich, without luxury buildings, Luxury homes, but have the largest oil mine with a super rich economy, whether we can exemplify their lives, without showing off our wealth, life as is.

Honestly, showing off wealth is not a pride for me, what else to friends, that's my identity, I prefer to see simple, with that concept we can judge which true friends, Whether they look at me from the material or indeed from conscience, for me to be friends without having to be viewed material, accepting us as is the essential value, Making friends because there is a lot of material, friends because as is difficult, I am glad my friend when I met an accent with wealth.

[Rockstarguy]

What is the need for faking a lifestyle? If you are so conscious of faking it but not making any effort to add value to yourself, it means you are just deceiving and fooling yourself. Having value is not just about finances. If you have value and you are not financially secure at the moment, there is nothing to be worried about or to fake and disguise yourself as someone who is financially well-off.

No matter where you find yourself, always let others know the value you have; that is what matters because, in life, nobody has it all. You can have the money that you desire right now, but that doesn't mean you will be financially better than all the people you meet. of course not. You will still meet people who are financially better off than you, so the question to ask yourself is how long will you continue to fake it. Just have value and be productive; that is what will keep you going.

[Cookdata]

What do you do when you meet people who are financially or economically in a better position than you? Let us all be honest here.. we sometimes compare ourselves to our peers and see if they are doing better than us. There are times where, whether it is good or not, we can tell they are doing better in life. Of course we do not know their struggles but we know that financially they are quite more comfortable than you.

I stopped worrying about the lives of others and I no longer compare my life with others ever since I pass the age of teenager. Peer pressure will only make you feel uncomfortable, makes you want to compromised things that are not necessary, it's exhausting and tiring going through that stress. If you are doing better than me, that's because you were there before me or had the privileges I never I had, I can't change it but will live with it, there is happiness in when you are contended with what you have.

In that case, should you try to fake your own situation as to not get pity or should you be honest? When I encounter people who are financially ahead than me I just think that it will be me someday... That I will reach that level too where I would be able to buy whatever they can. So basically I try to make them my inspiration. Do you take inspiration from the rich people or do they make you feel worse?

I am not poor, I live a good life that any person that hasn't been there would want to be there. Sympathy is only for the weak, it's the least thing I want to see from my fellow human being, if it's not health wise I don't need your sympathy. If you want to help me, don't give me money either I don't need it. Let's do business instead or give me networking to be at better place, that's the only thing I need from you and not your money and keep your inspiration your name, don't be deceive by the appearance of the people.