Causes of marital conflict

[franky1]

It's quite surprising how some guys will talk to a woman for minutes, yet the woman seems not satisfied. A man should posses enough mental power to be able to convince his woman to trust his judgement at any time.
I am not saying that men should manipulate the woman, No. But a man should be able to give a woman tangible reasons not to misbehave.

nah
men by default are logical problem solvers. when a woman wants to open up and just vent her frustrations to just beheard, she just wants to express them vocally to get them off her mind. but men go into repair mode/finding solutions, thinking its a problem that needs solving.
woman may only want acknowledgement that they are heard, not to then be pushed into doing something or given tangible reasons to not do something.. not to be mansplained a solution. they just want acknowledgement

(a lesson all guys, including me learn through marriage)
dont always be a problem solver, just listen and acknowledge you heard what was said can be enough

she wants to know her guy has her back and on her side for when SHE resolves the problem, she doesnt want a mansplain/condescending remark as if she is uncable of resolving issues via lengthy backchat of how the guy needs to control everything, taking the power away from her

communication is more important than having a toolbox of tricks

[o48o]

Most problems you can solve by good communication, and if that communication doesn't help and you can't find a working solution, it doesn't matter what the problems is, because it's a clear that you are not a good match and then divorcing might be a good solution for everyone....

It's fine that you emphasized on "good communication". Some marriages fail not because they do not communicate, but because the community skill of the couple is too low, especially that of the man.
It's quite surprising how some guys will talk to a woman for minutes, yet the woman seems not satisfied. A man should posses enough mental power to be able to convince his woman to trust his judgement at any time.
I am not saying that men should manipulate the woman, No. But a man should be able to give a woman tangible reasons not to misbehave.
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Seriously, what are you even talking about?

A: Why women (or men) should be satisfied if someone talks TO them for minutes? How is that surprising they aren't satisfied?
B: Why that talk should be about convincing to trust someone's judgement?
C: Why is this talk about reasons why wife shouldn't misbehave?

It sounds like we live in whole different world if that's communicating to you, and not about empathy, listening to each other and trying to understand each other.

[Agbamoni]

Other problems could exist too, but based on my personal observation and experience, I think money is probably the biggest reason for marital conflicts and it is the main driver of problems and fights between spouses. When a person is financially fit and has everything he needs to keep his family happy, there will not be a lot of problems in the family unless there are problems caused by other very specific things that aren't tolerable, but I think, most of the problems get solved with this.

Are you married? Buddy problems are problems whether they are only few or lot of problems. In marriage even if you have the whole world at your disposal, something as little as conversation or arguments can cause problems. I also had in mind that financial problem is the main reason for marital conflict not until, I saw that it was just the beginning. Sexual interest can also be a huge problem. As a man, you may get exhausted after work and cant make love to your wife. She doesn't see it that way, all she thinks is, you are not sexually attracted to her anymore or you are seeing someone else. Not quite long, my neighbor divorced his wife because of this issue.

[franky1]

Sexual interest can also be a huge problem. As a man, you may get exhausted after work and cant make love to your wife. She doesn't see it that way, all she thinks is, you are not sexually attracted to her anymore or you are seeing someone else. Not quite long, my neighbor divorced his wife because of this issue.

again communication is key. such as knowing what each others needs are. even deciding to set a date night to actually have in mind to prepare for intimacy. EG the guy knows its datenight friday night so doesnt exhaust himself during the day, has a afternoon shower, dresses up and they go out for a meal to chill and talk dirty, knowing the kids have a babysitter, and will be fast asleep when they get home, knowing theres no dishes to cleanup.. it helps set the positive mood

rather than unanswered questions of trying to guess the best time to engage in intimacy.

intimacy is about 2 people. its about knowing each others needs. similar to a family car. some people think because its a joint car one side has the right to have it anytime they please. but reality in relationships is to simply ask 'are you doing anything important tonight because i need the car' similar to what could be asked about intimacy, 'are you doing anything important tonight because we should have a datenight'

rather than just hoisting your hand between their legs and thinking they are instantly going to grind against it happily without question everytime

[Marykeller]

Seeking outsiders advice over family issues that could be resolved between couples. Nothing destroys marriage like telling family relations or friends about what goes on in and out of your marriage. That attitude alone can cause problems in the family because of the different advice given that could affect the family happiness and growth

[KingsDen]

It's quite surprising how some guys will talk to a woman for minutes, yet the woman seems not satisfied. A man should posses enough mental power to be able to convince his woman to trust his judgement at any time.
I am not saying that men should manipulate the woman, No. But a man should be able to give a woman tangible reasons not to misbehave.

nah
men by default are logical problem solvers. when a woman wants to open up and just vent her frustrations to just beheard, she just wants to express them vocally to get them off her mind. but men go into repair mode/finding solutions, thinking its a problem that needs solving.
woman may only want acknowledgement that they are heard, not to then be pushed into doing something or given tangible reasons to not do something.. not to be mansplained a solution. they just want acknowledgement

(a lesson all guys, including me learn through marriage)
dont always be a problem solver, just listen and acknowledge you heard what was said can be enough

she wants to know her guy has her back and on her side for when SHE resolves the problem, she doesnt want a mansplain/condescending remark as if she is uncable of resolving issues via lengthy backchat of how the guy needs to control everything, taking the power away from her

communication is more important than having a toolbox of tricks

I learnt something very important here...
"Don't always be a problem solver..." That is so true, sometimes what she will present you with as a problem might be nothing close to a problem. Just listening and acknowledging that you have heard missing be the solution. I have learnt this
 Although my mum told me as a kid that sometimes silence is the greatest problem solver.
Something you think has no solution still has a solution. You could go silent and allow the problem fix itself.

[franky1]

It's quite surprising how some guys will talk to a woman for minutes, yet the woman seems not satisfied. A man should posses enough mental power to be able to convince his woman to trust his judgement at any time.
I am not saying that men should manipulate the woman, No. But a man should be able to give a woman tangible reasons not to misbehave.

nah
men by default are logical problem solvers. when a woman wants to open up and just vent her frustrations to just be heard, she just wants to express them vocally to get them off her mind.
..
communication is more important than having a toolbox of tricks

I learnt something very important here...
"Don't always be a problem solver..." That is so true, sometimes what she will present you with as a problem might be nothing close to a problem.

even when a problem is real, dont think that because she doesnt want you handling it then it be nothing close to a problem. it might be a problem but she doesnt want you to solve it, she doesnt want you to mansplain/condescend strategies
she may just want to vent to clear her mind emotionally to then be able to concentrate on solving it herself

EG she says 'im soo stressed, there is so much work i need to do'
dont respond: 'let me do some for you if you cant cope'
dont respond: 'maybe your taking too long on each thing'
dont respond: 'here's a way to be more efficient'
dont respond: 'maybe you should talk to your boss and ask him to give you less work'
these all sound like she is no good, incapable, cant think for herself
makes her think your telling her that you know her job better than her and you could do it better than her..

imagine flipping the situation (your into DIY/landscaping)
you tell your wife: "dang it im gonna need to spend all day making a backyard patio deck".. if she said "dont worry ill do it" you instantly thinking she may not know how to do it properly as its not her normal job so she may end up messing it up more than helping and thus causing more problems... well thats what she is probably thinking when you come up with solutions to take away the workload from her. that she is either incapable or you will mess it up or half-as it and cause more issues for her later

even if you cant stop being a problem solver, listen again or understand the real issue she is telling you:
EG she says 'im soo stressed, there is so much work i need to do'
do respond: 'need a hug?, back massage, rum&coke'
do respond: 'wanna vent?/talk about it'
do respond: 'tell me when your nearly done and ill make you a yummy meal and prep a bubble bath so you can relax'

[Helena Yu]

nah
men by default are logical problem solvers. when a woman wants to open up and just vent her frustrations to just beheard, she just wants to express them vocally to get them off her mind. but men go into repair mode/finding solutions, thinking its a problem that needs solving.
woman may only want acknowledgement that they are heard, not to then be pushed into doing something or given tangible reasons to not do something.. not to be mansplained a solution. they just want acknowledgement

(a lesson all guys, including me learn through marriage)
dont always be a problem solver, just listen and acknowledge you heard what was said can be enough

she wants to know her guy has her back and on her side for when SHE resolves the problem, she doesnt want a mansplain/condescending remark as if she is uncable of resolving issues via lengthy backchat of how the guy needs to control everything, taking the power away from her

communication is more important than having a toolbox of tricks

Now I understand the meaning of post on social medias "control your lust & you'll understand how boring 90% of women are".

Women only want to express their story/problem and not want to find a solution to fix it, which mean they're just bitching without any action. They need men to provide and give everything for them, while they can't solve the problem of their men and only give useless mental support (which anyone can get by seeking a psychologist.

I don't see those thing you mentioned fall to communication, it's more about providing.

dont respond: 'let me do some for you if you cant cope'

I think many women seek for this respond, they want someone who can help them.

imagine flipping the situation (your into DIY/landscaping)
you tell your wife: "dang it im gonna need to spend all day making a backyard patio deck".. if she said "dont worry ill do it" you instantly thinking she may not know how to do it properly as its not her normal job so she may end up messing it up more than helping and thus causing more problems... well thats what she is probably thinking when you come up with solutions to take away the workload from her. that she is either incapable or you will mess it up or half-as it and cause more issues for her later

I will give her a try and watch what she will do, if I see she make mistake/not experienced, then I will ask her to stop.

even if you cant stop being a problem solver, listen again or understand the real issue she is telling you:
EG she says 'im soo stressed, there is so much work i need to do'
do respond: 'need a hug?, back massage, rum&coke'
do respond: 'wanna vent?/talk about it'
do respond: 'tell me when your nearly done and ill make you a yummy meal and prep a bubble bath so you can relax'

Yeah I know many women also want get this response, but mature women don't like this, it only works for girls who seek for handsome boys.

[franky1]

Now I understand the meaning of post on social medias "control your lust & you'll understand how boring 90% of women are".

Women only want to express their story/problem and not want to find a solution to fix it, which mean they're just bitching without any action. They need men to provide and give everything for them, while they can't solve the problem of their men and only give useless mental support (which anyone can get by seeking a psychologist.

I don't see those thing you mentioned fall to communication, it's more about providing.

if your relying on social media to get the type of narrative you just said.. you failed already
if social media is telling you woman are 90% boring
if social media is telling you woman only want to express drama/problems
if social media is telling you woman dont want to fix a problem
if social media is telling you woman just bitch without action
if social media is telling you woman need men to provide and give everything

then you are obviously single and a virgin so never had a real relationship to realise how capable a real woman is..
.. you will learn one day, it will open your eyes.. but first. you must learn to talk to a woman before being able to date one

communication comes first

look at your social media likes/shares and who your following and stop following that crap. its giving you bad idea's about women before you even met one..
.. instead clear your mind of any preconceptions of women that social media has told you. and instead talk to women in the real world. there are alot of them and alot of them are different in alot of ways, get to know them. it will surprise you

...
the crap you just said in regards to what social media told you about women. is the usual "incel" crap single guys spread to each other as excuses for why they are single and unable to date, which then causes other guys to then not want to even try dating, not even want to try talking to women, because they feel there is no point (incels breading incels)
dont let social media of single idiot incels dictate your own life decisions. as you will just end up staying single if you follow that crap

[franky1]

dont respond: 'let me do some for you if you cant cope'

I think many women seek for this respond, they want someone who can help them.

actualy if they want help, they will ask for it. hence the point of actually listening to what she says

EG wife:"honey can you help with.." vs "im stressed i have so much work i need to do"
note the difference
there are sometimes women can be more subtle, where a offer of help could be implied
EG "im stressed there is so much work that needs to be done"
where she is not identifying that she is the one that has the workload on herself, but usually this would be in context of her already knowing you are capable of helping without needing her to teach your her skill/jobrole

again communication and listening skills are key

even if you cant stop being a problem solver, listen again or understand the real issue she is telling you:
EG she says 'im soo stressed, there is so much work i need to do'
do respond: 'need a hug?, back massage, rum&coke'
do respond: 'wanna vent?/talk about it'
do respond: 'tell me when your nearly done and ill make you a yummy meal and prep a bubble bath so you can relax'

Yeah I know many women also want get this response, but mature women don't like this, it only works for girls who seek for handsome boys.

you got no clue, and i think you dont know many women, as for girls i think your also basing that from social media too

[Helena Yu]

then you are obviously single and a virgin so never had a real relationship to realise how capable a real woman is..

I know there are serious and real women, but they're looking for provider men, they will ask how much money I make as the most important part to decide yay or nay.

look at your social media likes/shares and who your following and stop following that crap. its giving you bad idea's about women before you even met one..
.. instead clear your mind of any preconceptions of women that social media has told you. and instead talk to women in the real world. there are alot of them and alot of them are different in alot of ways, get to know them. it will surprise you

I do have a real life experience and date many women, unfortunately almost all of them are pretty much similar like what I read on social medias. I pick them up, pay the bills, open the conversation and then sent them back. I realize, there's nothing I get, just an useless chit chat and whenever I talk about something serious/technical they didn't understand at all.

They did ask something that I don't know about that e.g. music, vacation, place etc, but all of them are useless because even I understand that, it won't able to make money.

actualy if they want help, they will ask for it. hence the point of actually listening to what she says

EG wife:"honey can you help with.." vs "im stressed i have so much work i need to do"
note the difference
there are sometimes women can be more subtle, where a offer of help could be implied
EG "im stressed there is so much work that needs to be done"
where she is not identifying that she is the one that has the workload on herself, but usually this would be in context of her already knowing you are capable of helping without needing her to teach your her skill/jobrole

again communication and listening skills are key

I disagree.

Didn't you know if most women only want to give code/signal instead of being straight up? they didn't ask help, instead they will complain something and they expect you to help/fix it.

I'm not sure with other people experience with women, but I think we have a different culture.

[franky1]

as you admit you never had a serious relationship and instead you only experienced many first dates
you also admit the communication is lacking, because they dont involve themselves in YOUR technical discussion chosen topic

maybe try a different location/method of meeting women. if you are just using dating app's then expect low expectations.
think about your hobbies and interests and go places where like minded people of such go.
EG if you are into a sports team, find a sports bar or practice field/game where most of your teams supporter go(dont go to a rival teams place)
EG if you are into politics, go to bars conventions/protests that the particular political party supports go
EG if you want an athletic/fit woman who takes care of herself, go to the gym

strike up a normal casual conversation with a woman. learn some icebreaker/conversation starters. just small quips to get a interaction started

as for during the first date
think charm. not interview/test/interrogation
if your talking about technical things on first dates, your not learning about how to charm someone on first date
im going to hazard and guess you talk about bitcoin during your first dates, thinking that will impress them with some technical details about your knowledge of it.. dont do that. its not a first date kind of subject. its not going to get their genitals to tingle and desire you

if you want to impress them without technicals. just say you are into financial trading. leave it vague. because bitcoin is a traded currency after all. let them ask the questions if they want to know more.. dont throw heaps of info at them in one go. give them bait to bite on. gauge their response.

EG you can gauge if a woman is an experienced gold digger or inexperienced. if she asks about your bank account she is inexperienced and new to gold digging
if she asks about investment portfolios she is experienced. real experienced people in finance and wealth dont hoard cash in lame bank accounts and if she doesnt know this, that wealthy people dont have money in banks, then she doesnt know wealthy people.

just offer tip-bits of info, see which subjects bite and turn into a conversation. stop throwing large info and expect them to jsut suck it all in and meet high expectations of reciprocation instantly
talk about if you like animals, if you have siblings and thus any nephews/nieces and how you treat them and how you feel about families. give them an idea of what a future with you would look like. will it be a caring home full of animals and offspring, doing outdoor activities. or would it look like a office situation. no children, no pets allowed and if not an office worker, the only person there would be the cleaner

throwing technical jargon at them will feel like they are always in a science test constantly, no warmth, just lectures, note taking, essay reading/writing

if geeky stuff is your 100% interest, then attend conventions/conferences and strike up conversations at the bar or whilst walking around

dont be pushy thinking to expect some 'fun time' at the end of the conversation/date simply because you spent a bit of money on drinks and had a conversation

you have much to learn about how to communicate, but one thing is for sure, social media is not your friend, and definitely should not be your source of dating advice. as you are still single.. which shows it has not worked out so far. and instead filled your head with negativity about women

as for your preconceived perceptions of women due to social media
an experiment for you to try that does not involve women

drive down a road and just glance at all the different cars. notice how there are many brands, many shapes many colours.. alot of variety
now play 'i spy'.. pick a car brand. EG Ford. and then as you drive notice how many fords you see..
suddenly you are only aware/counting/noticing the fords and ignoring the other brands. not even remembering what random brand just passed you because you are now setting your mind to only notice/remember the fords in particular...
... that is the psychological game these incel trolls play to gain more incels into their community. they want guys to only remember the bad women. to look out for only the red flags and ignore the green flags..
if you only see red ford cars. you will ignore the rest that could have been a good ride

[Helena Yu]

think about your hobbies and interests and go places where like minded people of such go.
EG if you are into a sports team, find a sports bar or practice field/game where most of your teams supporter go(do go to a rival teams place)
EG if you are into politics, go to bars conventions/protests that the particular political party supports go
EG if you want an athletic/fit woman who takes care of herself, go to the gym

Okay that make sense.

im going to hazard and guess you talk about bitcoin during your first dates, thinking that will impress them with some technical details about your knowledge of it.. dont do that. its not a first date kind of subject. its not going to get their genitals to tingle and desire you

Nope, it's not like that, I'm just asking about something in order to see their perspective and how they gonna solve the problem. But, I didn't get the answer, instead they change the topic and avoid to answer because it's make them need to use their brain to think deeper.

EG you can gauge if a woman is an experienced gold digger or inexperienced. if she asks about your bank account she is inexperienced and new to gold digging
if she asks about investment portfolios she is experienced. real experienced people in finance and wealth dont hoard cash in lame bank accounts and if she doesnt know this, that wealthy people dont have money in banks, then she doesnt know wealthy people.

Well, so if she discuss about investment, she's a gold digger?

Honestly it's not wrong to discuss about financial, but I find if men trying to discuss the women's financial, most women can't accept this. I mean discuss about the way to use the money if both of them making money. What I know women doesn't want to give any money that they make to the men, if they give it, it will count as a debt that the men must pay it back.

dont be pushy thinking to expect some 'fun time' at the end of the conversation/date simply because you spent a bit of money on drinks and had a conversation

I'm not, but yeah I should treat it like a social investment.

[ODG001]

Marital conflict is a very diverse topic which of course has causes so deep and broad

I believe some of the popular ones in our society today are Infidelity, Lack of trust, Over-expectation and of course Comparison. Note, these factors are not gender specific

Our modern society is gradually turning marriage into an exercise of unnecessary competition and comparison (between marriage of other friends and family) which isn't healthy for the union. Additionally, lovers in courtship should also discuss those little flaws noticed during the courtship period because it helps address the problems earlier than waiting for it to become an issue first during marriage before takin care of it.

[franky1]

im going to hazard and guess you talk about bitcoin during your first dates, thinking that will impress them with some technical details about your knowledge of it.. dont do that. its not a first date kind of subject. its not going to get their genitals to tingle and desire you

Nope, it's not like that, I'm just asking about something in order to see their perspective and how they gonna solve the problem. But, I didn't get the answer, instead they change the topic and avoid to answer because it's make them need to use their brain to think deeper.

first dates are not the opportunity to test their brain. first dates are to flirt. impress and charm.. if you think you are charming a women by mentioning technicals and hoping she can charm you by getting equally deepfully insightful.. your on the wrong date. thats usually 3-5th date test.
the first date is flirt and small talk. tip-bits of info just to get to know each other. its about knowing your into trading, but not needing to know what hodl means

EG you can gauge if a woman is an experienced gold digger or inexperienced. if she asks about your bank account she is inexperienced and new to gold digging
if she asks about investment portfolios she is experienced. real experienced people in finance and wealth dont hoard cash in lame bank accounts and if she doesnt know this, that wealthy people dont have money in banks, then she doesnt know wealthy people.

Well, so if she discuss about investment, she's a gold digger?

mentioning financials is fine. but if they ask "how much" then thats gold digger-ish.. whereby if asking about bank account, your dealing with a young naive inexperienced unsuccessful gold digger.. where as one that asks about how much you have invested atleast shows she knows enough to know where wealthy guys hide their money, so she probably has gold dug before..
usually the ones making it blindingly obvious they are money hungry lets you know their intentions.. where by the younger naive ones asking about bank. have yet to experience that digger life and are just saying what they were taught in social media.. where as the experienced diggers asking about portfolio. thats the big risk to watch out for. many would call those types the 'black widow' as they are the ones that get in for the money and take it all on the exit. and already have an established experience pattern

Honestly it's not wrong to discuss about financial, but I find if men trying to discuss the women's financial, most women can't accept this. I mean discuss about the way to use the money if both of them making money. What I know women doesn't want to give any money that they make to the men, if they give it, it will count as a debt that the men must pay it back.

talking about how you earn money is fine. talking about how you spend it is fine.. but its more about how the questions are presented.
again communication skills are key
learning the subtle cues. learning how to say things in a certain way. learning what to listen for will help find the best compatible person

there are some women that just refuse to work, but they still want the Gucci handbag and tropical vacation lifestyle though
but they are not the type you will find at a normal local team sports bar. they hang around high end night clubs celebrities attend and bars which the team players of major leagues frequent
this again is about learning where to pick up women to meet certain expectations
this includes which dating apps to use/avoid.

as for figuring out their financial mindset without begging for a bank statement, its subtly thats needed. find out their current living situation. still with parents, or have their own place, do they work or not. obviously not working and still with parents is someone that will want you to pay for everything and also give her an allowance.. where as a independant woman in a well paid job already pays her bills so would be happy to move in with a guy and pay half
 

dont be pushy thinking to expect some 'fun time' at the end of the conversation/date simply because you spent a bit of money on drinks and had a conversation

I'm not, but yeah I should treat it like a social investment.

if you think she owes you because you bought her a drink. thats not a relationship starter already.
treating a date as an investment/debt. where someone needs to give their body as payment, obviously shows you have a lack of understanding love and relationships.
sex should not feel like a debt. it should be a spontaneous desire both want because they enjoy each other. if you cant aim to achieve the flirt and charm. and think the drinks bill will solidify the deal. you have gone wrong already
if your mind is stuck in the "if i pay out, she better put-out" social media false dating tip.. then you are not looking for love/a partner/marriage so just accept you just want casual short fun events. and just look for the short casual fun. where you are not looking to settle yet.

when your mind changes from a debt/delivery arrangement.. and instead a comfort/desire mindset. then start thinking of looking for woman that want more then a few fun nights

[GiftedMAN]

Seeking outsiders advice over family issues that could be resolved between couples. Nothing destroys marriage like telling family relations or friends about what goes on in and out of your marriage. That attitude alone can cause problems in the family because of the different advice given that could affect the family happiness and growth

This is also a vital point that could destroy a peace home husband and wife should understand that they will definitely have issues in marriage but they should try to resolve their issues them instead of seeking for external bodies to come tell them what to do and how to live together as husbands and wives they may end up destroying the marriage because by tomorrow different issues may arise a different person may also be called to settle the disagreement that's how they will keep taking their matters outside until people help them to destroy the marriage.

If you can relate only the good part of your family to your relatives you have a better chance of enjoying your family but when you allow them to step into your family affairs you will regret everything because they will say things that will bring more problems and disunity to the family.

[Promocodeudo]

Seeking outsiders advice over family issues that could be resolved between couples. Nothing destroys marriage like telling family relations or friends about what goes on in and out of your marriage.

May marriage has ended today because of this, there are some matters that outside don't need to hear in marriage, that's why it takes two matures partners that understands themselves to make there marriage work, in my entertaining hear say is one of the factors that causes havock in marriage, it is even funny that some married people seek advise from people that they better of and not married and without experience of what might likely occur in marriage.
Even when you guys see a counselor for marriage counseling or when there's conflicting, you'll notice that  the work load will still be on both couples, you guys will be ask to go back  home to watch things out, improve on somethings you weren't doing right earlier at some point if both partners understand themselves they will know that there is no need of relating things to any outsider when they can actually settle things themselves.

[Dunamisx]

Causes of marital conflict in our society. It is really going weird among our couples today to see the rate of divorce in our society.

I have come to outline the main causes while most couples are leaving there maragise.
1. Financial problems
2. Impotent
3 poor communication
4. Lack of sexual interest
5.lack of trust to each other
6. Family issues
And many more.

Relationship oil must be renewed consistently over time, we can claimed being in love and it does not cost us anything, because it's all about giving even when the partner does not deserve it, taking responsibility for someone is not an easy task to do, because marriage is the only institution that permits for doing this willingly and freely for the purpose of love, don't expect what you don't give in marriage or relationship.

[Accardo]

all these problems can be avoided if there was open communication between two people i truly believe that honesty is the basis of every relationship the couple must not be afraid of making mistakes or doing something wrong as long as there is open communication so they know what their partner wants and needs and what they can do to avoid any of those

Talking things over is the first aid to a broken home. Memories watch down their thoughts or ways they've been helpful to one another in the past. The thing is they assume nothing is working, while things were wrong. Life can be cruel, but little changes grows to bigger chsnge. Therefore, at a constant verbal and emotional response to a spouse's signs and reaction, painful thoughts could be straightened out. The problem would be getting them to talk it over. Nobody's complaints happens to make meaning to the other party.

[franky1]

other communication aids are to have a proper grown up talking time, make it a thursday. this is not a day to fight. but to talk and discuss issues, it can even be as simple as setting the next weeks budget/bills. just have it as a pattern/schedule so that its known/planned and not an abrupt surprise which leads to other issues.
then have a date night on the friday evening. and agree no matter what is said on the thursday you both agree to enjoy a date night on the friday. that way any bad mood created on thursday doesnt last into the weekend but is broke via the following day

the mature talk evening is not a day to intentionally create/invent bad things to say. its not to be used to cause conflict. but a set day that if anything is on your mind it is the opportunity to say it in a setting thats met and agreed that certain things can be said openly and honestly and calmly.
many times people feel afraid to say something because they dont know the best time to say it. so knowing thursday is the right day, you then can just work on how to say it calmly and maturely in the lead-up to thursday.
and if there is no issues to discuss. well atleast kiss and cuddle and use that time