Causes of marital conflict

[Prosofina_G]

Causes of marital conflict in our society. It is really going weird among our couples today to see the rate of divorce in our society.

I have come to outline the main causes while most couples are leaving there maragise.
1. Financial problems
2. Impotent
3 poor communication
4. Lack of sexual interest
5.lack of trust to each other
6. Family issues
And many more.

Let's look at the financial aspects of  life, there is no marriage that will work without money irrespective of the love you have for each other it must boil down to money solving parts of the problem in the marriage.
And a situation where the money is not available to solve those needs there is every tendency of amounting problems.

Infidelity/importent this is also a major concern in marriage, couples can tire apart for lack of children.

Lack of communication in marriage it is very important that you communicate with your wife tell her your day to day activities, discourse with her your plans.

Lack of sexual interest, while will either of you lost interest in making love with your man or woman this can really cause problems in the marriage, there are situations that can lead a man losses interest in his wife maybe being dirty but as a man try and call her to order.

Trust issues: trust is one of the flixable wire in marriage as a couple try so much to build trust to each other only this can make your relationship grow to climate.

Family issues both couples should try so hard to keep their marriage out of there families only that we they achieve a healthy marriage.

Summary as a man or woman before you go into marriage you really need to expand in reasoning and understanding, you equally need to be a little bit financially stable.

[HONDACD125]

Other problems could exist too, but based on my personal observation and experience, I think money is probably the biggest reason for marital conflicts and it is the main driver of problems and fights between spouses. When a person is financially fit and has everything he needs to keep his family happy, there will not be a lot of problems in the family unless there are problems caused by other very specific things that aren't tolerable, but I think, most of the problems get solved with this.

One of the biggest reasons why money causes problems in a relationship is that the man of the house spends most of this time trying to make more money and have a stable financial life, and because of this, they aren't able to give enough time to their wives or family, and then this isn't liked by the family which then becomes the reason for fights and unnecessary conflicts which mostly lead to stuff like divorce or seperation. So if someone has money, they will also have more time to spend with the family.

[Fiatless]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times. Many people now take advice from influencers who are not even experienced in marriage. Instead of seeking means to settle their differences, couples prefer to follow the footsteps of celebrities, which is why there is are high rate of divorce in society. Some women want to live like celebrities, so they put their husbands under financial pressure.     

[Findingnemo]

You left out a very important one, see below




I will stick with money as the main reason for marriages to end, yes we can say there is cheating and an affair or what else but if someone is insanely rich the girl might not be looking ways to leave him unless if she does then she goes away with 50% then she will just create excuses for this to happen.

[Helena Yu]

I agree with the number one, anyway the number one can solve all problems on the list you mentioned above. I will show the proof:

2. Impotent

He can seek the best urologist in this world https://mediglobus.com/ranking-of-the-best-foreign-urology-doctors/

Purchase flight ticket, check in the best hotel, eat whatever you want etc and he can cure his impotent problem.

3 poor communication

Poor communication happen when you have problem and you can't solve it immediately, with money you can solve it.

4. Lack of sexual interest

Since you have money, you can purchase any uniforms, tools, etc including to host porta potty.

5.lack of trust to each other

Lack of trust happen because she not believe in you, if you have money, you can solve any problem, which make her trust you completely.

6. Family issues

Family issues happen because you can't visit them regularly because you spent too much time for working and for your wife/children, well, if you have money you no longer need to work for long, so you will have time to bound with family.

[Salahmu]

Other problems could exist too, but based on my personal observation and experience, I think money is probably the biggest reason for marital conflicts and it is the main driver of problems and fights between spouses. When a person is financially fit and has everything he needs to keep his family happy, there will not be a lot of problems in the family unless there are problems caused by other very specific things that aren't tolerable, but I think, most of the problems get solved with this.

Yeah there is nothing like money in all of the things that marriages need, not that having only money everything is settled definitely contrary that because money has it purpose and other things also have were they are keeping the marriage, the only reason why money is the major is because every other components depends on the money, the role money plays on the society is also the same way it plays on the marriage because it attributes respect and gives your spouse the confident of being proud of the person. Communication is also important because that's were feelings are usually unveiled because it is through communication you would avoid so many things op has listed including the low desire of sex and also inpatient because you would only no what someone is doing before you can be patient about it.

[franky1]

1. Financial problems

there is no marriage that will work without money irrespective of the love

this is not true

there are people with disabilities or other issues were they never were able to work or earn substantial income, but they find devoted love, even on menial income of social security income or minimum/part time wage
there are homeless couples that love and are devoted to each other to stay with each other even at lifes lowest

what you actually find is when couples meet and get serious at a certain level of lifestyle standard.. but that changes negatively. it is the change of circumstance/lifestyle expectation that is the cause of the conflict and loss of trust/respect that can lead to the split

i would say the main contributing factor to causes of marital conflict is:

3 poor communication

this should be number 1

because during the early stages of a relationship, communication is key. getting to know each others desires, wishes, limitations and objectional things is where people should find their perfect match to even decide to marry each other..

knowing if someone is only with you due to high lifestyle standard or finances, would fail if lifestyle/financial situation changed, so should be no surprise and should be no conflict if such change happens if you already knew this expectation

things like if the other partner expects to start a family. but one partner is sterile, infertile, impotent. this is something that should be communicated early on

lack of sexual interest. this is communication too. knowing when the other person is in the intimate mood or to know how to engage or trigger intimacy by knowing the other persons desires.. even being told that someone needs to workout/diet to stay in attractive form..

lack of trust is part of lack of communication.. one becomes the other.. like a viscous circle

not communicating feelings or observations about each others family and not resolving them early can manifest and get worse over time

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 in short no marriage will survive with poor communication, every marriage has a chance of surviving and lasting with good communication. or atleast with good communication it can avoid it leading to conflict and instead have a amicable separation without verbal conflict.

[uneng]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times. Many people now take advice from influencers who are not even experienced in marriage. Instead of seeking means to settle their differences, couples prefer to follow the footsteps of celebrities, which is why there is are high rate of divorce in society. Some women want to live like celebrities, so they put their husbands under financial pressure.     

That is a big issue, as people let external opinions influence their relationships. Wife is put against husband and vice versa by strange people on social medias (the so called influencers) or even by family members, religious leaders and work's colleagues. It's consequence of a weak personality, character and self-confidence. The modern human being lacks self-knowledge, as he doesn't know himself, so he ends being manipulated by any charlatans who cross their way on daily life.

Better to be alone than by the side of an individual who will turn against you at anytime for banal reasons, due to external shady influences.

[franky1]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times. Many people now take advice from influencers who are not even experienced in marriage. Instead of seeking means to settle their differences, couples prefer to follow the footsteps of celebrities, which is why there is are high rate of divorce in society. Some women want to live like celebrities, so they put their husbands under financial pressure.     

That is a big issue, as people let external opinions influence their relationships. Wife is put against husband and vice versa by strange people on social medias (the so called influencers) or even by family members, religious leaders and work's colleagues. It's consequence of a weak personality, character and self-confidence. The modern human being lacks self-knowledge, as he doesn't know himself, so he ends being manipulated by any charlatans who cross their way on daily life.

Better to be alone than by the side of an individual who will turn against you at anytime for banal reasons, due to external shady influences.

sounds like a communication issue.. again communication is number 1 factor that helps/hinders a relationship

[passwordnow]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times.     

I agree. Social media also plays a big role of marital conflicts. Because of how easy it is to communicate with other people makes people easy to cheat with their partners. Also, the influence of content creators that are into sexy contents make their viewers vulnerable and sets a new standard for them. Because of how all of those tiktok dancing and other contents that are from the women that are free to be seen there. The simps that are married are looking for the same attraction from those content creators and if it's not with their partners, they're looking for someone else.

[SmartGold01]

There is one thing I have ever learned in marriage is that you or your partner must not have 100 percent quality that you deserves in each others but what makes marriage effectively is "That very common thing that made you like or love your partner" only if you must still hold on that then I assure a successful marriage. Listen, any woman or man who must be productive and hardworking must not give his or her family all attention needed that is why you found most men working outside countries, while some men works in rig where they wouldn't give their family that attention needed but talking about finance you would see them providing it to their wife and children. So, In marriage they must chose the most important once, Sexual satisfaction, and finance. This is the common things that holds marriages today, and of course every woman loves money and also love to be satisfied as well.

[o48o]

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Most problems you can solve by good communication, and if that communication doesn't help and you can't find a working solution, it doesn't matter what the problems is, because it's a clear that you are not a good match and then divorcing might be a good solution for everyone.

And how is divorcing rate growth weird? Because people now have an option to choose to either live under oppression of abusive spouse, loveless marriage, in marriage where communication isn't working or find someone better suited for them Why should anyone stay in bad marriage, with problems they can't solve, or live with?

[AmaGold70]

The rate of divorce in our generation now makes me wonder how the older generation worked out their differences in marriage because they lasted longer in marriage unlike this modern age, could it be social media or gender equality that is causing the conflicts in marriages now? Our ancestors lived without social media and they were happy and contented but now it's the other way round. Everyone wants to be heard and no one is listening, and gender equality isn't making it easy, everyone wants to be the head and in charge of their marriage but they forget the instructions given to us about husband and wife in the Bible. The Bible says that a wife should submit their selves to the husband and the husband should love their wife as Christ loves the church.

[Zanab247]

Poverty: Some of the marriage that is experiencing conflict in the society today is because the woman is not bring anything to the table to support the man or the man is not bring anything to the table to support the woman. Check those marriages that is working well in your society you will agree with me that, both the husband and wife are supporting each other financially and materially to make sure children don't lack what to eat, drink, wear and spend.

Cheating: In my society, some of the marriages that is facing conflicts are those marriage both husband and wife are not truthful to each other from the beginning of the marriage, and it can destroy home, because there is nothing anyone can do for the favor of the family that will make one love what he or she do than to have some doubt.

[rodskee]

all these problems can be avoided if there was open communication between two people i truly believe that honesty is the basis of every relationship the couple must not be afraid of making mistakes or doing something wrong as long as there is open communication so they know what their partner wants and needs and what they can do to avoid any of those

[mvdheuvel1983]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times. Many people now take advice from influencers who are not even experienced in marriage. Instead of seeking means to settle their differences, couples prefer to follow the footsteps of celebrities, which is why there is are high rate of divorce in society. Some women want to live like celebrities, so they put their husbands under financial pressure.     

This is true social media has done a lot damages in the relationships and marriages and the recent marital crisis is as the result of those  who has chosen the social media as their home to get information to run their family affairs the GenZ marriages are the ones who are fond of taking advice from influencers who were either married ane divorced or those who has never been married in their life before so you should not be surprised when you see them giving wrong information that will help others destroy their home the best thing is to avoid your wife from listening to them because if you don't you should be ready to end your marriage.

[franky1]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times.    

This is true social media has done a lot damages in the relationships and marriages and the recent marital crisis is as the result of those

here in the UK:

Divorce rates in the UK have significantly increased since 1950, with the number of divorces rising from around 20,000 in the late 1950s to a peak of over 160,000 by the early 1980s, partly due to the Divorce Reform Act of 1969. After peaking in 1993, the divorce rate in England and Wales has fallen by over 40% since then, reaching rates comparable to the early 1970s by 2022

social media was not available 1970-2000
however the divorce reform act(1969) allowed divorce for too simple a reason, followed by the matrimonial and family proceedings act(1984) which meant instead of communicating and sorting out issues, people just decided to run away from responsibility... basically it became easier to ask for a divorce rather than ask each other what is wrong and what needs to change

communication is key. if you cant open up to your partner and tell them whats on your mind, they were not the right person for you.
try to find that person you can open up to and speak your mind openly to, and marry them. dont just marry the first piece of meat on 2 legs that you find visibly interested in
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the marriage reform also has been the main cause of couples deciding not to marry/re-marry


men used to remarry again which is why the make statistic is higher than females. but by recent stats, now male/females both equally choose not to remarry or are equal in their remarriage statistics
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another interesting statistic is. out of gay/lesbian unions/marriages.. male(gay) marriages survive longer then female(lesbian) marriages

take that information as you will

[Solosanz]

It's simple, people change.

I actually think marriage isn't something that must be last forever, it's more make sense marriage is just a long term relationship.

Take a look with yourself, I'm sure you always change something, it might be the way you style yourself, your hobby, the place you live etc. Why you didn't just stuck at the same place forever? the same applies with marriage.

That's why, before people want to get married, always give a place for preparation if you guys broke up.

[Ishicryptic]

Social media has contributed to the high level of marital problems in recent times. Many people now take advice from influencers who are not even experienced in marriage. Instead of seeking means to settle their differences, couples prefer to follow the footsteps of celebrities, which is why there is are high rate of divorce in society. Some women want to live like celebrities, so they put their husbands under financial pressure.     

That is a big issue, as people let external opinions influence their relationships. Wife is put against husband and vice versa by strange people on social medias (the so called influencers) or even by family members, religious leaders and work's colleagues. It's consequence of a weak personality, character and self-confidence. The modern human being lacks self-knowledge, as he doesn't know himself, so he ends being manipulated by any charlatans who cross their way on daily life.

Better to be alone than by the side of an individual who will turn against you at anytime for banal reasons, due to external shady influences.

sounds like a communication issue.. again communication is number 1 factor that helps/hinders a relationship

Communication is key in any relationship, where there is no communication the couples will always assume something about their spouse and as long as they don't talk frankly about it the relationship will be affected. Every couple needs to define how they want their relationship and they should not compare themselves to another couple, they have to find what will work for their marriage. When a couple gets it right in their communication they can be able to put into perspective issues like finance and other areas of their marriage. Finally tolerance is important in a marriage, nobody is perfect but if the relationship is toxic a partner can take a walk to save their life.

[KingsDen]

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Most problems you can solve by good communication, and if that communication doesn't help and you can't find a working solution, it doesn't matter what the problems is, because it's a clear that you are not a good match and then divorcing might be a good solution for everyone....

It's fine that you emphasized on "good communication". Some marriages fail not because they do not communicate, but because the community skill of the couple is too low, especially that of the man.
It's quite surprising how some guys will talk to a woman for minutes, yet the woman seems not satisfied. A man should posses enough mental power to be able to convince his woman to trust his judgement at any time.
I am not saying that men should manipulate the woman, No. But a man should be able to give a woman tangible reasons not to misbehave.

Beyond sexual attraction, men should marry women that are morally compatible with them.