Primary purpose for marriage

[Tungbulu]

This idea of finding the right partner is where the problem in marriage is, women I know appears to be one of the most tricky set of beings on earth that can never be understood at all time. A woman may be loyal and submissive for years when she has a hidden agenda you can't notice in her character until its time to unlish that devil in them.

But marriage is sweet and enjoyable when one is with the right person because everyday will always be a sweet day as you know in all situations you have a partner that will stand by you to say go am with you. If this kind of partner is seen , then alone can I believe marriage is not centred on reproduction alone

The most complicated part of the whole thing is that no one can truly know the intentions of the next person before marriage, they say that’s why we have courtship, a time to get to know each other, but the truth is that, there’s only so much you can know about your partner during this period. So what matters more is paying attention to consistency overtime and not just relying on first impressions or mere words. Communication also matters a lot in a healthy marriage, as this helps also in handling disagreements and avoid turning every single problem into a question of loyalty.

[Taricoins]

i feel marriage is not only about having children there are several other factors that constitute it. if childbearing was the main purpose, then marriages without kids would be considered failures!!! but that is not true. many couples stay happy together even without children i can testify to that. the foundation of marriage should be companionship, love, support and partnership between two mature people. children are a blessing when they come but they should not be the only reason to marry or stay married. the truth is that some people are not able to have children and others choose not to. that does not make their marriage less meaningful.

I think there are two school of thoughts on the purpose of marriage depending of what you believe in, the first is the Christian narrative which is marrying for the important purpose of raising God's children and the other benefits are added attachments whilst the social view is the one you have started, for companionship, growth and a life long friend.

From the Christian view, marriage with out childbirth doesn't mean the marriage isn't valid, there are still other options like adoption or other medical alternatives, the underlying statement is raising God's children.

[Mr Reporter]

This idea of finding the right partner is where the problem in marriage is, women I know appears to be one of the most tricky set of beings on earth that can never be understood at all time. A woman may be loyal and submissive for years when she has a hidden agenda you can't notice in her character until its time to unlish that devil in them.

But marriage is sweet and enjoyable when one is with the right person because everyday will always be a sweet day as you know in all situations you have a partner that will stand by you to say go am with you. If this kind of partner is seen , then alone can I believe marriage is not centred on reproduction alone

The most complicated part of the whole thing is that no one can truly know the intentions of the next person before marriage, they say that’s why we have courtship, a time to get to know each other, but the truth is that, there’s only so much you can know about your partner during this period. So what matters more is paying attention to consistency overtime and not just relying on first impressions or mere words. Communication also matters a lot in a healthy marriage, as this helps also in handling disagreements and avoid turning every single problem into a question of loyalty.

Actually marriage is complicated when you choose the wrong step and especially not knowing deeply about your spouse or not in courtship for so long and you jump into it will be like you are in a cage for the rest of your life, and marriage is also sweet with the right partner, the both just depend on who you get into with, when mistake is done in marriage no going back except you divorce the person, and I will say in marriage their should be more communication and responsibility to take and for people who see marriage as the worst thing ever will never want to get married just to have who will carry their baby, so before going into marriage seek advice so yours will not fall apart too.

[Judith87403]

This idea of finding the right partner is where the problem in marriage is, women I know appears to be one of the most tricky set of beings on earth that can never be understood at all time. A woman may be loyal and submissive for years when she has a hidden agenda you can't notice in her character until its time to unlish that devil in them.

But marriage is sweet and enjoyable when one is with the right person because everyday will always be a sweet day as you know in all situations you have a partner that will stand by you to say go am with you. If this kind of partner is seen , then alone can I believe marriage is not centred on reproduction alone

The most complicated part of the whole thing is that no one can truly know the intentions of the next person before marriage, they say that’s why we have courtship, a time to get to know each other, but the truth is that, there’s only so much you can know about your partner during this period. So what matters more is paying attention to consistency overtime and not just relying on first impressions or mere words. Communication also matters a lot in a healthy marriage, as this helps also in handling disagreements and avoid turning every single problem into a question of loyalty.

The truth is just that marriage is not as easy as our parents made it look like because we just grew up seeing our Mum and Dad together but we do not understand the challenges they have faced over the years while we were growing up. Marriage is made up of two strangers, of course it will take even the rest of the marriage for both partners to discover themselves. However, people are getting married just because they feel they have approached an age to get married but they do not pay attention to the mental and emotional stress that marriage presents. People are also getting married for silly reasons that is why you see many marriages crashing today. Someone will just get married because the other partner has a car, the next person is getting married because their partner is beautiful and some others are getting married just because their partner is good in bed or can cook very well but they never paid attention to long term behaviours that can keep them together even if they have a misunderstanding.

[Hazink]

Procreation of course, but the other part of the meaning is that everyone has their own point of view in assessing the purpose of marriage, not least for business purposes or other things that are intended by someone.
Are you married? Considering that the standard of marriage is now quite strange among young people, there is too much standardization that even their generation has difficulty reaching that standard.

The more expectations people have in marriage, the more they might likely remain single in life. Marriage is supposed to be something where which two people come together to share love. Children are also supposed to be part of that love, but I personally see it as parties locating to look after each other during their time on earth no many expectations from one another as long as they are happy with each other some people grow old without having children.

[Mr Reporter]

The truth is just that marriage is not as easy as our parents made it look like because we just grew up seeing our Mum and Dad together but we do not understand the challenges they have faced over the years while we were growing up. Marriage is made up of two strangers, of course it will take even the rest of the marriage for both partners to discover themselves. However, people are getting married just because they feel they have approached an age to get married but they do not pay attention to the mental and emotional stress that marriage presents. People are also getting married for silly reasons that is why you see many marriages crashing today. Someone will just get married because the other partner has a car, the next person is getting married because their partner is beautiful and some others are getting married just because their partner is good in bed or can cook very well but they never paid attention to long term behaviours that can keep them together even if they have a misunderstanding.

Your comment really sound so matured with a good perspective..but back then we only saw the results of our parents marriages but not the process, and back then the human thinking was a different one back then you would see a girl to get married to with out having a well paid job by she believes in you that tou have a lighting future,  We failed to understand the concept and didn't see the sleepless nights, the compromises, the forgiveness they had to offer each other to stay together and this is what marriage means but in this our generation people see marriage as a way as for the lady's to bear children full filled just future possibilities.

[Tungbulu]

The truth is just that marriage is not as easy as our parents made it look like because we just grew up seeing our Mum and Dad together but we do not understand the challenges they have faced over the years while we were growing up. Marriage is made up of two strangers, of course it will take even the rest of the marriage for both partners to discover themselves. However, people are getting married just because they feel they have approached an age to get married but they do not pay attention to the mental and emotional stress that marriage presents. People are also getting married for silly reasons that is why you see many marriages crashing today. Someone will just get married because the other partner has a car, the next person is getting married because their partner is beautiful and some others are getting married just because their partner is good in bed or can cook very well but they never paid attention to long term behaviours that can keep them together even if they have a misunderstanding.

One thing that often gets overlooked here is how people tend to handle disagreements before marriage. Things like attraction, money, cooking skills and some other qualities may actually succeed in bringing two people together, but we need to understand that no matter how much or how strong the love is among the two people, conflict is still inevitable and the way the both partners communicate or react towards each other during time of conflict and disagreements reveals so much about how compatible they’ll be in the longer run. If you really wanna know who a person really is, then the best time to find out is when they’re angry, how they handle accountability and difficult conversations as these reveals more about a person than when everything is just going well.