I am still quite new to using lightning despite knowing its been developing quickly for some years. Recently I have installed the Wallet of Satoshi and then quickly Phoenix wallet to get self custody which I am very much enjoying. As it happens my town has 5 or 6 businesses that will take lightning as payment.
FYI Phoenix Wallet doesn't let you connect to your own node, so you may want to reconsider what you want to do.
Can I connect to any node? Can I connect to my own node?Phoenix has been designed for less technical users, who don't know or want to run an always-on Lightning node on a server or to manage channels, with sensible trade-offs for those users.
There is
some trust involved with Phoenix, which would make connecting to random nodes on the internet unsafe.
On the other hand, if you have the technical knowledge to run your own always-on Lightning node (therefore removing the trust assumption), then you do not need other trade-offs made with Phoenix and would be better off with a "remote-control" app to your Lightning node. This is a valid setup for more advanced users, who are not the target audience for Phoenix.
My personal advice is to skip Umbrel Home completely, that is unless you want convenience tax. A used mini-PC + 1 TB SSD beats a Pi on I/O and lasts longer than SD cards. Run over Tor and put it on a cheap UPS.
I agree Umbrel Home is rather pricey. But looking at
https://umbrel.com/umbrel-home, it's not based on Pi and doesn't use SD card either. It's very similar with other mini PC, where it use NVMe SSD instead and Intel N150.