Marrying a young woman

[Obulis]

It started when you're 46 & she's 20
A man of 46 year old marries a 20 year old girl.
Fourteen (14) years in marriage, 46 to 20 becomes 60 to 34.
 Your hair already Grey. Sleeping on the same bed. you fart uncontrollably with decaying brown teeth and sleeps randomly at night.
What would be her reaction internally and externally?
What will be the effect of this affect in the marriage?

[BADecker]

Age difference doesn't matter to people who are dedicated to each other and to their promise. You can find all kinds of examples of what happens no matter the age difference.

Think of what it must be like when the families decide who is going to marry whom before the kids even exist in Mommy's tummy yet.

[programmer3666]

the honest truth is that age gaps in marriage can work but they also kind of bring challenges!!! because at the beginning, the difference may not feel too big but as the years pass the physical and lifestyle gap becomes more noticeable. a young woman in her 30s may still be very active both socially and otherwise , while her husband in his 60s might already face health issues because the engine would have loss some strength . her reaction will depend on the foundation of the marriage!! if love, respect and understanding are strong! she may accept the changes and stay committed but if the marriage was built only on attraction or material things, then surely the frustration could grow out of propotion.

[IjawMan]

What would be her reaction internally and externally?
What will be the effect of this affect in the marriage?

The op shares a correlation with the trending topic on X and all social media platforms in my country about a lady name Regina Daniel who through parental influence in 2018  married some man Ned Woko presently 64 yo as told, who by age difference ought to be a grandfather of the lady. At the time she was made to marry the man rumours has it that her age was inflated to 21 yo so she can buy law able to marry.

To shorten long story, as I'm writing this she has asked for a dissolution of the marriage most of which is caused by age difference and feeling of insecurity from the husband on her. Most of the problems of wide marriage gap causality are that the man will begin to feel that the younger wife may be having a side guy behind the scene. And from there trust is broken causing problems and social tensions.

Many a times the young women marry this older men for their money and as the age grow older the ladies began to have a withdrawal sensation and emotions because at a point you must get tired and will want to rest fresh blood. The prevention to all this is that whenever you want to marry, marry right and not for situational reasons because situations are subject to change.

[passwordnow]

It started when you're 46 & she's 20
A man of 46 year old marries a 20 year old girl.
Fourteen (14) years in marriage, 46 to 20 becomes 60 to 34.
 Your hair already Grey. Sleeping on the same bed. you fart uncontrollably with decaying brown teeth and sleeps randomly at night.
What would be her reaction internally and externally?
What will be the effect of this affect in the marriage?

As long as you love each other, her reaction doesn't matter. It could be a joke if you find some offensive reactions from her, don't take it personally because it means that both of you are confident with each other and that's why what could be odd reactions during those intimate moments or me-time together are just plain reactions because of being comfortable to each other. I think that moments like that should be treasured and that shows how you love each other, I don't think it will affect marriage unless one is very sensitive but guess what mostly affect marriage? money, time, and being close to other people which is the opposite gender. Because that creates jealousy.

[Bigjoe158]

If there is love then i don't see all those things you listed as a problem. If she was forcefully given out for marriage then All those you listed would be problem. I have seen were a man of then he was 40yrs and the girl though grew up in the village she was 18yrs old then but they grew up loving each other. If a rich man marries a young woman do you think the woman will complain? Even with all the listed errors associated with age , the woman will not live her husband

[retaur]

I've seen weirdly big age gaps in marriages and they've been fine... I've seen relationships and marriages without age gaps too and they've also worked out.

I think it's less the age and more your take on life or your hobbies or roles aligning more than anything. Compatibility is rarely summed up by age. Women usually outlive their spouses too...