How do you evaluate that you're still gambling responsibly?

[DubemIfedigbo001]

I was advising a junior colleague who obviously is gambling excessively with respect to his earnings and in self defense he pointed out to me some others who were worse than himself as a vindication of his own already bad practice.

Of a truth, the people he referred to are 5X worse than him and it was obvious they started from his level and degraded to a worse condition. I tried pointing out to him that measuring excessive gambling is a self evaluation with respect to your finances and not using others as a yardstick of measurement but he dismissed my with the words "As long as I'm not yet gambling like these guys, I'm fine".

I'm sure this mindset exists especially among friends who are into gambling and I decided to bring it up here for discussion.

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

[rakebit]

I usually check two things, control and balance. If I’m sticking to my set bankroll and not chasing losses, that’s a good sign. Once gambling starts affecting mood or daily focus, it’s time to pause.

Do you use any tracking tools or just rely on self-checks to stay responsible?

[DubemIfedigbo001]

Do you use any tracking tools or just rely on self-checks to stay responsible?

Nope, I don't see tracking tools as necessary, I practice these methods: discipline, relegation and separation of concerns

On discipline I make sure that I'm sticking to a budget and that I identify the total amounts I wish to spend on gambling until me next income since my income isn't fixed.

On Relegation, I ensure that gambling is set to the last activity on my to do list, preferable at night, so as not to interfere with productive time.

On Separation of concern I use a different account to hold my budgeted gambling funds for the week or month as the case may be and ASAP the funds are depleted, that signals the end of gambling for that period until the next inflow.

I used to be like this my friend when I was a student and lived with my gambler friends but addiction taught me an unforgettable lesson.

[Solosanz]

Say this "Two wrongs don't make a right".

It's clear that your junior colleague is on the way to become an addict because he lost an argument against you, instead of explain and pointing out if he's fine with his gambling portion, he use someone to compare him.

If he want to compare, he should compare with a high self control gambler.

[crwth]

I was advising a junior colleague who obviously is gambling excessively with respect to his earnings and in self defense he pointed out to me some others who were worse than himself as a vindication of his own already bad practice.

I don't think it's wise to show and compare yourself with other people in how they are doing their gambling routines. You should compare yourself with yourself if it's okay.

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

This isn't going to be helpful to your goal of responsible gambling. It's only you who can determine if its excessive.

[Rruchi man]

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

I think it is very dangerous to use others as a reference to evaluate your level of responsible gambling because at a point where they have degraded to a level further than the level you were referencing, it may be unfortunate that you may find yourself in that position that you were formally referencing even without your own knowledge.

It is best that your evaluation be done with the present and previous states. Most gamblers started gambling as very responsible gamblers and deviated as they kept gambling. If you evaluate some changes in your method of gambling now from before, you may just be able to tell and see the changes in your gambling attitude and know if you are drifting far from responsible gambling or even getting more responsible in your gambling habits.

[Findingnemo]

My gambling didn't affect my ability to pay my bills and I guess that is enough to conclude that I am not addicted to it and I keep my gambling activity in moderation.

And some people just use that tactic to shift the blame onto others. I am addicted, but others are addicted to worse, which doesn't make any difference because once an addict will likely be an addict.

[SmartGold01]

I'm sure this mindset exists especially among friends who are into gambling and I decided to bring it up here for discussion.

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

This is where most people gets it wrongly as to compares themselves with another person knowing too well that everyone has their own grace and luck, and again, anyone who is made doesn't know that others are not mad like him. In context what I am trying to see is that he would never wait to see himself getting worse like those his friends before he will adjust his way of gambling. As gamble if is always advisable to keep a safe gambling practice than becoming addicted to gambling where it will starts affecting your mental state and sense of reasoning.

[Royal Cap]

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

People usually always point fingers at others to justify their bad habits or mistakes. They find comfort in thinking, He is worse than me, I am not that bad. But in reality, it does not help rather they gradually start going down the same path.
In my opinion, the limits of responsible gambling or any other habit should be set based on your income, time and mental state not on someone else's behavior. Because everyone's situation is different, some have more ability, some have less. If you play beyond your ability, then it will bring risks no matter how much you say you are not as bad as others.

How do you measure yours?

I think the real criterion should be self criticism. You should make decisions keeping in mind these three things, your financial situation, mental stress and family responsibilities.

[Odohu]

When losing does not make me cry neither does it stop me from meeting my obligations, I think that is gambling responsibly. The instance described in this post are people dealing with various levels of addiction. They should not be used as reference for responsible gambling because they are doing it wrongly.

[MAAManda]

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

It's not right if we refer to other people to measure ourselves, that's because we have different backgrounds. When someone else loses $1K, it might be a small loss, but if it were us, we might consider it a big loss. That's a simple example of the background I mean. When lifestyle changes for the worse after being introduced to gambling, I think we can categorize it as an addiction.

[ShowOff]

I was advising a junior colleague who obviously is gambling excessively with respect to his earnings and in self defense he pointed out to me some others who were worse than himself as a vindication of his own already bad practice.

Of a truth, the people he referred to are 5X worse than him and it was obvious they started from his level and degraded to a worse condition. I tried pointing out to him that measuring excessive gambling is a self evaluation with respect to your finances and not using others as a yardstick of measurement but he dismissed my with the words "As long as I'm not yet gambling like these guys, I'm fine".

I'm sure this mindset exists especially among friends who are into gambling and I decided to bring it up here for discussion.

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

In any matter, comparing oneself to others is fundamentally mistaken, especially when it comes to gambling and its levels of addiction. Some people may be able to allocate a larger budget for gambling simply because they have higher incomes, while others are not in the same financial position. Therefore, the reasonable limit for gambling expenses will naturally differ from one person to another, and so will the consequences that arise from it.

I think the same applies in terms of time, you shouldn’t compare how long you spend gambling with others either. Those who spend more time gambling might simply be unemployed or have fewer responsibilities. This should be quite easy for any gambler to understand. Meaningful benchmarks are things like emotional control and acting responsibly, not comparing who makes the most mistakes.

[Perfectbaby]

When losing does not make me cry neither does it stop me from meeting my obligations, I think that is gambling responsibly. The instance described in this post are people dealing with various levels of addiction. They should not be used as reference for responsible gambling because they are doing it wrongly.

I wonder why people think this way while they are also going badly and where they will start using another person to measure themselves as still on safer side of gambling. People should learn to know where they should stop gambling or continue gambling as I know whenever someone is so much desperate about winning or eager chasing particular bet then you should know that such person wouldn't waste time becoming an addicted gambler. Gambling to meet up demands or as an ends meet can really affect as also but if there is proper time management, funds management then it becomes that easier for them not to gamble out of proportion.

[Byebyebtc]

No, it's totally wrong because you don't really know what's going on in another person's life and you should be considered about your own bank role and mental health, compeering yourself with other is just a deceiving act, and continuing in such manner will make you even look more like them on a long run.

at least I am not like them, but you are doing what they do will have you a higher probability to look more like them, you're not just like them yet, its better you stop.

[Orpichukwu]

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

This isn't going to be helpful to your goal of responsible gambling. It's only you who can determine if its excessive.

100% true. Everyone has their own positions, their risk tolerance as well as bankroll management skills and approach, and this is pretty much what contributes to your skills and approach, and like we know, your approach tells a lot about whether or not you’re responsible. So using another gambler’s personal experience as a way to measure yourself isn’t advisable as this may not give you the answer you’re looking for.

[Su-asa]

As a matter of fact it is not right to compare yourself with other gamblers because it does more harm than good as a gambler. If you think the other is more worse than you then it will probably make you continue to gamble even when you don't have what to risk anymore. I think it's wise to always measure with your bankroll. What I mean is that when you check your balance and you have have what you can afford to risk them you should better stop immediately to avoid excessive loss and addiction.

[tabas]

I was advising a junior colleague who obviously is gambling excessively with respect to his earnings and in self defense he pointed out to me some others who were worse than himself as a vindication of his own already bad practice.

Of a truth, the people he referred to are 5X worse than him and it was obvious they started from his level and degraded to a worse condition. I tried pointing out to him that measuring excessive gambling is a self evaluation with respect to your finances and not using others as a yardstick of measurement but he dismissed my with the words "As long as I'm not yet gambling like these guys, I'm fine".

I'm sure this mindset exists especially among friends who are into gambling and I decided to bring it up here for discussion.

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

That's his way of comparison and that's why it's best not to meddle with someone's gambling activity or else, you'll be answered with how they prefer it to be. I don't evaluate myself based with how others do, I can accept my faults and how bad gambler am I. And I don't want to get triggered with anyone who's trying to remind me or give some good thoughts, I'll accept them happily but you cannot please everyone with how you're going to give your feed back on how they gamble because you'll never know how much they have lost and out of nowhere you'll talk to them about stopping with so much loss even if you are only concerned for them.

[Wiwo]

Majority of us failed to point ourselves to some obvious truth and for sure this affects us so much in a way that most times we regret why we took such actions,  i remember sometimes in the past that i do allow my addictions to influence my actions,  some of those times i spend everything thinking that i will recover from my loses.

The most useless things to do as a person is to allow your emotions to drive you in terms of making decisions and following up with the trends of the moment.

[Fiatless]

Financial evaluation in gambling should be done by determining how much you earn and the percentage you allocate to gambling. If you gamble with an amount that affects your financial responsibilities in other basic areas, then you should have to readjust. Comparing yourself with another person is wrong. This is because you might not have the same income, goals, responsibilities,, and needs. Responsible gambling is using amounts that doesnot have a negative effect on your finance.

So if I am struggling to pay my bills and save for investment because of my gambling expenses, thats irresponsible gambling.

[Cointxz]

Do you think it's right to reference to others as a yardstick to evaluate your level of responsible gambling?

How do you measure yours?

There’s no way I can use others gambling status as basis on my own since we have different risk tolerance and finances. Others loss doesn’t mean it has same effect on me.

For example, if a millionaire loss a 2K$ he will not feel it and still he gamble responsibly since he can afford to lose this money but in my case it’s already not affordable so I’m not gambling responsibly anymore.

I measure it through the money I lose comparing it to my allowable bankroll based on my salary percentage.