Why some women stand by men during struggles, yet the man later mistreats her.

[Queen uloma]

‎In our society today you will understand that may young lady have face alot of heartbreak, and disappointment, all because of trying to be an understanding woman when the man was poor, broke and had nothing to contribute, not until things started turning out well, you will now realize that she's the problem.
‎As a man you're not supposed to go into any relationship when you have nothing that gives you money monthly or weekly, you can't keep a lady for years to stand by you,  after you've become successful that's when you will feel that she's not a good person , that's when you will be  calling her a liability, I have been in such situation before, and I have decided never in my life will I grow with any guy, make your money yourself before you look for a girl, as a lady we need to wise up, have something to do rather than depending on man for survival.

[Frankolala]

It happens to both sex. I have seen a guy that had a business and saw this beautiful girl he loves. He told her he wants to get married to her. She accepted in only one condition that he will allow her go to the university. The guy accepted and trained the girl till she graduated. She dumped him for her course mate in school. A relationship is not marriage and both parties can do whatever, they like when they don't love each other.

[Itz-prisigold]

This isn't just about the guys having a girl who stands by them while they struggle. This goes both ways. Sometimes a partner supports you during your toughest moments,  when you have nothing,  confused and still trying to find direction,  this person will  give you their time,  love,  patience and emotional support, only for the tables to turn once things start improving.  To me, that just goes to show that they never valued from the beginning.   See someone that truly respects you will never forget the role you played in their journey.

What I have learned is that no one,  be it  guys or girls,  should enter a serious relationship without having at least some level of personal stability.  When you have nothing going for you in life, that just leaves the other to have so much pressure on them, while also getting dependent on them, and then eventually just plain getting resentful of that person.  Even  when they become successful,  so many line up stories to just rewrite history and treat the person who was there for them as a burden.

We  all just need to wise up.  Don't put your whole life on pause just because you want to "grow with"  someone else, whether you be a guy or a girl, just have your own goals, your own money and your own identity. Yeah, it feels good to have somebody behind you but not if it's going to cost the value of your personality or your future prospects. See  a balanced relationship depends on both partners growing together, putting their effort together,  and always value each other,  it is not written anywhere that only one person should be giving  their all while the other person will be acting as if it's their entitlement.

[Agbamoni]

In this world, love comes with pretence a lot. It will take only luck to find someone who you are compaitble with, both in good and bad times. I think it is the main reason why the bible emphaisze on marriage. Because marriage is the only union where both the man and woman will stay with each other both i easy and difficult times. However, marriage has it own flaws which is divorce. We have seen high rate of diveroce in the western countries nowardays.