It's all rape. Why? Because the woman who asks for it, and then gets it, never gets it exactly the way she wants it.

How do you mean, are you insinuating that women also ask to be raped? Rape is rape no two ways. If a woman asks for sex, then it's no longer rape. I hope we are not attempting to give any justification for rape because it's a total violation of right or choice of women. Even a relationship between lovers or even husband and wife relationship should not encourage forced sex. Whenever it is forced, rape occurs. A woman may choose to conceal the act maybe because she wouldn't have a defence, but then being married doesn't imply being in sex slavery and being a sex toy.
The world keeps getting more civilised everyday and laws keep backing acts up. There's no justification for illegalities or inhumane behaviour against any gender. But then rape is not only committed against women, it goes both ways.