Take accountability

[Alpha Marine]

An attitude I despise most is not taking accountability for your actions. People who, no matter the situation and the outcome, it is never their fault (except it works out well). They can never take responsibility for their actions.
If they fail a course, it's the professor's fault. If Bitcoin's price dips and their investment dip, they blame the person who introduced them to Bitcoin. They even go as far as blaming casinos or betting companies for their losses.
This attitude can be seen across all areas of life. It's in parents, too. They don't take accountability for the outcome of their children. A child grew up in your house for 15-16 years, and he turns out to be a thief, and somehow it's not your fault?
You see parents blaming the parents for why the kids' grades are dropping, and at the same time, the parents are blaming the teacher for not doing their job right.
It's in the politicians and government officials, too. You hardly ever see a politician taking responsibility for a bad outcome. They blame everybody else, but themselves. Blame others for the high crime rate, inflation, unemployment, and whatever else. But they will be quick to take credit for the good things.

A society where people don't take accountability will only keep getting worse.
As a person, you should be able to look at a situation and know that "I could have done better" instead of having an "I did my best" attitude all the time.

[Roseline492]

I have seen this attitude a lot but a lot of them you said are caused by communication, especially the parents blaming teachers and teachers doing the same thing because of there children, if there was communication they would have known whom that was supposed to be blame, if a teachers saw a child that was having a good grade and soon they started reducing, the teacher is supposed to visit the home of the child to discuss with the parents or perhaps he or she ask the parents to come over, I believe with that if the child continues dropping they wouldn't blame the teacher because they have done there role. When a person has always hides from facing the outcome of what they have done they grow up blaming others for any mistake of theirs.

[caroasi]

UNITY   We are all connected. We are all one. The joining of love and peace enable unity of people. Unity is a harmony. Everything is connected. We are individuals. We are one. Move closer with like-minded people in cooperation to pursue goals together. There is strength in unity and strength in numbers, as the whole may be stronger than the separated parts. Belonging with others adds rather than removes personal responsibility. Power.   Unity brings power. With power is responsibility. Following the commands or ideas of others is a choice until the laws of physics take away the choice. Supporting rules or laws of people are a choice until the laws of physics take away the choice. Duty.   The shared goal of civility obligates us as a responsibility of power to align our selves with others when acting as one collective. Only in agreement on the same principles as virtues, values, ethics, or morals is there unity and a genuine collective. Collectives by force are division and disharmony rather than unity.  Some goals prove worthless to our joy and those false empty goals may involve idolatry, coveting, jealousy, bullying, selfish manipulation, and vampirism. Independence and freedom enable us to submit to others and adapt their goals as ours while maintaining a healthy relationship.

Source: Rainbow Rock, https://bitbucket.org/metanexom/rainbow-road/downloads/RainbowRock_2024Jun.pdf

Could be the last chance to read it before one can claim AI wasn't an influence on it for a pending update next year

[palle11]

This is like the blame game when things go wrong but people like to take glory for good that has happened. But the truth is we have seen more negative things than the good and people throw it at others face to be the issue and this is why we have the society is not being balanced as expected. It is better for people to take responsibility for the actions that they have done whether directly or through another person. If they take responsibility, they correct mistakes that are pointed at them. Like the politicians do, they pride on theirselve because they are in power as they look down on people as they can't punish them and so they do what they like.

[Agbamoni]

A child grew up in your house for 15-16 years, and he turns out to be a thief, and somehow it's not your fault?

In regard to parenting, the case can vary. It can be a result of bad parenting, while on the other hand, it can be a change or deviation by the child. Writing his own fate to be a thief. I'm not justifying the case here, but I'm only trying to say, children grow up and change from the good habits they were brought up with. Peer influence can be a very big cause of why they change, and many other reasons. Whatever the case may be, parents should always take accountability as they try to talk to their child to change for good.

[fortunecrypto]

It's in the politicians and government officials, too. You hardly ever see a politician taking responsibility for a bad outcome. They blame everybody else, but themselves. Blame others for the high crime rate, inflation, unemployment, and whatever else. But they will be quick to take credit for the good things.

No politician will do that because their opponents will capitalise on that mistake. Every politician has their own fall guys; they do not collect the loot; they have people to collect for them, and when there's an investigation, the politician can easily escape, as they have people to take the blame.

Self-accountability and taking responsibility for mistakes they have made are not in the vocabulary of politicians; their portrayal as good and honest politicians is their capital for getting elected to office, and they take every good deed and deny every evil deed.

[Zlantann]

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Some conditions are beyond our control; we cannot take responsibility for such situations. It's painful to see people go through troubles because of natural disasters, wars, famine and so on. I have seen someone who lost everything he had because of a change in government policies.

Anyway, it is immature to always blame, even when you are responsible for the undesirable outcome. Pride also contributes to why people don't take responsibility. They think they are perfect, faultless, and most qualified, so they don't want to take any blame. The government of my country always blames its predecessors for their failure. I was astonished when I saw a man who was about 30years old blaming his parents for his failures. Meanwhile, his destiny is in his hands.        

[KingsDen]

A child grew up in your house for 15-16 years, and he turns out to be a thief, and somehow it's not your fault?

In regard to parenting, the case can vary. It can be a result of bad parenting, while on the other hand, it can be a change or deviation by the child. Writing his own fate to be a thief. I'm not justifying the case here, but I'm only trying to say, children grow up and change from the good habits they were brought up with. Peer influence can be a very big cause of why they change, and many other reasons. Whatever the case may be, parents should always take accountability as they try to talk to their child to change for good.

I know that people or children change after being trained by their parents but it is a rare scenario when the training is very proper. When a child is well trained, it will be difficult for the child to deviate from such training.
I do not deny the fact that there is peer pressure and lack of contentment, but it is a fraction of well trained children that deviates on the long run.

I was given a training to see smokers as criminals. I maintained such a believe until my university days, when a kind friend of mine who hasn't stolen before and cannot steal was eventually a smoker. That was when I knew that smokers are not criminals.
But that training shielded me from smoking until I was old enough to make decisions. So, parents really have a whole lot of role in child's training.

[mvdheuvel1983]

A child grew up in your house for 15-16 years, and he turns out to be a thief, and somehow it's not your fault?

In regard to parenting, the case can vary. It can be a result of bad parenting, while on the other hand, it can be a change or deviation by the child. Writing his own fate to be a thief. I'm not justifying the case here, but I'm only trying to say, children grow up and change from the good habits they were brought up with. Peer influence can be a very big cause of why they change, and many other reasons. Whatever the case may be, parents should always take accountability as they try to talk to their child to change for good.

In most cases you will not find a child who was well raised by both parents grow up to change from the way he was brought up you will not see that happen most times rather yo will see kids that were not properly raised grow up to become terrible people in the society, I'm not saying that peer pressures does not change people but do you think a child that was properly raised from the day he was born till he becomes an adult will grow up to develop a different character that he hasn't seen his mother and father do when he was growing up I think it is impossible in most cases. Parents should try to do better instead of always shifting the blames to the child and not taking responsibility for their bad influence towards the upbringing of their children.

[9ja Amaka]

In most cases you will not find a child who was well raised by both parents grow up to change from the way he was brought up you will not see that happen most times rather yo will see kids that were not properly raised grow up to become terrible people in the society, I'm not saying that peer pressures does not change people but do you think a child that was properly raised from the day he was born till he becomes an adult will grow up to develop a different character that he hasn't seen his mother and father do when he was growing up I think it is impossible in most cases. Parents should try to do better instead of always shifting the blames to the child and not taking responsibility for their bad influence towards the upbringing of their children.

I disagree with you, when it comes to kids, parents can only guide them to some extent. Because at some point that child still has to make his/her choices. Curiosity is real and sometimes kids just do what they want even when they were raised properly. Sometimes the child made their decision whether it’s good or bad.
And as we get older accountability becomes more serious, you can’t keep blaming your parents, your friends or environment forever. So at point you have to accept you’re wrong or you made a mistake and take responsibility or do better .

[Felicity_Tide]

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A society where people don't take accountability will only keep getting worse.
As a person, you should be able to look at a situation and know that "I could have done better" instead of having an "I did my best" attitude all the time.

If only influencers, or role models, or even motivational speaks spend enough time talking about this, I think the world would have far being a better place. It's quite unfortunate that we live in an era where putting blames on others makes us far more comfortable. People see humiliation and embarrassment from their own mistakes as something not deem fit to be attributed with, but see a need to put it on others. Nobody wants to hear the truth anymore because it is too bitter to swallow.

And as for children who turns out to exhibit some weird attitude, well I have began to notice that a lot these days, and I think it's as a result of terrible parenting, at least in most cases. I have seen suppose adults in their early/late 20's that exhibit certain attitudes that makes me want to ask who their parents are. This isn't just about being a thief. A person who always communicate with violence or some form of disrespect, or a person who lacks self control and always dishonest and many more. These are actual problems that any child can easily start exhibiting at a young age, but when the parents fails to address this issues solidly, then there is certainly a blame that they must prepare for. And mind you, I have also seen well behaved people with good attitudes that makes me also give credits to their parents for doing a fantastic job.

Some people believe that a child can deviate at some point probably due to influences, which is kind of true. But the reality is, the parenting was never built on a solid foundation. You can't train your child in the ghetto and expect him/her to be well mannered. It takes just more than enough effort to defile certain things that are impossible.

[Alpha Marine]

I disagree with you, when it comes to kids, parents can only guide them to some extent. Because at some point that child still has to make his/her choices. Curiosity is real and sometimes kids just do what they want even when they were raised properly. Sometimes the child made their decision whether it’s good or bad.
And as we get older accountability becomes more serious, you can’t keep blaming your parents, your friends or environment forever. So at point you have to accept you’re wrong or you made a mistake and take responsibility or do better .

What our society doesn't know is that parents are completely responsible for how their child turns out. This is the accountability I am talking about. You brought a child into this world, and from when that child is a day old till they turn 18, they are your responsibility. It is your responsibility to raise and mould him the way you want him to. It's not by being strict or overly disciplined. It's not by raising the child with fear. Fear can only take you so far because when that child is not in your presence or no longer scared of you, they will do what they want. It's by having a relationship with the child. It's by making that child trust you completely and understand you completely. You should be friends who can tell each other anything. Raising a child is not just putting the child through school, feeding and clothing him; that's the bare minimum. The real work is much more than that, but parents are not ready to put in that work. When you are so close you a kid, and he loves and trusts you and you love and trust him, the values you instil in him become natural to him. So even when he's old enough to make his own decision, he won't be wayward.

If you take a child today and from when they can understand basic arithmetic, you start teaching that child basic maths, and you make him love it, if you keep teaching that child maths the right way everyday till that child turns 18, there is no way that child will just decide not to know maths anymore when he is 18. Its in him now.

Some conditions are beyond our control; we cannot take responsibility for such situations. It's painful to see people go through troubles because of natural disasters, wars, famine and so on. I have seen someone who lost everything he had because of a change in government policies.       

Of course, everything cant be our fault. There are things that happen that we couldn't do anything about. But we should be able to accurately identify the ones that we could have done something about and te one we couldn't.

No politician will do that because their opponents will capitalise on that mistake.

This is why they keep doing a shit job. They care more about politics, elections and their party than they care about governing and leading. For a problem to be fixed, we must first agree that there is a problem, then identify the problem before we can talk about how to fix the problem, but politicians don't care about all that, especially the ones from third-world countries; they just want to enrich themselves and damn everyone else.

[GiftedMAN]

I was given a training to see smokers as criminals. I maintained such a believe until my university days, when a kind friend of mine who hasn't stolen before and cannot steal was eventually a smoker. That was when I knew that smokers are not criminals.
But that training shielded me from smoking until I was old enough to make decisions. So, parents really have a whole lot of role in child's training.

This is how children are supposed to be trained so that when they grow to see people doing those things which their parents warned them never to do you will not see them doing it. I think the story you gave is an example to show the importance of good parenting in the society, as a child you will find it difficult to do what you were asked never to do by your parents when you were little even when you become an adult you will still see people doing those things as evil that's the roles of our then parents played in our lives but now everything has changed.

[Mhizlove]

A society where people don't take accountability will only keep getting worse.
As a person, you should be able to look at a situation and know that "I could have done better" instead of having an "I did my best" attitude all the time.

You get a point there seriously, Because the way society drops those people who refuses to own up to their actions, and if everyone starts to shy away from blames, nothing will improve in that society and sometimes, people will be like that's my best or is the best I can give but that isn't the truth. Because someone can actually give it a thought and will be like I can do better than what I did or better than this.

Being accountable is not something to be ashamed for, rather it helps you  grow, correct your mistakes and makes you move forward. Is high time we accept our faith because if we accept how the situation is at the end we will be progressive.

[EluguHcman]

Of the truth the societies and its social lives is polluted that everyone just have to decide a life they want to live.
So nomatter how parents, guardians or school teachers tend to nurture s child, the child will always be what he want to be.
They don't force in lifestyle, it is adopted or influenced. It is a choice.

Even in terms of governments, rules are being set in place to regulate orderliness but yet, most individuals are breaking the rules.
And while there are people trying to make things orderly, some are setting it ablaze and disordered.

This is hard side of life that makes it inevitable

[programmer3666]

the main foundation when it comes to growth is accountabiliy!! people that regualarly shift blames to somene else are very manipulative in nature and they never learn from mistakes so the same problem will just be going in circles!! either in a business settings, families or even in a political atmosphre , the best way to show maturity is by taking full responsibility and a community or society where people own up to their mistakes will always be a progressive one

[passwordnow]

IMO, it's okay to say that you did your best and yet you still failed while being accountable to your action. Because someone who's done everything in their capacity shouldn't be invalidated that they did all to make sure that things could be in good terms and results. But if it's not enough, that's when it should be said that they'll just do better next time and maybe the results are going to change. And I agree, the society needs to learn how to be accountable with all of their decisions and whichever outcome it gives them.

[Solodoski]

I think 80% of people don't want to take blame on anything bad thing that happen in their life, but are quick to take credit on the good things. I don't know if I should say its human nature or people just trying to deny the obvious truth. I think the best thing to do when you find yourself in bad situations, you have to look inward and try to understand why such thing happen rather than looking for whom to blame. It's true that not every situation is completely your fault, but you definitely contributed to about 50% of everything that happens to you, either good or bad. It's also very important to look inward when you find yourself in a situation,  because it helps you do better next time, but when you continue to blame other for your situations,  you will never get better.

[Iamgoat]

I have seen this attitude a lot but a lot of them you said are caused by communication, especially the parents blaming teachers and teachers doing the same thing because of there children, if there was communication they would have known whom that was supposed to be blame, if a teachers saw a child that was having a good grade and soon they started reducing, the teacher is supposed to visit the home of the child to discuss with the parents or perhaps he or she ask the parents to come over, I believe with that if the child continues dropping they wouldn't blame the teacher because they have done there role. When a person has always hides from facing the outcome of what they have done they grow up blaming others for any mistake of theirs.

Honestly you are saying the truth. Alot of people never want to look into the mirror and say to themselves it is my fault rather always looking for how they will blame the next person for their lack of consistency or negligence. When a child brings home bad grades, the first thing you will see from a parent is to start shouting at the teachers and the teacher too instead of identifying where exactly the issue is or at least try to calm the parents down in the most polite manner will react by saying the parents are not helping the child at home, while the teacher may be right, he is supposed to calm the situation down with wisdom but they will both end up passing blames to each other like a football pitch instead of just sitting down to talk, find out what happened and find solutions to the problems. But like you said it is a thing of communication and once there is miscommunication among them, the problem will only linger thereby affecting the result and outcome of the child.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Human dynamic of attitude when it comes to accountability of what is wrong on their parts is very complex only few accept their failure.the happening in our society today most time are course by bridge of communication, sanctions to children even self discipline by the so called parents before the children . Child study parental attitude, action towards neighbors, how one handle issue, action taken on belongings that is not their own when it's seen in your possession, how you treat people as minor and major speak volume in shaping your children.
Today some parents reference their children to people who goes contrary to society norms, such prostitute and all sort of that, they forgetting that the impact of this will be shameful, when the resulting effects start they will refuse to acknowledge blame, even as politicians certain discussion or deal need not to be associated with your children, to cut the whole thing short human sees blame as some thing that tarnish their image but seek and lay excuses to cover their errors.