The most depressed person in the family

[Obulis]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

Generally, depending on the condition of the parents of a family, there is pressure on the members of that family in various ways. It can be financial or emotional or something else. If there is an elder child in a family, it is natural for the pressure to be more on that elder son. Because that elder son shares the happiness and sorrow of that family. Other members of the family can also take that responsibility, but if we find the difference, then the elder son is the most depressed person.

Sometimes the pressure in the family is usually a combination of different things. Like a combination of financial and emotional pressure and any other thing. When there's a combination of different family pressure, one is usually more serious than the others and in a case of financial and emotional pressure, I believe emotional pressure will be more heavier. And the likelihood of the eldest son being more carried away is obvious looking at my surrounding.

[Agathamay]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

I've learned to understand that first born have tend to face or owned up to responsibilities because it's never an easy thing to do. What's happening in our current generation. Making it out alive have become a complete struggle and everyone who worked so hard to been successful sometimes end up not meeting up standard and goals.

Who's the most depressed person in a family, I'm giving it to the eldest sons because they're under pressured of rescuing their family from poverty especially if the family is facing crucial financial crises. This is definitely not a good situation and I think these first born should be applauded for the hardwork they put in and also put them in prayers because they're really going through alot. I know why I'm saying this and feel more connected because I'm a first born and I know the bills I chest daily from my younger siblings, catering for their needs and wants, been completely selflessness and putting them first in anything.

[SamReomo]

Could it be the eldest son?

The eldest son has so many responsibilities on his shoulders, he has to look for his parents, for his siblings and in some cases for kids of his siblings and that's why people always say that eldest son is the most depressed person in a family.

But, I would add into that, this isn't the case always, in some families the eldest son plays his role very well, and can easily control depression and fulfill his responsibilities.

In most families the most depressed person who has no choice but to look after for the family is the father, a brother can somehow still run away from his responsibilities but a father can't.

[Tonimez]

Could it be the eldest son?

The eldest son has so many responsibilities on his shoulders, he has to look for his parents, for his siblings and in some cases for kids of his siblings and that's why people always say that eldest son is the most depressed person in a family.

But, I would add into that, this isn't the case always, in some families the eldest son plays his role very well, and can easily control depression and fulfill his responsibilities.

In most families the most depressed person who has no choice but to look after for the family is the father, a brother can somehow still run away from his responsibilities but a father can't.

Well sometimes depression is not a product of responsibilities but a result of having the feeling of not been acknowledged in the family. If you look at the way second son's feel rejected in Many families today, you will see that most of them start by jealousing the kind treatment given by the parents to their first son. Most times you realise that the second son would hate both the first son and the parents because he feels that he is not valued and this is the real cause of depression.

Many families make it too obvious that they love one child more than the other and when this happens, those children who feel that they are not loved tend to isolate themselves from the rest of the family and that's when depression starts. Majority of people that fall into this group are the second sons who are repeatedly reminded that the first son is the next of kin and for such, they feel that they have no inheritance from their parents. This is how it starts especially when they're still growing up.

I have seen about 2 second sons who got depressed and committed suicide one was solely because he felt that the first son is the only family's favourite and left a note that he's not wanted and for same reason he has taken his life. Depression in the family is more rampant amongst the less favoured siblings and not even the first son or the father.

[Abdulzuruku01]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

In my opinion the eldest son is often the most depressed person in a family especially in an average family or one without a father alive to cater for the family and with lots of siblings to take care of. And some eldest sons spend nights without sleeping it's something that I have witnessed before and the caused of It was because of thinking about where to find a job that earns them enough to help their siblings.

In a family where the father has reached old age and no longer has the strength to struggle or in a family where the father is dead, the responsibility falls on the eldest son to carry  tuition fees, house rent, food, and other expenses. These are kind of problems that contribute to their depression which might leads to early grave.

[SynthWave_99]

In my opinion the eldest son is often the most depressed person in a family especially in an average family or one without a father alive to cater for the family and with lots of siblings to take care of. And some eldest sons spend nights without sleeping it's something that I have witnessed before and the caused of It was because of thinking about where to find a job that earns them enough to help their siblings.

In a family where the father has reached old age and no longer has the strength to struggle or in a family where the father is dead, the responsibility falls on the eldest son to carry  tuition fees, house rent, food, and other expenses. These are kind of problems that contribute to their depression which might leads to early grave.

Responsibility can either make you or break you, but without a support system it usually just breaks people down until they have nothing left to give

[Stablexcoin]

Sometimes the pressure in the family is usually a combination of different things. Like a combination of financial and emotional pressure and any other thing. When there's a combination of different family pressure, one is usually more serious than the others and in a case of financial and emotional pressure, I believe emotional pressure will be more heavier. And the likelihood of the eldest son being more carried away is obvious looking at my surrounding.

In a family going through struggle, the most depressed out of every member of the family is the father. The father who is the head of the family carries the burden of everyone, it doesn't need to be financial struggles alone, the pressure tends to be much on the father because he supposed to provide solutions.

The eldest son or firstborn child also has a role to play, the other siblings will be looking up to them, burdens are being shared, but sometimes it puts more weight on one person than the other. There are some eldest son who careless about family struggles, when they inhibit bad behaviours and feel like those burdens isn't worth to be shared.

[Obulis]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

In a family anybody can face depression depending on what has been eating the individual. But I believe in most cases the younger children sometimes face depression the most, this is because most teenage children tends to keep things to themselves, probably he/she is been bullied in school yet they wouldn't tell anyone at home, they try to keep it to themselves as they can be too shy to talk about it or just not too comfortable in spitting it out to any one at home and it indirectly affect their mental health thereby demoralizing them.

It happens like you just said mostly when these teenager has also contributed to what led to the bullying even though very small mistake, yet they'll still keep it to themselves.

But then, the thread is not really talking about the family on a personal ground like you just pointed out, but trying to figure or picture a collective family problem, that's a problem that whole family is into, like the death of the father and definitely the source of likelihood and many other family problems.

[Dunamisx]

Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

The person that failed to make in the family is most likely not be a depressed one, because that alone is an oppression on itself, even without others being intimidating him, he may feels inferior and think otherwise, because he is the only one behind in the midst of the family, but instead of being depressed, such a person should see it as a challenge to also put in more effort for higher determination.

[Kelward]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

There are different levels of depression and every member of the family falls into one or more category except infants because they cannot reason. The father of the house who naturally is the breadwinner will be depressed if he cannot take care of his family responsibilities. The mother who naturally manages the home will be depressed if there is chaos in her home. The children will be naturally depressed if they are not meeting up with their peers like in their studies. Overall it is the father that will be more depressed especially when he's not financially capable to provide.

[Tungbulu]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

Depression isn’t something that’s kinda reserved for one particular position in the family, anyone in the family can go through depression if they allow themselves to. Just like one of the users commented above, the person that we could even say can easily into depression is the father of the house, especially in some African setting where the father is the head of the family and is responsible for providing all the family’s needs, including sorting all the bills. Such responsibility is enough to make a man fall into depression if they’re not making enough income to meet those demands and obligations, but in the end only those who give room to depression would actually be depressed.

[White pawn]

The most depressed person in a family is mostly the person with the least emotional control, Normally it should be the person overwhelmed with responsibility which is almost always the first child, but I have seen from experience that if the the most overwhelmed person knows how to deal with emotions, they wouldn't be depressed. Being able to manage your emotions, remaining optimistic and attracting positive energy is the best antidote for depression, at least it has been working for me.

It is most disappointing when you see the person with the least responsibility getting depressed easily in the home, you may wonder why it is that way but it all boils down to being able to manage negative feelings properly and not allowing yourself to be worked up or sunk in negativity but find a way to motivate yourself and get out of the depressed state. Staying positive has helped me a whole lot.

Not every depressed family member is a firstborn,and not every firstborn becomes depressed.But when you look closely, firstborns are often the emotional backbone and the most emotional affected of the family system.Firstborns get rules, pressure, and “be mature" query from their parents too early where their childhood.So it’s less about birth order and more about emotional role assignment.

Firstborns are statistically more likely to carry emotional weight because they Are expected to “be strong” or “set the example”,witness parental stress sooner than siblings, and suppress or deny their own needs to protect their siblings.Depression in families is rarely just personal,it’s a system.One person ends up holding the emotional debt so the rest can function.