The most depressed person in the family

[Sticky Bomb]

A lot of happy-go-lucky people in the world, people you would never expect, commit suicide.

From experience, I have come to understand that anyone too happy, talkative or too friendly has a very weak or dark side they are trying hard to cover up by over expressiveness instead of facing their fears square on. That is why we see people a lot of seemingly happy people get depressed every now and then when their happy cover can no longer be sustained. I am always careful with any person who have a flashy personality, most of them are broken inside and when you get close to them, you can be very surprised at what you discover. Some of those kind of people are living in denial of reality, their flash of happiness is just a coverage, they are not really happy beyond their facial expression.

[Tungbulu]

Depression can happen to anyone in the family weather son , daughter, brother sister relations etc. depression happens most to the person who is the bread winner. Or the person who bears the responsibility of the family. Why the eldest son is often seen as the most deppressed person is because the weigh lies on their shoulder regardless of who they are .

Depression may not only be caused by the weight of the family, sometimes when a member of the family is often ignored due to one reason or the other, it could also potentially lead to depression. I’ve seen and heard of families where some kids are often ignored by their parents, simply because they had a new baby in the house, this is also capable of causing a child to become depressed and/or even start to misbehave. I’ve seen a video online where a 7 years old boy locked her little sister inside the oven and turned it on, simply because he felt ignored and that his parents were giving all the love to his little sister, and before the parents could intervene, the little girl was already dead.

[Judith87403]

From experience, I have come to understand that anyone too happy, talkative or too friendly has a very weak or dark side they are trying hard to cover up by over expressiveness instead of facing their fears square on. That is why we see people a lot of seemingly happy people get depressed every now and then when their happy cover can no longer be sustained. I am always careful with any person who have a flashy personality, most of them are broken inside and when you get close to them, you can be very surprised at what you discover. Some of those kind of people are living in denial of reality, their flash of happiness is just a coverage, they are not really happy beyond their facial expression.

Its hard not to believe this because that is what its really happening today, some people pretend to always be friendly when they are not, when you do them little thing that won't cause any misunderstanding they will take it so serious that they might even decide to take revenge by killing or taking some actions that will destroy the lives of the fellows, that is why one has to be careful about those that over express themselves as they can't be trusted.

[Achalugo BTC]

I believe everyone is going through a lot, and in the family, everyone plays a role and has targets to meet. It could be that the son or daughter is struggling with their grades in school to graduate with good results. One thing about depression is that one can be going through serious depression without anyone knowing it.

 I don't think it is only the father who is going through a lot in the family; others may be going through the same. That is why it is important to check up on one another at all times because you can't really tell the struggles people are going through to survive.

That's right, everyone has their own cross to carry, just that some people choose not to air theirs out, it doesn't mean they don't have problems or what to think about, if not, each and everyone of us are really going through alot in different ways and if one doesn't have who they trust to share their worries today, they become depressed and it can affect their mental health badly and it will be a disturbance to them, as they will be feeling restlessness, so showing true love and kindness to one another, as it will at least help them out in some area.

[hafiztalha]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

I think Father and mother are the most depressed human beings in the family because they worry all the time for the safety of their children, I know is not all the father and mother that are depressed for the sake of the family, and it will be difficult for such parents to be depresse because they don't care about their life and children, any family that is doing well on earth today parents are the major people that embrace depression to make sure family  turn to what people in the society will live to celebrate parents that stood up their ground to lay a potential foundation for the family, just know that depression is not forever because some people can think committing suicide is the best way to end depression, but is not the best way to end depression, you can end depression through what is making you happy on the time and keep to it.

It is not always accurate to say that the parents are the depressed person in a family because they carry the responsibility of every child but depression is a medical condition it can effect anyone I have seen children being in depression they are not taught how to express themselves I have seen the younger child of the family are the most depressed one. And I agree that suicide is not a solution to end depression but many people go toward this because they find it difficult to communicate and to express themself in front of others because we live in a society in which people find it sometimes funny or did not take it seriously when someone try to express themself or do show their emotions, there are ways in which depression can be reduce like we can consult a doctor or we can talk to the family members.

[Judith87403]

And there's a deeper reason why they chose to go happy-go-lucky and that's their temporary escape to the reality. We don't know each other and we have battles that we're going through and we just do something in order for us to overcome that stress and depression that we're going with. But sadly, others can't fight those battles anymore and the heavier it gets, they resort to that one decision that they think would end all of it. If someone out there has a silent battle, I wish you all the best and counting on you to win that.

That's an honest and encouraging words, this can be helpful because there are people that actually needs this, sometimes put on smiling face while they struggle silently, and not everyone likes to show or complain about themselves or what they are facing, one will think everything is well with them but deep down the pains its too much as they can't even know how to explain themselves, but seeking help is good, even if some people shows they don't care, one can't tell who is going to help.

[Obulis]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

Everybody can be depressed. There is no special person in the family  that depression is meant for, But most time just as you have mentioned the first son or the eldest daughter can be depress due to family responsibility and burden that they carry  even when they are not ready it can make them to fall into depression.
In some families today the older son support and train their siblings in school and Also support their parents, even when they’re in pain, they may not talk. But the truth is that everybody can be depressed whether, father, mother, or siblings can be depressed it can be as a result of financial difficulties. So everyone can be depressed it doesn’t matter if you’re young or old.

For sure as human being everyone has been depressed personally or generally just like trying to picture but the point is the fact that it's somehow also a fact that this happens at different frequency when talking about the general family (not just personal life). So one of the family member becomes most depressed about everyone not because others don't necessarily care about the family.
Just wondering the impact of personal life to this matter and also the social and cultural press on the eldest son as regards the entire family.

[Umulala-alala]

And there's a deeper reason why they chose to go happy-go-lucky and that's their temporary escape to the reality. We don't know each other and we have battles that we're going through and we just do something in order for us to overcome that stress and depression that we're going with. But sadly, others can't fight those battles anymore and the heavier it gets, they resort to that one decision that they think would end all of it. If someone out there has a silent battle, I wish you all the best and counting on you to win that.

That's an honest and encouraging words, this can be helpful because there are people that actually needs this, sometimes put on smiling face while they struggle silently, and not everyone likes to show or complain about themselves or what they are facing, one will think everything is well with them but deep down the pains its too much as they can't even know how to explain themselves, but seeking help is good, even if some people shows they don't care, one can't tell who is going to help.

It's better to open up help might come though there are people who like keeping things to them self some of them somehow might have share their problem before but couldn't get solution instead they mock them. People has die silently because of what they are going through depression can lead to many things but at a some it will still be nice that we relate our problem to others as you can never know who will help, there is this saying that a problem share is a problem half solved.

[Achalugo BTC]

It's better to open up help might come though there are people who like keeping things to them self some of them somehow might have share their problem before but couldn't get solution instead they mock them. People has die silently because of what they are going through depression can lead to many things but at a some it will still be nice that we relate our problem to others as you can never know who will help, there is this saying that a problem share is a problem half solved.

Some people can't received help if they don't open up for other people to hear them out, although some people might be afraid for them to be mocked, that is why they don't want to care of saying it but sometimes opening up might save them from disaster or from what is eating them up, because as they a problem share is a problem solve. And also, its not everyone that they can open up to, as some people might use later use it against them.

[Plutomanian]

A lot of happy-go-lucky people in the world, people you would never expect, commit suicide.

I guess we'll never know what's happening to the next person because everyone is busy with their various life's. That's why it's very important to always checked up on the next person because depression is real. Depression mostly happens when a person is idled with his or her time, and not meeting up the standard responsibilities of life, for instance the eldest son have graduated from college and deem fit to start reciprocating the same energy his parents used, now it's his own time to take care of them, no job for him and he's looking more broke than before and can't even stand on his own without aides from his parents, you can imagine how that will feel?

[Alonso_]

It's better to open up help might come though there are people who like keeping things to them self some of them somehow might have share their problem before but couldn't get solution instead they mock them. People has die silently because of what they are going through depression can lead to many things but at a some it will still be nice that we relate our problem to others as you can never know who will help, there is this saying that a problem share is a problem half solved.

Some individuals don’t like opening up to people because they’ll be scared of what people would say and not getting the solution of their Challenges, you can tell someone you trust your problems and they tell it to someone else they trust, I think that is why they would like to keep things to themselves.

Like you have said a problem shared is a problem solved, well not in all cases, you can share your problems and the Challenges and still end up not having solutions to that problem, some people too are lucky they will get solutions to their problems, and help might come from nowhere, I think everyone have different lucks as well to get solutions to their problems.

[Nanga Parbat]

For sure as human being everyone has been depressed personally or generally just like trying to picture but the point is the fact that it's somehow also a fact that this happens at different frequency when talking about the general family (not just personal life). So one of the family member becomes most depressed about everyone not because others don't necessarily care about the family.
Just wondering the impact of personal life to this matter and also the social and cultural press on the eldest son as regards the entire family.

Every one faces depression at some point in life  because of ups and down. But yes there is  always one person in the family who feel more burden. It is basically really eldest son of the family, he has to fulfill many responsibilities. He is often force to be mature early, because he has to bread his family. For that sometime he has to forgo his education, or he has to give up his dreams. So there is need that every family member should also take care of him. Or  keep check and balance of his mental health or also provide help for support. So that he can also enjoy his all colours of life just like everyone.

[Odusko]

A lot of happy-go-lucky people in the world, people you would never expect, commit suicide.

At times, alot of people do wear fake smiles just to live life and enjoy the moments which come with it just to be fine and not necessarily because they don’t face issues. No one on earth today is free of one pain or the other, everyone is just managing their lives and trying to survive through the life has thrown at them. I won’t be surprised if someone who you saw very happy this minute and goes to commit suicide the next minute because you never can tell the heavy grief he’s carrying in his chest and decided to shoulder it silently.

Depression is a mental health issues and should be treated medically, some time's we, people around thinks that a depressed person is someone who is taking responsibility of the family or work, but that not the truth someone can take responsibility of any bills in the family and still remains resilience and hilated in motivations, depression doesn't have anything to do with the financial responsibility of a person but rather a medical and mental problem that need close attention to get treated of it.

[Sexylizzy2813]

Depression doesn't choose who it wants to happen to, is something that comes base on the situation a particular person finds himself and if care is not taken that individual start acting up, is really hard to control this kind problem. In the family depression can happen to the mother, father or any of the children, it could happen to the youngest in the family and if it isn't noticed on time and get a solution to it the child might become sad for a long time, when other children are having fun the child will be moody. Everyone faces depression and it can be caused by so many things, the problems we face in life and if we don't talk to someone about it the whole thing remains stock.

[Somto9Light]

Depression doesn't choose who it wants to happen to, is something that comes base on the situation a particular person finds himself and if care is not taken that individual start acting up, is really hard to control this kind problem. In the family depression can happen to the mother, father or any of the children, it could happen to the youngest in the family and if it isn't noticed on time and get a solution to it the child might become sad for a long time, when other children are having fun the child will be moody. Everyone faces depression and it can be caused by so many things, the problems we face in life and if we don't talk to someone about it the whole thing remains stock.

True, depression is real and it doesn't choose who it happens to, no matter the age or how strong or weak one is, it can just show up and puts one under pressure that they might even attempt to take their lives if there is no help and most reasons why people are depressed are often from school bills, loss or feeling stuck, etc. That is why people are to encourage and support each other if there is any need because its not good for one to carry it alone.

[Son Of Blockchain (SOB)]

 Anyone in a family can be depressed but of all people you picked the eldest son? The eldest son is also a leader in the family especially the ones of age but the most depressed should go to the father, naturally Men are providers and it's the duty of the leader of the family which in most cases is the father to provide, protect and maintain peace in the family, failure to do that is enough reason for the father to be depressed.
 A single mom who plays the role of a father and mother also has reason to be very depressed cause raising a children requires both gender and it's not easy for single moms to do it alone. Women in the family that undergo painful menstruation also have more reasons to be depressed during those periods than the eldest son.

[Adiljutt156]

‎I really don't know where to start because with the way you have arranged the topic, I think or believe you're already making or want the readers to picture everything and speak based on the eldest son aspect.
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‎Talking about a family going through or facing a lot (issues and hardship) it's not just the eldest son that's going to be depressed. I'm saying this because I don't see a reason why they'll be the father, mother and even children and you'll expect just the eldest son to be worried concerning the problems they are going through. Matters like that affect the entire family so I believe it is something that will definitely put everyone into a state of dilemma. If we are to talk about depression, then I think the father who is the head and first person with the role or responsibility of providing for the family will be the person who will even be depressed.

 Every insane man knows that it is his responsibility to provide for his family and at the point of him being unable to do so, he automatically gets broken mentally and even physically. It is well known that a strong mindset is the basis of a good and healthy life and if a man's mental health is shattered, then it is very easy to get depressed. So I think the most depressed person in a family if certain issues of hardship or difficulties arises is definitely the father because the thought of being unworthy of the name "father" will surely destroy him internally.

Family hardships undeniably affect every member of the family and put immense pressure on everyone, including father's role. As a provider of the family, psychological drama usually functions within household. The eldest son is often trapped in a state of helpless responsibilities, and he is expected to shield his younger siblings and support his parents, also without having any financial resources to actually fix the broken situation that makes him into a parentified child. Society recognises the role of the father, where as eldered son suffer in silence hiding his own despair so as not to add any pressure on his parents.

[Oluwa-btc]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

That person trying to save everyone in the family. At some point it could be the father, it could also be the mother. It can also be the least brother or eldest who has seen too much and refusing to be like the rest of his family.
High functioning people though do not have time for depression. High functioning and energetic people,  they can take a break to relax but they're never depressed even whenever what they're chasing for is yet to be achieved. So in conclusion, the most depressed person in the family can be anyone with too much load and weight on his or shoulders. I hope he/her wins and fall in alignment with whatever they want.

[Iamgoat]

Depression may not only be caused by the weight of the family, sometimes when a member of the family is often ignored due to one reason or the other, it could also potentially lead to depression. I’ve seen and heard of families where some kids are often ignored by their parents, simply because they had a new baby in the house, this is also capable of causing a child to become depressed and/or even start to misbehave. I’ve seen a video online where a 7 years old boy locked her little sister inside the oven and turned it on, simply because he felt ignored and that his parents were giving all the love to his little sister, and before the parents could intervene, the little girl was already dead.

A boy of seven years old? This have to be something else but cannot become depression. Depression is a mental illness which happens to someone after undergoing negligence from people around over an extended period of time. This can’t come from a 7 years as his brain has not developed to such extent yet. What would have possibly transpired in this situation is something which needs a deeper understanding such as whether he has been watching a particular nature of films which gave him such knowledge to act in such manner and the boy also needs to be desensitized about any bad ideas in his head and replaced with most positive ideas

[Tungbulu]

A boy of seven years old? This have to be something else but cannot become depression. Depression is a mental illness which happens to someone after undergoing negligence from people around over an extended period of time. This can’t come from a 7 years as his brain has not developed to such extent yet. What would have possibly transpired in this situation is something which needs a deeper understanding such as whether he has been watching a particular nature of films which gave him such knowledge to act in such manner and the boy also needs to be desensitized about any bad ideas in his head and replaced with most positive ideas

And what’s the difference between what you’re defining as depression and what I explained that kids went through. And who told kids are not suffering from depression? Kids lately are wiser, or should I say more inquisitive and ever learning, they’re also humans, and just like other humans, they also have emotions too, and depression is nothing but an emotion. In fact it even gets worse with kids because they can easily have an emotional outburst, react drastically towards that emotion without thinking about the potential consequences.