The most depressed person in the family

[Beke_26]

The most depressed person in a family is mostly the person with the least emotional control, Normally it should be the person overwhelmed with responsibility which is almost always the first child, but I have seen from experience that if the the most overwhelmed person knows how to deal with emotions, they wouldn't be depressed. Being able to manage your emotions, remaining optimistic and attracting positive energy is the best antidote for depression, at least it has been working for me.

It is most disappointing when you see the person with the least responsibility getting depressed easily in the home, you may wonder why it is that way but it all boils down to being able to manage negative feelings properly and not allowing yourself to be worked up or sunk in negativity but find a way to motivate yourself and get out of the depressed state. Staying positive has helped me a whole lot.

Yeah, The most depressed person in the family is one with the least emotional control. Ordinarily one might think that because you are the first born of the family especially in the case of a male child that you carry the responsibilities of both the parents and the younger ones, but then  there are situations whereby, even the youngest in the family carries the family burden and responsibility alone based on how emotionally moved the person is. 
Away from family issues one can encounter life challenges that may affect there mental health and probably lead to depression because depression most times is not instantaneous it's what grows over a period of time due repeated ugly situations.

[Swordsoffreedom]

Mostly depends on the situation surrounding the family. And who’s more likely to be depressed. Mainly it’s draws down on the person taking majority of the responsibilities. In most cases I think the (responsible) father who’s the head of the family falls in this category. Especially when he doesn’t meet up with the demands and then feels like he’s a failure, men hardly speak out because they don’t want people to feel they aren’t man enough to raise a family. That’s in my own opinion. Here in the comments there are many other opinions

Men are usually seen as the breadwinner but all they really do is just focus on making money most of the time.  They barely have to handle stuff at home like housework, taking care and raising the kids...meanwhile plenty of women even have to go out and earn extra money for the family on top of taking care of all that house stuff.

So yeah, like you said, it really depends on each family situation, not always the man.

In a lot of families, the man is irresponsible, drinking, hanging with friends or even gambling. In families like that, the woman is way more likely to fall into depression having to juggle both roles at once.

[Soldroplet]

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Men are usually seen as the breadwinner but all they really do is just focus on making money most of the time.  They barely have to handle stuff at home like housework, taking care and raising the kids...meanwhile plenty of women even have to go out and earn extra money for the family on top of taking care of all that house stuff.

So yeah, like you said, it really depends on each family situation, not always the man.

In a lot of families, the man is irresponsible, drinking, hanging with friends or even gambling. In families like that, the woman is way more likely to fall into depression having to juggle both roles at once.

Family responsibilities do not only depend on who is earning the money, but also on how much time and effort is put in by who is contributing. For example, if a husband works all day but does not take care of the children, does the shopping or does not participate in the housework at all, then the workload on the wife will increase to a great extent. Then there are families where the wife works, takes the children to school in the morning, does the shopping again after work, cooks her own food and helps the children with their studies at night. So it is understood that the real responsibility of the family cannot be measured only by how much money is earned; time, labor and mental responsibility are equally important.
I think that the real financial strength of a family depends not only on the monthly income, but also on sharing responsibilities, controlling expenses, saving and preparing for difficult times. More than who is more responsible, the most important thing for me is how a family is able to cope with the current pressures and create financial security in the future.

[Popkon6]

Any person or any member of the family can be depressed, but the member who reduces the income is the weakest in the family and faces various problems. However, the person who reduces the income faces various problems, it can be the eldest son, the second and the youngest son. If a family is large, all the members are together, then there is a lot of jealousy in that family, the younger sons of the family are always lazy in nature, they do not have to face various problems.
However, the eldest son and the middle son of the family are the victims of depression. They fight the most for the family to keep the family well.

[IjawMan]

The most depressed person in a family is mostly the person with the least emotional control, Normally it should be the person overwhelmed with responsibility which is almost always the first child, but I have seen from experience that if the the most overwhelmed person knows how to deal with emotions, they wouldn't be depressed. Being able to manage your emotions, remaining optimistic and attracting positive energy is the best antidote for depression, at least it has been working for me.

It is most disappointing when you see the person with the least responsibility getting depressed easily in the home, you may wonder why it is that way but it all boils down to being able to manage negative feelings properly and not allowing yourself to be worked up or sunk in negativity but find a way to motivate yourself and get out of the depressed state. Staying positive has helped me a whole lot.

Being the breadwinner in the family in this economic times can be overwhelming and mentally draining as you have to calculate on a bunch of things to do to make and improve your means of revenue and mange expenses in their never ending pile.

The only resistance as a push back against depression will be a strong emotional manager, one that knows how to distract the mind from the worries around him. I developed this mentality about life problems that no problems in life is without solution, it just an issue of time to have it fixed.

And when the time has not come you can do nothing, and if you have to think a lot about it you will only be compounding your troubles.

[ASloveapg]

As far as I know, the eldest son of the family suffers from this problem most of the time. When the breadwinner in a family falls into some problem and his source of income stops, the pressure of the family usually falls on the eldest son of that family. If I think about it from my point of view, then I am the eldest son of my family, and my family used to tell me only about earning money from a very young age. My family is a middle-class family, and I did not get the things I liked as a young man from my family. I was made to understand the lack of money from a young age, and I never had any luxuries, I did not even have a good mobile phone. Honestly, this is a very difficult thing, and it is only on the eldest son of the family. And besides, my father also grew up in the same situation, my father also never got any hobbies when he was young, from a young age he had to work and run his family. The eldest son of the family always has more responsibility, and in the midst of this responsibility, he forgets his hobbies.

[Franklyn-wood]

Every body faces different form of depression, at this point it feels like things are turning upside down and the mind not at rest which may be self depression that usually as a result of overrated ambitious desires achieving certain goal.
It's also can be the position or personality in the family and society where much is expected of you more than the resources available to carry out this responsibility it leads to depression. It depends on individual mindsets.

Depression can be triggered by different factors mostly when there are expectations to fufile. Abilities to meet certain daily needs and lack of resources to achieve ones aim can make one feel depressed whichlal later results to health issues in the body.
The position one occupies don't really matters when it comes to depression. Looking at our youths or young people today, they want live a comfortable life as soon as possible and could cause them depressed. When expectations is higher than supply of needs then it a sign that depression is setting in.

[Perfect-World]

There are different reasons why people get depressed, and so for this reason, the most person to be depressed in the family will depend on the reason for the depression.

If it's a depression caused by issues in the family, let's say lack of funds to fund family needs or solve some family problems, and the children are still very much young, then the parents, both are depressed while they think of ways to get the family moving. In a family where the children are adults, it's not just the eldest son or daughter, it becomes the child/children that are somewhat responsible and cares about the family needs. There are cases where the elders don't even care, maybe because they are not doing well financially or they don't just care, in that case, those who really care become depressed, sorting ways to make things better.

There could also be personal reasons for depression, and at this one, anyone can be depressed due to personal life issu.

[Judith87403]

Depression can be triggered by different factors mostly when there are expectations to fufile. Abilities to meet certain daily needs and lack of resources to achieve ones aim can make one feel depressed whichlal later results to health issues in the body.
The position one occupies don't really matters when it comes to depression. Looking at our youths or young people today, they want live a comfortable life as soon as possible and could cause them depressed. When expectations is higher than supply of needs then it a sign that depression is setting in.

Many young people are falling into depression because of the economy because it's just as though they are earning but it didn't amount to anything again. This is the reason why many young people are into frauds defrauding others because since they can't live a good life by merely relying on their salaries, they now see scaming as the easier way to live a good life when they constantly scam many people. Depression is real because people are struggling with many things and there is no weird feelings as when you are working tirelessly to make ends meet but the results are not coming forth.

[DanWalker]

As far as I know, the eldest son of the family suffers from this problem most of the time. When the breadwinner in a family falls into some problem and his source of income stops, the pressure of the family usually falls on the eldest son of that family. If I think about it from my point of view, then I am the eldest son of my family, and my family used to tell me only about earning money from a very young age. My family is a middle-class family, and I did not get the things I liked as a young man from my family. I was made to understand the lack of money from a young age, and I never had any luxuries, I did not even have a good mobile phone. Honestly, this is a very difficult thing, and it is only on the eldest son of the family. And besides, my father also grew up in the same situation, my father also never got any hobbies when he was young, from a young age he had to work and run his family. The eldest son of the family always has more responsibility, and in the midst of this responsibility, he forgets his hobbies.

Well, it's not always the eldest son or the father who has to carry the family's financial burden and be the one sacrificing his whole life for the family.

Every family has a different situation. In some families, the eldest son has to start working early to help his parents, but in others, everyone shares the burden together. I've actually seen a family where the father was a drunk, and the mother and younger siblings had to bust their asses and send money to the eldest son so he could study.

So what you went through is the situation in your family, but that doesn't necessarily apply to other families.

[Compromise me]

Depression doesn't choose who it wants to happen to, is something that comes base on the situation a particular person finds himself and if care is not taken that individual start acting up, is really hard to control this kind problem. In the family depression can happen to the mother, father or any of the children, it could happen to the youngest in the family and if it isn't noticed on time and get a solution to it the child might become sad for a long time, when other children are having fun the child will be moody. Everyone faces depression and it can be caused by so many things, the problems we face in life and if we don't talk to someone about it the whole thing remains stock.

Depression doesn't choose who it wants to happen to, is something that comes base on the situation a particular person finds himself and if care is not taken that individual start acting up, is really hard to control this kind problem. In the family depression can happen to the mother, father or any of the children, it could happen to the youngest in the family and if it isn't noticed on time and get a solution to it the child might become sad for a long time, when other children are having fun the child will be moody. Everyone faces depression and it can be caused by so many things, the problems we face in life and if we don't talk to someone about it the whole thing remains stock.

[Bityar]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

I think Depression doesnot depend on age gender or elder or youngest son it depends upon the person situations his family situation and also his emotions but i have observed that most of our new generation is depressed like some people look strong and shows outside that they are strong but inside they feel very hurt or broken. The most depressed person in the family is the one who overthinks or feel things deeply and carries emotional burden. And some people are very cool that they didnt even care what people are saying or what they will think about him but these people are judge wrongly in society.

[Junii]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

An eldest son faces a lot of pressure in some families because of the expectations the society put on him like the expectations of parents also the future of siblings and also a financial stability and many other form of pressure but i think it does not link with depression. The reason behind the depression is a continuous stress loneliness also failed expectations and one of the basic is never share your feelings with some one we often heard that men don't cry which is wrong every human being need emotional support and if we ignore this it start affecting the mind and leads to depression. 

[Halifat]

Depression doesn't choose who it wants to happen to, is something that comes base on the situation a particular person finds himself and if care is not taken that individual start acting up, is really hard to control this kind problem. In the family depression can happen to the mother, father or any of the children, it could happen to the youngest in the family and if it isn't noticed on time and get a solution to it the child might become sad for a long time, when other children are having fun the child will be moody. Everyone faces depression and it can be caused by so many things, the problems we face in life and if we don't talk to someone about it the whole thing remains stock.

Depression does not knock at any door except those that are in a critical condition, one thing about depression, it doesn't choose either poor or rich, it disturb both of them most especially this our celebrity that we are seeing today. Majority of celebrity under go depression more than any other individual, the funniest part is that the problem that they are battling with, you can see an ordinary person enjoying that privilege. Take a look at Michael Jackson he died just feeling lonely and that was what killed him, must at times celebrity regrets for being in that status because they don't have secret at all.

[Nwadiche]

Any member of the family can be hit by depression, whether or not they are the oldest son or daughter, our father or mother can be depressed. Life challenges or circumstances could hit them at any stage in life, putting them in a depressed mood, and they will need a miracle or divine help to save them from being depressed.

However, being depressed doesn't matter whether you are young or old before it happens to you. An adolescent child can be depressed because of bullying, school-related issues, ongoing conflict between parents, death of a family member, sexual abuse, or low self-esteem

You're absolutely right, just as you said depression can happen to anyone. Whether the father, mother first son, first daughter and even the last child can still feel depressed due to their familysituation. Maybe they've been struggling to survive yet things seems not to work out for them. I came across a 13 years old carrying blocks for mason man, which the boy was interviewed for doing such hard work at his age, the boy said his mum is a little bits sick and there was no money for her treatment. Instantly questioned the mason man why he allowed the boy to do such work at his age and said he already told the boy not eork but he insisted. Just imagine the depressed he felt that made this little to go and looked for a job just to buy drugs for her mum, so depression doesn't you must be adults before you'll feel depressed it can happen to anyone.

[Mayor of ogba]

Before oldest sons are faced with a lot of challenges and responsibilities but right now a lot of eldest sons are living a nonchalant life nothing concerns them with family problems they just care about themselves. Depression doesn't care who you are, things of this world can make anyone to be depressed. So in a family facing what so ever, the person that could be depressed is the person working his ass off to earn money, and when he or she earns the money, he or she will use the money to solve family problems.

[Swordsoffreedom]

Any member of the family can be hit by depression, whether or not they are the oldest son or daughter, our father or mother can be depressed. Life challenges or circumstances could hit them at any stage in life, putting them in a depressed mood, and they will need a miracle or divine help to save them from being depressed.

However, being depressed doesn't matter whether you are young or old before it happens to you. An adolescent child can be depressed because of bullying, school-related issues, ongoing conflict between parents, death of a family member, sexual abuse, or low self-esteem

You're absolutely right, just as you said depression can happen to anyone. Whether the father, mother first son, first daughter and even the last child can still feel depressed due to their familysituation. Maybe they've been struggling to survive yet things seems not to work out for them. I came across a 13 years old carrying blocks for mason man, which the boy was interviewed for doing such hard work at his age, the boy said his mum is a little bits sick and there was no money for her treatment. Instantly questioned the mason man why he allowed the boy to do such work at his age and said he already told the boy not eork but he insisted. Just imagine the depressed he felt that made this little to go and looked for a job just to buy drugs for her mum, so depression doesn't you must be adults before you'll feel depressed it can happen to anyone.

I think you are mixing up going through a painful situation with having depression.

Hardship, stress, emotional pain can lead to depression, but that doesn't mean everyone who goes through them develops it.

The boy may be sad,  worried, and under a lot of pressure trying to find money for his mom's treatment, but we can't conclude that he's depressed based on this story alone.

That said , I agree  with both of  you that depression can happen to anyone. But don't lump suffering and depression into the same bucket.

[Pearl_20]

Depression happens day and night. In a family facing what so ever
Who do you think is the most depressed person in the family?
Could it be the eldest son?
What is the fact behind your reasons?

I think Father and mother are the most depressed human beings in the family because they worry all the time for the safety of their children, I know is not all the father and mother that are depressed for the sake of the family, and it will be difficult for such parents to be depresse because they don't care about their life and children, any family that is doing well on earth today parents are the major people that embrace depression to make sure family  turn to what people in the society will live to celebrate parents that stood up their ground to lay a potential foundation for the family, just know that depression is not forever because some people can think committing suicide is the best way to end depression, but is not the best way to end depression, you can end depression through what is making you happy on the time and keep to it.

I totally agree with what you said about fathers and mothers being the most depressed person as a mum you're doing multiple things at a time and most times you're exhausted, drained and no one is asking about your welfare so it can be depressing. Most mothers shoulders the responsibility of their household with smiling face even if they're not feeling well and the fathers too are not left out, there are fathers who lost jobs at some point and feels they're no longer capable of taking care of their family and can fall into drinking or keeping late nights because they feel they might have failed as a father.

[Jaweria parveen]

It depends on everyone's thinking and worry because if there are 5 people in a house including 2 boys and 1 girl and their mother and father, then the one who will worry about everyone will be more depressed. In my house, the most depressed are my parents because they love us all very much and also love their family. Although in some other house, their children are more depressed and in some others. Because this is for everyone who thinks a lot and is afraid of problems and gets very disappointed. Although if each of these people gets into every trouble, everyone will get depressed at the same time. Although many people are happy, but the government has made people depressed for many reasons. Therefore, everyone is disappointed with their own problems and is looking for a good time so that they can end their disappointment.

[Tungbulu]

I think Depression doesnot depend on age gender or elder or youngest son it depends upon the person situations his family situation and also his emotions but i have observed that most of our new generation is depressed like some people look strong and shows outside that they are strong but inside they feel very hurt or broken. The most depressed person in the family is the one who overthinks or feel things deeply and carries emotional burden. And some people are very cool that they didnt even care what people are saying or what they will think about him but these people are judge wrongly in society.

Sometimes the folks in the family that appear to be the strongest are the ones who are silently dealing with the most pains. I’m always careful not to judge people simply by how they appear on the outside because there could way more going on inside their head that we may not know about, because everyone have their own different ways they handle emotions. The thing there is, just as you’ve rightly said, anyone can be affected by anyone regardless of their position in the family and it’s not always easy to just detect who’s feeling depressed by just looking at them. Sometimes someone who’s willing to understand and listen can actually make a real difference.