Be mindful of who you advices as persistent ignorant also ends in regrets

[EluguHcman]

Just a piece of advice to those who are concerned about their friends and relatives irresponsible lifestyles periodically those that are perceptive not to adapt to changes (addicts), try as much as you can to examine them before you approaches them when you notice they are out of their minds but taking the wrong decisions.
Some are just comfortable by it and trying to change them could result to serious enemity between you and them if time is not taken.

I visited my friend at his house yesterday and we were discussing about gambling and after a while, his wife came in and sat behind her husband (my friend). They were both in good terms and on of a sudden I overheard her saying... Please withdraw some of the money out and send to your wallet or you can send to me to keep for you so that you don't lost it all again like "it has been always happened in the pasts" and because he was winning on the streak and was pressing his winnings. Usually he accumulates huge amount and at the end he looses it all back but all he could tell her was to shut the fuck off very aggressively like he had really lost control of himself.

Verily I understood her point because I have encountered same experience with my wife and at most I end up regretting if I don't listen to her and in same vein I told my guy to give a thought of his wife's opinion but the dude transferred aggressions on me that I am supporting his wife over what is non of our business.
And he sanctioned me agressively that I should not try to advice him in anyway again especially when it gets to do with his personal decision.

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

                  The tittle sums it all.

[Oshosondy]

He really needs rehab and advice. You need to visit him and advise him. It will be like there is nothing else again but he should not think about will not let him focus on the further. Advice him to stop gambling.

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

Addicts will always argue with you if you try to advice him, I know this because I was an addict before. Some people tried to advise me but I did not listen and it was like they were saying rubbish. It was when I was not addicted anymore that know that they were all right.

[7juju]

That's really bad for your friend, I hope he don't commit the suicide. The right people to advise us are our friends and wife, and if we can't listen to these people, I wonder who we are ever going to listen to. What I can only say is that he seems to have had a rough day when you went to his house yesterday, because am sure he haven't responded to you like that before. It could be he was drunk or high on something for him to have reacted to you like that. As a friend you know him better if he has been that aggressive towards you in the past I'm sure you wouldn't be friends with him till today. Go back to his house and make sure he doesn't commit the suicide. Don't hold on to his word and abandon him, he needs help and as a friend you are the only one that can provide that help from him.

[irhact]

What a painful and very serious situation this is actually and it highlights how delicate intervention can be when someone is already struggling with addiction. you were genuinely concerned and acted in response unfortunately when a person is deep in gambling addiction, logic and good intentions often feel like attacks to them. The warning signs were already there: aggression, denial, loss of control, at this stage advice alone is not enough, professional help and close family support becomes critical. Right now the priority should be his safety and getting him immediate support, assigning blames should be avoided. Gambling addiction is real, destructive and often underestimated until it reaches a breaking point like this

[Yorubek]

Addiction slowly leads a person to the path of destruction. In reality, when a person gambles beyond his means, it becomes a gambling addiction. Once gambling becomes an addiction, its end takes a terrible shape. A person addicted to gambling gradually starts gambling beyond his means due to emotion or greed and gradually moves away from a healthy and normal life, cannot think normally, gradually moves away from his loved ones, feels annoyed when given good advice. The addicted person always thinks that gambling is his main goal or purpose. If his close friend or loved one gives good advice about gambling, the addicted person gets angry and sometimes behaves badly, sometimes as an enemy, because the addicted person is not in a normal state, that is why he misunderstands. Therefore, if we are going to give advice to someone, we should consider what state that person is in, what needs to be said, he may get angry or think of him as his enemy, so it is better not to discuss such matters with the addicted person. Otherwise, we will face a situation like the OP story.

[EluguHcman]

He really needs rehab and advice. You need to visit him and advise him. It will be like there is nothing else again but he should not think about will not let him focus on the further. Advice him to stop gambling.

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

Addicts will always argue with you if you try to advice him, I know this because I was an addict before. Some people tried to advise me but I did not listen and it was like they were saying rubbish. It was when I was not addicted anymore that know that they were all right.

Some level of ignorance persons actually posses to only learn through the hard ways and I think that is the kind of person that of my friend is.
Sometimes a word is also meant to be enough for the wise and I think I have played my part of trying to help him in the earlier time that would had saved him the regrets that would not had even lingered to the extent of thinking suicidal.

I also don't want to be beaten twice because he already ruined our friendship all because I was showing concerns of him. So what made you think he will act a good listener this time?

Maybe I should just say... To hell with him. You don't need to keep displeasing yourself to please others and a friend who does not consider the Worth of your opinion because he takes his decisions is not worth keeping. I already felt my regrets of advancing him in the first place but I appreciate the fact that I have shown him my genuineness too.

It is his life as earlier boosted, so let him decide if he is still right with the suicide decision or not. And perhaps, he might tend to hurt me out of the predicament so, let just stay off and also safeguard myself.

[joeperry]

For what I've seen, that kind of aggression is not normal and it confirmed by him trying to take his own life. It's actually not that bad to give an advice to someone but in the right time, for what I've seen, there's already a tension between the two and when you jumped in, it's not surprising that his anger goes towards you too. The best thing you and his wife can do is to seek a professional since trying to commit suicide and aggression is not normal for a person, his family and his friends are things he needed now and I hope you would move faster now before it's too late.

Feel sorry for the guy, but it's not too late.

[danherbias07]

I agree with this. We cannot help everyone. There are instances when our friend or relative does not want any help, even though we can obviously see that they are so stressed and frustrated with their life due to a gambling addiction.

I also have friends who are on the same page as the story of OP, and I am glad we grew together by being true to each other. When I saw what he did during our session of drinking alcohol with friends, which is rare to happen, he just gambled until he went home, I knew he was on the verge of gambling addiction. Didn't even talk to us. The next day, I told him about becoming a gambling addict, and I am glad he responded well. He stopped, and he is alright again.

[Slow death]

Something I've learned in my few years of life is that whenever someone has good intentions when advising someone close to them, the tendency is for that person to come to hate the person who gave them the advice. This is because most people are very proud and always think they know everything, so when someone else comes along and tells them they're wrong, the tendency is for them to react aggressively. Be careful when you go to see the person you tried to advise; avoid saying things like "I told you you couldn't do that...", just tell them that the world hasn't ended and that they can start over again without making the same mistakes.

[Pandu Geddon]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.

Some people become difficult to advise when they are addicted to gambling. They become more sensitive and emotionally hard to control. A gambler in such a situation cannot be given advice; they need expert help to overcome it. Because the next loss could make the gambler depressed, creating a situation that is even harder for an addict to face.

[Alpha Marine]

You can't force the horse to drink water. If you have told him your opinion in a way that is not condescending, there is nothing else you can do, especially if he is aggressive about it. He's a grown man who can make his own decisions.
He has to first figure out that he has a problem, and after he figures that out, he can focus on the solution to that problem. He can decide to get treatment if it's not something he can stop on his own. He can get therapy or rehab, whichever works for him. But if he doesn't figure out that he has a problem, it can cost him everything, including his marriage or even his life, as in this case.

That is why we have to be very careful and watch ourselves as we gamble. I'm sure this attitude didn't just start one day. It starts gradually, and it develops, but he has been losing relatively small amounts till he finally lost a huge amount, and now he cant take it anymore.
Always watch yourself when you're getting sucked in, make the necessary adjustment and make sure you don't get in too deep, even if it means taking a break for a while.

[Zlantann]

Some people will never take corrections until they learn their lessons the hard way. Sometimes it is better to stay away from people's lives if you are not too close to them. Your advice might be misunderstood, which might lead to conflict. Your friend needs help, and you have to assist him if he is open to receive it. He should have a gambling budget and all wins should be withdrawn to avoid the temptation of gambling them off. He should know that wins might not be profits from gambling since you have been losing for a long time.  

[Porfirii]

In Spain we have a saying that can be translated as "No one learns a lesson from someone else's head". I have experienced it myself during my life on countless occasions, both with advice given to me and given by me to others. When he latter happens, the feeling of frustration is almost inevitable, but I will keep trying because, although most of the times the OP is right in his/her title, the mere possibility if the opposite is worth the effort.

[lovesmayfamilis]

Your friend's wife should have left him and his gambling addiction long ago. If he's a gambling addict who doesn't even want to acknowledge it, then those around him are suffering more than he is. Advise his wife to leave him before it's too late. Don't coddle men who resort to rudeness toward those who have tolerated them for a long time. Don't pity him; let him do what he wants. Sometimes this is the only way people stop, when they realize everyone has turned their backs on them, and it's their own fault.

[MArsland]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

No matter how much advice you give to an addicted gambler, let them feel the consequences of their greed first. Because only in that way will he realize that all your advice is really proven. Moreover this has entered the realm of family so you really don't need to go further even though as a friend you have sympathy. But the reality is that not all sympathy is well received by him.

[freedomgo]

The main point is the approach was already wrong from the very start.

We tend to forget how to be responsible gamblers. If we have a family, we need to make sure we prioritize where the money goes. Gambling should only get a small portion, and that amount should be strictly for gambling only. If I’m a man and I’ve already set aside money for the family’s basic needs, but my wife is still telling me to withdraw so I won’t lose, I’d honestly be pissed too.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

Only give advice to those that seek for it, some people are very dramatic like your friend, there's no need to be harsh in such a way, to the extent of embarrassing his wife in your presence and then walking you out from his home. What kind of a friend is he? Although you know him better, if you had the idea that he was going to react like that, then you should not have push further to give him any advice.

[Agbamoni]

Your friend is in deep shit. If he is not careful, they will sing his tales, but in an abusive tone. "The Chronicles of a _____gambler"

They say experience is the best teacher, yet with the number of experiences your friend has gotten after winning, he loses them all, he dont want to learn from it. What else can stop such a person from becoming a chronic addict? Not even his beloved wife 

[Hatchy]

                  The tittle sums it all.

Sorry to say, but your friend has already lost it. It's no longer about addiction to me, but someone with such temper would not really do well in managing his gambling life and risk. Imagine losing so much on one game and then he get angry, increasing his overall risk and losing even more. He needs rehab honestly, and he should try to avoid gambling for some time before he losses his life and ruins that of his loved ones. I personally don't enjoy being around friends that don't listen to advice and what more throw you out of his house, lol. That's the highest I would even take for an embarrassment. You as his friend has tried your best so it's best you stay out of it..

[masulum]

if his wife already remind him to withdraw but he ignored it, and she also mentioned "again" it's mean he not learn from his mistake before. He already on gambling addict, and will not accept any advice from anyone anymore. no matter how good someone give him advice he will rejected it. Because wife one of person who have power to stopped him but she unable to stop him because of his ignorance.