Being Liked or Being Feared,Which One Gets You Further in Life?

[White pawn]

Everyone wants to be liked,but power has never belonged to the most liked person in the room.
Pause for a second and think about this;
How many people you admire were actually liked by everyone while they were rising?Very few.

Overtime,I’ve noticed a quiet truth we don’t like to admit that life does not reward niceness as much as it rewards clarity, strength, and boundaries.We often connect more to the Comfort of Being Liked because being liked feels safe.It feels warm.People smile at you. They invite you in;they clap when you speak.
But being liked often comes with a hidden cost self-betrayal.Being liked is temporary,but being feared is unstable.
Being respected is powerful because Respect is what people call you when you’re not in the room.

On the other phase,Fear has a bad reputation, and so,fear is rooted in cruelty destroys trust and breeds resentment.
But there is another kind of fear,the fear of boundaries, the fear of crossing someone who knows their worth.
This kind of fear is not loud,it doesn’t shout.People don’t fear you because you are harsh.They fear you because you are unmovable,you mean what you say,you enforce standards and you are consistent.

So, Which Gets You Further?
If your goal is comfort; be liked.
If your goal is control;be feared.
But if your goal is impact, longevity, and authority choose respect.The most effective people are not chasing love or control.They are anchored in self-respect.

[Findingnemo]

Can you be nice and still be feared? I guess it is possible because normally people get some kind of scare when they get along with someone who is powerful be it politician or successful business man or celebrity which is very normal so it is something that comes along with the success and how much people we can influence but you can still be nice, just try to comfort the one who are afraid of getting near and just be humane with everyone.

[devlin85]

People who go far are not interested in being accepted, liked, or feared. These types of people tend to have a strong character (not a bad one; strong character is often confused with bad character), which helps them build inner authority and self-respect, and from there external respect arises. They are people who do not seek approval, do not raise their voice, and do not need to constantly impose themselves; they are firm people, and that commands respect.

[MusicLand]

man if you dont seek approval people think you are arrogant but maybe that is just their own insecurity talking to be honest

[Liliana1304]

It is natural to be feared the more you get successful in life because people don't know how to be around you, they won't know what might tick you off, so it's like walking on eggshells. I like to tell myself that the person that can still like you even when you have become powerful and and a celebrity is one who was able to stick with you through tough times. They'd respect you for your determination to become something of yourself despite the limiting circumstances, but there are some people who accord you respect or regard not because you are deserving, but so that they too can get into your good graces so they can benefit from you .

It's tricky to tell which of the above mentioned options get one far in life but there's the saying that respect is reciprocal which means despite being rich and famous, you can still remain humble at heart and treat humans fairly, for me that's the impact they'd see and give you what you deserve. It's not just about being nice.

[Frankolala]

What you call fear might not be to Mr B. No matter how you try to be loved by all, it's not everyone thay will like you. It's same with fear, not everyone will fear you because some will like you for who you're. For me, I'm an easy going person and take life simple to keep me going. If you like love me or hate me, I will still be who I am.

[AVE5]

This is a food for thought. Imagine directly being asked if you'll prefer to be like or referred? But question question is on what basis? Is it in social or business ramifications?
I think in business, you need the likes for promotion and parsonages. You don't need the fear otherwise, you'll be restricting people from you.
But if in a common life, it's just okay to have the Influence that people can fear as otherwise, living consciously with you as someone who got that ego and energy to act and same time, you can balance the ground if you also make every other person live comfortably with you.
Moreover, likeness brings company and fear creates scarcity. Perhaps being over feared will limit or hinder you from connecting with others while over likeness may give room for enemies to get closely.

[MusicLand]

isnt it possible to just be respected without all the drama of being liked or feared or is that too much to ask

[Dunamisx]

What is the essence of when you appeared a scary lion to everyone and becomes unapproachable to the people, is that the way of life and how everyone is expected to leave their lives, or we see it as a concern when we feels the same way others feels about life and try to care for them in our own way by being approachable, i see those that are not ready an willing to help others behave in this manner.

[GUORY00]

What is the essence of when you appeared a scary lion to everyone and becomes unapproachable to the people, is that the way of life and how everyone is expected to leave their lives, or we see it as a concern when we feels the same way others feels about life and try to care for them in our own way by being approachable, i see those that are not ready an willing to help others behave in this manner.

I have seen bosses try the fear tactic and it usually ends with everyone quitting as soon as a better offer comes along so it is a pretty bad long term strategy

[passwordnow]

There's the quote that whoever is the most silent person, they're also the most feared ones. To be honest, being liked means that you please people and they're seeing the good thing in you. But being feared is something else but in a good way. People who's feared in a good way have people's respect but being liked, you can just be likened by people but not fear you.

isnt it possible to just be respected without all the drama of being liked or feared or is that too much to ask

That's what I am about to say, being respected is better regardless of you're liked or feared.