Smoking in front of your children, right or wrong?

[mvdheuvel1983]

there's one of my uncle that smokes but whenever he sees me or any of my cousins coming he will hide the smoke, that is how an elderly person is supposed to do,  once you are in front of children hide it, if not you're gradually teaching them how to smoke.

Your uncle is not doing the right thing because he's always hiding something that you already saw him doing the best thing he should do I not to smoke around the house areas if he doesn't want you or any of your siblings to know about his smoking lifestyle. It is better you don't have an idea that he smokes than seeing him doing it one day you may decide to always hide to know how just he's been doing taste and that is how kids learn how to smoke. Kids are fast learners, parents should learn to hide whenever they do the things they don't want their children or kids around them to not to emulate it is between they don't even do such things.

[Gozie51]

Do you agree to this?

You have your point which is reasonable too but the thing about the point you raised is that these days people have changed with the way technology have also grown. Children are use to so many things now even without learning it from their parents or taught by their parents. It is not good though but what is now good or bad is relative to different people. Back in the days, the fathers don't smoke at home but today even in their bedrooms they smoke. Even alcohol has some phenomenon and this is why you see teenagers exhibiting different kinds of immoral behaviours. I think the culprit is the society which has metamorphose from a homogeneous society to heterogeneous one and you have mixed attitudes and behaviour currupting the weakest of the society. Children really need to be protected from vices that will push them into ways of living that is not what they can decide on at that early stage of their lives.

[Felicity_Tide]

Your uncle is not doing the right thing because he's always hiding something that you already saw him doing the best thing he should do I not to smoke around the house areas if he doesn't want you or any of your siblings to know about his smoking lifestyle. It is better you don't have an idea that he smokes than seeing him doing it one day you may decide to always hide to know how just he's been doing taste and that is how kids learn how to smoke. Kids are fast learners, parents should learn to hide whenever they do the things they don't want their children or kids around them to not to emulate it is between they don't even do such things.

You have a point, because a lot of people don't know the vacuum that is being created when these kids eventually found out that their dad smokes. Just imagine if you find out that a very quiet and well mannered dude in your neighborhood is actually into things you never thought of him, that alone can create a vacuum, which a lot of children might eventually struggle to handle because they aren't matured enough. I would prefer that parents should smoke very far away_{(not even around their premises)}, if they truly want to set a false standards that can at least keep the children away from such lifestyle.

[bakasabo]

there's one of my uncle that smokes but whenever he sees me or any of my cousins coming he will hide the smoke, that is how an elderly person is supposed to do,  once you are in front of children hide it, if not you're gradually teaching them how to smoke.

Your uncle is not doing the right thing because he's always hiding something that you already saw him doing the best thing he should do I not to smoke around the house areas if he doesn't want you or any of your siblings to know about his smoking lifestyle. It is better you don't have an idea that he smokes than seeing him doing it one day you may decide to always hide to know how just he's been doing taste and that is how kids learn how to smoke. Kids are fast learners, parents should learn to hide whenever they do the things they don't want their children or kids around them to not to emulate it is between they don't even do such things.

That is a good question btw. I saw numerous times that parents hide fact that they smoke, while their children know what smoking is and already saw parents smoking. Why do parents do that? Because they are shy or dont know how to explain to children their need to do things that they previously described as bad and forbid doing? I am sure that even if a child tries smoking, taste of a cigarette and burn in lungs and throat will prevent from continuing smoking. Child will start to smoke only to look cool and to impress his friends. If parents manage to teach that there are other ways to impress people, then it is a little safe from childs start of smoking.

[Dunamisx]

 If 18 years old plus is the recommended range for exposing children at some certain things, then we should consider it as being what is right if our conscience is still there and wrong if we think they are be open to any that any time, life is not hard, but it will be a shameful thing if we are contributing to that can ruin their life, instead of allowing positive taught come over through us, setting good example for them to follow.

[Reatim]

it’s worrying that not even the mother finds this disturbing or at the very least smokers should be more careful around others and be more aware of the dangers of second hand smoke

i don’t care if they smoke one pack a day but don’t drag other people with that especially kids

[DYING_S0UL]

Fortunately, I don't smoke, I don't like it at all!

And even if I did (theoretically speaking), I would do it in private, not in front of my children or my loved ones (young or adult, doesn't matter in this case).

[Dunamisx]

It takes discipline to know what to do and not as parent, it is also not proper to use our own foolishness and upbringings affect the destiny of our children, smoking in from of them in indirectly telling them to also be learning how to smoke, which is very bad as parent to do, there are many things we are supposed to do in helping our children as they are growing and not to be disgracing ourself around them by our behaviors.

[Emeraldo]

Children are very very sensitive set of persons especially when they trying to build there believe system, whatever you do freely around a child is what he or she will see as a normal thing to do you will be surprised to see that such a child you smoke everytime in his or her presence will want to try that thing you when no body is around because he or she sees it as a normal and harmless thing .
Some people don't really care about the children that are  under there watch they misbehave and act carelessly without out even caring the effect of there attitude in the life of the children under there watch.

[Juicyhome]

It takes discipline to know what to do and not as parent, it is also not proper to use our own foolishness and upbringings affect the destiny of our children, smoking in from of them in indirectly telling them to also be learning how to smoke, which is very bad as parent to do, there are many things we are supposed to do in helping our children as they are growing and not to be disgracing ourself around them by our behaviors.

Some parents are just anyhow people, they real don't care about the future of their children, they do a lot of things in front of their kids, not just smoking, they fight each, exchange words in front of their kids, without minding the affect on this kids when they grow up.

Smoking or any indicent act should be done in absence of your kids, because children learn from what they see and they try to repeat it. I saw on the Internet a girl child using her mum's vibrator to touch her self, where on earth did she learn that from, it obvious the mum used it in her front and she try to repeat it.  If to care about your children, they're thin you don't do in their front.