Marriage Future Financial Arrangement.

[passwordnow]

The dating part will give you time and chance to really get to know you partner. What you see during the dating part is what you will get when you get married so once you see red flags, consider thinking twice about marriage because you guys might not be on the same page.

Not all that you see in the dating part will be the actuality of that person. Because there are partners who are only good during the dating phase but, when you're already together things can change. It's different from the arranged marriage and there will be red flags still while you're together after the dating phase. Someone needs to be serious in choosing their partners, it shouldn't be set by your parents or by anybody. It should be us that will have to choose our partners because it will be us that will be together in good, bad, in health and in sickness.

[Creeper0]

Money is one popular reasons for the high rate of divorce. Couples should agree on how money will be used in the family before marriage. When there is no financial integrity and accountability in the home, it leads to conflicts. Trust is developed between couples if there is financial openness. Your partner should know how much you earn and how it is spent.    

It depends on the regional culture. Normally, the earner has full rights in terms of financial expenditure. As a spouse, it is his duty to fulfill all the needs of his wife, if he is able to do so. If the reason for family separation is financial constraints, I have seen divorces even due to financial independence. So which direction should we go?

Maybe we should go towards our rights. My income, my rights. My wife, my duty. I don't think there is any need for a husband to make a contract with his wife to spend. When your wife earns, she will definitely not agree to a contract.

[r_victory]

Setting boundaries in a relationship is healthy, but we shouldn't treat marriage like a business partnership. Marriage is based on trust; when there's no trust, it's better not to get married. When goals are compatible, there's not much to control. When my wife and I got married, we had practically nothing, and we saved on almost everything. Today, the situation is a little better, but we still remain responsible with our spending. However, we don't deprive each other of how much we spend without the other knowing; each of us buys what is necessary, regardless of the price. Communication and transparency are part of daily life, of living together; it's something natural.

[Cheema02]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Your point is really valid and depends on reality and its true that for a healthy relationship its important to discussion about finance befor marriage because cash is the leading reason of conflicts. And its a good for a new couple to openly share there debets and saving which ensure that they or on the same thought. And also they decided to open account independently or use joined account because this helps a lot to manage the daily finance like pay bills. And also among the couple the partner who have strong skills of finance take the responsibility of manage it. And the learning point is that a careful financial plan may be necessary before marriage to secure foundation of honesty.

[coupable]

It looks like you are only targeting men by your questions because frequently women aren't the side that opens topics about financial management before the mariage. Personally, I will suggest a financial plan to manage family budget from both incomes me and her because I refuse to marry a jobless woman for several reasons.

This is true nowadays; it seems that it is no longer advisable for only men to contribute money to the family. Partners in life need to help each other if they want a better future for the family they are going to build. If only one person earns money, they end up in a bad situation that ends up in a divorce because they often run out of money. I know many families who always have issues with money in their marriage. After all, it can be easily resolved if the two of you help each other to get through life, and, in fact, it will even make everyone's work easier if things are done that way.

Those other points and I want to add another important point which is about rising cgildren. It is important that a kid grow in a balanced family situation in order for him to learn how responsabilities can be shared to achieve the economic stability for every person within a family. After women entered the labor market, it becomes an old concept that women stay at home and men work outside. Only conservative societies still adopt this ideology. As I can see, many others share the same opinion and this is a good sign that old concepts have been broken.

[AmaGold70]

A good marriage financial arrangement or management depends on the communication level of the couple and have an understanding within each other, it is very important to plan every lives approach especially marriage because that is were you practice all you have learnt about life and survival, money have the power to make or destroy every marriage and it depends on each couple to decide what to want and how they want their family to be. Having a joint account for future purposes is a good idea before the kids start coming in because every decision you make as a couple whether good or bad will affect your children and I want to say that paying bills concerning the family shouldn't be the responsibility of the male alone but it should be for both individuals to make it easier for everyone.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

For me there is no better way than both couple engaging in their private management of their income,as husband this should be agreed even before the marriage the woman will manage her business and the income coming in and the feeding if the man is capable can handle it all if the wife deem it fit to assist good but should be voluntarily, wife must engaged on something that is given her financial income because idleness of women channels their eyes towards their husbands pocket when they are not get what they want from the man they will fight for divorce. The financial stability of a wife help in cutting down breakage of home as they are financially solvent can't be swaddled by friends focus on their husbands wealth or income.

[junder]

As time goes by, the cost of a wedding is increasing if it is conceptualized with a party, I myself like to ask some of my friends who got married by holding a party and I was quite astonished by hearing the costs incurred even though my friend said it was the simplest party.

I feel lucky if I get a partner who doesn't demand to have a grand party on the wedding day, especially if he thinks like me where the money should be used for other things such as buying a house or interests after marriage, because that way I think he can manage money well later.

But I'm not saying those who throw parties can't manage money well. It's just a difference in thinking and situation.

[Hamza2424]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

I don't think without spending too much time any of each will try to ask these questions from each other, but a man looking for a wife must have clear things in mind like what he is looking for, if he marriages a working lady who works and wants to work don't want any kids, don't want to do other things and want to spend the money her or his way then they should keep this in mind rather than hoping in their hearts that they might change.

And to be honest different cultures and regions have different way of doing this and their also comes the marriage agreements which in some places are even tempered and in some places one of the partner tries to take it all from others so yup it is best to not share that you have a lot of funds because before sharing first know what kind of a partner you have chosen for you.

[DYOR+BTC]

This isn't love, this is arranged marriage. When you are in love, it doesn't matter who earns how much, it doesn't even matter who spends how much, you earn together and you spend together and if one of you makes a mistake, you suffer together. At least this is how a marriage must work still it all depends on cultural values and other traditional practices and we do not have same practices across the globe.

Do you think I earn the same as my wife? Of course not, she earns less than me, much less than me, and you think we spend the same? Of course not, she spends way more than me . But does that bother me? Of course not, because that is literally why I work, so that she can have a better life. That's love. If you do not feel that, do not get married.

Yes bearing each others bothering is supposed to be the true qualities of good union, both the husband and the wife are supposed to be there be it in good or bad times in as much as they have decided to become one. Marriage that is built on true love never looks at who is earning higher of lower all they are interested in is the happiness of there home and not material things as literally stated above, so considering financial stability before marriage when both are hardworking is never a good step towards good union because there wont be guinea love as both will be looking at what his or her partner is spending

[Royal Cap]

For me there is no better way than both couple engaging in their private management of their income,as husband this should be agreed even before the marriage the woman will manage her business and the income coming in and the feeding if the man is capable can handle it all if the wife deem it fit to assist good but should be voluntarily, wife must engaged on something that is given her financial income because idleness of women channels their eyes towards their husbands pocket when they are not get what they want from the man they will fight for divorce. The financial stability of a wife help in cutting down breakage of home as they are financially solvent can't be swaddled by friends focus on their husbands wealth or income.

However I think that the peace of the family does not only depend on how much money is being earned but also on the understanding and respect between the two. Of course if both are financially aware, the pressure in the family will be reduced, this cannot be denied. But forcing someone or unilaterally imposing responsibility can create the opposite problem, In my opinion the most practical solution is to manage finances in a way that both husband and wife feel comfortable discussing.

[Obulis]

These questions are serious but I can't imagine there necessity in marriage. So much or so many things is happening in marriages nowadays that is warranting this questions and at the same time making it look normal but these are not really normal questions, they are business partnership questions and marriage from human history wasn't a partnership deal. For that, these questions might not even settle all that it is intended (I guess these questions are supposed to help the marriage to work?). I don't think treating marriage as a business deal can cause a healthy marriage. Getting a partner who's willing to share their all including Bitcoin investment is the best instead of going into a business deal in the name of marriage.

[Faisal2202]

Things are getting more complicated day by day, and the reason I feel more rigid about making complex relationships these days is the internet. Because you may see a lot of videos circulating on the internet that are kind of motivational to check each other's loyalty, but the real propaganda behind this kind of content is to raise conflicts and nothing else. I can be wrong, but this is what I feel is true.

Yeah I watched few but I keep my feed clean haha as I don't like content of this type but there is no need to confirm this from the social media because what I beleive is 80% of the content on internet is not real it is acting and now with the AI I think it won't be wrong to increase this number to 90% and you are right we should not take lessons from the stories which are one sided.

There is nothing bad in this, but the thing is that this has become the reason why today young youth are still unmarried because they are afraid of how they will keep fulfilling necessary or unnecessary demands of their partners that link with financial stability. What do you think?

I don't think that's a good reason and actually a reason for anyone to not marry haha because everyone should find a girl that he thinks he can manages her financially, mentally and from other aspects haha what kind of discussion we are having on bitcointalk these days haha anyway I am not an expert as not married. But will let you know after I got married haha just kidding I won't let you know find out yourself haha.

[snowpega]

Yeah I watched few but I keep my feed clean haha as I don't like content of this type but there is no need to confirm this from the social media because what I beleive is 80% of the content on internet is not real it is acting and now with the AI I think it won't be wrong to increase this number to 90% and you are right we should not take lessons from the stories which are one sided.

Yeah, that's true, as sometimes it becomes difficult to check the video as it is human-generated content (real) or AI-generated content, and for this, I used to think sometimes that AI companies should work on it, like they can put a limit on its use by making some changes at the back-end. As it is getting more dangerous day by day. For now, we are using it for fun more, and sometimes we use it to do some task, and sometimes we use it to get to the point information, but believe me, this is its food as it is currently in a learning phase, and what are we doing, it is making perfect itself against us.

I don't think that's a good reason and actually a reason for anyone to not marry haha because everyone should find a girl that he thinks he can manages her financially, mentally and from other aspects haha what kind of discussion we are having on bitcointalk these days haha anyway I am not an expert as not married. But will let you know after I got married haha just kidding I won't let you know find out yourself haha.

But mate, it somehow fits perfectly in these days' conditions, other than this buddy going to marry such a person you don't know exactly, is just like an example, "we can not judge the book by its cover". So, how can we make sure that this person will understand and will compromise on each matter of life with us? But the reality is that in today's time, money matters more for a girl even more than loyalty, haha. That is why in older times, that generation used to get married in young age. Other than this, I am not saying you have to agree with me, as its obvious you may have your own perspective on this and this is what is think as of my own point of view.

[HONDACD125]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Yes, but as mentioned by some users already, it shouldn't only be discussed between the two of you and decided verbally, because people often change after marriage, and verbal agreements have no value at all because it will only be your words against theirs, and you won't be able to prove anything legally this way if things don't work out later on. This is why it is important to make it official, get it stamped and signed so that it can serve as a legal proof for you in case the marriage faces problems in the future and there has to be a separation, etc.

Financial issues and finances often become the reason for separation and divorce between married couples, which is why it is better if everything is decided beforehand and they are both legally bound to follow the things they have agreed upon before getting married officially. This way, if your spouse refuses to do something, or maybe start arguing over something that has already been decided, you can simply bring out the signed agreement with all the points discussed and mutually agreed upon, and then they won't have anything to say or argue about.

[Fiasem20]

Op you’re actually right.Financial issues need to be arranged and resolved before marriage,many broken marriages was as a result of lack of accountability in regards to financial matters.Both spouse should be open when it comes to financial issues,funnily enough how the society insults a man who open up he’s account to he’s wife,isn’t he more better than a man that hides he’s wealth from he’s wife and their children?so should the wife reciprocate same action by not hiding her account from her husband.In conclusion,everyone has their own way of managing their money in a relationship,so just a perfect match that would align to your financial arrangement for a better future.

[Taricoins]

A good marriage financial arrangement or management depends on the communication level of the couple and have an understanding within each other, it is very important to plan every lives approach especially marriage because that is were you practice all you have learnt about life and survival, money have the power to make or destroy every marriage and it depends on each couple to decide what to want and how they want their family to be. Having a joint account for future purposes is a good idea before the kids start coming in because every decision you make as a couple whether good or bad will affect your children and I want to say that paying bills concerning the family shouldn't be the responsibility of the male alone but it should be for both individuals to make it easier for everyone.

Having a mutual understanding no doubt is the most essential factor that is there for any marriage to work because lack of understanding causes chaos in the home and with that your marriage will just have no direction whatsoever but let's take a look at the world today with all the things that are happening especially in the aspect of marriages, I would definitely not advice any man to even have a joint account with their partner let alone not be careful as the feminine gander is filled with lots of surprises especially when the influence of money gets into the picture.

[SquallLeonhart]

Having a mutual understanding no doubt is the most essential factor that is there for any marriage to work because lack of understanding causes chaos in the home and with that your marriage will just have no direction whatsoever but let's take a look at the world today with all the things that are happening especially in the aspect of marriages, I would definitely not advice any man to even have a joint account with their partner let alone not be careful as the feminine gander is filled with lots of surprises especially when the influence of money gets into the picture.

While I agree that there are ways you could do mutual agreement, one thing people have to remember that it is not at the same time. As someone who has been married since I was a very very young person, I can tell you that the mutual part comes at different times.

This means, if you want something, and she wants something, and you both do at the same time, then one of you will convince the other to do what they want, because you can't do it at the same time. Important piece of information here, if you did what she wanted that time, next time it should be yours, that way it is not at the same time but at least it's fair, if you do what you want and then ask to do what you want again next time, that would be unfair and not mutual at all.

[SmartCharpa]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

There are plenty agreements which must be negotiated with your partner before marriage, it will be too late when you create some agreements after marriage. There are different people in this world, and you will never understand them until you share the same space with them. Perhaps you did not make some agreement to have a joints account before you got married, if you try after marriage , some partners may tell you that their money is theirs, they cannot join it with their husband.

However, you should know everything about your partner before you married, in some agreement, you needs to consider whether your partner is hardworking, if he or she does not have a job, I doubt both parties would be able to contribute for any bills. And there are many people out there who cannot marry a partner who is not going to contribute for the bills due to too much responsibility.

[Cheema02]

Setting boundaries in a relationship is healthy, but we shouldn't treat marriage like a business partnership. Marriage is based on trust; when there's no trust, it's better not to get married. When goals are compatible, there's not much to control. When my wife and I got married, we had practically nothing, and we saved on almost everything. Today, the situation is a little better, but we still remain responsible with our spending. However, we don't deprive each other of how much we spend without the other knowing; each of us buys what is necessary, regardless of the price. Communication and transparency are part of daily life, of living together; it's something natural.

Your are right about marriage. I know before marriage from both side mean from bridle and groom some boundaries are fixed and its good but convert these boundaries into contract and business can undermine the emotional foundation of marriage. For a successful marriage the one most important thing is trust and when partners share their goals to each other then they little need of monitoring. So through trustful way both individuals can uderstand there responsibilities and through this way they improved there finance and also maintain displine which shows strong commitment among them. And also both partners gives purchasing freedom to each other but with limits and its reflect the deep understanding and this kind of relationship naturally built very strong because both individuals supporting each other and give respect and independence and pay there responsibilities and its the best example of a successful marriage life.