Marriage Future Financial Arrangement.

[JoyceBTC]

couples should really consider having a prenuptial agreement that dictates what's theirs and what's not this might seem unromantic to some but this is the reality and a good way to protect yourself just in case things happen

it's not unromantic.. it's practical!!

If two people agree with prenuptial before marriage for me the woman should be allowed to work and raising of the children will be equal and even the wife is pregnant the man has to stop work till the duration of when the woman is fit enough to start working.

I totally agree with you on this but the truth is that not all men will agree with stopping work or even some companies will not agree to the fact that the man has to stop working for the period of time his wife is pregnant. But honestly that’s the right thing to do

[slapper]

Joint accounts work, until they don't. Until there's this silent thing going where one person gets resentful over the way the other person spends. Or separate accounts feel independent of each other except now you're doing this weird mental math of 'well who owes what' and it gets exhausting.

The questions you have listed are fine I guess. Practical. But they're surface level.

What you really need to know is if this person can cope with the situation when your financial values totally clash. Because that will happen. One of you will want to save everything and the other one will want to live now. One grew up with scarcity, that is forever. The other didn't.

Most people would be better off discussing what money meant during their childhood than spending limits they'll ignore anyways

[Faisal2202]

Yeah, that's true, as sometimes it becomes difficult to check the video as it is human-generated content (real) or AI-generated content, and for this, I used to think sometimes that AI companies should work on it, like they can put a limit on its use by making some changes at the back-end. As it is getting more dangerous day by day. For now, we are using it for fun more, and sometimes we use it to do some task, and sometimes we use it to get to the point information, but believe me, this is its food as it is currently in a learning phase, and what are we doing, it is making perfect itself against us.

Do you actually think one day AI will be after us like in the movies? Anyway, companies can't do anything now but they can introduce some official detection tools for video,s as well as they have released for text written using AI. Because with those detection tool,s anyone can confirm if the video is real or fake.

But mate, it somehow fits perfectly in these days' conditions, other than this buddy going to marry such a person you don't know exactly, is just like an example, "we can not judge the book by its cover". So, how can we make sure that this person will understand and will compromise on each matter of life with us? But the reality is that in today's time, money matters more for a girl even more than loyalty, haha. That is why in older times, that generation used to get married in young age. Other than this, I am not saying you have to agree with me, as its obvious you may have your own perspective on this and this is what is think as of my own point of view.

I can't say why people get married early, but it depends on many things, the culture, the way of people etc. And it is not true everywhere as well. But you are right, time is changing, so are the ways and thoughts and the ways of fights and somehow the cycle is repeating in new shapes. Anyway money, loyality, etc. are the talks if I am rich, I am not, so whatever girl will come into my life will know what I am and what I have, and if she still chose me then she deserve to be with me when I will be rich I mean not deserve as it is kind of a wrong word but you got my point right!

[SOKO-DEKE]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Man is the head of the family, and it is man’s responsibility to take care of his family. It is the man that needs to provide everything for a woman, so having a joint account will not make any sense, because that shows that you and your wife are now both providing. With that, there will not be any respect from the woman again.

And with that, it can even cause a lot of problems, because with money they are always trying to be smarter than men. We have seen a lot of divorces, and the causes of those divorces are all about money. In fact, women are now divorcing because of the share they will get from their husbands properties.

So, if you have a joint account, it is very possible that after having enough savings, it will lead to problems. Therefore, the best way to treat wives is by providing everything she needs, and the money she is making should be in her own bank account and used the way she likes. That is the way to avoid problems.

[AYOBA]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Yeah, having a plan before getting married is very important especially the financial aspect. Because you cannot be spend money anywhere like the you was spend when you where still in single, once a person is getting married all his spending will base on calculation; that’s why it’s good for someone to know all those things; because it’s a good planning strategy.

And this is the reason why some people don’t get themselves even after they’ve married they will be running about that they have broke after marriage, but if a person have plan himself well with a financially arrangement everything will still going well ever after the marriage.

[Josefjix]

couples should really consider having a prenuptial agreement that dictates what's theirs and what's not this might seem unromantic to some but this is the reality and a good way to protect yourself just in case things happen

I agree with you, I saw an article about this popular boxer, Anthony Joshua, saying any woman that will gonna get married to him will surely undergo prenup agreement before marriage, and then many women aren't ready for this. He said.

In any event, a popular boxer, who stays single because his gf refused the prenup... and he has lots money... whose loss it that? Not the boxer's.

The woman is at loss, because there are beautiful women everywhere and there are less rich men everywhere, that's the advantage for men. If his gf decides not to sign any prenup documents, then let her go. Who cares about her feelings, afterall, there are many women ready on the line to sign and join in.

In dating game, men are literally at the top because we are the gateway of commitment while women are the gateway of sex. So men can get sex from any women anywhere but women finds it hard to attain commitment from me. They have to work hard for it.

[junder]

I totally agree with you on this but the truth is that not all men will agree with stopping work or even some companies will not agree to the fact that the man has to stop working for the period of time his wife is pregnant. But honestly that’s the right thing to do

It's not a bad decision to quit your job when your wife is pregnant, especially if you are the only one at home, but we must consider it first and be prepared, especially financially, because quitting your job means losing your income. You are lucky if your company understands and gives you time off instead of requiring you to quit. But if there are many people at home, I don't think quitting your job is the right decision.

[davis196]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Do you plan to get married or something? I have no plans of getting married and even if I did get married, I would never just give all my money to my spouse. Maybe I can give her some money, but only in exchange of a service in return, something like "bedroom activity". Let's be honest here, all relationships are transactional and no woman is dumb enough to get a poor husband. Our income will be budgeted in the most simple way. My money for me, her money for her. I can give her a loan every once in a while(if she has financial difficulties), but giving money for nothing is the worst decision ever, when you are dealing with women.

[viljy]

Not all cultures welcome this. Of course, this is correct from the practical side, but in fact, sometimes such agreements are simply implicit, especially where there are long-standing customs (which may cover the financial side of family relations). Perhaps such a well-established order of things is even better in the end than agreements that can be violated because they are not backed up by custom, but are simply a promise (even if they are fixed on paper). As a result, the ground for conflict is more unstable than in traditional societies.

[Swordsoffreedom]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Do you plan to get married or something? I have no plans of getting married and even if I did get married, I would never just give all my money to my spouse. Maybe I can give her some money, but only in exchange of a service in return, something like "bedroom activity". Let's be honest here, all relationships are transactional and no woman is dumb enough to get a poor husband. Our income will be budgeted in the most simple way. My money for me, her money for her. I can give her a loan every once in a while(if she has financial difficulties), but giving money for nothing is the worst decision ever, when you are dealing with women.

It is not surprising that these things are coming from someone who is not married, and I guess you don't even have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet
However, if you find a life partner who truly loves you, and you love your children the way your parents loved you. I bet you'll no longer have these negative thought.

Our partner are there to love, care and trust each other, not just to exchange services as you might think. Money is indeed very important for family happiness, but not everything in marriage needs to be measured in terms of money

[lizarder]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

It's true that we should discuss financial management procedures first before getting married so that we don't choose the wrong partner because most of the time nowadays, families have problems or divorce occurs because both of them are unable to take responsibility for how to manage their finances well. A wife who is good at managing finances is usually much more frugal and she can always set aside the money we give her and in the end the money is used to buy gold as an investment step that women often do and I often see this because several married female friends often talk about this issue.

Managing finances after marriage is very important, especially if we are building financial freedom and most importantly, our life's needs are met and how we must also increase investment opportunities and build a small business as additional income. This can be done if both partners understand each other and know how to use money wisely and not spend money on things that are not important.

[barisbilgili]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

I think this should be discussed and questioned with your partner before getting married because finances in a household are very important, and it will have a significant impact if one partner cannot cooperate in this. In fact, I think even before marriage, it is worth cooperating in managing finances and discussing many things about future finances because uniting the perspectives of two different people will be difficult. However, if there is a common goal, it can be achieved through good cooperation.

[justdimin]

It is not surprising that these things are coming from someone who is not married, and I guess you don't even have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet
However, if you find a life partner who truly loves you, and you love your children the way your parents loved you. I bet you'll no longer have these negative thought.

Our partner are there to love, care and trust each other, not just to exchange services as you might think. Money is indeed very important for family happiness, but not everything in marriage needs to be measured in terms of money

Unfortunately social media created a lot of people who never grow up, they can be 40 years old and still do not understand the relationship between men and women, because they have never been loved and they never loved someone who loved them back, so they hate the world for it and they have childish thoughts about how relationships work.

You are right, because when you love someone and you find someone who also loves you back, there is nothing in the world you wouldn't do for them. Marriage must be a second phase of life but most people never treat it in that way and in some cultures people do make use of marriage for settling down in life and in some other culture marriage is not at all a commitment.

[livingfree]

I think this should be discussed and questioned with your partner before getting married because finances in a household are very important, and it will have a significant impact if one partner cannot cooperate in this. In fact, I think even before marriage, it is worth cooperating in managing finances and discussing many things about future finances because uniting the perspectives of two different people will be difficult. However, if there is a common goal, it can be achieved through good cooperation.

It sure is very important and one of the most major issues why many married couples are filing for divorce when they don't get a hold of their finances.

I agree that before marriage, this should be talked upon by the couples to know if both of them are capable of putting their relationship on the next level.

It will also determine if both of you are financially responsible and savvy. Because if not, one of you will have to think about it and try to fix things if the other one isn't good in managing finances.

[Salahmu]

Is because he is wealthy that is why, he knows he might not find a genuine person he would marry but meanwhile a woman who loves him for whom he is and not because of those material things will not think away because of that agreement but however those kind of agreement should only be accepted by a lady if it also has some penalty against the man, regarding if they are the one that gets tired of the marriage so that the woman will not go back home with an empty years of nothing, this are prenup agreement that meakes more sense on this case.

How many woman can marry him for whom he is as you said not his money, the percentage will be very small, the modern world is full with women that are entitled, women that feels that it is the total obligations of a man to keep spending and even if they man don't have, he should look for a way to make sure that he keeps spending that is how majority of women out there thinks, hey man get this thing straight, am not saying all women are entitled but majority of them, before you see Anthony Joshua come up with such idea who knows what he has experienced, he might have gone through some things.

There are women who can, all women are not there for your money because some naturally came for love and to also stay happily with the man, although you are saying the truth because you cannot read the heart of every woman but however what I mostly understand wealthy people do when they want to marry is going to a lady who is the same or half close to how wealthy they are so that there would be genuine intentions from the both and nobody depend on eachs money since they're separately millionaire, so actually this is even the kind of woman he needs because he wouldn't need to work with the agreement again.

[Zackz5000]

Before getting  married you need to talk about  your future financial arrangements with your intended spouse now.You can do this by considering some of these questions, Like how will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint bank account or separate accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at keeping  financial records  and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one of us spend on a purchase without consulting the other?
            So what's your suggestions or what's your take on this!

Money is one popular reasons for the high rate of divorce. Couples should agree on how money will be used in the family before marriage. When there is no financial integrity and accountability in the home, it leads to conflicts. Trust is developed between couples if there is financial openness. Your partner should know how much you earn and how it is spent.    

Don't make the mistake of letting your partner know what you earn or how much you make they will definitely use it against you unless you get a good partner, if your partner know what you earn and you are a high income earner your partner will be demanding much from you and any day she ask and you said no she won't be happy with you because she knew you have the money but don't want to do it for her. As a man in a relationship you need to be careful when discussing finance with your woman let her know that you don't have much but you have sometimes too you take her a surprise but she must not know how much you make per day.

[7juju]

I don't know of others but for me if I am working and my woman is working, I don't see the need of having a joint account. Everybody will have their own account that they operate. My wife has no business in knowing how much I earn and how much is in my personal account. If we are going to do this joint account something it will only be an account for feeding and running the house. You will think that you are in love and doing the right thing till a woman will strike you and show you their true colour. The less your woman knows about your finance the better for you as the Man.

[colinistheman]

I don't know of others but for me if I am working and my woman is working, I don't see the need of having a joint account. Everybody will have their own account that they operate. My wife has no business in knowing how much I earn and how much is in my personal account. If we are going to do this joint account something it will only be an account for feeding and running the house. You will think that you are in love and doing the right thing till a woman will strike you and show you their true colour. The less your woman knows about your finance the better for you as the Man.

Your wife has no right to know how much money you earn and where you spend it. So, would you also feel comfortable and accept that she does not want to tell you how much money she earn or what she spend it on?

Furthermore, if you think and fear that one day your wife will betray you. Why did you marry her? Why not find someone you completely trust to marry? It is ironic that young people today enter marriage filled with suspicion and negativity about their partners. Try thinking the opposite way, how would you feel if your partner also doubted and distrusted you?

[snowpega]

Do you actually think one day AI will be after us like in the movies? Anyway, companies can't do anything now but they can introduce some official detection tools for video,s as well as they have released for text written using AI. Because with those detection tool,s anyone can confirm if the video is real or fake.

Bro, I know that AI is not intelligent enough right now that their generated content can not be detected. There are many cases that got caught using Forensic analysis, but no one is sure about the future. Maybe the future AI will be far more dangerous or advanced than today's AI algorithms. That is why I think that the government should design such rules or laws so that AI companies stay or tie themselves to a specific domain.

I can't say why people get married early, but it depends on many things, the culture, the way of people etc. And it is not true everywhere as well. But you are right, time is changing, so are the ways and thoughts and the ways of fights and somehow the cycle is repeating in new shapes. Anyway money, loyality, etc. are the talks if I am rich, I am not, so whatever girl will come into my life will know what I am and what I have, and if she still chose me then she deserve to be with me when I will be rich I mean not deserve as it is kind of a wrong word but you got my point right!

Yeah, I got you, and you are also right here. Like, if she stays with you in your hard time and understands your situation or condition and stays loyal to you in your hard time, then she deserve 100% of your best time whenever your condition gets better, or maybe more than this.

[Berry2d]

I don't know of others but for me if I am working and my woman is working, I don't see the need of having a joint account. Everybody will have their own account that they operate. My wife has no business in knowing how much I earn and how much is in my personal account. If we are going to do this joint account something it will only be an account for feeding and running the house. You will think that you are in love and doing the right thing till a woman will strike you and show you their true colour. The less your woman knows about your finance the better for you as the Man.

Your wife has no right to know how much money you earn and where you spend it. So, would you also feel comfortable and accept that she does not want to tell you how much money she earn or what she spend it on?

Furthermore, if you think and fear that one day your wife will betray you. Why did you marry her? Why not find someone you completely trust to marry? It is ironic that young people today enter marriage filled with suspicion and negativity about their partners. Try thinking the opposite way, how would you feel if your partner also doubted and distrusted you?

Sorry for coming in, i thought marriage is supposed to be a transparent and truthful union between the husband and the wife as to ensure good union. Wifes are meant to be our life partner, load bearers and companions in difficult times, so why excluding her in our financial lifes when we know good woman are very helpful in building a successful future with there life partner. On this, i strongly believe its wrong not telling our wife's how much money we earn or how to spend them. I know at times some women that comes our way makes us take some decisions but know matter what the true value of the union called marriage should not be eliminated no matter the circumstances we find ourselves.