How did you react at people around you when you lose in gambling?

[Davidvictorson]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Loss is a reality in gambling and I have long accepted that. If you play slots a lot, you will get comfortable with whatever the outcome is - losses are mostly part of it. And this is my mindset before I start to play. People around me are also slot players and they know this already. One has to be emotionally mature to gamble if not they run the risk of suffering from mental breakdowns.

[Josefjix]

Are you sure he shouted at his son because of the bet he lost or is that what you think may be the cause of that ruthless attitude? Have you seen the same son welcome him at his good mood before and how does he reacted, rude too? You can't be quick to conclude that your old childhood friend reacted rudely towards his son because he lost a bet.

I am not saying he can't do that, but I am trying to check out if his son had problems with him before leaving the house maybe he never allow his son welcome him in the present of his friends or something. Just my opinion.

[Dunamisx]

As mature gamblers, I keep asking, if we must make it known to others the exact kind of mode we are felling at a particular moment, because maturity calls for being able to cope with our personal self and also have control over how we feels about a situation of something that hurt us, must it be over all our facial expressions that we lost a bet?.

[Localhostspeed]

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

When the son left and as per good childhood friend you are, why not ask him why he scolded his son that way and maybe he will be plain enough to tell you instead of assuming that he reacted towards his son because he told you that he has some bet he has lost. What I can tell you is that parent can react for many reasons. It's possible that if you look at the kid legs, he was putting on no slippers and the dad saw that and shouted at him to get back inside.

You can't predict parents behavior and why they act some ways, you may have view the coincidence to his game and the loss he had. I don't even see any reason why an adult will be angry because of his own decisions he made that has nothing to add to his life because if you are angry that you lose money, you must have used all the money you had to gamble and that is not right, you have violated gambling responsibly, but the did has been done, why angry for something up can't control.

[Cyber_warrior]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

Don’t gamble with the amount that’s going to affect you when you end up losing. You should try to cool him off, and also try to advise him not to gamble with so much money again. If a gambler is already gambling with big amount of money, and he is losing, then I won’t be surprise if the person ends up addicted to gambling, because after losing a big amount of money, the person will want to recover the money that he has lost, and that’s how addiction sets in.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Why should you react rudely to anyone when you lose, they are not the cause of your loss, and they didn’t ask you to gamble with big amount of money, you are not suppose to transfer aggression on anyone because they are not the cause of your loss. If you are gambling and you loses, just stay calm and try to forget about it, nobody has to suffer just because you lose.

[Churchillvv]

Tell your friend I said “he is a bad father and have a poor capability of being a father” even if it’s my dad with such transfer of aggression on me I will reciprocate immediately that’s how I was trained, wether he had won or loss transfer of aggression is a sign that one isn’t capable of hanging things but just want to feel among, if gambling is something you can’t handle then quit. I’m disappointed at him even though I don’t know him.

[GiftedMAN]

Tell your friend I said “he is a bad father and have a poor capability of being a father” even if it’s my dad with such transfer of aggression on me I will reciprocate immediately that’s how I was trained, wether he had won or loss transfer of aggression is a sign that one isn’t capable of hanging things but just want to feel among, if gambling is something you can’t handle then quit. I’m disappointed at him even though I don’t know him.

lol you’re funny. So what you’re saying is that if your father lost a bet and lashes out at you or transfers the aggression to you, you’ll immediately reciprocate the same reaction and energy? If yes then that’s pure disrespect and you have absolutely no right or reason to do so. Yeah that’s a totally wrong thing to do but reacting in the same way is even worse if you ask me.

[Sonia_123]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

The money he lost is quite big, since it just happened,he will be angry and don't blame him if he had put such an amount onto the expenses of the family it would.have gone a long way , it is  a normal way, I also behave like that when I lost a big amount to my exchange , its was not funny at all, everything around me irritates me, so I was rude and angry throughout that day, but i later came back to my senses, just be patient with time he will come to terms with himself and forgot about it .

[Japinat]

We will learn eventually how to deal with our losses in gambling. Now, I can ignore my losses and deal the people around without feeling negative emotions, because first and foremost, they are not the ones gambling, you are, so they should not take the responsibility of anyone's loss.

And if ever you lose, that's part of gambling. You are not a real gambler until you experience losing at times. And the way you react to people, it will leave an impact to them so always be kind to them even if you're hurting deep inside due to big losses.

[MRY]

We will learn eventually how to deal with our losses in gambling. Now, I can ignore my losses and deal the people around without feeling negative emotions, because first and foremost, they are not the ones gambling, you are, so they should not take the responsibility of anyone's loss.

And if ever you lose, that's part of gambling. You are not a real gambler until you experience losing at times. And the way you react to people, it will leave an impact to them so always be kind to them even if you're hurting deep inside due to big losses.

Your skills or qualities of breaking up game results with the social life show that you are a marvellously emotional adult. You are correct that the people around us should not be the ones that are taking our frustrations about our own personal choices at the table. Even with some tragic losses related to serious financial problems, we are supposed to be hospitable and calm. Knowing that defeat is a part of the gaming process will enable us to be sages and will make us live our lives morally.

[Agbamoni]

How do you stop him when he can gamble anywhere provided there's network. It's hard to tell people how to reach over disappointed. That's why you don't gamble with so much expectation, when you gamble, believe you will not win ,that alone will help you control your emotions in case it comes out negative. It won't weigh you down because you already processed it before it happens.

But when you carry a whole family pressure into gambling, and you lose, it will affect those around you, your behavior will change towards them. We shouldn't allow gambling to distract us to that extent. It's just few of my friends that know I gamble, when I lose you won't even know, same as when I win. I see gambling as a private lifestyle.

Believing you will not win is wrong. Instead of having the mentality that you can win or not. Gambling is all about winning, and it is all about losing. In gambling, you'd better have the mentality that you can win, so be very optimistic, but if it later turns out that you lose in the process, dont take it personally because it is part of the game.

The mistake most folks make is to use money meant for taking care of the family to gamble. That is a very wrong thing to do. Money used for gambling should only come from discretionary income, not money meant for basic needs and savings.

[AmoreJaz]

We will learn eventually how to deal with our losses in gambling. Now, I can ignore my losses and deal the people around without feeling negative emotions, because first and foremost, they are not the ones gambling, you are, so they should not take the responsibility of anyone's loss.

And if ever you lose, that's part of gambling. You are not a real gambler until you experience losing at times. And the way you react to people, it will leave an impact to them so always be kind to them even if you're hurting deep inside due to big losses.

That should be the case because they have nothing to do with your losses, so why not own it? But we can't say that this is true for all gamblers. Some of them become angry persons when they suffer losses especially big ones. As if, they need to blame such losses to whoever they will talk to after such loss. On my end, I don't want my immediate family to know what's going on as I mostly play via online now. So I just keep quiet when things are not in my favor. And that's it.
But just read some of these sad stories owed to gambling and you will understand what it can really do to a person if not addressed early

- ‘I didn’t go out, I didn’t sleep’: a life unravelled by problem gambling
- Luke Ashton inquest: Wife blames gambling relapse for death
-gamblers’ archive: 62 year old female gambler shares the story about her personal battle with gambling addiction

[Makus]

If others can actually tell when you are down probably because you lost money then you are not doing the right thing, gambling shouldn't be able to control your emotions to the point that it starts affecting your mood and becomes obvious to those around you. personally I can't let myself be so predictable and emotionally weak. How you react to losses shows how mature you are mentally and emotionally. if gambling can affect your mood then it means that you are gambling with emotions and in the long run this can cause more harm.

[Churchillvv]

Tell your friend I said “he is a bad father and have a poor capability of being a father” even if it’s my dad with such transfer of aggression on me I will reciprocate immediately that’s how I was trained, wether he had won or loss transfer of aggression is a sign that one isn’t capable of hanging things but just want to feel among, if gambling is something you can’t handle then quit. I’m disappointed at him even though I don’t know him.

lol you’re funny. So what you’re saying is that if your father lost a bet and lashes out at you or transfers the aggression to you, you’ll immediately reciprocate the same reaction and energy? If yes then that’s pure disrespect and you have absolutely no right or reason to do so. Yeah that’s a totally wrong thing to do but reacting in the same way is even worse if you ask me.

of course no one with a normal sense of thinking will disrespect their father at any point but the only thing I can do and always do when I’m angry I speak out or go silent even when I’m supposed to say a word that everyone understands you are not happy and then he will apologize but that’s how we just don the family but I’m not saying disrespect is okay no it’s not but whoever gambles, make sure you’re done with the whole gambling drama before you reach your house/home.

[Asuspawer09]

This is an obvious bad effect on gambling problems; having gambling actually affect your finances and your behavior is a very bad sign, and it is probably going to lead to an addiction if it continues. We always talk about gambling responsibly and moderately. If you are not doing that, then you are also going to fall into the trap of gambling, where a lot of people get addicted and lose it. If you are losing around 800$ and you are upset about it, that just means that you can't afford it, you are putting too much at risk, you are gambling more than something that you can't really afford. Gambling is obviously high risk and high rewards as well, so putting too much on it is going to have high risk as well. We only put excess money on gambling so that even if we are losing, it is not going to affect our finances. You are only going to suffer if you are risking everything, thinking that it is going to make you rich.

I think you should give some advice to your friend because gambling should still be an entertainment and fun if you are not a professional gambler, make him realize that gambling is not the way, and he's just going to lose everything if it continues.

[bhadz]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

That is what gambling do to our moods, it changes us and so if we win, we're in good mood and you won't be surprised how he'll react if his kid comes to him after going home. We shouldn't let our emotions change us the way we treat the people we love the most. We're vulnerable and so they are but let's treat them always with care and the best that we can. Separate that feeling from gambling and we should blame ourselves for losing. Because if we don't gamble, we'll never have that bad mood. And so, don't make it as a reason for not treating them right.

[freedomgo]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

That is what gambling do to our moods, it changes us and so if we win, we're in good mood and you won't be surprised how he'll react if his kid comes to him after going home. We shouldn't let our emotions change us the way we treat the people we love the most. We're vulnerable and so they are but let's treat them always with care and the best that we can. Separate that feeling from gambling and we should blame ourselves for losing. Because if we don't gamble, we'll never have that bad mood. And so, don't make it as a reason for not treating them right.

Still, blaming your own self does not help so just accept the reality that losing is always possible with gambling.

However, its a good point to separate your emotions your gambling. You also don't know what others are going through, so better show them with love and respect, and good things will follow.

Gambling is just a game, it will never define your character towards on how you treat others.

[Iroh]

This is a perfect example of why you should only gamble what you can afford to lose. Gamble only with an amount that you won't lose any sleep over and won't be troubled if you went ahead to lose the money. In the case of the story the OP mentioned, it was clear the friend didn't place bets with what he could afford to let go and was now taking his loss out in his poor kid. I bet with an initial reaction like that, his family be walking on egg shells so they won't offend him.

When i end up with a loss on my bets, I would obviously not be thrilled but then, you won't see me being frustrated at anyone. Cause I never play with an amount that would bring about regrets later on.

[Powerjumboo]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

I have said at the beginning that I gamble only for entertainment, I do not gamble to earn money. Moreover, when I need to have entertainment, I participate in gambling and even when I participate in gambling, I use a very small amount of my income budget for gambling. Since I use a very small amount of money in gambling, if I lose in gambling, I can calm myself down very easily.

Moreover, I never speak loudly to my children for my own mistakes and troubles because I always think that if spoken loudly in front of children, children become very stubborn and they suffer a lot. And especially, it is never right to speak loudly and scold children because if they receive such treatment from their parents, they can get a lot of hurt in their minds. The man you mentioned here is always thinking about his gambling and cannot forget the loss he is losing.

[coin-investor]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

I am very careful when dealing with my losses; I don't want it to be the reason why I quarrel with people. If it has happened, you have no control over your emotions or how you gamble.
All your emotions should be confined to your dashboard. If you are so disappointed with your losses, then take your time before you get up, so you will not put your frustration on people around you who have nothing to do with your loses