AS A PARENTS IS GOOD TO ARGUE AND FIGHT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN

[AmaGold70]

There is this  case i came across were the family head  gather with the rest of the family settling a conflict between a man and the wife, even the neighbors came to testify that this particular man argue and fight from morning till night in the front of their children and when they asked the why he love arguing and fighting all the time without minding if your children is at home and the man replied and said that when he was growing up that he usually sees his own father biting up his mother every day and he knows that the best way to correct a wife when she is wrong is by biting her up all the time, then family head caution the man and said that he took a wrong side of his father by biting up his wife all the time is wrong and even in the front of the children too, so in that case i learnt that it is not good to do anything that effect your children in future while they are still a child, you should stop doing some certain things in there presence because children learn easily from the parents.

Domestic violence has never been a good way to correct your spouse and it's very wrong to do it especially in the presence of your kids because kids often pick up bad behavior the most , as parents, we are our children's first role model and anything they see us do at home they will definitely do the same outside home hence the saying "charity begins at home" you don't expect a child to behave responsible in public when there was never a display of love and respect at the house they grew up in. Married couple are bound to have their differences but it's never right to rise your voices at each other in the presence of the kids to avoid misleading them into thinking it's okay to be rude and disrespectful to their future partner.

[Joy- maker]

I think I have said this before that according to a research in psychology when children are very  young, most of what they learn comes from their parents and home and that's the truth. Parents have to be careful of the kind of things they do in front of their children because they are role model to their children especially when they very young. Around 60 to 70 percent of things your children know today came from you and your wife and the environment. Parents are not suppose to quarrel in front of their children talk more of fighting in front of them. And any man who is bitting his wife is a weakling  and a disgrace to manhood.

[Iamgoat]

That reasoning shows that whatever we show in front of our kids, they'll remember that and will set as an example to do the same thing as they grow old. It's a bad model to show that kind of argument in front of your kids if the argument is between you and your wife only. Set an example that if the kids have done wrong, that's the time to show it to the siblings on how you're going to discipline them. But things between wives and husbands, it should be kept privately because the kids are easy to remember arguments day and night.

You are right and this is something many people don’t think about deeply of things like this children learn more from what they see than from what they are told. When children witness the constant argument between their parents especially when these arguments are heated ones, it quietly shapes how they understand relationships, communication and even conflicts. Arguments and disagreements between husbands and wives are something which is inevitable but exposing kids to them is where the problem starts. We should know children do not have a strong emotional tool to be able to separate adult issues from themselves.

[POPOLUV]

I think I have said this before that according a research in psychology when children are very  young, most of what they learn comes from their parents and home and that's the truth. Parents have to be careful of the kind of things they do in front of their children because they are role model to their children especially when they very young. Around 60 to 70 percent of things your children know today came from you and your wife and the environment. Parents are not suppose to quarrel in front of their children talk more of fighting in front of them. And any man who is bitting his wife is a weakling  and a disgrace to manhood.

You have just spoken the facts here, i came to understand that the reason why most parents don't care fight in the front of their children most times is because they think as their children is still a child that their brain can't catch what the parents is displaying right in the front of them and most parents that just experience having children for very first time will fall to ask questions from those parents that has been into that system for a very long time now because those newly married couples can be making alot of mistakes thinking that their children can not recall what they often see their parents do, i really kick against parents fighting in front of their children.

[Felicity_Tide]

the man replied and said that when he was growing up that he usually sees his own father biting up his mother every day

Did I just read "biting'" or the OP made a mistake?. Why do we even have to have a conversation like this because it's disgusting?.
Unarguably, parents should never have a fight in the presence of their children, let alone,  engage in physical abuse. The society today is filled with too many people, who grew to be comfortable with assaulting others because that's what makes them better. So many children coming from broken homes because they just happen to have parents who still think that life is all about themselves. Unfortunately, the society is on the receiving end of all these too many irresponsibility.

[Ishicryptic]

Parents are the first role models of their children and whatever you do in front of your kids will remain with them till their adulthood and there is likelihood that they will emulate most of their parents characters. If you have an issue to settle with your spouse you should do it in private without the knowledge of your kids, that shows that you are a responsible parent in front of your children. When couples fight in front of their children they are degrading themselves and it will have psychological effects on the kids till their adulthood. If a child grows up in a happy home they will like their homes to be like their parent's but when a child that grew up in a violent home have their own family they will exhibit what they learnt from their parents.

Exceptionally there are some children that don't follow in the part of their parents, they will grow up and choose their paths either to be good or bad.

[Findingnemo]

Let's keep the child aside, who gave the authority to the husband that he can beat his wife? Are we still living in 18th century still?

Where I live men can't even raise their voice anymore even if the women is at fault or their marriage will likely end.

And yes, a kid should not be exposed to domestic abuse it will traumatize them for life and recovering from that even when they get old will still have the effects from that childhood trauma.

[JoyceBTC]

There is this  case i came across were the family head  gather with the rest of the family settling a conflict between a man and the wife, even the neighbors came to testify that this particular man argue and fight from morning till night in the front of their children and when they asked the why he love arguing and fighting all the time without minding if your children is at home and the man replied and said that when he was growing up that he usually sees his own father biting up his mother every day and he knows that the best way to correct a wife when she is wrong is by biting her up all the time, then family head caution the man and said that he took a wrong side of his father by biting up his wife all the time is wrong and even in the front of the children too, so in that case i learnt that it is not good to do anything that effect your children in future while they are still a child, you should stop doing some certain things in there presence because children learn easily from the parents.

When marriage gets to where both parties fight none stop, it's better they go there separate ways, divorce was made for a reason, both parties shouldn't not be enduring domestic violence. If the Man is claiming he inherited the wrong side of his father, then he should be left alone, he should learn how to stay without a partner, because in exchanging such violence someone can lose his life, so the best thing is to to go solo. Children are too innocent to be witnessing such violence, as a matter of fact, those children should be removed from the hands of that kind of father because the legacy he wants to keep, should die with him.

You are definitely correct by saying they should go there separate ways and definitely that’s why there is divorce, to avoid things like this reoccurring which might put the lady at more risk.
But I bet you there are some women who undergo domestic violence and won’t even think of leaving the marriage  or even seeking for help outside just because they have children. Most women don’t want their children to experience such kind of life whereby their both parents are separated and even along the line the children might be kept away from her if the man has such power to do such and instead of speaking out, they prefer to keep silent and die in silence.

No woman deserves domestic violence neither do they deserve a man who doesn’t know her worth by beating her as a way of correcting her. It better to walk away and again so your child doesn’t continue seeing such habit from their father and grow with such trauma

[passwordnow]

That reasoning shows that whatever we show in front of our kids, they'll remember that and will set as an example to do the same thing as they grow old. It's a bad model to show that kind of argument in front of your kids if the argument is between you and your wife only. Set an example that if the kids have done wrong, that's the time to show it to the siblings on how you're going to discipline them. But things between wives and husbands, it should be kept privately because the kids are easy to remember arguments day and night.

You are right and this is something many people don’t think about deeply of things like this children learn more from what they see than from what they are told. When children witness the constant argument between their parents especially when these arguments are heated ones, it quietly shapes how they understand relationships, communication and even conflicts. Arguments and disagreements between husbands and wives are something which is inevitable but exposing kids to them is where the problem starts. We should know children do not have a strong emotional tool to be able to separate adult issues from themselves.

You can argue as partners privately while the kids are not there. And it's best not to let them influenced by thinking that arguing in public is normal. But I think that as they grow older, they'll understand which is right and wrong when doing these arguments. It's okay to argue but don't make it a habit that they'll think that it's a normal thing that a couple does, no it's not and not even good in front of them and as they hear the words you're throwing to each other. It's never been a good influence to them because while they're young, it's one of the ways to shape them as they grow older.

[knowngunman]

There is this  case i came across were the family head  gather with the rest of the family settling a conflict between a man and the wife, even the neighbors came to testify that this particular man argue and fight from morning till night in the front of their children and when they asked the why he love arguing and fighting all the time without minding if your children is at home and the man replied and said that when he was growing up that he usually sees his own father biting up his mother every day and he knows that the best way to correct a wife when she is wrong is by biting her up all the time, then family head caution the man and said that he took a wrong side of his father by biting up his wife all the time is wrong and even in the front of the children too, so in that case i learnt that it is not good to do anything that effect your children in future while they are still a child, you should stop doing some certain things in there presence because children learn easily from the parents.

Not only from parents but from everyone around them. Children are fast learner by observation and that is the reason as a responsible parent, you don't allow your children to mingle with people of bad characters. Be it their peer group or elderly people, once you noticed their character is questionable you should restrict your children from having connection with them. As a parent, it's totally wrong of you to hit your wife in the presence of your children no matter their age. They will grow up thinking it's the right way to resolve family issues. Of course, one can be absolutely mad sometimes when things happen but you have to maintain steez when your children are around. Doing that will teach them being patience and also resolving issues without conflict.

[LOVER BOY 422]

This is a very bad situation,for parents to fight in the presents of their children is bad ,what are you now teaching them , teaching them how to fight right?
Some times I heard some people fight and beat their wife ,in most cases the table usually turn around the wife beating their husband,but to me in any situation you find your self never beat your wife or husband, respect your self ,give your self respect and regards,let's parents understand the devedents of training their children in such a way that they will not be fighting in the front of their children,it very bad let's all teach our children what to follow,in the future.

[POPOLUV]

When marriage gets to where both parties fight none stop, it's better they go there separate ways, divorce was made for a reason, both parties shouldn't not be enduring domestic violence. If the Man is claiming he inherited the wrong side of his father, then he should be left alone, he should learn how to stay without a partner, because in exchanging such violence someone can lose his life, so the best thing is to to go solo. Children are too innocent to be witnessing such violence, as a matter of fact, those children should be removed from the hands of that kind of father because the legacy he wants to keep, should die with him.

The best options is not for the both parties to go in a separate ways, what they need right now is for the customary Court or the elderly once in the family to come the both parties to order because i have seen two newly married couples with kids that fight all day and it reaches were the man says that she can't continue with the marriage again, do you know that what the wife did, she took the matter to customary Court were the judges said that the will be paying the wife for wasting of time and he will paying $200 for the children up keep and with several conditions given to the by the judges the man decided to withdraw his statements that he will marry her and from that day till date the both parties have not fight again or talk more of fighting in the front the kids.

[Marykeller]

Marriage is not by age, I tell people that. Some men should grow up to know that marriage is the union of two people who come together to make their marriage work. Marriage is not the place to show superiority over nothing or groom stupidity over the attitude that their parents didn't correct themselves that fighting doesn't solve family problems, it worsens them to bring unforgiven hatred and grievances in the minds of the kids against their father, if they see how their mother is being tortured in the hands of their father. That's why you see some men being abandoned at their old age by their children because of their father's attitude of beating their mother over the slightest chance

[Franctoshi]

Parents should try to keep quarrels, argument and fights within their control, though there are times things can go out of hand and lead to fighting in front of your children. Children will copy thinking it a normal thing and it eventually lead them to do the same when the grow up thinking it normal thing because they saw mommy and daddy do it, what usually causes this argument is the misunderstanding between husband and wife