We don't grow when life is easier but we grow when life is hard

[Tungbulu]

We don't grow when life is easier but we grow when life is hard


If that is true, why don't we see many more people walking around who are older than 100?

I think you know exactly what the OP is trying to say but just trying to bring up a base for more argument.

But just so you know, folks who are older than 100, we can't actually say life is hard for them, they are basically in their easy era, not expected to do much or anything at all other than to just rest, s o why would they possibly need to be walking around?

[Adiljutt156]

It is being unfair if we generalize both rich and poor children , if a child is born into a wealthy family it does not make him being responsible or if someone is born into a poor family does not make him hard worker or discipline. I have seen many humble educated person who once a part of very poor family born into a poor background grew with privilege become successful and who go astray despite facing hardships. Wealth is providing opportunities to be a better person and hardships can teach valuable lessons. Character is shaped by personal upbringings and choices but not by financial circumstance. A child who is well educated and raised can be successful in any condition despite being rich all poor. It is unfair to generalized that being rich or poor is more likely to become wayyward  than the others.

[juttsab@]

Many of the rich men children don't grow the way they are meant to be because they see everything coming to them once they mention what they want and some time if the father notices early that this particular child will not do well because of too much pampering and the mother will claim that father is too hard on that particular child and without the mother knowing that the father want the best for the child, and most the rich men children end up growing out from the plan the father have for them once they have the opportunity to stay alone while going through high school, and once such is giving to they will doing clubbing and taking hard drugs without attending any of the licture any day because his father money, while the poor children grow well even things are hard and grap every little opportunity they have in the high school and they take lictures more serious because they know their family background and has been motivating them to be more serious in school, inclusion i advise that parents are in the best position to know in which child that is growing in the wrong direction and such child should be corrected immediately when he/she is a kids and avoid too much pampering when you know on what to do when the child did wrong and parents don't fail to apply such caution that will help your children in future when they have come to ages.

It depends on the family upbringings ,some family today too much pampering spoil their kids their kids will be going in another direction some parents will be laughing at that situation, during in our days when I was much younger our parents doesn't jock with cain once you do what he doesn't said you should do ,just be ready to receive your cain ,my parents treat us in a way that we don't eat in others peoples house,if he notices that you went out and eat from other peoples pot you are gone ,I thank God today we are all grown and very wise and healthy,I think my parents applied what holy Bible said about the up bringing of a child,spear the rod and spoil the child,once you have adopted the habit of not floging your children when they go contrary to your orders you have indeed failed,that's to say you have spear the rod , don't spear it.

With that I think all the children will be well brought up,teach them on your leasure,flog anyone that is not following this is how our parents brought us up.

I do not agree with this point of view I think children need discipline but giving them physical punishment is not a good way to make them discipline there are children who grew up without being beaten I have seen kids who never got any physical punishment from their parents but still they are being very respectful and they are responsible toward their responsibilities and they are very successful, parents have rules for them to stay consistent and then they explain the reasons to their kids why those rules are being there and why they have to follow them. If kids have this sense of fear to obey something then they might obey that in that moment but it does not give them self control for the longer term and they cannot make good decision it will only damage their trust and they will try to hide their mistakes rather than they cannot learn from them every child is different and parents should focus on their guidance and they should have proper communication with their kids.

[Mr Reporter]

Many of the rich men children don't grow the way they are meant to be because they see everything coming to them once they mention what they want and some time if the father notices early that this particular child will not do well because of too much pampering and the mother will claim that father is too hard on that particular child and without the mother knowing that the father want the best for the child, and most the rich men children end up growing out from the plan the father have for them once they have the opportunity to stay alone while going through high school, and once such is giving to they will doing clubbing and taking hard drugs without attending any of the licture any day because his father money, while the poor children grow well even things are hard and grap every little opportunity they have in the high school and they take lictures more serious because they know their family background and has been motivating them to be more serious in school, inclusion i advise that parents are in the best position to know in which child that is growing in the wrong direction and such child should be corrected immediately when he/she is a kids and avoid too much pampering when you know on what to do when the child did wrong and parents don't fail to apply such caution that will help your children in future when they have come to ages.

It depends on the family upbringings ,some family today too much pampering spoil their kids their kids will be going in another direction some parents will be laughing at that situation, during in our days when I was much younger our parents doesn't jock with cain once you do what he doesn't said you should do ,just be ready to receive your cain ,my parents treat us in a way that we don't eat in others peoples house,if he notices that you went out and eat from other peoples pot you are gone ,I thank God today we are all grown and very wise and healthy,I think my parents applied what holy Bible said about the up bringing of a child,spear the rod and spoil the child,once you have adopted the habit of not floging your children when they go contrary to your orders you have indeed failed,that's to say you have spear the rod , don't spear it.

With that I think all the children will be well brought up,teach them on your leasure,flog anyone that is not following this is how our parents brought us up.

I do not agree with this point of view I think children need discipline but giving them physical punishment is not a good way to make them discipline there are children who grew up without being beaten I have seen kids who never got any physical punishment from their parents but still they are being very respectful and they are responsible toward their responsibilities and they are very successful, parents have rules for them to stay consistent and then they explain the reasons to their kids why those rules are being there and why they have to follow them. If kids have this sense of fear to obey something then they might obey that in that moment but it does not give them self control for the longer term and they cannot make good decision it will only damage their trust and they will try to hide their mistakes rather than they cannot learn from them every child is different and parents should focus on their guidance and they should have proper communication with their kids.

You make some point here is one thing most of our old parents didn't think of back then…as it stands you might see a young age boy of 10 years would not allow his parents to correct him with a cane and I feel this mentality is very common in Africa, the act of discipline pulse beating is all about teaching a young child self control, and to learn how to be responsible and to respect…it very not right to use cane on a child or physical punishment is not healthy for a child most of the time, I feel it best if you explain it to your kids that there should no their boundaries as your children…and the truth be told you could not correct a child with such handling because the child might get use to it and would have amot of respect for the person

[Adiljutt156]

It all deepends on the child up bringing. I have seen rich people that their children are cool headed and very humble in the society. They take over their father business at a young age after they have graduated from the university. Haven't you seen a poor man child that became a nuisance to the society. This is why it's good to bring up your child in a God fearing way and let them be full devoted to God for guidance.

Children copy what they see their parents doing and the parents having that in mind will bring their kids up in a way that they will be good people to them and to the society you don't expect to be a bad father while your kids will behave well because you can't give when you don't have. Train your kids well they will only bring good news to you if you pamper them too much because you think you have made it that's when they become nuisance and wayward to the society.

I do agree that parents have a huge impact on child's up bringing and they have a large influence on them but at the same time I do not think that it is always true that a children behaviour is simply a reflection of their parents or just shows that how they parents behave in front of them, children are mostly shaped by their circle their school, social media and they have their own personality, we see that in a single family every child have the different type of personality though  they have the same parents. There are kids who are being raised by very kind and hard working and responsible parents but still they become opposite of that and they make poor choices while there are kids who have very difficult family background they grow up to be honest and they becomes successful so good parenting is important but we cannot completely expect wickets to be reflection of their parents.

[WhoYouCantKill]

You make some point here is one thing most of our old parents didn't think of back then…as it stands you might see a young age boy of 10 years would not allow his parents to correct him with a cane and I feel this mentality is very common in Africa, the act of discipline pulse beating is all about teaching a young child self control, and to learn how to be responsible and to respect…it very not right to use cane on a child or physical punishment is not healthy for a child most of the time, I feel it best if you explain it to your kids that there should no their boundaries as your children…and the truth be told you could not correct a child with such handling because the child might get use to it and would have amot of respect for the person

That's what a lot of parents think training up a child is all about, there are many ways for parents to discipline their children and bring them in the right way, it doesn't necessarily mean they have to beat up the child with can before the child can learn to know what its right and wrong. And, the way this generation is now, the more parents often use cane on their children, the more stubborn they will be and for that reason, parents also need to discover another means of teaching their children self-control, discipline and other good attitudes they need to act on.