A recent gambling tragedy that newspapers haven't published

[Zadicar]

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It is always a difficult thing loosing loved ones, it hurts and makes someone feel really alone. In his case he lost his dad and cousin who were the only family he had left and he replaced his family with gambling on stake where he wasted the fortune he worked so hard for. I would never blame him since I can never relate. I don't judge someone for a pain I have never been through. I drank a lot when my grandmother died just to ease the pain since I was very close to her, I don't know what I would've done if I lost everyone in my nuclear family, so I would not blame him for the decision he made out of loneliness and depression.

He's not dead yet, so he can still pick up his pieces and continue living his life, maybe it is time he socialized a bit more in order to have people talking to and of course continue to cure his addiction, hopefully he can regain himself and face life with more optimism. I said a little prayer for him in my mind as I was typing this, I hope he finds himself again.

Actually it is that hard to say up something to someone when it comes to the situation where they have lost their loved ones on which we know that this situation is the most saddest part on which it would be coming into a point that you would be seeking out on things that would ease out the pain and this one had chosen up gambling on this one and actually its not that bad, the only bad thing on here is that he do let gambling control him and spend out the money on which this could something that indeed very helpful on supporting his life or trying out to rebuild his life considering that he had lost someone instead on spending it on the gambling site on which it would be have no sense. The only hard thing on here is that no family members or relatives would be giving out that kind of advise and also no one can spot out on whatever things that someone do been get involved into specially if its done on discreet. Grief is normal but time comes that it would pass away and you would be needing to move on and not necessarily on trying out to find ways to ease up that pain via gambling and spend all the money you do have on which it would definitely give out that regret later on.

[Odohu]

I do not know why people still can't learn while gambling and if they takes gambling as an escape route to what they are facing currently it would make them to delv into pains the more because at the time they are using gambling, its also involved money and whenever they loses such amount allocated for gambling it would cost them more pains and sorrows.

Gambling should be strictly for passive income and not as the main source of income unless you own a casino or you work as an employee of a casino so that the salary will become the reward which is not based on certainty that characterise gambling. The risk of depending on gambling as a source of income is huge and it will even distort the decision making process such that the gambler will display desperation as well as impulsive tendencies. Regard gambling as a means of passive income and most of your gambling problems will go away.

[Fiatless]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

That dude has other problems besides gambling. He is a core introvert and it led him to seek comfort in gambling. I feel sorry for him because he lost very close relatives, which led him to start gambling excessively. He said he has stopped gambling and the next step should be how to interact with people. The guy needs to get out of his house and find interest in other activities.

He has lost a forutune but at 30 he is still young. Since he does not have dependance, he can still recover all he has lost and have a good life.

[Nwada001]

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

He did not just find the gambling site but was introduced to it or was told about it by someone, which I wonder who since he never socialized with people. How come he made a friend close enough to share his story with, that's a question I should reserve for the person.

The guy is still very much young, and there is no point for him to consider himself being too late. What has been lost is gone; he should focus on work and making a positive change. Try connecting with people; that might save him from the negative thought that loneliness can cause. I just wish him quick emotional healing.

[Cryptomultiplier]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

That dude has other problems besides gambling. He is a core introvert and it led him to seek comfort in gambling. I feel sorry for him because he lost very close relatives, which led him to start gambling excessively. He said he has stopped gambling and the next step should be how to interact with people. The guy needs to get out of his house and find interest in other activities.

He has lost a forutune but at 30 he is still young. Since he does not have dependance, he can still recover all he has lost and have a good life.

He can absolutely recover his losses because he is still at a young age. I agree that he is also an introvert and a workaholic, but am curios to know why he didn't make mention of the person who introduced him to gambling on stakes all through the post he made again, because such a person seems like a bad influence who didn't guide him properly on how to place reasonable bets with funds he can afford to lose and the reality of gambling which makes one chase loses and can commit one to be both emotionally and financially deep into debt and depression.

It's indeed a sad story and all hope isn't lost I must say for such a young man who may even become wealthier than Elon musk someday, due to his workaholic and savings nature.

[libert19]

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Gambling should be strictly for passive income and not as the main source of income unless you own a casino or you work as an employee of a casino so that the salary will become the reward which is not based on certainty that characterise gambling

It shouldn't even be taken as passive income, it should be taken as mere entertainment, like going to cinema and consider the money dusted the moment you deposit it to casino — this is the only right view and will never create any surprises.

That dude has other problems besides gambling. He is a core introvert and it led him to seek comfort in gambling.

Looks workaholic to me.

[SmartGold01]

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[HONDACD125]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

Well, one can only say that whatever happened in his life was unfortunate, and no one should ever go through all that at such a young age, when you should be having a good time, studying, making friends, and learning, but instead, life teaches you lessons at an age you could never imagine you will have to learn this early. Anyway, gambling all the money away was a mistake from him, without a doubt, because even if you are depressed and looking for a escape, you shouldn't be doing it excessively, and if you are losing around $200k in gambling, it means you were definitely trying to recover your losses, and that isn't how you try a escape, you are basically doing it to make money, which is wrong.

I read one of the responses in that reddit thread, and I agree with the person who was telling the guy that he doesn't need to explain anything to anyone since he is free to do whatever he wants. It's true that he lost a fortune that he can't possibly recover, but he is young, so he can still make it in life if starts doing things the right way, and stay away from gambling, of course, because mostly, people who lose a lot of money in gambling eventually think of trying to recover it once they make some more money, which another mistake.

[EluguHcman]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

An unfamiliar news but similar incidents we read about daily in the news.
It is indeed a heartfelt story going contrary out of lack of guidance. Some people actually don't mean to be the bad they appears today's but circumstances had to turn them apart.
But come on... Let us be realistic, it does not seem enough reason to indulge on gambling simply because you have lost loved ones. In a society of where gambling is restricted, that won't be an excuse to justify him a victim and justice shall prevail.

As a responsible person, there are more better things to engage on than gambling or taking illicit drugs when fighting depression.
Working harder and stay focus to achieve your goal cordially would really save one from this kind of mistake.
I hope he stays alive and concerntating to reconnect with his right senses because the deal has already be done.
Better days are always ahead.

[swogerino]

Most of the time it is the shitty economy that is running nowadays for almost everyone, even people who are employed are not happy and like they say a JOB is "just over broke", I am no religious yet I have found some Rabin wisdom from some Jewish pages in Instagram and they truly tell us what goes wrong with money, at least to my personal story it looked like I needed those advises, I need to start dividing money into three, one third for basic commodities, foods, rent and electricity, one third for investment and one third when the storm will come, meaning save it. I was also running a not so optimized life yet I found the courage to fight back by starting to get away from gambling and not looking at it as a solution to my problems, this is the first step and then some Jewish wisdom about money management surely helps.

[FirmWars]

At the age of 30, this guy is not still learned to have known that gambling can cause him to lose all that money, I don't understand how he did it but someone that is of that age is supposed to have a good knowledge of what is better to do with their money instead of gambling with it. While he was losing the money to the casino, was he blindfolded that he didn't realize that the money he have been saving since he was 20+ is going down, despite that he doesn't associate with people and has no friend (except the one that died) does not mean he won't be exposed to the information that should have guided him. He has phone and can go on social media to look for fun videos that could cheer him up or even ask questions about gambling. It's too late to give any advice, he should just start all over again and learn from this experience.

[Agbe]

Most of the time it is the shitty economy that is running nowadays for almost everyone, even people who are employed are not happy and like they say a JOB is "just over broke", I am no religious yet I have found some Rabin wisdom from some Jewish pages in Instagram and they truly tell us what goes wrong with money, at least to my personal story it looked like I needed those advises, I need to start dividing money into three, one third for basic commodities, foods, rent and electricity, one third for investment and one third when the storm will come, meaning save it. I was also running a not so optimized life yet I found the courage to fight back by starting to get away from gambling and not looking at it as a solution to my problems, this is the first step and then some Jewish wisdom about money management surely helps.

You are right, the cause for irresponsible gambling in some cases is the shirty economic situation of a particular country but alot of people that gamble due to this reason should be smart enough to know that Is a 50/50 thing, there's no guarantee that it can take you out of financial hardship because at the end of the day it is gambling. Thinking of gambling as a solution is actually a mental trap.

[lombok]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

Well, one can only say that whatever happened in his life was unfortunate, and no one should ever go through all that at such a young age, when you should be having a good time, studying, making friends, and learning, but instead, life teaches you lessons at an age you could never imagine you will have to learn this early. Anyway, gambling all the money away was a mistake from him, without a doubt, because even if you are depressed and looking for a escape, you shouldn't be doing it excessively, and if you are losing around $200k in gambling, it means you were definitely trying to recover your losses, and that isn't how you try a escape, you are basically doing it to make money, which is wrong.

I read one of the responses in that reddit thread, and I agree with the person who was telling the guy that he doesn't need to explain anything to anyone since he is free to do whatever he wants. It's true that he lost a fortune that he can't possibly recover, but he is young, so he can still make it in life if starts doing things the right way, and stay away from gambling, of course, because mostly, people who lose a lot of money in gambling eventually think of trying to recover it once they make some more money, which another mistake.

It is an enormous psychological burden to any person who has lost a lot of capital at such a tender age. We should also understand that an attempt to recover the losses by betting bigger will not help to alleviate an already dire financial condition. You are so correct in evaluating that the recovery process must be initiated by staying away off gambling fully so that the future could be made better. The possibility to come back and not to have to toil with the opinion of others is a remarkable move indeed. By concentrating on the renovation of our ways of living, we will have a better way of ensuring our success.

[Floxynice]

One cannot tell how dangerous emotional instability can be until they find themselves in such situation where they'll have to choose between death and living in regret for a very long time. What happened to the young man had nothing to do with greed. He was a grieving young man who was seeking for means to distract himself from the reality of life. Unfortunately, he didn't only lose loved ones but lost a huge amount of money. Another reminder that gambling, drinking and many others are never solutions to escape from a bad experience. Their results can backfire.

[Asuspawer09]

It sounds like he was having a lot when it comes to mental health, It become something too big and sadness is stacking on him, from what he experience I mean it was really tragic and I dont really know what's going to happened if that happened to me, but at this state he need to be strong, the gambling mistake already happened and there was nothing he could do about that already, what needed is to move on from that and start over again, it wasn't going to be easy to rebuild for sure, but his 30 that was still early there are a lot of time to rebuild, I mean some guys able to be successful in a few years of focus. Mindset just needed to be change, it was never too late, his still here, just needed to be aware that something needs to change.

Losing a family wasn't easy, making mistakes, etc. It wasn't a reason to be embarassed on your self, thinking that you are not worthy of anything, this was just sadness or heartbreaks but it can be fix with support and time. He could rebuild himself.

[Iroh]

This is quite a sad read. He really delved in too deep when he was introduced to a gambling site online and lost all of his money he has saved up after working long long hours. I bet he tried to use gambling to absorb his pain and grief of losing people that were really close to him. To illustrate just how bad an idea that is, he predictably went on to lose everything in the process.
It's not a good idea to try and fight depression with an activity like gambling. It surely won't turn out well as you'll likely end up being even more depressed when your pockets finally runs dry.
Concerning the case shared by the OP, I hope the guy trys and pulls himself up and out of all of that. He still has many more years ahead of him. And if he can build up a nice sum like he did, he can surely do it again and more.

[Johnlomape]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

This is one of the most unfortunate tragedy I have ever seen or heard and it is very sad to see how people put themselves into problem when they supposed to stay away from gambling or better invest the money in something that would yield profits. The idea of trying to gamble with the money that is meant for investment is very wrong and that's what meant the innocent man to lose such amount of money that could be used to make money. Gambling is not for everybody and people need to understand how gambling works before they start gambling to prevent loses.

[Akbarkoe]

Just read this, and found it to be relevant for this sub: 175k+ lost gambling, no friends, dad is dead

Tl; dr: Guy saved money by working >> tragedies happened (dad, cousin died) >> found a gambling site >> tried to escape the trauma by gambling and lost everything. Regret.

I honestly feel sorry for someone who experiences something like this and uses gambling as an escape from the stress he received due to the death of his parents, I hope his father can live in peace in heaven.
In fact, it is not a problem to use gambling as an escape because gambling can be used as a place of entertainment. It's just that the problem is that people gamble too much, they don't have good control over themselves so they don't think wisely about spending money on gambling.

[Odusko]

Everyone experiences life, and loneliness is often the reason why most people go into addictive environment, he learned about Stake casino that he gambled away his entire life savings, when he lost his Dad and cousin, who had kept him company aside from his job.
The main point here is not about gambling, but how uncontrollable he has become in handling his finances, knowing that he has no job and has also lost everything he had as a support system.
Anyway, instead of remaining in this state of regret, he can actually fix his life since he is still in his 30s. Building a new life is possible, but that will only happen when he disconnects from all the distractions that can get him into a depressing condition again.

[ScamViruS]

I don't understand why people, after learning about gambling and the fact that they can lose everything, still gamble with all their money. The situation this person is in is due to his own bad decisions. Many tragic events can happen in a person's life, other ways should be found to deal with it, gambling is not a solution. Gambling addiction takes a person into a terrible state, from which it is difficult for that person to get out. Therefore, we should behave responsibly to make our lives beautiful, and resolve any sad situation with proper planning instead of emotions.