Do you agree with me that marrying a wrong wife can reduce men lifespan

[Marykeller]

Nowadays, men don't only marry for beauty, they marry someone who has something doing, is homely, respectful and can take care of their family if they are not around.

The marriages we are having, the man and woman work together in providing for the family. None of them is leaving the responsibility for providing for the family for one person to do alone because times are hard. It's a combine efforts in providing for the family. Anyone that doesn't have a job, will look for a skill to start up to keep the family running.

[Findingnemo]

Maybe it is happening in some part of the world but mostly everyone choses their partner but they just broke up x times with different ones before settling for the final, we never know the one could be supportive and push beyond our limits and if we are unlucky the person will be the barrier for everythiong because when they are in love it is good but marriage is a huge commitement, people will show their true faces when they can't handle the pressure.

[Nothingtodo]

Nowadays, men don't only marry for beauty, they marry someone who has something doing, is homely, respectful and can take care of their family if they are not around.

The marriages we are having, the man and woman work together in providing for the family. None of them is leaving the responsibility for providing for the family for one person to do alone because times are hard. It's a combine efforts in providing for the family. Anyone that doesn't have a job, will look for a skill to start up to keep the family running.

A man cannot walk alone, just as a woman cannot walk alone throughout her life. Just as a man needs a wife, a woman needs a male companion. Maybe in youth they can walk alone while they have physical strength, but in old age a woman cannot live without a male companion, just as a man cannot live without a female companion. Moreover, a family creates a means for future security through a husband and wife where they wives will live together with their husbands and produce children. Marriage is one of the main means of producing children. A man finds a suitable female companion through marriage.

[Man of peace]

Firstly I think it's wrong for someone to allow their parents chose a girl they get married to. Marriage is a life time commitment and it's not something that one should make a mistake about. Although there are those that their parents recommend a woman for and they get it right. But in scenario like this you should ask the girl some real life questions, try dating for sometime and try to find out if you both will be compatible before deciding to marry her or not. Your parents can only recommend, but it is you that have the final decision to make.

You have said it all,in olding days it was our parents who recommends us whom to get married with because your father or mother might have gone through all the necessary things that we might have needs to have done, to know if that lady is actually good for marriage,in terms of examine the girl in question and the parents and their background before they can decide to open up to their son and then women were nice and good also ready to marry and that was why it was working for both of them then.

 but nowadays alot of people have given up in marriage both men and women because of what is involved in marriage nowadays and it's no longer advisable for your parents to choose a lady for their son, because our women of nowadays are not like our women of olding days,alot of things have totally gone wrong,so every man wants to make his choice of a woman and it is something that requires alot of fasting and prayers..

[Berry2d]

The fastest killing agent on earth is once partner, i know many will be tempted to ask why once partner that is for the reduction of stress and provision of assistance will now turn to be once problem.  Tracing back to the history of life we will see that without the occurance of external circumstance like sickness,  accidents and others, a happy man always last longer than a sad person which is a clear indication that happiness brings about long life. Having a partner that deprive a man from that life saving tool which is happiness is same as taking his life slowly even if not very fast, which is what a bad partner does to a man that may lead to death

[BADecker]

Firstly I think it's wrong for someone to allow their parents chose a girl they get married to. Marriage is a life time commitment and it's not something that one should make a mistake about. Although there are those that their parents recommend a woman for and they get it right. But in scenario like this you should ask the girl some real life questions, try dating for sometime and try to find out if you both will be compatible before deciding to marry her or not. Your parents can only recommend, but it is you that have the final decision to make.

You have said it all,in olding days it was our parents who recommends us whom to get married with because your father or mother might have gone through all the necessary things that we might have needs to have done, to know if that lady is actually good for marriage,in terms of examine the girl in question and the parents and their background before they can decide to open up to their son and then women were nice and good also ready to marry and that was why it was working for both of them then.

 but nowadays alot of people have given up in marriage both men and women because of what is involved in marriage nowadays and it's no longer advisable for your parents to choose a lady for their son, because our women of nowadays are not like our women of olding days,alot of things have totally gone wrong,so every man wants to make his choice of a woman and it is something that requires alot of fasting and prayers..

People have given up on righteousness all over the place. God gave the most righteous laws to the world in the Torah, the first 5 books of the Bible. Nobody follows these laws perfectly. How do we know? People have trouble in life, and then die.

The Torah points at and says "love for God and love for other people." And the Torah talks about the Messiah Who fulfilled it all in Jesus of Nazareth.

Obey the Torah non-ceremonial laws, and follow the words of Jesus.

[MusaPk]

The fastest killing agent on earth is once partner, i know many will be tempted to ask why once partner that is for the reduction of stress and provision of assistance will now turn to be once problem.  Tracing back to the history of life we will see that without the occurance of external circumstance like sickness,  accidents and others, a happy man always last longer than a sad person which is a clear indication that happiness brings about long life. Having a partner that deprive a man from that life saving tool which is happiness is same as taking his life slowly even if not very fast, which is what a bad partner does to a man that may lead to death

I think it work both ways i.e. a good wife will help to comfort his husband while on the same line a good husband will help his wife in getting out of stress. We spend a lot of time with our spouse i.e. after office hours, on weekends and during any other vacations from office/business. If you have good spouse then the time spend together will be quality time and you will always be looking for time to meet your spouse. We can't share our personal stress or grief with everyone but only with closed people and spouse is among one of them. If you have an ideal spouse then thats a blessing you have to be thankful of.    

[Nwadiche]

Marrying the wrong partner is the worst thing that can happen to anyone , carefully check history of those with wrong partner, it’s also goes to men , even women do fall into the wrong hand , our grandparents generation  and this generation is different, things where quit okay them , I remember my grandma telling me how she married my grandfather, my grandfather travelled to hustle , on his returning home , his parents has already gotten married to the woman they like , paid pride price in full, he has no option than to except hert, and they made good couple and where married till death do them apart, although they were having their differences but it was sorted out but those things can’t take place in this generation again , a lot has really changed.

[T-Dark]

In our society today there are men that has been doing well with their single life's and many don't have mindset of getting married at the moment because they think they aren't ready yet,  and for the fact that these categories of men has everything a man needs to archive in life and yet they have not think of getting married because they still chancing the money but one morning they will just wake up in their house and see that their parents has already arranged and brought wife for them since they have the chance of thinking or talking about when and how to get married, so decided to getting married through the wife that their parents brought to them and why some men chose who they will get married without knowing the actual history about girl they are married to, simply because the lady is beautiful and nice looking and after marriage, he found out the woman she get married to can't cook, wash and can't do anything helps the family business grow but what she can think of spending the money every time and once the husband refuses to give her fight and quarry everyday and in such situation of lossing money every dey from the bad wife that wants to contribute but only based on demanding money for everything new things she come across in social media, and i believe that these social media has corrupt so many good wife's out there to another thing entirely, mostly these generations were the ladies are just for the money, it is very adviseable to get married to who support you as a man in every area of endeavors, because they you finally married a wife that is not reasoning the way forward, is the day you will reducing without you noticing.

Bad wife -> high cortisol 

Good wife - > low cortisol 

[Tungbulu]

Maybe it is happening in some part of the world but mostly everyone choses their partner but they just broke up x times with different ones before settling for the final, we never know the one could be supportive and push beyond our limits and if we are unlucky the person will be the barrier for everythiong because when they are in love it is good but marriage is a huge commitement, people will show their true faces when they can't handle the pressure.

Except you just fell in love today and got married the next day, else you’re supposed to have a pretty good idea of who you’re dating or wants to marry. It’s true that some people can actually try to hide their true self, and except you’re too busy to pay attention, else you’ll definitely see the signs. Marriage isn’t about choosing the perfect one  cos there’s literally no perfect one, but about choosing the one you can actually cope with their shortcomings so when you eventually get married, those shortcomings don’t take you by surprise because you already anticipated them and also prepared for them, and it’ll be easier for you both to work towards fully understanding each other and maybe make a few compromises.

[Findingnemo]

Maybe it is happening in some part of the world but mostly everyone choses their partner but they just broke up x times with different ones before settling for the final, we never know the one could be supportive and push beyond our limits and if we are unlucky the person will be the barrier for everythiong because when they are in love it is good but marriage is a huge commitement, people will show their true faces when they can't handle the pressure.

Except you just fell in love today and got married the next day, else you’re supposed to have a pretty good idea of who you’re dating or wants to marry. It’s true that some people can actually try to hide their true self, and except you’re too busy to pay attention, else you’ll definitely see the signs. Marriage isn’t about choosing the perfect one  cos there’s literally no perfect one, but about choosing the one you can actually cope with their shortcomings so when you eventually get married, those shortcomings don’t take you by surprise because you already anticipated them and also prepared for them, and it’ll be easier for you both to work towards fully understanding each other and maybe make a few compromises.

As I said love and marriage is not the same, maybe if you are living together already and just decide to marry will not change anything if you are already sharing everything from financial burden to being emotional support to each other but marriage turns into a lifelong committement so people can change or get exposed at that situation and the new trend is get married and get divorced after w while and take away 50% of their life savings.

[examplens]

Nah, what a discussion. I didn't expect that here 

I don't know how much life experience you have, but here is one fact.
No matter how good a woman looks to you or seems good at all, keep in mind that someone is happy because they are no longer with her. (I believe it is the same thing in the other direction)

Of course, this has nothing to do with the probability that you are very compatible with that person.

[Man of peace]

Yes! Marriage is not just about looks or vibes, it’s about teamwork. If your parents pick your wife, you might miss real love. If you choose just for looks, it can flop . Social media makes love seem like all money and showoff, but for real, you need someone who’s got your back, helps you grind, and builds with you—not just spends. Pick smart, or you’ll watch your future fade.

It's very surprising that many parents even in this jet age are imposing partners on there children, which in many occasions those marriage later become harmful to there children. And many a times this is based on parents selfish interest, like keeping bounds in relationships between them and there friends, business associates, maintaining a particular social, political circles and more. So they don't calculate the risk involved in making such decision for there children.
Left with me, I won't allow anyone influence me into marrying someone I don't love or have feelings for in other to please them. My state of mind, happiness and peace is important to me first.

You have spoken very well my OP, but I think things all this is still exciting,it was in the olding days i do hear of these such nowadays it doesn't work anymore.because people have learn their losses from the mistakes cause by the parents choice of marriage by their son or daughter,back then Don't even care about going for blood test to know if there blood matches or not..

[GeorgeJohn]

Marrying the wrong partner is the worst thing that can happen to anyone ,

Actually no woman is 95% good in character, sometimes women doesn't show a wrong attitude when a man have not shown a bad attitude to her, a woman can be wrong to you when you offend her..

carefully check history of those with wrong partner, it’s also goes to men , even women do fall into the wrong hand ,

A family background checking or asking ' before getting married to a woman, is good, but the thing is that, do not provoke woman, or do not commit in the presences of your woman..it will trigger the woman to be more difficult to you...no marriage is 100% good.

our grandparents generation  and this generation is different, things where quit okay them , I remember my grandma telling me how she married my grandfather, my grandfather travelled to hustle , on his returning home , his parents has already gotten married to the woman they like , paid pride price in full, he has no option than to except hert, and they made good couple and where married till death do them apart, although they were having their differences but it was sorted out but those things can’t take place in this generation again , a lot has really changed.

Things is getting civilised and well refined...people have started to know their right....then humans weren't civilised, and then, our parents were living an analog kind of living, their's no digital things, so, you can't compare then and now....

[OgNasty]

All the data I’ve seen on marriage would indicate that married men live longer. This isn’t to say it is true in every case, but that seems to be the overall trend. The outliers of course being if you marry a woman who is also a serial killer. That may end in an unexpected result.

[Tungbulu]

As I said love and marriage is not the same, maybe if you are living together already and just decide to marry will not change anything if you are already sharing everything from financial burden to being emotional support to each other but marriage turns into a lifelong committement so people can change or get exposed at that situation and the new trend is get married and get divorced after w while and take away 50% of their life savings.

Yeah people can change do to some internal and mostly external influences. That’s why marriage goes beyond just living together on the same roof, bearing children, just like you said it’s a lifetime commitment, and many people don’t really know what lifetime mean. Especially men, they still think it’s still a flick or a fleeting moment, and so they often fail on their part. Whether a woman loves you or not, if they’re comfortable around you, then they’ll most likely stay, and it goes vice versa, even if a woman loves you and you make her really uncomfortable around you, it’ll only take a while before she gets tired and leave.

[Yablee0]

Firstly I think it's wrong for someone to allow their parents chose a girl they get married to. Marriage is a life time commitment and it's not something that one should make a mistake about. Although there are those that their parents recommend a woman for and they get it right. But in scenario like this you should ask the girl some real life questions, try dating for sometime and try to find out if you both will be compatible before deciding to marry her or not. Your parents can only recommend, but it is you that have the final decision to make.

Allowing our parents to choose a wife for us is very wrong and obviously a red flag to the person involved, wife are life time partner so it's very proper taking your time to search for what you want by yourself and not the other way round. Moreover you are the person in search of the wife and perhaps you are in more better position to know what you want and not for someone else to bring in a woman that will start giving you problems and even to an extent of scattering your life in a short term.


A good wife are precious gifts from God and until you come accross one you will not understand what am talking about. When you are been blessed with a good wife your resource will multiply beyond limits, you see yourself doing well in your business or work, she will add more value to your life than usual, she will be interseeding on your behalf both spiritually and otherwise, however their are more advantages you we likely enjoy than marrying a bad woman.

[stevenknowsjitsu]

"A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her." This is from 'The Picture of Dorian Gray'... but so true. Life is easier / more chill when your heart isn’t fully in I guess! 

[POPOLUV]

All the data I’ve seen on marriage would indicate that married men live longer. This isn’t to say it is true in every case, but that seems to be the overall trend. The outliers of course being if you marry a woman who is also a serial killer. That may end in an unexpected result.

I totally agree with you that men that married live longer when they are lucky enough to marry the right woman that is good in almost the areas in performing wife duties in the family and on the contrarily if by chance a man is so unlucky to marry a wrong wife that is supportive any way to be helpful to the husband, than give the husband reason to divorce because since the wife can contribute anything yet only give the husband a restless mindset of being unhappy everytime and such character being display everytime of the wife will be eating him up and that will definitely be reducing the lifespan of that man, however, marriage can make a man die before his time in this earth by marrying the wrong wife and also make a man live longer when you he marry a helper not a killer

[BADecker]

"A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her." This is from 'The Picture of Dorian Gray'... but so true. Life is easier / more chill when your heart isn’t fully in I guess! 

But if she is cute...