Be A Gambler or Train a woman in Shool

[Youngrebel]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

[Fiatless]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Firstly, I would not train a girl in school with the intention of marrying her. We would get married first (if she is mature enough for marriage) before I would consider spending money on your education.

Back to your question, I would not choose any option. I would rather save the money and invest it in something else than to waste it on gambling or a girl that might end up rejecting my marriage proposal.

This doesn't mean that there are no good women who would always love no matter what happens. If I find such a committed girl, it would be better to spend money on them than to spend it on gambling.

[Ruttoshi]

Training a girl to school and she ends up disappointing you and didn't marry you as promised is more than gambling but a dishonest act which I will classify to be a scam because there was an initial agreement in the beginning. It will affect you emotional more than what gambling will do to you because it's like calling you a fool.

I will prefer to gamble with the money than to end up in frustration. At least, I have the chance of doubling my money if I gamble with it.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Training a girl to school and she ends up disappointing you and didn't marry you as promised is more than gambling but a dishonest act which I will classify to be a scam because there was an initial agreement in the beginning. It will affect you emotional more than what gambling will do to you because it's like calling you a fool.

I will prefer to gamble with the money than to end up in frustration. At least, I have the chance of doubling my money if I gamble with it.

I will totally agree with you as your view is not far from me, today many had witness many disappointing issue regards to training woman in school, some with the hope of making them future wife spent all the savings including the sales of their asset but at end lossing woffly on the woman, I remember incident of a man who committed suicide resulting to issue of woman he trained leaving him to another recently one happened a man catched with gun in his car intending to assassinate a woman with similar reason of disappointing. The best is to use the money and gamble it's more peaceful, joyous when losing in gambling than lossing in women not everyone that withstand the emotional attachment, but gambling does not take that level of emotion except the gambler is deeply addicted without control.

[rbynxx]

Both sounds uncool but with my money on the line I think you better have the right choices like spending that money for good use like business or investment. The thing with this kind of scenario is that you wouldn't know what future holds. You may think she's cool with you but ended ghosting you and you may think you could win that money but it broke you in the end. I'm not saying don't pursue love/marriage but I think you should use your brain some of the time, just my two cents who's saying from experience.

[crwth]

Is this a real question? Like, I feel like this is a transactional type of thing that says

I paid your tuition, so you must marry me.

This is crazy. It feels like it is being implied and enforced in a type of way. Like a coercion that forces people into an exchange. It's quite weird. There are probably some ethical issues that should be discussed here.

[Akbarkoe]

Okay, so you're gambling on love with a woman. You want to take care of her and provide her with a good life. That's a noble goal, but this gamble is very risky, as in the story above. If you're ultimately rejected, it will be devastating. Don't be so naive about this kind of gambling, my friend.

I think I'd rather gamble in a casino than gamble with a woman because it's much better. Maybe you can get that treatment as long as she's already your wife.

[JunaidAzizi]

The most stupid and foolish act is spending money on women with whom you have no relationship. If she is not your mother, wife, or daughter, then you don't need to spend a lot of money. In the above case, the person made a big mistake, if he had first married her (assuming she is not underage for marriage) and then sent her to school to study, that would have been a good move. She used him, and now that she is capable of living alone, she left him. So, spending money on her would have been better spent on gambling, at least you might get some profits in the end.

[Fiatless]

Is this a real question? Like, I feel like this is a transactional type of thing that says

I paid your tuition, so you must marry me.

This is crazy. It feels like it is being implied and enforced in a type of way. Like a coercion that forces people into an exchange. It's quite weird. There are probably some ethical issues that should be discussed here.

It might be strange to you, but it happens in other parts of the world. Some parents might not be financially strong enough to cover the educational expenses of their daughter. She could have a boyfriend who can afford to cover the academic bills. There is usually an unwritten agreement that she would marry him after graduation, since marriage might be a distraction to her academics.

These girls go to school and end up meeting better men. This will make them refuse to marry their sponsors. Most of these men end up in disappointment and frustration after losing the girl and money. This might be why OP is asking this question.

[cryptoaddictchie]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Investing in a person with the expectation of a guaranteed outcome, like a future marriage, is inherently uncertain, much like gambling, because people have their own free will and choices. Treating relationships as transactions can lead to disappointment and emotional harm, whereas genuine connections thrive on mutual respect, care, and shared growth. Ultimately, valuing experiences and emotional bonds over returns on investment is healthier than comparing human relationships to gambling odds.

[CryptSafe]

I would not train a girl just in the name of getting married to her without any assurance of marriage. If I must train a girl, for that matter, it should be my wife who is willing and ready to go to school or further her education under my roof. Anything outside that is a mere charity work because that lady would definitely go for another person after being exposed to life, and you might definitely not be her spec anymore. As for gambling, it is normal to gamble for fun compared to the situation of training a girl in school who is not legally your wife. This is more like charity stuff because she would thank you for your efforts and walk away, defying any discussion you both had before the event of training her in school.

[MRY]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Investing in a person with the expectation of a guaranteed outcome, like a future marriage, is inherently uncertain, much like gambling, because people have their own free will and choices. Treating relationships as transactions can lead to disappointment and emotional harm, whereas genuine connections thrive on mutual respect, care, and shared growth. Ultimately, valuing experiences and emotional bonds over returns on investment is healthier than comparing human relationships to gambling odds.

It is the perception that social interactions are created and expressed only in material transactions that tends to hide values of human beings that we must appreciate with all the heart. It is necessary to understand that freedom of expression and activity are the main factors that make a bond special and permanent. As soon as we can release ourselves of fixed notions of expectations of results, we will experience a peace within ourselves in all the meetings. This action will make us recognise every life good experience as an element in the beautiful journey of life.

[danherbias07]

It's crazy.

If we are always looking for an exchange when we do good things for people, then it is not right.
There's always another woman if we cannot financially support the one we are in love with, especially younger than us who are still going to school. Well, he didn't expect to get scammed, but that is the risk of messing around with younger people.
Plus, he expected something in return, which makes it worse. It's not about the others' comments or opinions about what is better than what happened. It's what we do next after learning from it.

[robelneo]

The man in your story did not check or study the woman's character; the story is incomplete. Do they have an agreement that she will marry him while he supports her studies? If there is none, then yes, the woman can deny him; the problem here is that he did not make his real intention clear.
So, between gambling and supporting a woman with the intention of marrying her, I prefer supporting a woman if she understands and agrees to the deal; if not, with the possibility of being turned down, then I prefer gambling.

[lombok]

It's crazy.

If we are always looking for an exchange when we do good things for people, then it is not right.
There's always another woman if we cannot financially support the one we are in love with, especially younger than us who are still going to school. Well, he didn't expect to get scammed, but that is the risk of messing around with younger people.
Plus, he expected something in return, which makes it worse. It's not about the others' comments or opinions about what is better than what happened. It's what we do next after learning from it.

When one is helping others, it needs to be sincere, not thinking of the benefits of material gain in the future. Whenever we extend financial assistance to others, our disappointment will always be there in case we do not have a true motive at the start. One important lesson that we should learn is the necessity to be choosier when forming personal relations through the bitter experience of betrayal. The second thing is to work on the process of evaluating the character of others as well to avoid making such a drastic, and so destructive, mistake in future.

[Joeboy]

Training a lady in school with the intention of getting married to her should never be treated like an investment where you always are expectant of a return like in this case married... A lady feeling could change as well as hew decision and it's not something that she may even be within her control... Gambling shouldnt be compared with a situation like this coz gambling is a deliberate risk which folks could do probably for entertainment or for financial profits.. And in doing so, the gambler already knows that the outcome depends on chance and luck which may or may not always be in your favor..

[Doan9269]

Training a girl through school with the intention of marrying her or gambling with the money?

Training a child girl through school with the intention of marrying her later in future does not look mature to me, we are doing it because of the intention we have towards it at the end, what if the child latered matured and got to discover that she has no interest in you at all to marry as husband, isn't that a wasted effort over the years, how comes can one be so fascinated to a young child girl to the extent that you wanted to marry her when she grow up, this is insane and a child abuse, let's speak the truth, i will choose gambling instead.

[Youngrebel]

Training a girl to school and she ends up disappointing you and didn't marry you as promised is more than gambling but a dishonest act which I will classify to be a scam because there was an initial agreement in the beginning. It will affect you emotional more than what gambling will do to you because it's like calling you a fool.

I will prefer to gamble with the money than to end up in frustration. At least, I have the chance of doubling my money if I gamble with it.

Exactly the point. Imagine investing your time, emotions and resources on a girl for over the years with so much hope getting back the promise from the girl. Even if there was no promise from the initial point but there was a relationship going from the beginning.  You will be waiting and even having more plans together for the future and all of a sudden you are disappointed. It is sure better you gamble because the frustration and disappointment you get from gambling cannot be compared to that of a disappointment from a woman.

Both sounds uncool but with my money on the line I think you better have the right choices like spending that money for good use like business or investment. The thing with this kind of scenario is that you wouldn't know what future holds. You may think she's cool with you but ended ghosting you and you may think you could win that money but it broke you in the end. I'm not saying don't pursue love/marriage but I think you should use your brain some of the time, just my two cents who's saying from experience.

Sometimes it is not always obvious what the future really holds for you. Reasons being that you might have all convictions that this person shares thesame feelings with you. Possibly she would go ahead to give you words of affirmations that sounds so convincing, backing up some fake actions just to get your total trust. You fall for it and at the end the game and plan changes.

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Investing in a person with the expectation of a guaranteed outcome, like a future marriage, is inherently uncertain, much like gambling, because people have their own free will and choices. Treating relationships as transactions can lead to disappointment and emotional harm, whereas genuine connections thrive on mutual respect, care, and shared growth. Ultimately, valuing experiences and emotional bonds over returns on investment is healthier than comparing human relationships to gambling odds.

Do you think having genuine connections and trust for someone and not expecting anything in return after investigating so much in the person, only to get a negative feedback or negative replies from such person's donot hurt? I'm sure regardless of the intension of the person involved if you get a negative return it will hurt you. Maybe it might not say it out publicly but deep down you are dyeing of hurt and pain that you regret your good actions good deeds.

[Cryptomultiplier]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

This post is quite hilarious and insightful as it is, and my honest opinion isn't far from the verdict you already have.
I prefer to have married the woman before training her through school, instead of blindly relying on the promise of marriage just to spend my funds and time and attention without getting it back.

I have heard and seen real cases of individuals with such experiences and it is very heartbreaking to begin with.
So my stand is that I would gamble with my funds rather than spend it on training a woman through school with the intention of marrying her, because as you said, it's a 50-50 chance of success and I would rather take my chances with my gambling probabilities.

[Wakate]

This is a funny topic and I have been contemplating about it why I would have to train a woman in school when I have good things to do with my money. I will rather invest my money and involve myself in businesses that will fetch me money than to use my money to train a woman in school. Any gambler that may be having the intention to train and person's daughter in school must be joking.