Be A Gambler or Train a woman in Shool

[TokenTikas]

Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?

Although we often see matters concerning girls a little differently, if giving a girl some form of training in school with the hope of preparing for marriage is something positive then there should be no problem with such training. By school training, I mean religious training because in many religions there is strong emphasis on modesty, good character and proper upbringing for women as they grow.

But if the training given in school is not related to religion and is about something else, then I would never give it priority. If the training is outside religious matters, it would feel better to gamble than to spend money on such training. Even so, everything has both good and bad sides and that will always remain the case, those who are able to take something good from it may still find some benefit.

[Asiska02]

Both of the options are not what I would settle down for, being a gambler or sponsoring a girl to school. They are the same thing and their chances of coming through is very low, so i won’t even think of relying or hoping something spectacular comes out of it. The idea of guys sponsoring the girl they love to school is like risking a lot of money that you cannot afford to lose, if she leaves you, you’ll be at big loss and may end up being traumatized.

If you love a girl too much, I think when taking such bold step, you both should come to an agreement of what your intention is and what the end result of the sponsorship will lead to. Several cases of something similar like this do happen, and I think this is the best way for them to actually avert such from happening. Don’t risk what you cannot afford to lose to sponsor a woman to school without having a written agreement.

[Floxynice]

Show kindness to people and expect nothing in return. The problem here isn't about what you choose to do with your money, but the kinds of expectations you have from how you spend your money. Whether you choose to train a girl with your money or gamble till you become an addict, your high expectations will still ruin things for you.

Firstly, the girl may end up not willing to marry you. Disappointment steps in and your expectations are cut short
Secondly, gambling is not guaranteed. Your expectations of making more money is still cut short. So, you should reduce your expectations of gambling and those you show kindness to.

[IjawMan]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Firstly, I would not train a girl in school with the intention of marrying her. We would get married first (if she is mature enough for marriage) before I would consider spending money on your education.

Back to your question, I would not choose any option. I would rather save the money and invest it in something else than to waste it on gambling or a girl that might end up rejecting my marriage proposal.

This doesn't mean that there are no good women who would always love no matter what happens. If I find such a committed girl, it would be better to spend money on them than to spend it on gambling.

A wise decision you had to make and I'm on the same track with you about it cause taking either one of the two choices is still with heightened chances of leaving you to begin life back again from zero.

The savings realized can ilbe invested in livestock and you can have 3x of the total number of livestock you began with in a year. There are good women but to not make a regrettable mistake, I will not recommend to any brother or friend to use his savings to train a stranger in the university neither to choose to gamble with it, but to invest it digitally or physical assets is a goal.

[Cantsay]

Unless there’s something binding me legally to the woman, I don’t think I’ll ever train one through school. I have seen this issue so many times in my society, where someone claimed to have trained a girl through school only for them to go and marry someone else.

In school, there are so many people in it, different people and there’s a high chance of her falling for someone new, so unless you don’t really expect anything in return, then you can train her and not feel bad that she chose someone other than you. But for me, it’s a no go area.

[Finestream]

If you want to train your woman in school, do it without asking for returns. You can't be certain of their future decisions, as much as even theirselves aren't sure what will be their future plans and decisions in life once they have already done their schooling and become professionals. You can't even be sure  if you are still part of their plans when that future comes.

So if you are still planning for one, prepare yourself. Its like gambling, the outcome is always uncertain.

[Josefjix]

It's funny how some grown up men hasn't still understood the psychology of women, and these men that often fall for this trap are the illerate men that didn't even have certificate.
Generally, women do not settle for men who they are better than, they are hypergamous in nature and tends to be loyal to those ahead of them in every area of life.

So training women to be ahead of you is simply meaning that you are giving her power over you, and women aren't good at handling power over men, they'll burn the man and themselves with the power.

If the man is highly respected, prominent, socially recognized and highly intellectual with tons of certificates, well to do man, that woman wouldn't deny marrying him, because the man still has more power than her- Women psychology.

I can gamble for the woman to deny marrying an illetreat who see her through school and gamble for the same woman to stay in the relationship even after been trained in school by a highly intellectual man.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

Well, our society have made things look very bad, I never imagined comparing investment in a human to gambling, this is the level at which our society have made humans stoop so low to..

The thing is, let just be serious and sincere with our selves, money spent on sending a girl or any body else to school can not be compared to money spent on gambling, but the mistake we make is attaching feeling and emotion to the good which choose to do for another humans especially when it's an opposite sex..

As a man, between gambling and seeing a girl through school, I will (day and night) prefer to see a girl through school but I won't make that mistake of expecting her to marry me afterwards, my seeing her through school is my way of investing in humanity, if I need a learned girl to marry, there are plenty of them out there looking for husband, it is not a must to marry some one I helped.

[Oluwa-btc]

This is a very common experience in our society today.If she accepted to marry him solely to secure sponsorship and later changed her mind,thats unfair.If he sponsored her education for marriage that reflects transactional support which carries respective consequences.Support should come from strength and clarity not emotional attachments disguised as generosity.

[Stablexcoin]

They are both unreasonable ideas with the wrong motive. Firstly,  I would not train a girl i want to marry in school, because in that case it looks like an investment that needs to yield profits at the end which does not define love entirely for me.

Secondly, the idea behind the whole gambling stuff is a wrong idea. More like its an alternative to investing in a woman and regarding it as an investment.  Gambling is an activity that should be done with all consciousness that it might not yield profits. Both gambling and investing in a woman are different entities so I dont see the comparison.

[lovesmayfamilis]

Which is better?

I think that the OP should create a similar topic in its local section, since the world does not end in Nigeria, and the education of women in the world is a NORMAL phenomenon! In a way, I agree with Satofan44 that there are similar individuals on our forum, with such narrow and stupid thinking that allows them to create similar topics about how women should not have an education. On the other hand, an intelligent woman is a weapon that individuals like OP are afraid of; for example, she will immediately see his narrow horizons and refuse him not only to marry him but also to be in the same room with him.

I read all the answers above. What's wrong with you people?

[michellee]

I will pay her tuition until she graduate and don't have intention to her. About marrying her or not, I will let the time answers. The important here is I help her to have a better education so she can do many things including to have better job with her degree.

Everything can changes in the future so no guarantee that girls will still besides us. We do not have to force her to marry with us and let her decide.

I don't want to gamble using that money because no guarantee I can win big so I prefer to use that money to help that girl to have better lives for her future.

[Betwrong]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

If you have found the girl that in your opinion will be the woman of your life, you must do everything you can to marry her. Imagine, you gambled with the money and won a big amount. What will you be doing next? Buy yourself a good wife or what? No amount of money can be a substitute for a good wife. It's incomparable.

[Cityhunter34]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

Of course both of them are 50/50 chance there's no single difference between them because women are not worthy to be trusted. I have seen many people who spent all other money in training girl in school but at last they ended up empty handed. Honestly, I will be the last person to train a girl in school because they don't usually value someone that is providing for them and the most annoying part is that most of them even go to the extent of using your hard earn money in another man's head. So I prefer having fun with the money in gambling than spending it with any girl after all there are many of them out there that value you more than the ones you are spending on there head.

[Outhue]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

I would have support training a girl through school if the experience that I have seen became successful in the end, 99% of the time the girls always end up cheating on the guy or they forget about the guy that helped them then follow another girl, some even ended up in marriages with a stranger.

If these two options are the only way available, I would rather choose to use all the money to gamble, or just invest the money on Bitcoin and hold for many years to come, this will be far more rewarding for me in the future than spending in on a girls education, many people have such evil experience and

[Crytohillss]

It's funny how some grown up men hasn't still understood the psychology of women, and these men that often fall for this trap are the illerate men that didn't even have certificate.
Generally, women do not settle for men who they are better than, they are hypergamous in nature and tends to be loyal to those ahead of them in every area of life.

So training women to be ahead of you is simply meaning that you are giving her power over you, and women aren't good at handling power over men, they'll burn the man and themselves with the power.

If the man is highly respected, prominent, socially recognized and highly intellectual with tons of certificates, well to do man, that woman wouldn't deny marrying him, because the man still has more power than her- Women psychology.

I can gamble for the woman to deny marrying an illetreat who see her through school and gamble for the same woman to stay in the relationship even after been trained in school by a highly intellectual man.

Not every woman is only looking for someone ahead of her and not every educated woman will abandon someone who supported her through her educational career. Character , respect and loyalty emotional connection still matters a lot I have seen a couples where the woman is more educated and yet they still build a strong healthy marriages at the end of the whole day the success of a relationship depends more on mutual respect and understanding than on who has more certificate or social status.

[Shadiq]

Neither of your options would be on my list of favorites. Why would I pay for someone's education before marriage, to whom I have no responsibility? If it were a post-marriage issue, I would definitely do it. Educating your partner is wiser than gambling. Otherwise, I will save the money, maybe I won't be forced to spend it. If I am not forced, then why should I spend it on something that is useless. Keep your money to yourself, get rid of the disease of spending money. There are better options, invest it or save it for the future.

[Die_empty]

I will pay her tuition until she graduate and don't have intention to her. About marrying her or not, I will let the time answers. The important here is I help her to have a better education so she can do many things including to have better job with her degree.

Everything can changes in the future so no guarantee that girls will still besides us. We do not have to force her to marry with us and let her decide.

I don't want to gamble using that money because no guarantee I can win big so I prefer to use that money to help that girl to have better lives for her future.

If you want to assist someone, it should be done without any conditions. People's feelings or preferences could change over time, hence there is not guarantee that someone would like you forever. Anybody who is sponsoring a girl's education with the intention of marrying her in the future might be making a mistake. It should be done based on goodwill and not forced marriage.

Anyway, I would rather assist someone in need than spend my money on gambling. Contributing to someone's education is far better than risking it on an activity for which you are not sure of the returns.

[Somegory]

Which is better?

I think that the OP should create a similar topic in its local section, since the world does not end in Nigeria, and the education of women in the world is a NORMAL phenomenon! In a way, I agree with Satofan44 that there are similar individuals on our forum, with such narrow and stupid thinking that allows them to create similar topics about how women should not have an education. On the other hand, an intelligent woman is a weapon that individuals like OP are afraid of; for example, she will immediately see his narrow horizons and refuse him not only to marry him but also to be in the same room with him.

I read all the answers above. What's wrong with you people?

Are you saying that all the responses in this thread are from Nigerians? I am guessing that you are a female that's why you are talking this way, and yes I am in support that many females are not always back bitters, some get educated thanks to their lover and they ended up married with beautiful family.

The problem here is the experience that people have is far greater, ask every Africans this question and many of them will say the same thing, because that's the simple truth, this has nothing to do with men fearing women to be more educated than them, if that's the real deal why would a man sponsor a lady's education in the first place?

I want my woman to be educated, many men wanted the same thing but in the end they got betrayed, if you are a good woman I respect you but the many like you aren't plenty in the world, this isn't about Nigerians or Ghana or South Africa.

No one here is saying that women shouldn't have education, men who sponsors females to school are already in relationships, dating some kind and the females mostly betrays them, although not all of them.

[qwertyup23]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?

I'll be honest- this is such a weird question because I think those two (2) choices are entirely different from one another.

Personally, I wouldn't choose between those choices. In the first place, why would you train a girl to go through school? Are you making that girl your retirement money?

1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

If I get this right, are you telling this with the context of "wasting money on a girl" that kind of stuff?

Well it really depends because you shall always invest in people. Spending your money for a girl; or for gambling entirely depends on you because those outcomes are different and entirely unrelated with one another.