Be A Gambler or Train a woman in Shool

[Itz-prisigold]

I can't advise anyone to train any girl in school all in the name that she's my girlfriend, the only thing A boyfriend owe his girlfriend is support, you can buy her textbooks, feed her (which is optional) but paying her school fees I'm not in support of that, although not all girls are like that, we still have the good ones that can stand on their words, but before training A girl make much she's your wife already to avoid frustration or depression in the future, training A girl in school and gambling is almost the same thing, you have the chance of losing everything. What most ladies are doing now are so disheartening.

I can see your point on a few things. Supporting a girlfriend is one thing. Helping with her textbooks, meals or advising her is another thing. But however, paying school fees with the expectation of marriage is a big risk. Say what you want about feelings, but the truth is feelings can change, and no one can have ownership over someone's heart. This is why I believe you shouldn't train a girl through school with marriage being the contract.

I can agree with the fact that training a girl to school is risky, if only you have your own expectations, but I wouldn't go so far as to say it is the same with gambling. In education, at least if things don't go how you planned, the girl still has the education, knowledge, skills, and that is valuable. But gambling on the other hand, is purely chance  because gambling has nothing lasting about it. If you lose your money it gone forever and you did not grain anything from it, rather than pains and depression.

Support your girlfriend genuinely because you want to, not because you are looking for a certain outcome. This is why people get disappointed. And honestly, the frustration or disappointment only comes when we tie love with possession. Respecting her choice and giving her the support responsibly is the smartest way to do it.

[Wapfika]

I would like to say here that liking a girl and training her is not like gambling. Marriage is an agreement between both parties, If someone makes a proposition, a girl can say no, it is normal. Many times people say such things when they are angry, and cannot accept rejection. So the main thing here is that respect and reality understanding is important in relationships, nothing can be achieved by force. And it's wrong to compare a girl with gambling. Both are different things, gambling is temporary and marriage is permanent.

It’s not direct comparison rather just a what if on the usage of money. Although the comparison is a bit irrelevant but still that’s the chosen comparison on the topic just to illustrate the losses due to the poor decision making on spending money for a girl studies for a different motive.

Contract is important on this kind of setup to have an assurance that you will recover funds in case other party change of mind.

A girl mind is very complex the more they get an experience along the way.

[danherbias07]

Training a girl to school and she ends up disappointing you and didn't marry you as promised is more than gambling but a dishonest act which I will classify to be a scam because there was an initial agreement in the beginning. It will affect you emotional more than what gambling will do to you because it's like calling you a fool.

I will prefer to gamble with the money than to end up in frustration. At least, I have the chance of doubling my money if I gamble with it.

That's practical, and I agree with it.

I don't know what country is OP from, but I guess there are options like that in their traditions. Sending a girl to school and providing for her in exchange for marriage when her age is right. This is risky, but in provinces it can happen because there are not many people living, and some pairs are fixed to be partners while they are young and until they grow old.
So I guess it's a gamble that will depend on the situation, and sending a woman to school might be part of their tradition to prove that a man can provide.

[JoyceBTC]

For me if someone chose to gamble with their money or train a woman in school, it is on them and nothing bad there. Where it seems kind of funny to me is when someone is training a woman so that after her completion, he will get married to her and at the end of the day when she refuses, he start laying causes on the girl or blaming himself for training her. If you are in a relationship with a girl, and she doesn’t have the funds for her education, and you as the person dating her is capable of doing it, you love her and you’re ready to fund her education, you can go ahead and do it because you love her and not that you want to do it because she must marry you if you do it. Definitely people part ways along the line and even after so many years of dating, they later find out that they cannot end up together, everybody will go their separate ways. Marriage is not compulsory.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

If we want to do charity, then we have to be playing and clean in doing this, what's the essence of doing good and later standing in the gap to receive back the same reward for what you have done in the past, what if the child later discovers that she is not even infatuated with you at last?

If you are also a gambler, then try to be a modest one and don't try to gamble just to impress others or have something as an intention to get as a reward at the end of it.

[giammangiato]

1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.

Starting from point 1, it's better to marry the woman I love than to do everything else. Feelings are unprogrammable. You either love a person or you don't, whether they're educated or uneducated. If they gamble even more out of love, you help them avoid harm.
Point 2 insults are not part of me, if I come to insult someone I do it because I have my back against the wall, but I never attack first.
Point 3 I've never had $50,000 so I can't lose it, but Manchester United better keep playing like this they're making me vice versa several betting slips.
I answered ironically, but the real thought is that education is immensely valuable, it is the only real precious thing that belongs to us in this life, no one can steal it, and it is an invaluable legacy we can leave to our children.

[o48o]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

What are you on man? Girls or women aren't your property or owe you marriage no matter what you pay them. If you want to support someone, don't do it because you have ulterior motive, like a some unspoken contract, that's creepy AF.

Support women because you want to support women. And i speak about women because i am thinking this is translation issue and you aren't talking about underaged girls. As that would be next level creepy.

Actually, now that i think about it, gamble your money, because there's no need to be innocent girls or women involved to what ever your ruse is.

[Frankolala]

I understand the OP very well, and I also understand the comments that have been made here. This discussion is a third world problem, at this point I don’t even think it’s fit for the gambling board. You do not own a person because you are their benefactor. What kind of love is it if it is contractional? In my experience with cases like this, the men aren’t always the victims they make themselves out to be. There  are usually twice or three times the age of the young girl, and they pick a poor family to be their “saviour” in return for daughter. That in my opinion is a premeditated act of manipulation.

Based on your comment above, I get your point. It will really be a bad one if the man in question is older than the girl with a good number of age but if they're of the same age or he's a little bit older than her, I don't see anything wrong. I have seen such before. The one that played out in my environment. The guy isn't old but rich and he is an illetrate. The girl took advantage of him because he's an illry6.

[rachael9385]

Which is better?
Training a girl through school with the intension of marrying her or gambling with the money?
Recently there's something that has become a bit common to have been happening in our society though it doesn't happen all of the time. 
A man who see a girl through the University with the intension of marrying her, proposes to her and at the end the lady turns the proposal down. This just happened recently again and the lady even went as far as slapping him. People commented some below comments;
1; it is better to gamble with my money than see a woman through school.
2. Do not insult a gambler if you are Training a girl in school because you are both  thesame. It is a 50, 50 chance of winning for each case.
3. It is better for Man-U to cut your ticket than for you to loose your 50k  on women.
ETC.
What is your taught on the above statements made?

What are you on man? Girls or women aren't your property or owe you marriage no matter what you pay them. If you want to support someone, don't do it because you have ulterior motive, like a some unspoken contract, that's creepy AF.

Support women because you want to support women. And i speak about women because i am thinking this is translation issue and you aren't talking about underaged girls. As that would be next level creepy.

Actually, now that i think about it, gamble your money, because there's no need to be innocent girls or women involved to what ever your ruse is.

You made a good point, helping anyone regardless of their gender should be done based on generosity and not expecting something In return, that's wrong with people, they always have an Ulterior motive. If you cannot help a woman without hoping to get something back then it's better to avoid it cause you will be disappointed.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

If we want to do charity, then we have to be playing and clean in doing this, what's the essence of doing good and later standing in the gap to receive back the same reward for what you have done in the past, what if the child later discovers that she is not even infatuated with you at last?

If you are also a gambler, then try to be a modest one and don't try to gamble just to impress others or have something as an intention to get as a reward at the end of it.

Exactly the point, the issue with us today is that many people have lost their minds, they've lost their love for humanity and it baffles me when some one will say that like instead of helping a girl through school, they will rather use that money to gamble, it pains me because many in our society today are actually doing this very thing..

We have to understand that an investment into a human life can never be compared to the money we spend on gambling, no matter how much we make from gambling, it can never be compared to what comes back to us as gain for helping somebody's life become better by helping them secure a bright future, spiritually and physically, the reward for seeing a person through school is very high.
But the issue with most of us is that we are too insensitive, someone sees a girl through school and expect that girl to marry him in the end, he is so insensitive to that fact that there is something else that girl can actually show appreciation with that will be worth much more than marriage.

[DPHOR]

You made a good point, helping anyone regardless of their gender should be done based on generosity and not expecting something In return, that's wrong with people, they always have an Ulterior motive. If you cannot help a woman without hoping to get something back then it's better to avoid it cause you will be disappointed.

If I must say; there are people who always have that intention to help them without applying or attaching any conditions back to what they are doing, but must time those who they are helping or training could be feeling that the person helping are fool or doesn't know what they are doing or even having in abundance, hence planned to extort the person helping.

[Mate2237]

Why will you train a girl in school with the sole intention of marrying her. You can do that out of charity and benevolence,  if you are training a lady with the intentions of marriage then it should be spelt out which should include the family of the lady. If not anything that you will be doing will be for the sake of formality. Because people changes over time and the reason why you are sending someone to school is because of marriage then it's totally wrong and should be corrected.



But why will someone try and compare gambling to training someone in school, under any circumstances that, it may be. Training someone in school is like empowering such a person, gambling is one thing that doesn't add value to your life instead it takes away money from you . So the two analogy given doesn't correlate.

[Youngrebel]

Life isn't black or white
Seriously it's something that doesn't work in favour of anyone to consider it's either or.
Balance your spend and gamble small amount. Small enough to live your life as normal and even save a bit.

It didn't work with this girl? It'll might work with another. Honestly relationship can go bad for many reasons. It doesn't mean you should become a nihilist and gamble away everything you own
 

More reason whybyou need to start to pick carefully the colour you prefer very early and live by it. People can change  at any moment of time without looking back or thinking of what they had said or even been in agreement before. Most people think of their personal interests alone. They don't care what they have to say ir do to gain what they wish to have.
The trauma you get after the disappointment might be too much for you to bear so state what you want and work towards it instead of working blindly.

[Rockstarguy]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Training someone in school and expecting loyalty for life is very risky. Let me just go straight to the point: training a woman whom you are not married to and expecting to spend the rest of your life with her after the educational pursuit is very risky. One thing with life is that people break promises; they may change the way they think about you because that’s how life is.

The person you feel cool with today is not guaranteed to remain cool with you forever. I think this is much riskier; the risk in gambling is even less. Even if you fail in gambling, you can always come back and play another game, but in this other case, if it doesn’t turn out as you expected, it can really break you down because training someone in school is a big investment.

[Z_MBFM]

What is your taught on the above statements made?

Firstly, I would not train a girl in school with the intention of marrying her. We would get married first (if she is mature enough for marriage) before I would consider spending money on your education.

Back to your question, I would not choose any option. I would rather save the money and invest it in something else than to waste it on gambling or a girl that might end up rejecting my marriage proposal.

Many things will come in life and many things can be enjoyed if you have enough money and you can keep your position in a good place. And in that case, you need to save money and build your career. And for that, there is no option of op, no need. To build your career, you need education and make yourself skilled in some subject. Gambling is just testing your luck, no one's career is ever made here, so keep it only on the fun list and use your valuable time for building your career. So I will not choose any option of op either.

[Julien_Olynpic]

If a girl doesn't have romantic feelings for her acquaintance, why would a man persistently pester her with his proposals and irritate her?
Of course, money is better spent on games or on finding another girl who will reciprocate the man's favor. And unlike the emotional costs and stress associated with seeking a girl's friendship, gambling allows for immediate pleasure. Choose pleasure and entertainment, don't choose difficult girls!

[Smartprofit]

A friend of mine (experienced in relationships with women) once told me that women take from men everything men give them. That's just how women are...🙋

For example, if a man gives a woman money, she takes it from him... If a man pays a woman's tuition at university, she will take the tuition... If a man gives a woman joy and happiness (positive emotions), she will take positive emotions from him... If a man gives a woman love, she will take love from him...

However, if you want a more serious relationship with a woman, you need to make sure the woman gives you something (and not just takes from you). Because that's how women express their love for a man.🫦

Therefore, if you're even thinking about sponsoring women, immediately run to an online casino. In my opinion, it's better to lose money gambling than to lose it so senselessly and shamefully...