Where you are comfortable telling your gambling addiction

[yahoo62278]

Why would you need to tell your secrets to someone that won't hold you accountable? You're not afraid to have the fun or live the life, but scared to face the consequences? Sounds like people might be cowards.

You should be able to tell your significant other anything and figure out how to deal with it is what I was always told. Trust in your partner.

This is where most people get it wrong, they feel more comfortable confining their secret to someone who won't care enough to help them, correct them and ensure they take responsibility. Someone who is addicted to gambling can only get proper help when he or she open up to people who can offer real support, guidance and sometimes professional help.

Keeping your problem secret from the appropriate people will only worsen the addiction, Trust your family members, your close friend, even a doctor, tell them your problem they will help you out with the appropriate guidance and support, Instead of going to a church priest to confess to him that you are addicted to gambling, he  can only tell you mere words and pray for you without providing the solution to your problem.

Regardless of who a person confides in, it won't matter unless that person wants to change. Even with professional help people still go back to the addiction once they stop seeking the help, so someone has to look deep down inside themselves and make a decision.

[HONDACD125]

Friend sounds like a good idea as long as you know that you have a very good and loyal bestfriend who always has your back and has always been there in both the good and bad times of your life. Such a friend will surely give you the best advice they may have about the subject, or if they don't, they will at least help you decide what you should do next or where you should head from that point onward. A good friend will obviously tell you to stay away from gambling and they will also help you with it if they are not addicted to gambling themselves.

Confessing in front of a priest doesn't really sound like a great idea to me because a priest will probably lecture you about the religious point of view regarding gambling or bad stuff that can happen if you gamble a lot, but they won't be able to cure your addiction only with words, I know that it has to do with psychology of a person, but treating it won't be that easy, so seeing a doctor who is an expert in the subject might be a better idea, imo.

[Peanutswar]

I do prefer the circles because not all of my circles are into gambling, and of course somehow they've already some of the results from me and from their observation its good to have their thoughts too because they are most of the people im with than the family so you can get their insights and recommendation but the ending still at your decision at the end of the day you just gathered an insights of them, why not family because most of them getting over powered witht their emotions and scold you than giving you an advice, or maybe im wrong.

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

How ironic that they are spending money on gambling and dont want to spend money just to consult a medical doctor whose studied related to mental health.

[Yablee0]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

At first your friend is just being scared of spending money yet he needs a lasting solution to his problem, perhaps he just wants where he will be charge little or nothing regardless if the person meet up the required standard that can give him the answer he wants or not. To me I have never been in situations like that but if it was me I will prefer going to an expert (doctor) on that field at least from someone that's more competent and reliable on that aspect and  a person that can ensure me of a lasting solution to my problem.

But in most cases not everyone loves telling their addictive life styles life to outsiders, and that's their own personal decisions and sometimes they prefer telling it to their wife's or very close relatives and that also has been helping them because it seems more easy to takle when being shared with someone you can freely relate to.

[ruykeri]

Even if someone becomes addicted to gambling, if he thinks a little logically and makes a decision, he can easily get out of the addiction of gambling. At what stage he needs to take advice from someone to stay away from the addiction, that person will also decide. If the gambling addict is at a stage from which he can easily get out of it himself, then there is no need to share it with anyone. But if that addiction causes mental and physical instability. It causes a lot of financial loss, then if he is not able to control his decision himself. At that moment, he should contact a good psychiatrist. Because they can give professional decisions in such problems.

[maydna]

I am not comfortable tells my gambling activity to anyone and keep it for myself. I am glad that I don't have gambling addiction so nothing to worry.

You don't have to tells your secrets to others if you are not comfortable. You don't know if they can keep your secret or not so you must choose carefully the right person to have your secret.

Choosing religious people is good especially if those people can keep the secret better and also gives suggestion. But addicted person to gambling should have a strong will to cure his gambling addiction.

[cryptomaniac_xxx]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

Hmm, but it looks like this is a classic excuse from a gambling addict not to trust professional help. Of course, that's what they are being paid for, to help those kind of individuals on their addiction. Just think about it, if they can throw thousands of dollars in gambling, why not pay doctors to help you cure that addiction?

No offense to the priest, but I don't think that they have the capacity to advise someone in terms of how to quit their gambling addiction. As for your friends, to be honest, I don't see him wanting to stop his gambling because of that excuses.

[m2017]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

If you have problems, need to contact a specialist. In this case, doctors. I understand that medicine is a business and they're interested in extracting as much money from us as possible (doesn't this remind you of gambling? So, in the 1st stage, the casino extracts money from the gambler, and in the 2nd, it's the doctors ), but I think only they can truly help. You just need to find a good specialist (and one who's not too greedy ).

By the way, your friend, who easily "wasted" his money at the casino, is now reluctant to spend it for the sake of his own recovery.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.

Priests may be able to offer helpful advice, but they are not medical specialists. If gambling addiction is a disease, then like any illness, it should be treated by doctors.

Please vote and explain.

Best friend and wife are unlikely to be able to help you with gambling addiction unless they have the necessary skills and training (medical professionals). Therefore, whining to them about your problems won't solve the problem.

[Oluwa-btc]

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

These category of individual mentioned can either make you or break you in the sense that gambling usually comes with a broaden mindsets and the people you surround yourself with matters. For instance you've been gambling for a long while now and noticing some addiction features and then you go in search of advice from this person's, your wife only advise you on the regards that she wants you not to go broke in the main time, some friends might advise you to watch your  addiction rate and stop, a priest may criticize you for doing so, a doctor can be a gambler as well and give you little hint on how to maintain your habits and so on, but then if any of this person's truly love and care for your total wellbeing seeing your tracks and addiction rate they'll advise you to put a stop to it entirely so as a gambler you can spread the necessities of getting valid answers from any of this individuals.

[Samlucky O]

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I don't think that my addiction has reached the level of meeting a physician or a priest. Only those that there addiction has reached that level could think of that. But perhaps if my addiction was to reach that level I will prefer to meet a physician to give me advice on how to go about it, as they can profer solution to it since it's there part of Job. Instead of me to confess to a priest I Rather pray to God to help my situation because priest is a man and not God. If you confess to him he will still pray to God on your behalf, so what is the essence of going to a priest when even the scripture in the book of John 3 vs 16 said:  for God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that who so ever believeth in his shall not perish but have ever lasting life. His son is Jesus and not a priest.

[lovesmayfamilis]

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.

Not in all religions, first of all, clergymen sit behind a curtain during confession. Above all, it's important to define the purpose of talking about your addiction. What does the person want to get out of this conversation? Pour out your problem? But a priest, even as a psychologist, will not be able to prescribe medications that professional doctors prescribe to their patients as additional treatment, in addition to psychotherapy sessions. Therefore, if there is a desire to get rid of gambling addiction, then there is always one way to go: to the doctors. You can talk to the others for a long time and anywhere, but the result will be minimal.

[iv4n]

How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

1. Priest... I would feel comfortable sharing something like this with a priest, but at the same time, I know he probably can't understand it. So why would I share something with someone who lacks life experience and who is guided by some religious beliefs...

2. Doctor... Once we decide to see a doctor, we have to be completely honest. If we lie to them, they can make a mistake and end up doing more harm than good.

3. Best friend, Wife... If you are not comfortable with your best friend & wife, then you don't have a best friend, and I am not sure how you ended up with that woman as your wife in the first place.

4. Fellow gambler... What is there to say? If he is a real gambler, he understands... 

We need to feel comfortable talking about anything, but opening up to someone who can't understand or who is judgmental is just a waste of time & energy.

[Die_empty]

I voted for wife because she helped me through my darkest time, I would not be comfortable sharing my gambling addiction anywhere else, the doctor would tell me the same thing that a priest would do, to be strong and tell yourself you are better than this which would not lead me in anything as I would have continued. When I told this to my wife she said to me do not worry, you can quit little by little as I know any vice including gambling addiction takes a lot of determination and determination to be taken seriously needs a lot of motivation. She asked me do it for our child, for our family and since then I have been very cautious, of course I have gambled sometime a lot of money but never like before gambling every day, so I think I choose the right person to share my problem.

Some people believe prayers from a priest or other religious leaders could attract divine intervention, which could assist them in fighting addiction. Maybe it could work for them based on their belief.

Like swogerino, I will rather share my struggle with my partner. She would be more helpful than the priest. Since she is closer to me, it would be easier to monitor my finances and movement to ascertain if I am overgambling.

[Africolo]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I can only discuss my gambling addiction with my fellow gambler who knows the feelings not with a friend or wife and I will get castigated by them, I will even feel ashamed telling them because gambling is not something one will be proud of and be discussing with family or close friends, I have a friend that is a gambler and you wouldn't know that he gambles because he keeps everything private to himself.

But it's kinda funny how a gambler will go to a Reverend Father to confess his gambling habits because he doesn't have the solutions to the problem, will he pray for him to stop the gambling addictions or what? Even though one is anonymous to them someone can actually detect your voice and know it a particular person if the person always comes close to the Reverend Father, so I rather keep my gambling habits to myself than confessing to a man rather other  than a psychologist that will help talk me out of it.

[As-Soon-As]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

An addicted person can stay away from addiction not through advice but through his strategy, if you have to tell someone your secret then you can definitely follow your partner, because your partner is always with you. So your bad habits and you will definitely be able to remove the symptoms of your addiction from you, so if you have to tell someone about your addiction then you must choose your partner. Only with you can you be able to break your addiction.

[michellee]

Those who wants to share their secret to others should choosing carefully. Their secret is not a consume for public so they should choose someone who can take care of their secret.

If he going to a priest to confess his addiction, that is better as he can ask for solution and keep his secret to that priest. I am addicted to gambling but if I have problem or something to tell, I will share that to my partner. We usually find the solution together but specifically to gambling addiction, we are glad that we don't have it.

[Yorubek]

To confess your bad habits or addiction, you should choose someone who always wants your good and does not want any harm. The person you are talking to about your addiction should be able to help you get release of the addiction. I think in that case, we should tell our loved ones, as a result of which we will definitely try our best to get release of the bad habit. Many people think that addiction cannot be discussed with loved ones because it is very embarrassing and it can increase more problems, but I think that it can be easi to get release of addiction by discussing it with loved ones. But of course, we have to remember that our own contribution is more necessary than anything else to get release of addiction, if I do not want to get better myself, no one else can make me better.

[Findingnemo]

Wife over anyone, not sure about others but I am transparent with my partner about everything I do and even if she thinks I made a mistake we will sort it out instead of fighting over things. And you said addiction then you also need to tell this about to your doctor then only you will get the right help if you are looking for one and no need to share with others.

[Kelward]

Who you're comfortable telling your gambling addiction is not same as where you can get help from your gambling addiction, telling a trusted person or group about your addiction can reduce the burden of carrying the secret alone but they might not know how to help you.  When you are sick you go to somebody that will help you to recover and that is the doctor or therapist, any other places are just for support. Sharing your addiction with your partner, best friend or your gambling community is good but if none of them have the expertise to help you then you need a professional help, that is your last hope to get cured.

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personally I think I would be most comfortable opening up to a best friend. In my experience a close friend is someone who already knows my personality, my struggles, & the situations that might lead me to develop a gambling habit because of that history the conversation can feel more natural & less intimidating compared to talking to a professional right away. Another reason is trust & honesty w/ a best friend I don’t feel like I’m being judged/analysed like in a formal session it’s just a genuine conversation. A good friend can also give practical advice or simply listen when you need to vent w/c is sometimes the first step in admitting that there is a problem.