Where you are comfortable telling your gambling addiction

[sompitonov]

The best you can do when you are being troubled by addiction is to find who you can tell and also know the possible way that could help you out of it, it is not everything that we are expected to keep to ourselves alone, instead we can tell others that have more exposure than us for them to help in their own little way they could render assistant, addiction in gambling is not easily controlled, but when we apply the right approach, ours could be a different story.

Of course, it's important to talk to other players or our friends about our experiences in the game, especially if they're unsuccessful, because we release negative energy, and they can help us with advice, talk about the situation, and so on. In general, I sometimes write about my experiences on the forum and also read what others write because I'm interested in other players' situations. I simply want to learn from other people's mistakes; I think this will help me avoid making the same ones in the future.

[Asiska02]

I don’t need to tell anyone about my gambling addiction, it is better I go through a rehabilitative process by myself and see how I can sort myself out. Gambling addiction is something that is very uncommon in my place, and anyone who finds himself in that condition will be ashamed to open up to people that they’re addicted. I’d better off just fight it out myself. If I got myself into it, then I should be able to get myself out of it, and this is the fact about how I’m goin to fight it out.

[Akbarkoe]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

What Robelneo said is correct. We must first verify the doctor as a professional in the field of addiction treatment. We can see feedback from patients they have treated. I also think it's better to talk to a doctor if the situation is like that.
Pastors or religious leaders will give advice based solely on what they know, just like the general advice we get, and will only compare sins to attack our beliefs and make us aware and afraid of sin. Doctors, on the other hand, are more thorough in treating addictions. Doctors will be more knowledgeable about how to treat addicts, considering the many types of addictions and the severity of the addiction. Pastors, on the other hand, will usually hit everyone with the same thing.

[giammangiato]

I don’t need to tell anyone about my gambling addiction, it is better I go through a rehabilitative process by myself and see how I can sort myself out. Gambling addiction is something that is very uncommon in my place, and anyone who finds himself in that condition will be ashamed to open up to people that they’re addicted. I’d better off just fight it out myself. If I got myself into it, then I should be able to get myself out of it, and this is the fact about how I’m goin to fight it out.

I appreciate your willpower, but I don't want to disappoint your expectations; a solitary journey is difficult and tortuous and often leads to failure.
I hope you don't need to go through rehabilitation if you can stay away from gambling-related problems.
But if you really need to get out of it, the first approach is the help of someone close to you, whether a relative or a close friend.

[AmoreJaz]

I don’t need to tell anyone about my gambling addiction, it is better I go through a rehabilitative process by myself and see how I can sort myself out. Gambling addiction is something that is very uncommon in my place, and anyone who finds himself in that condition will be ashamed to open up to people that they’re addicted. I’d better off just fight it out myself. If I got myself into it, then I should be able to get myself out of it, and this is the fact about how I’m goin to fight it out.

That is, if you still know how to contain yourself and you don't need someone else's intervention and support like your spouse or immediate family. Because like it or not, if you are already addicted, more than likely, your decision is already affected. The reason why you need others to assist you in embarking that stage of your life.
But if you say, you can still fight it out on your own, you are still fortunate to know what's going on with your life. Because most addicted gamblers in that stage, would have hard time handling themselves as their cognitive functions are already affected.

[ejikeme24]

Of course, i do tell my siblings about my gambling addiction. although I have been hiding it for a long period of time hoping that I can possibly get away with it even without informing anyone not even my closed friend but at some point I realized that I can't handle the addiction myself so I have no option than to discuss it with my siblings and they advised me and also gave me scope on how I can be able to escape the addiction and I must say that their advice was very helpful as I started limiting from gambling, so I don't know what would have become of me if I didn't inform them about my gambling lifestyle.

The truth about it is that the more an addicted gambler hides his addiction the more is destroys him because he would continue getting worse by depending on self help when he could at least get the support of his siblings, friends or professionals in guiding and encouraging him on what to do and not to do, and even tips on how to avoid feeding the gambling addiction urgently whenever it strikes.

There's no shaming or weakness in sharing information about what you're passing through to another person, although there's always this fear of being misjudged and scolded but we would never know what peoples response can be until we talk to them about it. Help is always possible.

You're right hiding our gambling habit can destroy one's life, for example those gamblers who end up commiting suicide its due to the fact that they didn't discuss that with anyone and that's what  made them think of commiting suicide since they are going with Self advice they believe that whatever their mind tells them to do is just the best not knowing that there are some decision that is not meant to take no matter the situation we find ourselves into.

[Pi-network314159]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

Please vote and explain.

I think telling a doctor is the best because they might find solution to it, not just telling someone about your problem and they can't even find solution to that problem. Many people when told their situation, instead of bringing up idea on the possible solution, it becomes a thing of mockery or it becomes laughable stock. Another person I can confide in is my wife. Because she is my adviser and my doctor, she knows how to handle me whenever I tell her my problem. She will advice me politely and even share ideas on how we can go about it. So apart from this two people, I don't think if others are really necessary to me like that. Except if this people I have in mind failed me that I will think of chose any other option. But apart from that, there is nothing more .

[jostorres]

So your friend prefers going to the priest like once a week to confess that he is a gambling addict, the priest probably tells him that he has been forgiven and he goes right back to his addiction? I'm sorry if I sound rude but your friend doesn't want to put a top to his addiction, he is more or less just trying to satisfy his conscience by telling himself that he has seen a priest so things will get better. I'm not doubting the capability of the priest but what he can do is pointless if your friend doesn't actually want help, it's like trying to take a toy from a child and still keeping the same toy right in front of him after taking it.
If your friend really wants help I'm sure he knows where to get it.

Harsh, but might be very accurate and raises a valid concern. As you also said, I'm not doubting the capabilities of a priest or any religious person for that reason. But every problem has a different treatment, especially something as serious as problem gambling. I mean if you have no peace in life, then discussing with a priest might help a lot but gambling is not something they are much aware of, so while they can calm down your anxiety and urge to gamble temporarily, they very likely won't help the root cause of gambling.

But on the other hand, the priest might suggest that he visit a doctor, and that might solve the problem. It's hard to judge without knowing what happened next with him.

[imthegreat]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I love watching interviews of those gamblers who decided to quit their addiction and therefore decided to make their problem public. They come to the interviewer and tell their whole addiction story about themselves in all the ugly details, but very honestly. And at the same time, I want to say that the video shows that these guys underestimate their debt in order not to seem as crazy as they really are. This is done to make them seem better than they are and they can be understood, but I want to know why they need this lie if they actually come to confess.

[Crypto_Timothy]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

Addiction isnt really something you take pills or any physical medication to cure if you ask me, it truly has to be with behavior modification and at best the behaviour modfication can only happen by someone you believe more to be of help to you. Like the person talking is irrelevant, all that matters is that you that is listening belives the person to be of help to you. because they can inspire you to want to change your bad habit and thereby confront that addiction which in a way is a cure for addiction.

Persoanlly, i keep the information to myself, in way now i can recognize my own patterns and when they are becoming a problem so i keep myself in check, eventually if i get wife, i probably would communicate my issues to her, so yeah.

[AmaGold70]

I discuss gambling with friends and i do gamble too. But when we talk about addiction, I am far from gambling addiction. The reason is because, gambling does not guarantee making regular income, and in my own part, since i started gambling till now, I would tell you i have recorded more losses than i have won bets. So i discovered this and have decided to remain very cautious and disciplined in my gambling lifestyle.
Addiction in gambling is very bad because it can cause a gambler both financial and emotional imbalance. Therefore, while discussing gambling addiction with anyone, you should do that on the ground of finding solution to that habit which is gambling addiction.
Gambling addiction can deprive a gambler of many valuable things, so all effort should be made in order to avoid it.

[Somto9Light]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

Addiction isnt really something you take pills or any physical medication to cure if you ask me, it truly has to be with behavior modification and at best the behaviour modfication can only happen by someone you believe more to be of help to you. Like the person talking is irrelevant, all that matters is that you that is listening belives the person to be of help to you. because they can inspire you to want to change your bad habit and thereby confront that addiction which in a way is a cure for addiction.

This is only true to an extent mate. It’s not just about believing the person is capable of helping you or you trust the person. Recovering from addiction especially the heavy addictions goes beyond that. Yes people you trust do have somewhat of an influence on you but I’m afraid this isn’t all you need to break free from an addiction. For instance, you may trust your wife so much, because she’s always understanding and try to help you figure a way out of every problem you present to her, but this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s got the experience or the expertise on matters that concerns addiction. This is why it is always important to know the right people to take your concerns to as it concerns addiction. In this case, the best option is the doctor, yes he may not give you some pills or medications, but knowing fully well that addiction is more of a psychological problem, even if that’s not his field, he’ll be in a better position to give you the best recommendations in order for you to get the help you desire. The most important thing in recovering from addiction is the victim’s willingness to cooperate with whoever that’s offering the help, that’s all.

[bubilas]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I love watching interviews of those gamblers who decided to quit their addiction and therefore decided to make their problem public. They come to the interviewer and tell their whole addiction story about themselves in all the ugly details, but very honestly. And at the same time, I want to say that the video shows that these guys underestimate their debt in order not to seem as crazy as they really are. This is done to make them seem better than they are and they can be understood, but I want to know why they need this lie if they actually come to confess.

Well, this is a great way to overcome your fears, but in the end, those who lie so much and are afraid to reveal the truth about their real debts only make themselves look stupid to the entire audience of the program. If you've already come to speak frankly, then be kind enough to be like this until the end. Without this fear, "what have I done? What will they think of me if I tell them my real huge debts?". It doesn't work that way, and you need to be absolutely honest with the debt obligations that you had to assume because of this whole situation with uncontrolled gambling.
After all, it is always possible to alleviate mental anguish only with the most sincere truth, without the slightest concealment. And this makes such interviews similar to confessions.

[junder]

To the married ones that are not hiding their gambling activities, your best friend is your wife or husband. It's hard to keep your secret while living with them that you're dealing with gambling addiction. It's best to tell them you are a problematic gambler and there's no one that can help you freely but your partners. Going to the doctor is also fine because they can keep secrets. But for how long you're going to deal with it while hiding it from your partners. And that's why I think it should be fine to tell your problem as an addicted gambler with wife.

If you are already married, then your spouse is indeed the most appropriate person to talk to, because sometimes the problems that arise do not necessarily involve your previous family, since getting married means you now have your own family. However, conflicts may arise if our partner was unaware of our gambling habits before marriage and we suddenly disclose this information. But if they were already aware of it before marriage, it might still be possible to discuss it calmly, including if we were to tell them suddenly.

[passwordnow]

To the married ones that are not hiding their gambling activities, your best friend is your wife or husband. It's hard to keep your secret while living with them that you're dealing with gambling addiction. It's best to tell them you are a problematic gambler and there's no one that can help you freely but your partners. Going to the doctor is also fine because they can keep secrets. But for how long you're going to deal with it while hiding it from your partners. And that's why I think it should be fine to tell your problem as an addicted gambler with wife.

If you are already married, then your spouse is indeed the most appropriate person to talk to, because sometimes the problems that arise do not necessarily involve your previous family, since getting married means you now have your own family. However, conflicts may arise if our partner was unaware of our gambling habits before marriage and we suddenly disclose this information. But if they were already aware of it before marriage, it might still be possible to discuss it calmly, including if we were to tell them suddenly.

Yes, it is your spouse that you should be talking to. But as we know, many gamblers are hiding their gambling activities. And that's giving them a hard time to trust their partners with that problem. Because they fear that they might be blamed for that and their partners might be off knowing that they are gambling and even more when they have knew it that they're already addicted to it. So, there's nothing to hide since both of you have already gave their trust to each other and that's the right time to reveal things and let them know what they think about it.

[Bright0515]

When it comes to talking to someone about my gambling addiction i would prefer to talk to an expert this is not to say that it's wrong to talk to souse, friends and so on but personally I think it is better to talk to a therapist because the other people might not really have a solution for you and that would be a waste of time. One reason why a lot of people hesitate to tell others about their gambling addiction is because they don't want to get disrespected or judged wrongly. but talking to others goes a long way even though it doesn't solve the problem

[Achalugo BTC]

When it comes to talking to someone about my gambling addiction i would prefer to talk to an expert this is not to say that it's wrong to talk to souse, friends and so on but personally I think it is better to talk to a therapist because the other people might not really have a solution for you and that would be a waste of time. One reason why a lot of people hesitate to tell others about their gambling addiction is because they don't want to get disrespected or judged wrongly. but talking to others goes a long way even though it doesn't solve the problem

Sometimes the reason addiction thrive in a gambler is because they just bottle it up and refuse to share with someone else. And the moment they begin to open up to someone they feel very comfortable with, and talk about it more with that person, the lighter the burden becomes and it becomes more easier and less intense to deal with that addiction. I’m not saying it’s not right to seek the help of a professional or an expert, I’m simply trying to say that not all addictions really requires you to see an experts some just requires you to open up and let the cat out of the bag.

[Lida93]

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You made a very crucial point on the risk of concealing a gambling addiction. Most gamblers are of the view that they can solve the issue on their own, but when people continue to conceal it, the addiction seems to have a firmer grip on them. Having an accessible support, guidance, and accountability can be achieved by talking to trusted individuals such as siblings, close friends, or even professionals. As you can see, your struggle was the reason why you began to control your gambling habits after sharing the struggle. One should not be ashamed of the fact that he/she requires assistance. Actually, one needs guts to speak on such a personal matter. When an individual discusses his or her addiction, he or she provides other individuals with a chance to help him or her and to find the healthier ways to cope with own behavior.

Thank you mate. Actually got to know about this some years ago when I read about the testimony of a certain gambler who talked about how his saving grace came from speaking out to people close to him about his gambling addiction problem, and from which he got all the support needed to stay sane from the addiction. Further went on to say something like, mocking and getting mad at an addict instead of helping after opening up to share his addiction problem is like weaponizing the addiction over him and he would only grow from bad to worse in his shell.

[LastKiss]

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How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

I feel most comfortable sharing about my gambling addiction with member in this forum because people here don't know me in real life. If I tell someone I know in real life, they might tell my partner that I gamble, which would make thing worse and I don't want that to happen. Sharing knowledge and telling my stories in this forum has already helped me deal with my gambling addiction. I’ve read many cases where addiction leads to bad outcomes and I’ve also learned how to control it.

Although there is no instant solution to dealing with my addiction, at least I can control it better now. Just sometimes my greed is still there, telling me to use more money when I feel overconfident while gambling.

[michellee]

When it comes to talking to someone about my gambling addiction i would prefer to talk to an expert this is not to say that it's wrong to talk to souse, friends and so on but personally I think it is better to talk to a therapist because the other people might not really have a solution for you and that would be a waste of time. One reason why a lot of people hesitate to tell others about their gambling addiction is because they don't want to get disrespected or judged wrongly. but talking to others goes a long way even though it doesn't solve the problem

Sometimes the reason addiction thrive in a gambler is because they just bottle it up and refuse to share with someone else. And the moment they begin to open up to someone they feel very comfortable with, and talk about it more with that person, the lighter the burden becomes and it becomes more easier and less intense to deal with that addiction. I’m not saying it’s not right to seek the help of a professional or an expert, I’m simply trying to say that not all addictions really requires you to see an experts some just requires you to open up and let the cat out of the bag.

Sometime they feels hard to shares their addiction story to others. They are not ready if others disrespected or judged wrongly so they feels that bottle it up will okay for them. They may feels that everything still okay and no bad things happens to them.

They don't see it but others will see and may trying to communicate to solve the addiction. But if he feels right to share his addiction to others and needs advice to cure it, he will do and go to expert by suggestion. That depend on how comfortable that guy to share his addiction and he will pick the right person to shares.