‎Talking teens in your hood out of gambling – What do you think?

[Sonia_123]

‎This is what happened earlier today, and I feel it's good to share here so we all can help others. This young boy came to me this morning and asked if I could help fund bet wallets, and I said yes, with no double thought. Just while I was about to ask for the wallet address to fund it, I realized he was just a boy, maybe a boy supposed to be in school, and I asked him whose bet he was funding.
‎He said it was his own personal gambling wallet; shock embraced me. I asked him how old he was, and he said 18 years, and he wasn't saying it with confidence. I felt he lied just to save himself from me not refusing to help him deposit the money. I was forced to question him more, and I made him listen to me for some time.
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‎I showed him some topics concerning gambling addicts in this forum and showed him some gambling addicts online regretting it now, and I also took my time to advise him on how it starts and how it ends for most people. He also made mention of his friends gambling lifestyle. I told him stories and gave him evidence, hoping to see him stay away from gambling because he's too young to manage what's coming. I backed it up with a small token that I could afford too.

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

This is the best thing to be done to salvage the future of our youths from gambling instead of allowing them ruined the future since their caregivers are not taking up their responsibilities, the society will help them do that.

Gambling at a very tender age can be dangerous to a child who is not properly guided on what to do , as a teenager, you need a mentor on gambling since you have interest in it and not just be left alone by yourself if not you lost focus on your career because you are supposed to be well engaged with your academics .

[icebar]

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

The trend of gambling has increased so much that even a small boy is becoming addicted to gambling easily. If a boy tries to gamble even though he is young, it should be understood that he must have learned about gambling from someone. Maybe someone in his family gambles or someone from his relatives. But he does not know that he should not gamble. There are many minors in the society who are now considering gambling as their source of income. Even if they cannot deposit money themselves, they are doing that work with the help of others. If they are not given proper idea about this yet, then they will definitely go astray in the future.

[suzanne5223]

[snip] so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

It is good that you're trying to talk the teen out of gambling, but it won't do him any good, based on the level of how many teens are addicted to gambling, and how the whole addiction turns out to be.
I believe the best thing you can do to help him at this moment, when he has tested the thrill of gambling and is already looking for a chance at big wins, is to guide him on how to gamble profitably because talking him out of gambling won't make him stop, since he already enjoys doing it.

She done a nice job by starting to change the perspective of the youth about gambling although we all know that it will not be effective immediately.

Bigger problem will occur in the long run if we stop trying on reminding them the danger of gambling.

We have our own choice in our life and sometimes those small advice make sense when we are in a tough situation related to gambling.

I agree with you due to how helpful good advice works when people are in tough situations, but a gambling situation is somehow different because it is something that has to do with brain chemistry, psychology, and environmental risks (which is the company we keep).
For the boy to be into gambling like that at such a young age, he's technically going out with someone who is already an addict, and the best step to help him is to guide him on how to gamble profitably through that he will see what his fellow are doing wrongly when the OP chooses to help totally then he will be easy to help him or else he will see OP as a barrier since he's not ready.

[snip] so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

It is good that you're trying to talk the teen out of gambling, but it won't do him any good, based on the level of how many teens are addicted to gambling, and how the whole addiction turns out to be.
I believe the best thing you can do to help him at this moment, when he has tested the thrill of gambling and is already looking for a chance at big wins, is to guide him on how to gamble profitably because talking him out of gambling won't make him stop, since he already enjoys doing it.

How to gamble profitably? there is no guarantee that gamblers can win it, this is not an easy task and in fact they are getting fuzzy in their minds, they should understand that gambling is only about luck if they are forced about it then they force themselves to pursue luck by solving it with logic that will never arrive, it is better for them to be taught the basics of good principles in gambling so as not to exceed their limits.

You said it yourself, "it is better for them to be taught the basics of good principles in gambling so as not to exceed their limits" that's how to gamble profitable.
Gambling profitability is not about beating the house, and we both know no one can be the house based on how the game is programmed.

[Powerjumboo]

If OP really wanted to help that kid, then he should have talked about this situation with kids parents. Talking with a kid about gambling addiction, showing topics - that is not going to work. First of all its parents duty to make such educational talks. Secondly, a kid wont listen and pay attention to what stranger on the street was talking. Thirdly, if you havent helped him, he will ask someone else for help until he succeed.

Yes, I completely agree with you because if the OP had not disciplined the child here and told his parents about his gambling activities, then his parents would have known the real truth and would have disciplined him and tried to stop him from gambling. Here since the OP did not help and discipline him, if he does not get help from the OP, then he will definitely take help from someone else because he will have to withdraw money from his wallet. I have said many times before, apart from parents and family members, children of this age do not want to obey anyone else, so if someone has to be disciplined, then he should definitely tell his parents first.

[letteredhub]

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

You said the teenager said he is 18 years old. He has the brain to have researched and know that under 18 are not allowed to access many contents like gambling and pornography online. Advising him might help but many people that learn from gambling is not through advise but through themselves knowing they have to avoid it after losing money, but the problem part is if they continue after they are losing money. Good that you advise him but I hope he is going to change.

These young kids this days are very smart and the boy in op story must have read about the age bracket to be eligible for gambling, so it's obvious he knew that 18  was an eligible age to come up with. I think it takes more than just a one time advise to make these kids stop gambling  when even a full grown up adult couldn't help it. Therefore, taking it as a  personal responsibility to do a follow up would help create a long time result on the guy  not to go back to it after a short while of stopping.

[terrific]

Gambling at a very tender age can be dangerous to a child who is not properly guided on what to do , as a teenager, you need a mentor on gambling since you have interest in it and not just be left alone by yourself if not you lost focus on your career because you are supposed to be well engaged with your academics .

Not a mentor in gambling but a mentor on how to do better in life.
We may be gamblers but we know a teen that's gambling too early on their lives might just make a lot of bad decisions on their own.
That's why mentoring them in general and not in gambling will help them realize that they're free to gamble when they're able to stand on their own.
Have some hustles to pay for their own vices and not to rely on anyone with it. And that money they've worked hard for will be realized by them that it's better if they're able to stay away from it while they're young.

[HONDACD125]

The trend of gambling has increased so much that even a small boy is becoming addicted to gambling easily. If a boy tries to gamble even though he is young, it should be understood that he must have learned about gambling from someone. Maybe someone in his family gambles or someone from his relatives. But he does not know that he should not gamble. There are many minors in the society who are now considering gambling as their source of income. Even if they cannot deposit money themselves, they are doing that work with the help of others. If they are not given proper idea about this yet, then they will definitely go astray in the future.

It's all because of the carelessness of their parents. If a child has parents, and he lives with them, and he is still involved in things like gambling or drugs or anything bad, he should be totally away from them, especially at that age where he should be focusing on things like studies and trying to learn things that can be useful for their future, and if they are not doing that, it means that the parents are not doing a good job raising the kid, because as a parent it's your responsibility to make sure that your children are doing things that they should be doing in their age, and that they are not into activities that can either he harmful for them right now or in the future.

And, even worse if parents gamble in front of their children. I mean, your first responsibility is to make sure they don't do it themselves, and then it is also your responsibility to make sure that if you do it, you shouldn't at least do it in front of them because you are an adult, responsible for what you do and you understand the possible consequences of it, but children don't know all that, and they learn whatever you do because they see you as their idol even from that age. So do things that you want them to learn from you.

[Pi-network314159]

‎This is what happened earlier today, and I feel it's good to share here so we all can help others. This young boy came to me this morning and asked if I could help fund bet wallets, and I said yes, with no double thought. Just while I was about to ask for the wallet address to fund it, I realized he was just a boy, maybe a boy supposed to be in school, and I asked him whose bet he was funding.
‎He said it was his own personal gambling wallet; shock embraced me. I asked him how old he was, and he said 18 years, and he wasn't saying it with confidence. I felt he lied just to save himself from me not refusing to help him deposit the money. I was forced to question him more, and I made him listen to me for some time.
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You are very funny, at first you didn't realize he was not up to Gambling age not until you requested for his wallet before you realize he was a teenager lolz. But anyway it is sad that adult exposed their kids to early gambling lifestyle. And this helps to destroy their Future so quickly. We should be careful how we expose our children to early gambling.

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

I still wounder how adult send their children errand to go and gamble. Knowing fulliwell that it helps to reshape the mindset of that child. Children are fast learners and if you give them the opportunity or previlege by exposing them, they will become addicted to Gambling, a d you may find it difficult to stop them when it's too late.

[Dunamisx]

Gambling is a choice and decision everyone of users have to make, though we have certain age limit to eat before we can play, but Al, we need to consider some of the conditions that may come along with gambling being a teenager, also to discourage some people from gambling is not that appropriate, except there are reasons that are valid enough to ensure that such takes place, henceforth, everyone should gamble according to how you can afford to it

[danadc]

If they are teenagers, I consider them minors, so it's not wrong to convince them to stop playing. But if they have access to playing, I would tell them to only play without real money, that everything should be fictional because that's the way to prevent them from becoming addicted and endangering their lives Teenagers' reactions in those cases are dangerous because they aren't afraid of anything; they don't care about going against the world because of their age.

[impulse709]

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

You said the teenager said he is 18 years old. He has the brain to have researched and know that under 18 are not allowed to access many contents like gambling and pornography online. Advising him might help but many people that learn from gambling is not through advise but through themselves knowing they have to avoid it after losing money, but the problem part is if they continue after they are losing money. Good that you advise him but I hope he is going to change.

These young kids this days are very smart and the boy in op story must have read about the age bracket to be eligible for gambling, so it's obvious he knew that 18  was an eligible age to come up with. I think it takes more than just a one time advise to make these kids stop gambling  when even a full grown up adult couldn't help it. Therefore, taking it as a  personal responsibility to do a follow up would help create a long time result on the guy  not to go back to it after a short while of stopping.

I believe that you were both right to some extent. The adolescents are quite exposed to the information on the internet today and there is a possibility that the boy was aware of the legal age of gambling and had just lied that he was 18. Nevertheless, being aware of the rule does not necessarily imply the risks of gambling. I also concur that one tip might not be sufficient to alter the behavior of an individual particularly when even the adults have difficulties with the gambling habits. Nevertheless, it is not in vain to give advice since it may remain in their minds and shape their choices in the future. When a person is really interested in helping, a follow-up discussion or a periodical counsel will be able to do more good in the long.

[Yaunfitda]

Like I said in a thread, don't gamble in your kids' presence or send kids on errands for gambling. This can ruin their life even when yours is not ruined. People handle things differently, so guys what do you think? Would you do the same or mind your business?

In any case though, the boy could have some friends who are also gambling. And for sure we all know that we are in that age, there are a lot of peer pressure, like gambling, smoking or even taking drugs. So I would think that this the case for the kid here, it might not be his parents, but the set of friends that he surround himself. Thus, they are all wanting to gamble and maybe they've win before and think that they can duplicate that and so they repeat until they are hook or addicted to it. Good that you have advised them and we can all hope that he will heed your advise to stop gambling.

[bakasabo]

It is good initiative to try to help underaged if he is addicted to gambling, but that should be done through parents or someone who is more professional in working with underaged. I remember parents always told me not to talk to strangers. If this rule is still popular and useful for children, then if I was that child who asked assistance to fund wallet, I would not have listened what stranger on the street tell me about gambling, money, my future. Moreover, as a parent, I would not wish that a stranger would give any advice to my child.

Did you actually read what you wrote to perhaps understand what you said? You mean as a child, you can actually talk to strangers yourself but won't listen when the same stranger talk back at you? Like you can go out there, be bold enough to ask favor from a stranger but won't at the same time be humble enough to atleast, listen to a small advice the stranger gives you? That's a very selfish and useless type of training from the parents of who ever behaves this way..

And I guess you don't also know that your children does not belong to you alone right? You are very wrong to say that you do not wish for a stranger to give any advice to your child, your child is not yours alone, if you really don't want a stranger to give any advice to your child, what this means is that you won't send that child to school then, because there in the schools, from the teachers down to other students are all stranger to you and your child, and there is no way a teacher or some teachers won't advice your child, there is no way a fellow student who is also a stranger won't advice your child, did you actually think this through before writing this your comment?

It is either I have written it hard to understand or used incorrect words, or you did not understand my idea. I did not mean to turn deaf when strangers talk to you. I wanted to say, when a stranger comes to you and start giving advices, there is no need to take them completely seriously. Because that stranger is nobody to you. You do not know real intentions behind that advice. Why would my child believe and do what stranger told him to do?

What do you mean that my child is not mine alone? Whose is it then? Yours? Go to a playground, come to a random child and advice him to go home, suggest him to keep quiet or anything else. Even if you start talking to a child, his parents will be tense. You think his parents will like what you were doing?

And what is with teachers in school about? Teacher isnt a complete stranger to him. Moreover, people study to become teachers, get diplomas, pass exams, they have rights to give advices. But they can give advices about study, how to behave. Teacher can not give advice what a child should do during his free time (that does not mean that a child should gamble at free time, however its none of teachers business what child is doing when he is not at school).

If you think you are right, then go outside and start giving random people advices what they should do and what they should not do, how they should behave. Of course you wont do that, because I am stranger to you and you dont have to listen to me.

P.S. Do you have children? I want to give them some advices

[letteredhub]

These young kids this days are very smart and the boy in op story must have read about the age bracket to be eligible for gambling, so it's obvious he knew that 18  was an eligible age to come up with. I think it takes more than just a one time advise to make these kids stop gambling  when even a full grown up adult couldn't help it. Therefore, taking it as a  personal responsibility to do a follow up would help create a long time result on the guy  not to go back to it after a short while of stopping.

I believe that you were both right to some extent. The adolescents are quite exposed to the information on the internet today and there is a possibility that the boy was aware of the legal age of gambling and had just lied that he was 18. Nevertheless, being aware of the rule does not necessarily imply the risks of gambling. I also concur that one tip might not be sufficient to alter the behavior of an individual particularly when even the adults have difficulties with the gambling habits. Nevertheless, it is not in vain to give advice since it may remain in their minds and shape their choices in the future. When a person is really interested in helping, a follow-up discussion or a periodical counsel will be able to do more good in the long.

Just it's commonly said that a word is enough for the wise, and I think the wise is the one who has by experience learnt some lessons that has shaped his thinking and understanding of life in various dimensions. The young boy may not take the advise as seriously as he should and may wander back to the games probably for lack of funds as some of them assumes that they can make funds through gambling. But with time they get to learn the hard way, which some may survive it and get back on track to being responsible, while others gat to lose themselves and never remaining the same. I just pray the latter doesn't befall the young lad eventually if he fails to heed the advise given him.

[Loyang]

This is the best thing to be done to salvage the future of our youths from gambling instead of allowing them ruined the future since their caregivers are not taking up their responsibilities, the society will help them do that.

Gambling at a very tender age can be dangerous to a child who is not properly guided on what to do , as a teenager, you need a mentor on gambling since you have interest in it and not just be left alone by yourself if not you lost focus on your career because you are supposed to be well engaged with your academics .

The government of the country needs to take the biggest steps to protect a teenager and a girl from gambling. For example, if we see that the popularity of online casinos has increased a lot in every country nowadays. Advertisements are seen running on big online platforms about this gambling website. If the government of a country closes all online casinos from their country and can stop the promotion of all these casinos, then we can protect teenagers and girls from gambling.

If a person is interested in gambling, then he needs to keep himself away from all those things or those people which attract him to gambling. Always try to keep yourself busy and avoid being alone as much as possible.

[Ronsbit]

Gambling is a choice and decision everyone of users have to make, though we have certain age limit to eat before we can play, but Al, we need to consider some of the conditions that may come along with gambling being a teenager, also to discourage some people from gambling is not that appropriate, except there are reasons that are valid enough to ensure that such takes place, henceforth, everyone should gamble according to how you can afford to it

Gambling comes with responsibility, and anyone who gambles has prior knowledge of it, so they should know that they are liable for their actions as gamblers if they choose to follow such a path. Discouraging anyone does not mean they will adhere to your advice. Anyone who is hell-bent on gambling would definitely go for it, but what I will just say is that you can only advise them on applying the gambling principles while gambling, so they do not get overwhelmed by their gambling urge.