Why does losing to a person feel worse than losing to a sportsbook?

[Z_MBFM]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

This is ego and attitude. When a person is very emotional, he cannot easily accept losing to a person. But when he loses in a casino game or sports betting, he can easily accept it because then he thinks that there is no human behind his loss, there is a computer program and algorithm. This is actually our psychology. All people have attitudes, so one cannot easily accept losing to another. But if you think of everything as a normal thing, where there are always wins and losses, sometimes you can lose and sometimes you can win, then maybe it will be easier to accept the situation.

[tread93]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Yeah I can see that, especially if you know the person and really want to beat them bad. I can see how it woudl be more of an emotional engagement as opposed to just going against someone that you don't really know or care for especially. I for one would be much more inclined to truly celebrate a win over my friend or brother as opposed to just winning against a computer or something lie that.

[Makus]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?
You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Personally I think losing is losing, it doesn't really matter how you lose or what you lose to when it comes to gambling but it's true that a lot of gamblers feel worse when they lose to a sports book more than when they lose to a person but that's totally okay because perhaps they feel that way from different reasons, some people prefer to stake high when betting on sportsbook and losing hurts them more because they always end up losing more, sports betting seems like a way for some people to make money because they apply strategy and it ends up hurting them when they lose due to their expectations

[Julien_Olynpic]

In such situations, everything depends on your relationship with the friends you're betting with. If you have a very good relationship with each other and you're betting just for fun and the money involved is small, it will be very different from betting at a bookmaker's.
If you're on tense terms with your friends, however, such losses will truly be more painful than at a bookmaker's.

[Rgram]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

That’s certainly one way to gamble, against your peers and it definitely does feel worst than having to lose to a Sportsbook and their is a simple reason why, the bragging rights. Yes, that’s it, the bragging rights and for the fact that, this is someone you’re most likely to see often, it just hurts because it would be a reminder of your loss and how your prediction skills proved to be inferior to the person you lost to.
When it’s a loss to the sportsbook or gambling house, you just don’t care because, you don’t have any ties to whom is going to take your money in the end.

[Don Pedro Dinero]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Well, the difference is that when you lose to someone face-to-face, you’re looking them in the eye, and there’s a bit of a battle of egos going on there. If you bet on a match, you’re not losing to ‘anyone’ – and I put that in quotes because you’re actually losing to the bookmaker, even though you can’t see the manager or the owners’ faces.

It’s happened to me, but to a lesser extent, because when I play with friends we play for small stakes, and there is a bit of a rivalry between us, but on occasion at the casino playing cards I did have the feeling you’re describing.

[Mandoy]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?
You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Personally I think losing is losing, it doesn't really matter how you lose or what you lose to when it comes to gambling but it's true that a lot of gamblers feel worse when they lose to a sports book more than when they lose to a person but that's totally okay because perhaps they feel that way from different reasons, some people prefer to stake high when betting on sportsbook and losing hurts them more because they always end up losing more, sports betting seems like a way for some people to make money because they apply strategy and it ends up hurting them when they lose due to their expectations

I believe that both perspectives are right and it is primarily psychology that makes the difference. When it comes to losing to someone it tends to be the more personal especially when the other person is a friend since this will be the subject matter of pride and perceived direct competition. You can feel like you have been outsmarted and hence the loss is even more difficult to accept. However, losing in a sportsbook is more neutral, as it is not a human aspect. It's just you versus the odds. Nevertheless, the size of the expectations and bets is a factor, large risks tend to feel a loss worse no matter who you lose to.

[bubilas]

In such situations, everything depends on your relationship with the friends you're betting with. If you have a very good relationship with each other and you're betting just for fun and the money involved is small, it will be very different from betting at a bookmaker's.
If you're on tense terms with your friends, however, such losses will truly be more painful than at a bookmaker's.

But we all have strange friends to whom we really wish well, but they sometimes behave very selfishly. Because of this, sometimes it feels like our friendship is not equal between us at all. Such friends can snide and selfishly rejoice that they won, while we would calm them down if the outcome were reversed. 
Of course, nothing prevents us from hitting them on the shoulder to bring them to their senses. But because of the same circumstances, sometimes it's really better to bet against a casino or a bookmaker.

[Queen uloma]

when you lose in sporting activities, it feels more like it's neutral, because you're alone versus a system, you can easily move on quickly if you lose. But when you bet against someone, especially if you know the person. that feeling is usually different more than the money involve. Most times Ego comes in, when you end up losing it will look like someone beat you, not just being unlucky,  pride comes in too especially when you know that you can actually win the person.
So, it goes beyond that, it affects you differently more mentally than financially, Whenever you bet against someone, your brain sees it as competition, not accidental. One thing about us human is that we are too sensitive in losing competitions.

[Pmalek]

It feels worse because it's a real person. They are right there, in front of you. You can see them and feel their emotions. You can see the happiness their win brought them and you want that for yourself. Friends and family will often mock each other and laugh at one another for losing. That's why it feels worse than losing to a website. The casino doesn't respond and doesn't say anything to you. 

[Sim_card]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Yea, it's the same with me too. I believe it's because we see this person often and sometimes, see when the person is enjoying your money, you will feel bad because you think he's smarter than you of which, you didn't know that luck was on his side, and that was why you lost your money to him. I have a friend that will even mock you if he wins the money. Though, some are good because they will give you a little from what you lost.

[MuffinMaster]

I think what someone responds to more - a live person or a machine (sportsbook software) - depends primarily on whether they're an introvert or an extrovert. Introverts will prefer to lose to software, and I think some extroverts might prefer to lose to a human because they'll be able to vent their emotions.

[Floxynice]

People really have different personalities. I honestly won't be feeling bad unless I have proofs that the other person cheated to win the bet. Aside that, if the gambler intentionally tries to make me feel bad from his body language or things he says to me to hurt my emotions, I am sure going to feel bad. If all of these stated above are not the situation, I will treat all losses thesame irrespective of who is involved. .

It's true about people's different personality and perception but one thing I discovered about this type of betting is that there's a product of pride that's involved with the ongoing challenge between the two friends or random people involved. There's this shame that you lost to this person, you ain't supposed to, so you feel emotionally disturbed not because of the money gone but for some little pride that reels in the other person's head (the loser) that it's shame to have lost it to this very person.

I don't think anyone is being forced into betting with a friend or a random person, they all had a choice. Considering that gambling has only two outcomes, either a win or loss, a bettor is supposed to prepare his mind towards what's ahead. If losing to another person makes him feel awkward, he can decide to decline all bet options with fellow bettors. Life isn't supposed to be that hard but greed and pride tend to make bettors make decisions that they cannot handle the outcome.

[Jubilee58]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Personally, the only gamble I play is sports betting and have not gambled against anyone physically. However, I have seen gamblers who gather together to play whot. This kind of gambling can be very dangerous and I don't encourage it, instead you can engage in any kind of gambling online, and when you win, you withdraw your money peacefully and when you loose and you feel you don't want to continue, you go away too.
When you gamble against your friend or other gamblers physically, such gambling can lead to quarrelling, fighting and any kind of violence. Sometimes this kind of gambling does not end unless when a particular gambler has exhausted himself and no money to gamble again, and at this point if the gambler is not happy, it can actually lead to quarrelling or fight. In most cases you don't even quit from the gambling even when you get tired because the gambler that is loosing would want to recover his money first before you can leave.

Gambling against friends or fellow gamblers does not always end in peace and for this singular reason I don't indulge in it.

[Dareo]

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Have you felt the same?

Actually when we play against another person, we unconsciously start comparing ourselves to them who is better, who is smarter. So losing is not only a loss of money, but also a blow to our position but in casinos or sportsbooks, this comparison doesn't exist, so losing doesn't feel so personal, I think if we reduce this habit of comparing ourselves a little and see it as just a game then losing to people can be taken much more easily.

[Wakate]

I feel more emotional when I’m betting against a person and I lose, compared to losing on a sportsbook. Have you ever felt something like that?

You know, we have friends we gamble with in real life, so sometimes we make bets against each other, just for fun. I’ve also done it online. But I noticed that when I lose in those kinds of bets, I feel it more, like it hits harder. Compared to sportsbook bets where I can just move on right away.

Have you felt the same?

Yeah I can see that, especially if you know the person and really want to beat them bad. I can see how it woudl be more of an emotional engagement as opposed to just going against someone that you don't really know or care for especially. I for one would be much more inclined to truly celebrate a win over my friend or brother as opposed to just winning against a computer or something lie that.

Every gambler with there own problem and it does not make a sense when you are trying to feel bad because someone else won the bet you are not fortunate enough to win. I have lose so many bets to friends and casinos and that will not make me to feel bad and make me to want to fell devastated about what I can not control.

[Odogwu-Blockchain]

For example, you have a close friend maybe your friend love having sex every week, and you predicted against your friend to must have sex wit random woman in the next coming week, but unfortunately, your friend didn't sex at all but control his sexual urge thereby causing you to loss with the predictions. Is that what you want to explain? That you feel worst when you loss this way?

I don't think that's what the OP is trying to say, but they are somehow related as long as there is a bet between two people, even if they staked it on such an event. What I really pick out from the OP's explanation is that it hurt him more because such a side bet with friends is always staked with a higher amount compared to the amount that could have possibly been used if it was a regular bet on a gambling site.

That means if OP don't stake with a higher amount with his friends he wont feel worse? From your explanation that's what I understood.
If so, losing feels worse anytime we lose big, it doesn't matter if the bet is against our friend or against the casino. Whenever I lose big it feels so annoying. I feel like smashing things at home. In all, this is what we signed up for. The moment we made up our mind to start betting, we signed up for days of winning and also the days of losing.

The owner of the topic does not feel worse because he loses big money, he feels worse because it's hurts him more when losses bet again friends, no matter the amount either big or small, that's what I could understand from OP's explanation. Your own case is quite different because you feel worst when you lose with big amount of money off casino or friends.

[letteredhub]

It's true about people's different personality and perception but one thing I discovered about this type of betting is that there's a product of pride that's involved with the ongoing challenge between the two friends or random people involved. There's this shame that you lost to this person, you ain't supposed to, so you feel emotionally disturbed not because of the money gone but for some little pride that reels in the other person's head (the loser) that it's shame to have lost it to this very person.

I don't think anyone is being forced into betting with a friend or a random person, they all had a choice. Considering that gambling has only two outcomes, either a win or loss, a bettor is supposed to prepare his mind towards what's ahead. If losing to another person makes him feel awkward, he can decide to decline all bet options with fellow bettors. Life isn't supposed to be that hard but greed and pride tend to make bettors make decisions that they cannot handle the outcome.

It's illegal to force a person to gamble and if a person should allow himself to be forced to gamble then he's not qualified to gambling, gambling is an adult activity, because as an adult you're responsible for your actions and choices, which you must accept the consequences in relation with gambling too.
Of course it's a two way thing and any person who expects he is only going to be experiencing only winning without losing, such one is delusional and this type of mentality can cause a loss chasing habit whenever the person is losing.

[Orpichukwu]

The owner of the topic does not feel worse because he loses big money, he feels worse because it's hurts him more when losses bet again friends, no matter the amount either big or small, that's what I could understand from OP's explanation. Your own case is quite different because you feel worst when you lose with big amount of money off casino or friends.

I think you might have misunderstood the op wrongly; if you go a bit further after the thread, you will see where the op made the below statement. It shows betting with a higher amount was also part of the things which contributed to the way the op feels each time he loses on a side bet with someone.

You’re probably betting more than you should, and that’s why it feels heavier when you lose, especially when emotions get involved knowing your friends got the better of you.

you are not wrong with that. (time to correct my mistake...)

[Fredomago]

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Have you felt the same?

Actually when we play against another person, we unconsciously start comparing ourselves to them who is better, who is smarter. So losing is not only a loss of money, but also a blow to our position but in casinos or sportsbooks, this comparison doesn't exist, so losing doesn't feel so personal, I think if we reduce this habit of comparing ourselves a little and see it as just a game then losing to people can be taken much more easily.

Yeah, with losing to another person there's a pride attached knowing that your knowledge is lesser than the person who beats you, there's an adrenaline that wanted to push and retry to compete back while with bookies though there's a pressure of wanting to recover but that adrenaline is not that much as you understand that it was the house who beats you and who took your money. But similar to what you said as long as you know your grounds and you fully understand the risk it won't affect you whoever took your money.