The Payment of Bride Price of Some States is so Alarming.

[POPOLUV]

These culture of bride price is becoming so alarming that it keeps ringing in my heart how the this payment of bride price comes to stay because in the region of Adam and Eve there is nothing like bride price but man just decided to create ideas of paying bride price which are affecting so many young ladies that are mature for marriage and also young men that are equally mature for marriage but the culture which some kind states do before you could to finish paying their bride price is very discouraging, the worst of it all is when the bride is from a different tribes to groom, only the list of the bride price will make think if your in-laws are really selling their daughter off to the husband.

[Halifat]

These culture of bride price is becoming so alarming that it keeps ringing in my heart how the this payment of bride price comes to stay because in the region of Adam and Eve there is nothing like bride price but man just decided to create ideas of paying bride price which are affecting so many young ladies that are mature for marriage and also young men that are equally mature for marriage but the culture which some kind states do before you could to finish paying their bride price is very discouraging, the worst of it all is when the bride is from a different tribes to groom, only the list of the bride price will make think if your in-laws are really selling their daughter off to the husband.

I think you are getting it wrong here because bride price have origin because even Adam pay for Eve, I will only say that you didn't get the history very well but it has been in existence for a very long time. It is not something that was decided but it has been there, the only thing that is different is that it does not have limits according to Islam, it doesn't have limits of payment but you can decide to make it easier so that everything will be done easily. Likewise Islam also stated that if you requested for little your home will be blessed, Islam is not against those that are collecting huge amount of money but their blessings will not reach does that collected little one from their groom.

[Biirakedee]

These culture of bride price is becoming so alarming that it keeps ringing in my heart how the this payment of bride price comes to stay because in the region of Adam and Eve there is nothing like bride price but man just decided to create ideas of paying bride price which are affecting so many young ladies that are mature for marriage and also young men that are equally mature for marriage but the culture which some kind states do before you could to finish paying their bride price is very discouraging, the worst of it all is when the bride is from a different tribes to groom, only the list of the bride price will make think if your in-laws are really selling their daughter off to the husband.

I agrees with this and it’s something many people are struggling with. Bride price was never meant to become a burden. Even in the days , it was a means to show act of appreciation not a commercial transaction but recently it has been turned into something else whereby the brides family gives long list and high demands which obviously now discourages genuine relationships and also brings delay to marriage.  It even gets worse when it involves people from different tribes, at that point it starts to feel less like culture and more like pressure.
Young men now adays feel so overwhelmed and financially tied while many women who are ready for marriage keep waiting just because the process has been made difficult. For me I feel at the end of the day marriage should be about love, understanding and partnership not about who can afford paying for a long list that at the end of the day later results into divorce( exactly what is rampant with this generation).

[Somto9Light]

In the time of Adam and Eve was there anything called money? or working to get paid. You literally can't compare anything in the world of today to that of the time of Adam and Eve because a lot has changed from then till now. There are several races, religions, cultures and so on, and each of them has their own various traditions and you really can't start questioning the way they chose to live.
maybe you can start your own tradition of giving out your daughters to husbands completely for free at no cost and see how that would turn out, and then teach your sons to also give out their daughters for free, and who knows, you could just end up changing the narrative around the idea of bride price.

[ArabBTC]

Anything that gets to Africa is always taken to the extreme, most of the cultures we portray originally originated from the white but the black man will always want to take it to the extreme, marriages are performed at the simplest level in the western world, you can just see a couple on a field with few family members and a pastor will bless them and that is all but in Nigeria it will look like an extreme big ceremony.

Some cultures if you see the bride price you will just be tired, you will literally pay so much that it will look like they are selling the lady to you, some will request for white dove, few grains of alligator pepper, and several other things that will make you wonder if it’s a sacrifice they want you to perform or if it is bride price, some bride price is so expensive, no wonder some ladies from some cultures keeps on getting old in their parents houses just because of over hike in bride price, some families see bride price as their only hope of cashing out so they literally occupy the list with all their needs.

[DYOR+BTC]

In the time of Adam and Eve was there anything called money? or working to get paid. You literally can't compare anything in the world of today to that of the time of Adam and Eve because a lot has changed from then till now. There are several races, religions, cultures and so on, and each of them has their own various traditions and you really can't start questioning the way they chose to live.
maybe you can start your own tradition of giving out your daughters to husbands completely for free at no cost and see how that would turn out, and then teach your sons to also give out their daughters for free, and who knows, you could just end up changing the narrative around the idea of bride price.

You are very correct the time of Adam and Eve can not be compared to our current generation,  even then i will say they paid bride price but mostly by kind and few material things. The case of Jacob is a perfect example, when Jacob wanted to marry laban's   daughter Rachel  he was asked to serve for 7 good years which is a price we can't pay in this current generation so instead of such conditional activities the need for bride price was introduced for that same old reason. The only thing we should be talking about im bride price is how some culture makes it expensive and not easy for an average man to pay.

[Iamgoat]

You are very correct the time of Adam and Eve can not be compared to our current generation,  even then i will say they paid bride price but mostly by kind and few material things. The case of Jacob is a perfect example, when Jacob wanted to marry laban's   daughter Rachel  he was asked to serve for 7 good years which is a price we can't pay in this current generation so instead of such conditional activities the need for bride price was introduced for that same old reason. The only thing we should be talking about im bride price is how some culture makes it expensive and not easy for an average man to pay.

If we look at it from the historical perspective, there was no direct reference or verse based on my knowledge where Adam was said to have paid for Eve's bride price because logically saying such thing at a time when there was no money and nobody thought there was going to be money in existence, saying Adam paid for Eve's bride price will be illogical. However, Even was undisputedly said to have been created from Adam's ribs which some interpretations metamorphorically view as Adam paying what they referred to as the highest price with his own body rather than a monetary payment. It all depends on the angle every one of us chooses to look at it from.

[Pressurizedem]

Bride price is one of the essentials things about marriage, and one must pay it for you to be legally married, but the way some states have made it look  like you are buying the girl is really hurting and alarming indeed.
There are some places that they don’t really lay emphasis about the actual money paid upfront, they are only interested in how much you take care of their daughter.

However, in most of the states in Nigeria, bride price is high but there is nothing one can do about it because it is not what people talk about, but if we are to talk discuss it here, then we can literally say the high cost of bride price is making youths not to put marriage in their agenda, and even if you are considering it, it’s almost the last thing on a guy’s mind.

[Bitcoin.com97]

Bride price is payment is the most necessary step to take and it has been in existence right from the origin , but I think it’s just costly now , some tribe has made it very expensive for people, they are some tribe that most men alway run from there women unless the groom is so rich that is when he can still go head , and some groom after the bride price they don’t wish to continue with any other celebration again , everything end in bride price payment , and sometimes I ask myself if some parents are selling off their daughters , but there nothing anyone can do about it , it is fixed , you either accept or leave it .

[Marvelockg]

., the worst of it all is when the bride is from a different tribes to groom, only the list of the bride price will make think if your in-laws are really selling their daughter off to the husband.

When you consider that right from the time the child was given birth to, you've been the one taking care of the needs of the child sponsoring her edition till the point she's grown enough to get married and once she's married, it technically means that she's no longer a part of you to an extent and will have to use all you've invested into her for the food of the family that's coming to seek her hands in marriage. Though the bride price is not a means of recovering all you've invested in your child but then, it's just a subtle reminder that your child has an high worth...

Same people that complain of high bride price and try to price it down will go in to do extravagant weeding ceremony and reception that's not even as relevant as a traditional marriage. I understand how some tribe take it too high and for that, I'm against it but at the same time I don't subscribe to a very cheap bride price, it doesn't show that there's respect for the lady.

[Biirakedee]

When you consider that right from the time the child was given birth to, you've been the one taking care of the needs of the child sponsoring her edition till the point she's grown enough to get married and once she's married, it technically means that she's no longer a part of you to an extent and will have to use all you've invested into her for the food of the family that's coming to seek her hands in marriage. Though the bride price is not a means of recovering all you've invested in your child but then, it's just a subtle reminder that your child has an high worth...

Same people that complain of high bride price and try to price it down will go in to do extravagant weeding ceremony and reception that's not even as relevant as a traditional marriage. I understand how some tribe take it too high and for that, I'm against it but at the same time I don't subscribe to a very cheap bride price, it doesn't show that there's respect for the lady.

I understand your point, raising a girl child comes with years of sacrifice, care and investment, so it is natural for families to see bride price as a symbol of her value not a payment for her. In this way it can then represent respect and appreciation not buying a person. At the same time I also agree that it shouldn’t be too cheap to the point where it feels u serious because culture and traditions matter a lot and the bride price Carrie’s meaning beyond money, It’s about honor, family and acknowledgment but where all this things becomes a problem is when it turns into pressure or competition. When the amount becomes so high that it discourages genuine marriage or financial difficulties on the groom , then the purpose is lost.
So therefore we can say that bride price should reflect value and respect but it should still be reasonable and not turn marriage into a financial burden.

[Qhunman]

When you consider that right from the time the child was given birth to, you've been the one taking care of the needs of the child sponsoring her edition till the point she's grown enough to get married and once she's married, it technically means that she's no longer a part of you to an extent and will have to use all you've invested into her for the food of the family that's coming to seek her hands in marriage. Though the bride price is not a means of recovering all you've invested in your child but then, it's just a subtle reminder that your child has an high worth...

Same people that complain of high bride price and try to price it down will go in to do extravagant weeding ceremony and reception that's not even as relevant as a traditional marriage. I understand how some tribe take it too high and for that, I'm against it but at the same time I don't subscribe to a very cheap bride price, it doesn't show that there's respect for the lady.

I don't support extravagant bride prices because it would look as if you selling the child instead of giving her out for marriage. Bride prices shouldn't be cheap but at least it should be a reasonable sum of money. Some parents aren't interested in extravagant bride prices,they will tell you they aren't selling their child that's why they kept the bride at a reasonable price which I consider the best. Some of the reasons womnen aren't getting married isn't because of bad characters but because of the costs of items demanded on marriage lists. If man can't afford what is demanded on the list,he will zoom off leaving girl stranded with no option but for her to waite for rich suitors that can afford her family demands for marriage. Girls have age limits for marriage,if that time pass,it might not be possible for her to get married again that is why family must consider lowering their demands for marriage for the sake of their daughters.

[Umulala-alala]

There is bride price in the bible Op it's what God approved the only thing you can say now is come state has higher bride price which shouldn't be so mostly in some Igbo state sometimes it even seems that that parents are now selling out their children, the high rate of some state Bride price is has made most of their girls over there not to be in their husbands house, where i came from with the last 500k you are done with everything traditional rite.

[DYOR+BTC]

You are very correct the time of Adam and Eve can not be compared to our current generation,  even then i will say they paid bride price but mostly by kind and few material things. The case of Jacob is a perfect example, when Jacob wanted to marry laban's   daughter Rachel  he was asked to serve for 7 good years which is a price we can't pay in this current generation so instead of such conditional activities the need for bride price was introduced for that same old reason. The only thing we should be talking about im bride price is how some culture makes it expensive and not easy for an average man to pay.

If we look at it from the historical perspective, there was no direct reference or verse based on my knowledge where Adam was said to have paid for Eve's bride price because logically saying such thing at a time when there was no money and nobody thought there was going to be money in existence, saying Adam paid for Eve's bride price will be illogical. However, Even was undisputedly said to have been created from Adam's ribs which some interpretations metamorphorically view as Adam paying what they referred to as the highest price with his own body rather than a monetary payment. It all depends on the angle every one of us chooses to look at it from.

Yes i know there was no direct reference where it was paid in the bible but indirectly served for there wifes, example  Jacob served laban for Rachel,  mosses served Jethro for zipporah and alDavid served Saul for Michel. Comparing years of service to money you will understand that both are of the same properties because that sacrifice proves you have paid for the woman you loved, secondly then most things where not measured in cash as they never operated with cash  but with items and one's swelt which was why they all paid with there times.

[Mr Reporter]

There is bride price in the bible Op it's what God approved the only thing you can say now is come state has higher bride price which shouldn't be so mostly in some Igbo state sometimes it even seems that that parents are now selling out their children, the high rate of some state Bride price is has made most of their girls over there not to be in their husbands house, where i came from with the last 500k you are done with everything traditional rite.

See my guy some father’s are even taking it far as business to their female daughter’s…it always makes sense to why the Igbo people focus more on the female daughters all because they feel them might sell their daughters higher even in most villages bride price should 20k or even as far as 50k which is more like collecting money from the girls husband and later they became poor and pls it always sense to you please always spending on sense when ever u want to get married…

[Davidloki]

Bride price is important in this part of the country, unlike in other part of the world where it is not really necessary. Women are having a hard time getting married due to the high rate of poverty among young men. A man at the age of 30 would take years of savings to get married to a woman. After the wedding ceremony the man will take years too to pay off some wedding debt. Actually things are beginning to change. Young ladies due for marriage dont want to waste any more time. If they see a man ready to marry them they are willing to collaborate with the man financially.