Is this being strict?

[LastKiss]

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Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

His father has a big ego. Although the country hasn’t banned gambling, his father says he doesn’t support it but  doesn’t mean he can control everything. If gambling were prohibited by law and his son got caught then I would agree that his father is being strict in following the rules. But gambling isn’t illegal in their country, right?

Let’s say his father is afraid that his son might become addicted, which is why he is very strict and not support it. Instead of being overly strict which might push his son to gamble secretly it would be better to teach him self control and how to avoid greed. God has already given them an opportunity and letting it go may not be a wise decision.

[Zadicar]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

Read more here

This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

There are really those people who do really stand on their principles no matter what even if they do know that it is a life changing but still they would be sticking on what they do have in mind on what they do believe. Just like on this situation on which the father doesnt want to agree with those gambling winnings in despite of a life changing amount but still stick into his principle and for sure that tons of people would surely say that it is that a foolish thing to do considering that all of us need up money and on the amount thats something that will give you the ability on buying things that you do like or wish in life. There's nothing we can do about it if they would really be having these kind of mentality and its just sad and total waste of money if they would really be fighting for that one. And for me as their son who won up some amount then i would definitely be hiding it rather than on giving it back. lol

[Tetu100]

Does he even know what a win is? This isn't something the boy stole, he earned it through luck and instead of taking the money and advising his kid not to engage in it constantly he asked for the money to be returned, that's unwise.

Honestly speaking I doubt if his dad really understands the meaning of winning because maybe he's not that convince that his son won that money. But regardless their should be enough prove shown to him that would have make him believe the situation surrounding the money, then why acting that way? or maybe he's not yet tired of poverty.

However, if i was the son in question, the surposed money is mine and it is already in my account, then why seeking validation from who before spending my money, I will just f**k off to somewhere condusive without the opinion of a third party and invest my money in peace.

[EarnOnVictor]

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Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

He is both being strict and and ignorant, and I like to add being naive as well.

Most of these people often do this due to religion, which makes it more questionable. For me, anything that is legal by law and occured under agreement of the both parties is doable by me, and anyone can interpret whatever they like, I don't care.

As for the child, well, let me personalise it, if I were the one, the father should just forget his command over me. So long as you are above 18 years, you are mature enough to take your decision by law. He should move away from the father and build a good life for himself. But he should be careful because that age is delicate, as money attracts idiocy too. I hope the mother could secretly support and guide him on this. This is his life, and not his father's.

[imthegreat]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

Read more here

This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

Sometimes in life, you have to stop being proud and stubborn like a stupid sheep and just take the money, because it will change your life forever, not only yours but also the lives of your loved ones and friends. And this is not the time and place to show your stupid principles by refusing $28,000,000, because this is an absolutely ridiculous situation, and I think that this man will be called an absolute fool behind his back, because he will continue to live his poor life and try to save money to rent a better apartment, but he will be proud of his principles, which are completely inappropriate in this situation. It is extremely ridiculous.

[Mpamaegbu]

This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

I see that attitude of the father as a warped mindset. In fact, we can best describe it as witch craft. How do you ask someone to return what they won in a bet/lottery while many are praying for such an opportunity? It's unbelievable.

What would've been reasonable would've been to caution his son not to gamble at all or in the first place; not after he had won and being told not to enjoy the benefit of his gamble. I bet his son won't forget that incident in a hurry. He may even despise his father forever for that.

The father wasn't strict. He was simply unreasonable.

[red4slash]

This always happens when the gambler is young and their parents are not in favor of gambling and I don't think we can give any advice to the OP in this case because it is about family relationships and in the end this can only be resolved by the family who wins.

Gambling is not a mistake and the winnings will also feel useless if returned because we already get clear rights from the winnings but on the one hand forcing the parents of the OP to accept it is also difficult because in this case the parental principles that the OP has are strong and I think we need to respect that.
With all the needs we have including dependents to pay I think it will be more effective to find a middle option by paying first with the winnings we have, as for when later the relationship is a little tense between parents and children things like that can be discussed on another day when everyone can think more clearly not concerned with ego and emotions.
Regardless of whether the principle becomes right or the choice to gamble is always considered wrong, it actually depends on the views of each so I think in this case it goes back to each individual anyway, seeing the age of the child who gambles, he should also be mature enough and be able to make his own decisions.

[YOSHIE]

What do you've to say about this

Every individual has a different perspective on gambling, some people don't mind it, what's more they need the money they need.

In my view, the child is unknowingly helping his parents, the money from gambling can be used for rent and so on, but the child's father is against the presence of gambling money in their lives, yes, we understand situations like that.

The child should lie a little for good, for me lying for good is not a problem, he just said that the money was obtained from other activities, don't say it was from winning gambling, in fact the child knows the character and nature of his father regarding gambling. gave the money to his father without telling him about the gambling results, I think if he did that there wouldn't be any problems.

[CryptoHeadlineNews]

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

To be frankly speaking, I absolutely think that with the broad knowledge of technology and digital means of making money online, it's high time some parents needs to be lenient and embrace opportunities when it arises and stop behaving as if they are still in the 80s and 90s. Because I literally just checked the full story on the link you provided, and saw that the guy who won this #38million Naira is 19years old, which actually means that he is equally an adult, and as an adult, he has the legal rights to spend the money without telling his daddy. And for the fact that he still has respect and told his father about the money that was gotten legally from Sport betting and not fraud or any other illegal means. His father ought to have appreciated him, rather than discouraging him to return the whole #38million that can probably change their entire life story. Because sometimes when people pray for miracle, you don't expect God to come down from heaven and present the miracle personally like a waybill to your doorstep. Because such miracles will actually come from humans. So I'm happy the mother was able to show interest in the money, since it was gotten legally.

[Findingnemo]

What do you've to say about this

Every individual has a different perspective on gambling, some people don't mind it, what's more they need the money they need.

In my view, the child is unknowingly helping his parents, the money from gambling can be used for rent and so on, but the child's father is against the presence of gambling money in their lives, yes, we understand situations like that.

The child should lie a little for good, for me lying for good is not a problem, he just said that the money was obtained from other activities, don't say it was from winning gambling, in fact the child knows the character and nature of his father regarding gambling. gave the money to his father without telling him about the gambling results, I think if he did that there wouldn't be any problems.

FYI, not really a child, he is a an adult teen so he should be capable of making his life decisions on his own and if his father is against gambling for whatever reason still the kid can decide what's the best for him and can help the family in another way.

I guess it is mostly due to the religious reasons when a person is against the gambing even after a big win like that but he also should ask the question everyone who tries to show them as clean religious person got no dark secrets to hide?

Everyone got a life that others have no idea and sometimes it can really surprise us.

[Somto9Light]

Gambling is not a sin but sometimes I don't actually know what is wrong with those people that claims to be the righteous, meanwhile they are the ones that is even siner than gamblers, even though that the bible say we shouldn't judge but some people are making it to look something else.

There's nothing wrong with whatever you chose to believe but don't use to against someone else, honestly I'm totally disappointed with this whole stuff this is highest level of stupidity that I have ever seen in this industry because this amount would have change their life good. Anyways I think he prefers to stay poor forever, he should continue with his low mentality and look for how to settle those bills.

Maybe they are just protecting themselves, not to fall into the pitfalls that will make them to gamble, because most of them know themselves very well, which they believed they can't control themselves or handle pressure that is part of gambling, so they might choose to act this way to maintain their ability. So, don't judge from only one perspective or from what you might be seeing or hearing. Meanwhile its important for one to gamble rightly.

[Byebyebtc]

He can simply, give someone to hold and tell the dad he has returned it if he doesn't want any issues, but if he wants to be straight forward he can just keep the money without out minding what the father will say, he is more than 18 therefore has the ability to make decisions for himself, this shouldn't even be a big deal.

The worst part of it all is that it happened in Nigeria where things are hard, there should be no consideration of being obedient father in such hardship.

[Dunamisx]

When this child grows up, you will leave to regret this incident for his entire life because of his father's decision, this is also one of the reason why you see some children who feel to go by their parents way because they choose their own part on their own and by themselves, maybe you will later regret why telling his father, when he could have keep such away from his father.

[Onyeeze]

We can now see part of the reason why some children are keeping things away from their appearance because of their old pattern way of living, this kind of mentality is so annoying that a father could have such gut in challenging his child when he bring in a life changing opportunity for the family to take advantage of, but instead turning it off to continue their kind of struggling life style, I'm wondering as well if there are no relatives or friends that could question the father from taking any further step on such.

there is no father that take a drastic action to the child without having a peace talk or looking for a solution that will better the life of the child, and secondly there are something that makes people to keep secrets with them without exposing it anywhere, but a child that wants to change their life, i believe such child will leave far from them if I'm not mistaken, so we need to know that father will never lead the child to wrong part.

[acroman08]

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

I remember this story being posted here before.

Anyway, the dad is being stupid. He would rather his family suffer because of his beliefs. That amount of money could literally help them for a while, especially when the average income in Nigeria is 80,000Naira to 120,000Naira(I just did a quick search, this is what popped up). I do hope the guy kept that money despite the dad not wanting to do anything with it.

[Hazink]

Only a brainless person would return money their child earned. Honestly, it seems like a really stupid act. Sometimes people aren't just poor because they were born poor, they're poor because their mentality is very limited and they're incapable of seeing beyond their own noses. In these kinds of situations, it's not that I'm being strict, it's that sometimes you can't turn your back on your luck or take advantage of it.

This type of attitude is really what some African brothers will say. They are controlling the person in the village, which is what's blinding him from taking opportunity, whatever that will take him away from poverty will not always look good to him. Enough about that, but if that man truly reject and send back that money it will only mean show how stupid and blind he can be and if you will be hard for him to get out of his financial situation.

[ovcijisir]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

Read more here

This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

To be honest I didn't read the article, but his father did it probably because religious beliefs or he maybe had negative experiences with gamblers. But I'm sure he did this because he cares about his son and did that because he had good intentions.

[Queen uloma]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

Read more here

This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

I’m trying to classify this story whether his dad is strict or ignorant, I will say it’s a stupid act, and the dad didn’t do well. Most times our belief has a way of shaping our life whether in a positive way or a negative way. Most Christians believe that God will have to come down from heaven before he will help them, they don’t believe in unexpected miracle. God can use anything or anyone to change your story. Imagine your son winning that kind of money, you’re saying he should return it back, even when you have bills to pay. This is the most ridiculous story I have ever heard and it sounds so unreal. I know my dad is strict but he can’t ask me to return that kind of money. Rather he will advise me not to gamble again.

[Oasisman]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

Read more here

This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

To be honest I didn't reat the article but his father did it probably because religious beliefs or he maybe had negative experoencd with gamblers. But I'm sure he did this because he cares about his son and did that because he had good intentions.

He did for sure. To be brutally honest, I don't see the father as being stupid or ignorant. As a father myself, I have principles in life that I would teach my children and try not to break them. Most of us will do anything we can, even if it means it breaks us as a person, when we see a lot of money in front of us. If this story is true, I respect the father for his strong principles, not being dazzled by the huge amount of money coming from something he believes is unethical. I don't think the father is ignorant enough not to know the amount of that money, right?
However, in a practical sense, they could have at least considered that for once, in order to have something they can start with a new life and make their son promise not to do it again. That, I think, should be the best card the father could've played.

[ovcijisir]

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He did for sure. To be brutally honest, I don't see the father as being stupid or ignorant. As a father myself, I have principles in life that I would teach my children and try not to break them. Most of us will do anything we can, even if it means it breaks us as a person, when we see a lot of money in front of us. If this story is true, I respect the father for his strong principles, not being dazzled by the huge amount of money coming from something he believes is unethical. I don't think the father is ignorant enough not to know the amount of that money, right?
However, in a practical sense, they could have at least considered that for once, in order to have something they can start with a new life and make their son promise not to do it again. That, I think, should be the best card the father could've played.

I would also like to add that there is even possibility that father saved his son out of gambling addiction. When very young people get a lot of money they can make really irresponsible decisions, resulting all types of addictoons (gambling, drugs etc.), so there is big possibility that the son would have wasted all his winnings anyway, so if that would have been the case his father maybe did him a favor.